FabSwingers.com forum: Delete and Block is that the norm?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

when you send a polite well worded message to some one and your not what theyre looking for, so they delete your message and block you from sending anymore (not that I do), but their profile says "up for no strings horny fun" and nothing more, kinda makes me wonder why some people are here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when you send a polite well worded message to some one and your not what theyre looking for, so they delete your message and block you from sending anymore (not that I do), but their profile says "up for no strings horny fun" and nothing more, kinda makes me wonder why some people are here

To have NSA fun with someone they fancy having NSA fun with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To have NSA fun with someone they fancy having NSA fun with. "

trust you to state the obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok well that one makes sence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some folks read a message, decide the sender isn't for them and delete the message and block the user.

This saves the sender becoming embarrassed by forgeting that he / she has already sent a message to the recipient and sending another one

Now it makes sense lol, I missed a couple of words out in my haste to reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some folks read a message, decide the sender isn't for them and delete the message and block the user.

This saves the sender becoming embarrassed by forgeting that he / she has already sent a message to the recipient and sending another one

Now it makes sense lol, I missed a couple of words out in my haste to reply

haha thats ok, my bad english was able to fill the gaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a good idea if someone isn't interested in you so you cant send them another message which could be taken as pestering.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think its a good idea if someone isn't interested in you so you cant send them another message which could be taken as pestering."

true, i dont send message that often to be honest and I suppose for the profile in question and me being a single guy, they probably get quite a few messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single ?"

married but allowed to play as mrs doesnt want to anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never thought of that, im always getting the same messages of the same guys, i thought they would take the hint if i just kept deleting them, its delete and block from now on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

usually remember those who i message as I dont message often, if the message is deleted i just move on but to be blocked just made me think but the reason has been explained now and I'm happy with that

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

I think its a fair way of saying No,but No thanks. It also stops the psychos that do not take rejection kindly, from replying with uncalled for nasty messages.

I will remember to use it next time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

haha unfortunately I dont get messaged often enough to warrant using that method

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have started to block and delete the reapeat offenders lol those people ive said no to on more than one occasion..... for example i told one bloke no thanks 23 hours ago, he replied with "thanks for the no thanks"..... hes just messaged me again as if he didnt know me from adam....ive blocked him - it will save him wasting his time again in future

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i have started to block and delete the reapeat offenders lol those people ive said no to on more than one occasion..... for example i told one bloke no thanks 23 hours ago, he replied with "thanks for the no thanks"..... hes just messaged me again as if he didnt know me from adam....ive blocked him - it will save him wasting his time again in future

oh well thats just stupid, I wouldnt even dream of messaging again if the first message was a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"haha unfortunately I dont get messaged often enough to warrant using that method

awwwww bless you - would you like me to message you so you can delete and block?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"haha unfortunately I dont get messaged often enough to warrant using that method

awwwww bless you - would you like me to message you so you can delete and block?"

haha, no your OK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try messaging me dude, I will block your arse before reading it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try messaging me dude, I will block your arse before reading it.

your not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i always delete after ive read my message whoever its from why keep it but dont block anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not the norm here, would only block someone if they became abusive and deserved to be blocked, could never make a judgement on someone by receiving one message.

On another site we used to get a regular one-line message from the same guy, used to delete instant and laugh it off, until we attended a social and met the guy in person and have to admit that he was actually one of the nicest guys you could ever hope to meet.

Suppose its up to each person how they use it, but have often wondered if the people that delete and block people they are not attracted to were ever to organise a social event, would the blocked people be excluded just because they themselves didn’t find them attractive, not that they could contact them anyway, so suppose they would be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never blocked a soul yet and I cannot think of a single instance when I would want to

The delete button is more than sufficient, there can be absolutely nothing more frustrating to someone wants to continually send PM's, who is continually ignored.

It takes a split second for me to hit delete and takes considerably longer for them to write their drivel.

Whilst I understand why others do as they do, not blocking pests is way more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single who has messaged several couples who have repeatedly looked at my profile but never replied to me, I think I would rather they blocked me so I definitely know they have no intention of making contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as a single who has messaged several couples who have repeatedly looked at my profile but never replied to me, I think I would rather they blocked me so I definitely know they have no intention of making contact."

See how much fun can be had NOT using the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've started doing this lately actually. I never used to but I'm so fucked off with people sending us messages when they clearly haven't read our profile.

I read the message, check out their profile and if they don't meet what we're looking for I don't even respond. Just delete & block. Fuck 'em. Ignorant twats.

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

does the not replyin to u emails hold any hints?

