FabSwingers.com forum: Talking about personal issues online

By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

Do you find yourself more willing to discuss issues here,with people who your likely never to meet, compared to people you know, face to face.

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its easier talking with strangers, you know they don't necessarily have a personal slant on your situation and you don't have to face them at a later stage.

Sometimes though the forums can be a bit one sided, treating the op as the victim and not offering balanced advice.....not always the case though.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Do you find yourself more willing to discuss issues here,with people who your likely never to meet, compared to people you know, face to face.

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online."

I think it helps a lot of people. More good comes from it here than from bottling things up.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

It is sometimes easier to talk to strangers I find!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm pretty much the same online and in person.

If I want lots of varied _iews then online is an expedient way to achieve that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the issue. A lot of people on here give great advice and I've found it very useful- both from posting things myself and reading other people's questions. I like to have lots of opinions, both sides. Negative posts can be just as useful as positive ones.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Yes... and the replies will be more genuine because many here wont spare your feelings in an honest answer but better be tough skinned because some will be insulting just for the fun of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, but I tend to keep my problems to myself and don't share with anyone. I might make a vague comment sometimes depending on who I'm talking to. Some people share far too much on the Forums in my opinion but if it helps them, then that's good. We're all different and will all find different ways of getting help with our issues. Nothing wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the issue. But I find people on here are more open minded in nature & less likely to judge. And more honest. In life outside here, some will just say what they think you want to hear. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you find yourself more willing to discuss issues here,with people who your likely never to meet, compared to people you know, face to face.

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online."

I wouldn't really look to discuss personal issues on a forum or online with people but then I have friends in the real world who I can sit down and chat to about anything.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

No...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online."

Don't spill your problems to anyone. It's fuxxing pointless, 20% don't care and 80% are glad you have them. I don't have any but just a thought..

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Not for me no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you find yourself more willing to discuss issues here,with people who your likely never to meet, compared to people you know, face to face.

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online."

If you're looking for your own thoughts and opinions to be justified then I do not think it is a good idea. I have seen threads where someone has stated something and the general consensus has been against the OP. I have also seen the opposite and also a mixed bag.

Bottom line is not to post something if others' opinions would greatly upset you.

Personally I find forums a great place to have a mini vent (let off steam) and also to share ideas or have debates. I can sometimes get my teeth into a subject (a bit like a dog with a bone) and become blinkered, but even this is a learning curve

, as for the most part I am pretty open-minded.

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online.

Don't spill your problems to anyone. It's fuxxing pointless, 20% don't care and 80% are glad you have them. I don't have any but just a thought..

Spot on.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Do you find yourself more willing to discuss issues here,with people who your likely never to meet, compared to people you know, face to face.

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online."

If I have a problem I can't work out myself I have family and friends to help. My family and friends aren't the "there, there" types and don't have a hidden agenda.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

showing some vulnerabilities makes you target for those that exploit...

over the years, on numerous sites, I have seen a small minority flutter from honey pot to honey pot.

I have no doubt many have felt true support from others and that is nice.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have shared some body worries on here in the past and the majority of repliers were helpful. However it turned out that my posts offended a minority so, to not upset people, I don't do it anymore. I do try and post helpful replies if I have experience of anyone elses problems.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

as i live alone i like to read the forums

and to add my bit too funny or not.

last year when my whole world fell apart i told the girl i worked with at the time

everything about my ex and his messing me around with the woman he wanted,

she left job as she not like me talking all the time about it but i had no one to turn to.so that hurt me a lot her doing that .its hard not having friends or family to confide in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes easier because the people on here you dont realy know and arent likely to meet. i think a lot of people just laugh at people who talk about their problems on here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have shared some body worries on here in the past and the majority of repliers were helpful. However it turned out that my posts offended a minority so, to not upset people, I don't do it anymore. I do try and post helpful replies if I have experience of anyone elses problems."

Why let the minority change how you do things? I think everyone has a right to post, no matter what it's about. Your posts may have been helping lurkers that didn't post their appreciation.

If people don't like it they don't have to read it. x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Why let the minority change how you do things? I think everyone has a right to post, no matter what it's about. Your posts may have been helping lurkers that didn't post their appreciation.

If people don't like it they don't have to read it. x"

I only have to point you to LadyA01's post about Mother***** Nature for you to see that people are offended about bodily functions. Yes, its a minority, but they're members too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for me no."

Ninjas actually Have problems...???

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

I agree. Now can anybody recommend a good waterproofing agent for my leaking tent?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I keep personal issues personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we come on here for sex and sex only why tell the world your problems

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I don't generally share stuff in the forums, but wouldn't rule it out. That said, of the occasional issue that I've mentioned in passing, rather than starting a thread for, I've had incredibly good feedback from others. I'm also happy to offer my thoughts on things, and do like this aspect of Fab.

That said, we're all different, and I've noticed some posts against this, from guys above. Some people don't share, some will always have what they need from others in their vicinity etc. Fabs not totally anonymous, unless you're one of those reported single guys who can never get a meet.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Do you find yourself more willing to discuss issues here,with people who your likely never to meet, compared to people you know, face to face.

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online."
Hell no!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Do you find yourself more willing to discuss issues here,with people who your likely never to meet, compared to people you know, face to face.

I think that if you have a problem of any sort, it's best to gather opinions from as many people as possible, including online.

I think it helps a lot of people. More good comes from it here than from bottling things up.

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In agreement with Granny here on both accounts : It does help those who do and there is nothing wrong with that at all.

Would I do this myself? Probably not as I prefer the opinions of my closer real life friends, as they know me, my personality, my circumstances etc .

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Nope, i usually keep personal issues to myself, or at least, off public forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we come on here for sex and sex only why tell the world your problems

Speak for yourself/selves.

Oh you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i work away so no friends to bond with there (they all go home to their families)

at home my family all have their own lives,

fab gives me the place to chat with like minded people , i can discuss how i feel sexually with out it being looked at as weird

yes this sight is my friend xx

sad git i know xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't share or seek answers for personal problems but I do give my opinion on threads started asking for such.

It can be beneficial to seek advice from strangers and for those that do this them great.

However I don't think it's right for people to give out private information about other members on here, ie typing their real names in the forum or, as we see on the forum today, posts about others health or hospitalisation. Now maybe those members have given their permission to do so, but we don't know this. I know that people are trying to offer good wishes but it does concern me.

So my opinion is to take reasonsibility for what you share yourself and don't offer up information about other people

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By *aravancouple OP Man
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

"I agree. Now can anybody recommend a good waterproofing agent for my leaking tent?

Yes fabsil is very good for leaking tents

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