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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was having a few beers with a friend who is also a psychologist at the weekend. We were debating quantity of sex and 'depression'.

One theory being if you are depressed or feeling down on yourself you will choose to have a wide and varied sexual diet. The endorphine rush making you feel better in the short term.

The other theory being the opposite. Free from the shackles of depression and guilt you would be more likely to let your body respondto its natural uurges and have a largennumber of partners.

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

I always get depressed when thinking of sex with the ex ! x

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

No sex is depressing

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

with me it depends on the level of depression if im not medicating it i have been known to be reckless and have sex with people i normally wouldnt but now i have it under control im able to make proper judgments some days i dont want any one anywhere near me but Sir accepts this and understands other times im on top form and up for lots of fun with the right people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a news report on this a while ago

They said studies showed that people who have a string of one night stands are more likely to end in depression then people in relationships

Pretty interesting I didn't think there was such a string link between sex and mental health

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I was having a few beers with a friend who is also a psychologist at the weekend................"

What does s/he during the week?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No sex is depressing"

Damn right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Undoubtedly there are people out there who use sex to make them feel good about themselves and feel wanted but I suspect that would be people in the vanilla lifestyle, as many people find in the swingers lifestyle sex isn't on tap and that could make someone feel unwanted and more depressed. Sex can be and often is a rush for us especially if it's spontaneous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was having a few beers with a friend who is also a psychologist at the weekend................

What does s/he during the week?"

Very good. Bad grammar depresses me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was having a few beers with a friend who is also a psychologist at the weekend. We were debating quantity of sex and 'depression'.

One theory being if you are depressed or feeling down on yourself you will choose to have a wide and varied sexual diet. The endorphine rush making you feel better in the short term.

The other theory being the opposite. Free from the shackles of depression and guilt you would be more likely to let your body respondto its natural uurges and have a largennumber of partners.

Interested in forumites viewd"

Mmmmm interesting...

I have done both, when I am happy and all is good it reflects in my personality and I have lots of happy sex with a few 'chosen ones'.

I have also been not so happy, but not really depressed, and have had mind blowing sex with a stranger, felt great at the time but the 'good feeling' soon faded and I felt crap for a while.

Thankfully I have now found the right balance and dont let things get me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ... when Im not happy I don't see how shagging every Tom William and Bernard will make me happier

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I was having a few beers with a friend who is also a psychologist at the weekend................

What does s/he during the week?

Very good. Bad grammar depresses me!"

From a psychologist too

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"No ... when Im not happy I don't see how shagging every Tom William and Bernard will make me happier

"

Is Harry off on his holibobs ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No ... when Im not happy I don't see how shagging every Tom William and Bernard will make me happier

Is Harry off on his holibobs ?"

And not even a dick in sight

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

[Removed by poster at 28/08/13 10:53:40]

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle


"I was having a few beers with a friend who is also a psychologist at the weekend................

What does s/he during the week?

Very good. Bad grammar depresses me!

From a psychologist too "

It mean 'also a friend' - not 'also a psychologist' ......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle


"[Removed by poster at 28/08/13 10:53:40]"

What did that say Ryan ?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"No ... when Im not happy I don't see how shagging every Tom William and Bernard will make me happier

"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A study found an association between depression in women and casual sex that was stronger than that found for men. Woman are more open about there sex needs now than years ago .It do worry me some have to get so d*unk to have a good time with no string sex . Sex is good for you but like a lot of things can become boring if not good and you don't click you feel nothing and then its don't make it special no matter how good at oral and stuff .

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"[Removed by poster at 28/08/13 10:53:40]

What did that say Ryan ?"

I got confused thinking dick was short for William. I deleted it to stop being a dick instead of a Ryan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 28/08/13 10:53:40]

What did that say Ryan ?

I got confused thinking dick was short for William. I deleted it to stop being a dick instead of a Ryan "

Hahahaha , I admit I did have to think about it again after I had posted it.

Richard = Dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was having a few beers with a friend who is also a psychologist at the weekend................

What does s/he during the week?

Very good. Bad grammar depresses me!"
NOW I am biting my tongue here grammar ............ and its hurting. He has made a very good point.

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think psychologists are full of shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Undoubtedly there are people out there who use sex to make them feel good about themselves and feel wanted but I suspect that would be people in the vanilla lifestyle, as many people find in the swingers lifestyle sex isn't on tap and that could make someone feel unwanted and more depressed. Sex can be and often is a rush for us especially if it's spontaneous. "
sex is definitely not on tap. Depressing when you don't get any

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

I would have assumed if you are depressed you wouldn't have much of a sexual appetite; moreso an over-powering lethargy towards sex...

...Unless your depression is due to a lack of sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think psychologists are full of shit."
Yes maybe some but there a lot of different ways of looking at things. People under stress and depressed are turning not just to sex wi . Smoking , drinking ,Eating, impulse shopping.... whatever.. Does impulse shopping stress you out make you depressed, or do you shop because you are stressed? I do and end up getting crap at times . .. Some need a fix could be eating . I don't think casual sex can make you more than others if you're at a low in life . Its when you overdo things and can't live without them like drugs and drink and other things that's when things get bad .

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I think psychologists are full of shit.Yes maybe some but there a lot of different ways of looking at things. People under stress and depressed are turning not just to sex wi . Smoking , drinking ,Eating, impulse shopping.... whatever.. Does impulse shopping stress you out make you depressed, or do you shop because you are stressed? I do and end up getting crap at times . .. Some need a fix could be eating . I don't think casual sex can make you more than others if you're at a low in life . Its when you overdo things and can't live without them like drugs and drink and other things that's when things get bad ."
I just think that Psychologists get things wrong so mant times. The number of people they have declared fit to return to society(after murder convictions) who have killed again gives me no confidence whatsoever in their ability to diagnose anyone correctly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have assumed if you are depressed you wouldn't have much of a sexual appetite; moreso an over-powering lethargy towards sex...

...Unless your depression is due to a lack of sex!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see a bit of truth in both arguments but there are too many variables to say it's one or the other. Each person is different.

One person that has low self-esteem may thrive on a site like this from all the attention.

Another person with the same self-esteem issues wouldn't dream of coming on a site like this cause they'd have to get naked, show themselves,mingle.etc

The same issue dealt with differently by 2 different people

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"No sex is depressing"

so true ..

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

When I am depressed the last thing I feel like doing is getting tarted up and going on the prowl. . No happier me is sexier me.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

But you don't HAVE to do any of those things. You can participate on Fab as much or as little as you wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have assumed if you are depressed you wouldn't have much of a sexual appetite; moreso an over-powering lethargy towards sex...

...Unless your depression is due to a lack of sex!!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I am depressed the last thing I feel like doing is getting tarted up and going on the prowl. . No happier me is sexier me."

And this

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Antidepressant medication causes loss of labido that some might put down to the depression its self when its not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clinical depression is different to even deep sadness.

At different stages a person might be desperate for escapism, feeling self-destructive so more willing to take risks and go for excesses, feeling very isolated or may feel unable to function as normal. Even getting washed or eating can feel a mountain to climb.

So interesting to look at trends and yes intimacy with the right person can alleviate early symptoms of depression.

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