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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that people cheat on others ? If there in a marriage or relationship and not happy then we think they should say there not and explain why too. We both agreed to be honest with each other and never have any secrets at all liflives to short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Whoa, I think you are looking for a very simple answer to what can be an incredibly complicated question...

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its a simple answer you answer honestly. If my wife wasn't happy I would want to know the truth and wouldn't want her unhappy its the love I have for her that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not as black and white as that. Many reasons why people cheat..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a simple answer you answer honestly. If my wife wasn't happy I would want to know the truth and wouldn't want her unhappy its the love I have for her that matters "

If your wife wasn't happy, she may not want to hurt you by telling you, she may be afraid of you or she may hate you and be scheming to get revenge.....who knows ?

Cheating isn't swinging as others highlight, but cheating as its referred to, is a very complex subject. You'll get hundreds of different opinions but no situation is the same. Best let the parties involved form the opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only reason people cheat is because they are selfish

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone


"The only reason people cheat is because they are selfish"
ish

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am sure there will be many reasons, ranging from illness, family etc etc...

To just getting their end away.

If they are upfront, people can make an informed choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. What narks me is when on here they don't say that they are married or attatched.

Personally I would not go anywhere near married/attatched guys, but I would like them to state on their profile or in a message so I can make the choice whether or not I meet them (which I wouldn't)

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Cheating isn’t as complex as some people may like to make out, cheating is a choice. People’s lives may be complex, but that’s a different matter to making a choice between cheating or not…. the choice is the same for everyone… do I or don’t I?

Some will make the choice to cheat and then wrap it in excuses – a bit like a crappy present covered in fancy paper, ribbons, bows and sparkly bits to try and make it look less crappy. They will no doubt convince some people, but I wonder if it is other people they are trying to convince or themselves.

Personally I find it highly distasteful when someone (allegedly) lays out the sob story of their relationship, talking about their partner’s frigidity or illness or whatever as if these things left them with no option but to cheat or the even more ridiculous “it was the kindest option”. I say allegedly as… well… if someone is prepared to deceive their partner, what makes everyone else so special.

Why do people cheat? Because they choose to and think they won’t get caught. And if they do get caught, well…. asking for forgiveness is easier than asking for permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boredom

Excitement

Lack of intimacy

The list goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is a grey area, you could be with someone who is a good person never does anything wrong, but lacks excitment in the bedroom, and you can finish her cause she not kinky enough. In my opinion people only cheat if they are not happy or there's something missing from the relationship they need x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

although we agree with the whole cheating thing, and pretty much see it as you do, there are many reasons why one would not to reveal all.

money tied up in joint assets that would be messy to split up

young/impressionable kids that you dont want to hurt in the process

social pressure from friends and families

there are people that dont want to hear these things, they probably see it, and ignore it as they dont want to split up what is, in other terms, a happy household.

there are couples that just arent sexually compatible. one is a hornbag, the other happy with a kiss n a cuddle.

its the ones that a: get it at hoime, but look for more elsewhere, and b: those that go off with someone that isnt better than you have at home, whether that be physically or compatability wise, that we dont understand.

we also would never cheat on each other, and will never facilitate anyone else doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one I really dont understand is someone in a relationship, who is swinging with their partner, can also meet seperately with the others knowledge, and still goes on to do it behind the partners back.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why is it that people cheat on others ? If there in a marriage or relationship and not happy then we think they should say there not and explain why too. We both agreed to be honest with each other and never have any secrets at all liflives to short "

I have enough troubles of my own to take on the woes of others. I left my husband, never cheated. It would never have crossed my mind to invite others into our marital bed either: each to their own hey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again each to their own. We won't condemn or condone as its always difficult without walking in another's shoes.

Just because somebody doesn't agree with a persons reasons doesn't make them any less valid to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends how you define cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not as black and white as that. Many reasons why people cheat.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get together for all sorts of reasons. I'm not one to judge. You know your own responsibilities.

Plus this site would be pretty shit if people didn't cheat.

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really understand men who cheat when they swing, I can only really relate to the men as I am male, but you get variety if you swing so why cheat ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that people cheat on others ? If there in a marriage or relationship and not happy then we think they should say there not and explain why too. We both agreed to be honest with each other and never have any secrets at all liflives to short "

if only life was so simple eh

There are loads of things to consider when breaking up, kids, money, where to live etc

Im sure all couples agree at some point to be honest with each other but as years go by things change and those who was once in love don't feel so committed anymore

personally I don't have the time to worry about how other people choose to live there lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People get together for all sorts of reasons. I'm not one to judge. You know your own responsibilities.

Plus this site would be pretty shit if people didn't cheat.

Just saying "

how do you work that out?

swinging isnt cheating, as it is done with the full knowledge, and consent, of both parties, and more often than not, with all present.

swinging would be more straight forward if people didnt cheat!

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

my hubby cheated on me and it was nt of lack of sex , he just kept saying i've not been happy for years ,so why didnt he

sit down and talk to me or pack his bags.he had an affair,chose her over me and divorced me hell i wasnt even seperated ,so thats something i will never get over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own. What narks me is when on here they don't say that they are married or attatched.

Personally I would not go anywhere near married/attatched guys, but I would like them to state on their profile or in a message so I can make the choice whether or not I meet them (which I wouldn't) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion people only cheat if they are not happy or there's something missing from the relationship they need x"

Well I guess that's an easy way to move the blame from the cheater to the person who's being cheated on (the cheatee? Is that a word?).

I think if you're not happy or there is something missing then either finish it, or try and sort it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whoa, I think you are looking for a very simple answer to what can be an incredibly complicated question..."

It's true, there are sometimes complicated answers to the question. But 9 times out of 10..it's far more simple. The cheater just wants new cock/pussy and a bit of a thrill. And generally speaking, it's about a lack of self-control, selfishness, and a comfort with lying and being deceitful. The cheater could take that energy and put it into the relationship, and perhaps have a greater appreciation for what he/she has. And children can be fairly clued up, as can the partner being dishonoured...and it's very damaging.

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

The Grass is always Greener. It just rains more

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