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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why. "

a bit like an interview, we learn from every msg, so feedback is both polite and useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is some peoples gut instinct to fight back against rejection, but like yourself I would rather not know why and move on!!

I have been on here a couple of weeks and have only sent a few messages I have had about 50% replies but if I don't get one it really doesn't chew me up and I would never send another one...

Keep that block button at the ready.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back ."

I could do that but my profile is long enough and I doubt all of it is read. It's usually when a couple of messages have been sent then followed by a picture, I politely say no thanks then get bombarded with messages asking why I don't fancy them. I am always polite but dont think I should have to give my reasons as we can't all fancy everyone who makes contact.Sometimes it's just as simple as I'm not attracted to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why. "
Do you know I have not one person in my block here and I bet a lot cant say same thing ...... I see no need and had no nasty mail ... I think people get bored here and fill there time blocking people they don't know its like a sport to some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

I could do that but my profile is long enough and I doubt all of it is read. It's usually when a couple of messages have been sent then followed by a picture, I politely say no thanks then get bombarded with messages asking why I don't fancy them. I am always polite but dont think I should have to give my reasons as we can't all fancy everyone who makes contact.Sometimes it's just as simple as I'm not attracted to them."
if you mail they will feel they can back as there is hope ...... ping bong no its not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'But why don't you like me'?

'What is wrong with me'?

Thing is some take it personally and then get abusive if I send a reply

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back ."

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Must admit the majority of guys I have sent a rejection to have generally replied saying thanks for the reply. Either that they say nothing and delete as expected. If on the very rare occasion they ask why I will tell them but I will be honest and is at that point they sometimes get nasty. At that point I will block them, not because it's a sport as someone mentioned but because I don't tolerate rude people. If they can't take honesty then don't ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"'But why don't you like me'?

'What is wrong with me'?

Thing is some take it personally and then get abusive if I send a reply

"

They don't get abusive with me but do continue to ask why and what they will do to change so that I will meet them, they start to look desperate and that's when I use the block button. A bit sad really but nothing I can do about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why."
I do to and just don't mail back as told them on my profile I get some mailing same people every week . up to them I don't block as not my thing .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Must admit the majority of guys I have sent a rejection to have generally replied saying thanks for the reply. Either that they say nothing and delete as expected. If on the very rare occasion they ask why I will tell them but I will be honest and is at that point they sometimes get nasty. At that point I will block them, not because it's a sport as someone mentioned but because I don't tolerate rude people. If they can't take honesty then don't ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely get the why question,most people are really polite about it

If anyone continues to mail I just ignore them as ive said what I needed to say and thats the end of it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely get the why question,most people are really polite about it

If anyone continues to mail I just ignore them as ive said what I needed to say and thats the end of it for me"
Same for me .. Maybe we are just lucky we don't get nasty ones .. why I have not one in block .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been lucky and had no bad rejection replies.

When I get rejected I simply reply with a courteous 'Thank you for the reply, have fun on the site!'

I can't be to everyone's taste.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why.I do to and just don't mail back as told them on my profile I get some mailing same people every week . up to them I don't block as not my thing ."

I block since a) they are being rude to continue to mail b) they can get abusive c) saves both of us time - I just don't have time sometimes to plow through the messages - especially if I have put up a meet ad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why.I do to and just don't mail back as told them on my profile I get some mailing same people every week . up to them I don't block as not my thing .

I block since a) they are being rude to continue to mail b) they can get abusive c) saves both of us time - I just don't have time sometimes to plow through the messages - especially if I have put up a meet ad"
I get a lot of mail here . I don't have the time to mail back why I have that on my profile and so far lucky no nasty ones.I find most here are just lovely people and just not for me. I just know some it hurts their feelings being blocked they take it as a personal snub..

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

If a woman doesn't like me, I like to know why because then I have the potential to improve.

I do very well for a guy, but o still get rejections from time to time.