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

"I've started doing this lately actually. I never used to but I'm so fucked off with people sending us messages when they clearly haven't read our profile.

I read the message, check out their profile and if they don't meet what we're looking for I don't even respond. Just delete & block. Fuck 'em. Ignorant twats.

your profile is too boring to read lol

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

If the email is polite, we always reply, but then block if they're not what we're looking for, we do this to prevent them contacting us again in the future, some people forget who they've mailed, should the email be offensive / rude, we block immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've started doing this lately actually. I never used to but I'm so fucked off with people sending us messages when they clearly haven't read our profile.

I read the message, check out their profile and if they don't meet what we're looking for I don't even respond. Just delete & block. Fuck 'em. Ignorant twats.

your profile is too boring to read lol"

How should I improve it, oh wise one who cant keep a nilla date happy by making him wait until at least the second date and after you've met his mother and agreed to to be chaperoned on your first day trip to the seaside?

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

"I've started doing this lately actually. I never used to but I'm so fucked off with people sending us messages when they clearly haven't read our profile.

I read the message, check out their profile and if they don't meet what we're looking for I don't even respond. Just delete & block. Fuck 'em. Ignorant twats.

your profile is too boring to read lol

div lol.

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

i have had this as well, messages sent to me if i am not interested i say no thanks then they want a reason why, also if not sure of a person dont meet either, i have block one tonight as he was giving me grief saying that i was a looser, timewaster and who i had met were not going to meet me again.... n ot tru as the ones on my verification well all genuine and i am as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30% of mail sent dose get block for no reason given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive noticed this quite a bit recently. it had never happened before, but seems like its a growing trend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"30% of mail sent dose get block for no reason given

The reason is quite simple, they are not interested. That might sound a bit brutal but that is what the block means

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

had a few recently who sent quite nasty replys to my messages in the past

send a message wanting to meet since changing my user name.

nothing else changed

wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"had a few recently who sent quite nasty replys to my messages in the past

send a message wanting to meet since changing my user name.

nothing else changed

wtf "

Not sure if I am reading this right but you contacted someone on here, got a nasty reply, changed your name on here, contacted them again and got a nasty reply..........

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

"had a few recently who sent quite nasty replys to my messages in the past

send a message wanting to meet since changing my user name.

nothing else changed

wtf

Not sure if I am reading this right but you contacted someone on here, got a nasty reply, changed your name on here, contacted them again and got a nast

y reply..........

no i think they sent him nasty message bk to his..... then when he changed user name THEY ask to meet him???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"had a few recently who sent quite nasty replys to my messages in the past

send a message wanting to meet since changing my user name.

nothing else changed

wtf

Not sure if I am reading this right but you contacted someone on here, got a nasty reply, changed your name on here, contacted them again and got a nast

y reply..........

no i think they sent him nasty message bk to his..... then when he changed user name THEY ask to meet him???"

Did wonder if I was reading it right and now I have been corrected by Kitty...............thankyou miss

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

yes kitty is right they now contacted me

seems its all in the name game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heaven forbid someone should have a preference and not just shag everyone that asks!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"30% of mail sent dose get block for no reason given

The reason is quite simple, they are not interested. That might sound a bit brutal but that is what the block means

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o yeh ano that but some i think are not really seam in what they say they are if you no what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i delete if im not interested and block if they start being annoyin!

i dont need to talk to anyone i dont want to in the real world so here aint goin to be any different!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Heaven forbid someone should have a preference and not just shag everyone that asks!!!

you've missed the point completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heaven forbid someone should have a preference and not just shag everyone that asks!!!

you've missed the point completely

I read your OP as asking why do people put they are up for NSA fun but delete and block people after they've received a well written message etc. Hence my response: just because we're swingers doesn't mean every member is going to float your boat...or did I misunderstand your OP?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You've missunderstood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some folks read a message, decide the sender isn't for them and delete the message and block the user.

This saves the sender becoming embarrassed by forgeting that he / she has already sent a message to the recipient and sending another one

Now it makes sense lol, I missed a couple of words out in my haste to reply

I reply then block when I have a feeling the sender is going to get back in contact again at a later date, in the hope I have forgotten he has already approached me. I block anyone who lives right next to me, any teenagers and twentysomethings, some couples and I block blokes with pictures of themselves in womens undies, or men with pictures of womens open flanges as their avatar pics as I don't want to look at them while I browse my whos looked at you list. I think you can basically block whoever you wish and it has nothing to do with anyone really. What they gonna do about it?.... Well.... some have been known to change their id set up a new account and send rude mails to me as theyre so piqued but theyre just sad wankers who confirm my gut instinct was right to block them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No strings fun on the profile is one thing but as others have said, they still want to choose who.

