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By *i 1 Get 1 Free OP   Couple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is, there is no manual for parenting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my kid the same age as those kids and i couldnt do it!! i know i moan i shout i nag but at the end of the night when i go to read her a story and tuck her in i am there for her!!

maybe the education standard better i dont know but i can say hand on heart even if i won the lottery i wouldnt send her to boarding school i had the choice to have her i have the responsibility to raise her xx

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By *i 1 Get 1 Free OP   Couple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"my kid the same age as those kids and i couldnt do it!! i know i moan i shout i nag but at the end of the night when i go to read her a story and tuck her in i am there for her!!

maybe the education standard better i dont know but i can say hand on heart even if i won the lottery i wouldnt send her to boarding school i had the choice to have her i have the responsibility to raise her xx"

I found it rather upsetting to be honest, I don't like seeing children distressed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has often been said that you either come out of boarding school as a nervous wreck or an egomaniac.

I guess I must be an egomaniac!

Mind you, I was 14 when I was sent over here to go to school.

I was not alone, as my sister was there a year above me in the same house.

To be honest, I enjoyed my 4 years at school very much, and have many fond memories.

It has also taught me a few things, such as how to make a proper bed, social skills, and to stand on my own two feet and be a leader (I was head of house, school prefect etc.)

For peeps that move around a lot, like those in the armed forces, boarding school provides a degree of stability for their children.

However, to this day, I still believe it is rather unkind to send the very young ones to boarding school, especially in this day and age when the teachers and carers are not allowed to hug them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't seen the program, but have some experience of boarding school. Do think 8 is a bit young, but from teenage years onwards I see no harm in it, I believe they can be very formative years for some people. A harsh environment perhaps... and maybe equally as difficult for the parents, but I don't think it means they are neglecting their children.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Haven't seen the program, but have some experience of boarding school. Do think 8 is a bit young, but from teenage years onwards I see no harm in it, I believe they can be very formative years for some people. A harsh environment perhaps... and maybe equally as difficult for the parents, but I don't think it means they are neglecting their children."
have to agree with you there el nino.....far too many hollier than thous telling people what they should do and how to do it....as a parent you can only do what you think is best...thats not a dig at the OP guys!!! Little children i dont agree with going to boarding school, but teenagers? I think there is an arguement for and against

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children. "

I'm still trying to figure it out. I have come to the conclusion that I was temporarily insane and now I just wish to christ I could afford the costs of a damn good boarding school preferably in the land of Switzer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents sent all 3 of us over here for better schooling. I doubt if I would have gone to uni etc. had I remained in HK, as there were too many distractions.

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By *i 1 Get 1 Free OP   Couple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"thats not a dig at the OP guys!!! "

;-)


"Little children i dont agree with going to boarding school, but teenagers?"

We don't have an issue with teenagers, but 8 years old, we believe is to young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they had taken them as young as 2 would have parceled ours off in a flash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a forces family I had the option of sending my children to boarding school, I'm afraid I was selfish in that respect and couldn't part from mine.

My uncle however sent 3 of his children to boarding school. The older two who had spent all their formative years away at school from aged 8 have the most emotional hangups, whereas the younger who only spent her senior years boarding is the most well balanced of the three.

On the other hand though, a friend who said she would never send her child to boarding school eventually bowed to the pressure from her own child, who had no peers left of her own age where we were stationed. Her daughter loved it and was happy to be with all her friends.

As is said kids don't come with a manual, you do what you can and try to do your best for them, sometimes through others eyes you can't do right for doing wrong but if the love is there you muddle through. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they had taken them as young as 2 would have parceled ours off in a flash"

psssst ... just lock em in the cupboard but don't tell anyone you heard that from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Education is important yes but nothing is more important than a childhood. And being a parent is the hardest job in the world but i would never put mine through that my kids are my whole world my whole life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they had taken them as young as 2 would have parceled ours off in a flash

psssst ... just lock em in the cupboard but don't tell anyone you heard that from me

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Problem was that around about 2 we started to get attached to them.......little fuckers how do they do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children. "

Its probably similar to those people who moan like Hell about having their kids around the house during school holidays and can't wait for term to begin.

Or the ones who's kids spend more time stopping over with their grandparents, not because of work commitments but because they cramp their social lives.

The problem is,some people want kids but they don't want to be parents.

It's just that different "classes" have different ways of dealing with it.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have any maternal instinct, hence I have settled for pets instead of children!

They do not agree with me, full stop!

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)


"Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children.

Its probably similar to those people who moan like Hell about having their kids around the house during school holidays and can't wait for term to begin.