Some people will block people who haven't bothered reading thier profile properly before they send a mail, seeing it as a gesture of rudeness, for example a single guy mailing a couple whose profile says "not looking for single males" or in the looking for section not listing single males, or when a couple who smoke contact a couple whose profiles says "wont meet smokers"

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"You've missunderstood"

I took the post to mean the same as sassy to be honest.

What did you mean instead mally?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The profile doesnt give a clue to what they want, so having the message I sent get deleted didn't bother me, but to be blocked too just made me question why that's all, but if you look near the beginning of the thread you can see it's already been explained, so I'm happy now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile doesnt give a clue to what they want, so having the message I sent get deleted didn't bother me, but to be blocked too just made me question why that's all, but if you look near the beginning of the thread you can see it's already been explained, so I'm happy now

Feck em Mally, it's their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eyes glaze over half way down this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My eyes glaze over half way down this thread. "

So why are you still posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have blocked a few but then they were pains in the ass.

Some more gonna be joining them soon an all. lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone messages me and there is something on there profile that doesnt match my requirements, like thay cant accommodate or wont meet smokers I will deleate and block, cause they havent read my profile. But if everything matches up and im just not intrested, i will send a message saying no thanks and leave it at that. Unless of course they get arsey then I just block.

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By *adyPenelopeWoman
over a year ago

worcestershire

I've had some people message me periodically over a period of years after I have politely declined and often those that have not read my profile and therefore do not fit the bill.

I have never really thought about blocking before, as had related blocking with abuse, but after reading this I think I would be saving myself time and them by doing so. It will be my new policy now for 2010

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think it was this line on your OP that was the confusion as to what you were asking

" but their profile says "up for no strings horny fun" and nothing more, kinda makes me wonder why some people are here "

Now I am more confused by your last answer, but it is monday morning so thats normal

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I wish the block function extended to the forums too.

Not so that we could block others, but so that, if someone didnt like what I post, they could block us and I wouldnt get the crap that sometimes ensues when I post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OK, last time and I hope you all get this now.

Their profile says "Up for horny no strings fun" nothing else to give you a clue as to what they are looking for, likes, dislikes etc, I was within the age bracket and they where looking for men, they where the only two things I could see that made me think, well I'll send a message and see what happens, the message was deleted which didn't bother me cause obviously they've looked at my profile and didn't like what they read which I'm totally fine with, but to block me as well just made me wonder why, but as I've said before its been explained why some people block straight away even if the sender hasnt been abusive or annoying etc so thats it really.

can I go to bed now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never had any reason to block any1 yet but i have been blocked my self,strangly by a few single guys!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i never had any reason to block any1 yet but i have been blocked my self,strangly by a few single guys!!

Looking at your profile I cant think why either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i never had any reason to block any1 yet but i have been blocked my self,strangly by a few single guys!!

Looking at your profile I cant think why either

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People ask for no one liners - No cut and paste jobs etc etc - So a single male sends a nice worded message very polite and has obviously spent some time and thought over it - YES DELETED without the courtesy of a reply -not even a sorry but your not for me -

Now I know some people will object to this but when I get a "deleted" - I just send an abusive message back reminding people about manners and respect - I then block that person to prevent any message "ping pong" it also reminds me not to bother with them again .

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"OK, last time and I hope you all get this now.

can I go to bed now

Ok, last time and I hope you get this this time.

Your first post said that you couldn't understand why people say that they want NSA sex on their profile and yet delete your mail and block you and that you couldn't understand why they were here.

One poster said that they have preferences, you said she misunderstood what you were saying.

I obviously misunderstood what you had typed too as I thought the same thing.

Now you have said the real reason you posted it was the confusion for you of why the person had blocked you.

As that is slightly different than how your post came across is probably why people "misunderstood"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry for confusing everyone, I'll put it down to too many kicks to the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, last time and I hope you all get this now.

can I go to bed now

Ok, last time and I hope you get this this time.

Your first post said that you couldn't understand why people say that they want NSA sex on their profile and yet delete your mail and block you and that you couldn't understand why they were here.

One poster said that they have preferences, you said she misunderstood what you were saying.

I obviously misunderstood what you had typed too as I thought the same thing.

Now you have said the real reason you posted it was the confusion for you of why the person had blocked you.

As that is slightly different than how your post came across is probably why people "misunderstood"

Phew!!! Thank God...I thought I was losing my grey cells faster than I thought as I'm getting easily confused these days

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ah same age Sassy, welcome to my world of less brain cells

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