Or the ones who's kids spend more time stopping over with their grandparents, not because of work commitments but because they cramp their social lives.

The problem is,some people want kids but they don't want to be parents.

It's just that different "classes" have different ways of dealing with it.

XXXX"

Don't know where class came into this? Unless you have been a family in this position then its hard for some people to understand. And in the majority of cases its better to have educational continuity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they had taken them as young as 2 would have parceled ours off in a flash

psssst ... just lock em in the cupboard but don't tell anyone you heard that from me

Problem was that around about 2 we started to get attached to them.......little fuckers how do they do that "

They learn hypnotism in the womb plus they're really cute when they're sleeping lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My parents kind of blamed boarding school for my independent streak and not wanting to live with them to this day.

What do they frigging expect?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was up to me....from the age of five they should all go away and not come back till 16 where they then are conscripted till 21 yrs old.

Problem solved.

No yobs on the streets and i can get round the supermarket without listening to the svreams of spoilt brats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children.

Its probably similar to those people who moan like Hell about having their kids around the house during school holidays and can't wait for term to begin.

Or the ones who's kids spend more time stopping over with their grandparents, not because of work commitments but because they cramp their social lives.

The problem is,some people want kids but they don't want to be parents.

It's just that different "classes" have different ways of dealing with it.

XXXX

Don't know where class came into this? Unless you have been a family in this position then its hard for some people to understand. And in the majority of cases its better to have educational continuity. "

Its mainly the so called "upper classes" that send their children to boarding schools, as they're the ones who are most able to afford the fees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its mainly the so called "upper classes" that send their children to boarding schools, as they're the ones who are most able to afford the fees."

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I do not believe that is entirely true, as there were many kids at my schools whose parents were from rather humble backgrounds!

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)


"Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children.

Its probably similar to those people who moan like Hell about having their kids around the house during school holidays and can't wait for term to begin.

Or the ones who's kids spend more time stopping over with their grandparents, not because of work commitments but because they cramp their social lives.

The problem is,some people want kids but they don't want to be parents.

It's just that different "classes" have different ways of dealing with it.

XXXX

Don't know where class came into this? Unless you have been a family in this position then its hard for some people to understand. And in the majority of cases its better to have educational continuity.

Its mainly the so called "upper classes" that send their children to boarding schools, as they're the ones who are most able to afford the fees."

Is it? Have you been?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Class has fuck all to do with it. Katie Price has plenty money and well, I think that about rests my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never have any maternal instinct, hence I have settled for pets instead of children!

They do not agree with me, full stop! "

Us neither,can't fault your decision!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Class has fuck all to do with it. Katie Price has plenty money and well, I think that about rests my case "

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LOL!

Money cannot buy class or style, IMHO!

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Just to clarify to some who are uninformed. Many of the children at public school are forces children who's parents move around so continuity is hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children.

Its probably similar to those people who moan like Hell about having their kids around the house during school holidays and can't wait for term to begin.

Or the ones who's kids spend more time stopping over with their grandparents, not because of work commitments but because they cramp their social lives.

The problem is,some people want kids but they don't want to be parents.

It's just that different "classes" have different ways of dealing with it.

XXXX

Don't know where class came into this? Unless you have been a family in this position then its hard for some people to understand. And in the majority of cases its better to have educational continuity.

Its mainly the so called "upper classes" that send their children to boarding schools, as they're the ones who are most able to afford the fees.

Is it? Have you been? "

Well I know that neither my parents, nor any of our neighbours, could afford to send their kids to one even if they wanted to. Which is probably doubtful.

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)


"Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children.

Its probably similar to those people who moan like Hell about having their kids around the house during school holidays and can't wait for term to begin.

Or the ones who's kids spend more time stopping over with their grandparents, not because of work commitments but because they cramp their social lives.

The problem is,some people want kids but they don't want to be parents.

It's just that different "classes" have different ways of dealing with it.

XXXX

Don't know where class came into this? Unless you have been a family in this position then its hard for some people to understand. And in the majority of cases its better to have educational continuity.

Its mainly the so called "upper classes" that send their children to boarding schools, as they're the ones who are most able to afford the fees.

Is it? Have you been?

Well I know that neither my parents, nor any of our neighbours, could afford to send their kids to one even if they wanted to. Which is probably doubtful."

You will find a very mixed lot at the majority of public schools. A high percentage are forces children these days after the introduction of the Schools Admissions Code which was amended in 2007.

So class has little to do with it these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i cant see the point in having kids if you dont want to look after them, i have a 8 year old daughter and the thought of sending her away to live with total strangers in a enviroment where theres no love and people only look after her because its their job to, i find quite heart breaking, dont get me wrong if i had the money i would pay for a good private education but id never put my kids into boarding, them places just seem so cold to me, a child needs love and theres no love in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. All the children who don't go to boarding school are well loved, well balanced, highly educated and emotionally stable. All their cottages have roses around the door and they have Stepford parents. xx

Bliss xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree. All the children who don't go to boarding school are well loved, well balanced, highly educated and emotionally stable. All their cottages have roses around the door and they have Stepford parents. xx

Bliss xxx "

aww you've been to my house them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree. All the children who don't go to boarding school are well loved, well balanced, highly educated and emotionally stable. All their cottages have roses around the door and they have Stepford parents. xx

Bliss xxx

aww you've been to my house them "

Yeah ....... im the cleaner !

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By *zMaleMan
over a year ago

penzance


"Just watching “Leaving home at 8” on Channel 4, documentary about parents sending their children away to boarding school, whatever in gods name possess parents to put a child through such an experience.

One female parent stated she's pleased her child's boarding as she appreciates the time they have together, oh, so the child has to be sent away in order for her to “appreciate” the time they now spend together, she went onto say, she's pleased her daughter is boarding as it stops the fall outs and arguments!!wtf!!!!

As children suffer with home sickness, parents are encouraged NOT to have contact with their child whilst they're experiencing home sickness episodes, surely the responsibility of any parent is to be there to comfort / support / encourage their child.

One family are now questioning whether boarding was the right decision for them, due to the emotional / psychological damage the child's experiencing.

We're just trying to understand the purpose of some people having children.

Its probably similar to those people who moan like Hell about having their kids around the house during school holidays and can't wait for term to begin.

Or the ones who's kids spend more time stopping over with their grandparents, not because of work commitments but because they cramp their social lives.

The problem is,some people want kids but they don't want to be parents.

It's just that different "classes" have different ways of dealing with it.

XXXX

Don't know where class came into this? Unless you have been a family in this position then its hard for some people to understand. And in the majority of cases its better to have educational continuity. "

And then become a professional !!!!!!! You can't have your cake and eat it.

Class comes into this because only the rich or those who are in a job/profession which pays for the bursary.

I class myself as a professional guy but I could never aford the 6K a term to send mine to boarding school. Not that I'd want to anyway but thats a personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well boarding school or not, i just think 8 years old to far to young to be sending your kids off to live with strangers, most 8 year olds wouldnt have a clue what was going off or fully understand where they was going and why, it must be terrifying for them, living in a boarding school must he a very cold and unloving child hood for a child that age, i mean who reads them bed time stories? who cuddles them when they are poorly? who kisses them better when they fall and cut themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to remember that what you are watching on TV is the slant of the programme-maker. If they are anti-boarding and like to generally have a pop at the upper classes then they'll produce a show that portrays the whole boarding-school system negatively. As a poster above said explained that she had fond memories of boarding school, so it can't be all that bad can it.

Read between the lines when you watch TV and if you research the producer you'll probably discover why they make the programmes they do and what their political leaning is.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I would have loved to have gone to boarding school,I used to wish I could go as a child but then again I thought everyone dressed like they were at St Trinians

We would'nt have sent our own though even if we could have afforded it,we would have missed them too much even if they do drive us bonkers sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't send my children to boarding school at 8, as personally it would seem like abandonment. My husband had a distrust of people around his girls so we changed our work patterns so one of us was always there with the kids.

The majority of my friends and colleagues attended boarding school - all said they missed their parents but managed to get over that - sadly most seem a little distant and don't really get close to people. It may have nothing to do with their early background, but I think it could play a big part.

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By *aughty_kittyWoman
over a year ago

finger licking good

i went bording school, sort of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i went bording school, sort of "

You mean you were bored AT school.

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By *zMaleMan
over a year ago

penzance


"i went bording school, sort of "

Or should that say approved school

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon


"Class has fuck all to do with it. Katie Price has plenty money and well, I think that about rests my case

.

LOL!

Money cannot buy class or style, IMHO! "

fully agree she may have money but class is a totaly differant thing

one does not equate to the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i worked in a boarding school and not all of the boys came from rich families some of them got there by getting a scholarship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a private school near me that has boarders and believe me there are a few there who could give my local neds a run for the money in the swearing and shopliftin and drinking sprees!! its a private one and expensive but does has bursary places for some kids!!

i still honestly couldnt send mine to boarding school as much as i know the standard of education would be better!!

30k for eton ?? i could buy a school round here for that lol! xx

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