Usually, i reply saying thanks but sometimes, particularly if I've been rejected a lot recently, I have a burning desire to make myself more attractive to women. I want to improve. I've never got abusive though, that's just stupid.

Usually, the reason for rejection is that I don't look rough enough. If I wanted, I could try to look more macho but I'm happy the way I am.

It is nice to get feedback though. This is why, I guess.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a majority of cases if guys read profiles fully they would understand why they have been rejected as its clear on most profiles. If guys choose to ignore peoples preferenced or dont read profiles then they deserrve all the non replies or rejections

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In a majority of cases if guys read profiles fully they would understand why they have been rejected as its clear on most profiles. If guys choose to ignore peoples preferenced or dont read profiles then they deserrve all the non replies or rejections "

Exactly, I think my profile is pretty clear.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why.I do to and just don't mail back as told them on my profile I get some mailing same people every week . up to them I don't block as not my thing .

I block since a) they are being rude to continue to mail b) they can get abusive c) saves both of us time - I just don't have time sometimes to plow through the messages - especially if I have put up a meet ad I get a lot of mail here . I don't have the time to mail back why I have that on my profile and so far lucky no nasty ones.I find most here are just lovely people and just not for me. I just know some it hurts their feelings being blocked they take it as a personal snub.. "

Well, perhaps I'm a hardened bitch but I'm not here to worry about other people's egos. And I also block people I have contacted who are not interested as it means I won't message them again. I just find it easier. I don't necessarily block straight away - usually when they just won't take no for an answer. Or they message repeatedly either trying their luck or because they have forgotten they have messaged me before. Guys do send out a lot of messages I imagine so they cannot keep track of everyone they have contacted.

I tend to get more of this if I put an ad up - lots of chancers who know I have rejected them before but think, because I advertise for a meet, then I will relax my preferences.

Mostly I do get a polite response - but for those who take the piss there is the block button and that is what it is there for. I don't understand why some on here think that somehow it makes you a bad person if you use it. I really cannot stand that 'holier than thou' attitude (that's not directed at anyone in particular). I use the site facilities to suit me - that's the point of them.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

On one or two other sites I have seen a standard polite rejection message that can be sent at the touch of a button, which is obviously less personal than a composed message, but may go someway towards at least being acknowledged, and mitigating the rejection.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"On one or two other sites I have seen a standard polite rejection message that can be sent at the touch of a button, which is obviously less personal than a composed message, but may go someway towards at least being acknowledged, and mitigating the rejection. "

I've been on a site like that. It doesn't work - they repeatedly message you no matter how many rejections they get in the hope, perhaps, of wearing you down. Then the block button has to be employed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why.I do to and just don't mail back as told them on my profile I get some mailing same people every week . up to them I don't block as not my thing .

I block since a) they are being rude to continue to mail b) they can get abusive c) saves both of us time - I just don't have time sometimes to plow through the messages - especially if I have put up a meet ad I get a lot of mail here . I don't have the time to mail back why I have that on my profile and so far lucky no nasty ones.I find most here are just lovely people and just not for me. I just know some it hurts their feelings being blocked they take it as a personal snub..

Well, perhaps I'm a hardened bitch but I'm not here to worry about other people's egos. And I also block people I have contacted who are not interested as it means I won't message them again. I just find it easier. I don't necessarily block straight away - usually when they just won't take no for an answer. Or they message repeatedly either trying their luck or because they have forgotten they have messaged me before. Guys do send out a lot of messages I imagine so they cannot keep track of everyone they have contacted.

I tend to get more of this if I put an ad up - lots of chancers who know I have rejected them before but think, because I advertise for a meet, then I will relax my preferences.

Mostly I do get a polite response - but for those who take the piss there is the block button and that is what it is there for. I don't understand why some on here think that somehow it makes you a bad person if you use it. I really cannot stand that 'holier than thou' attitude (that's not directed at anyone in particular). I use the site facilities to suit me - that's the point of them."
Yup. Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why.I do to and just don't mail back as told them on my profile I get some mailing same people every week . up to them I don't block as not my thing .

I block since a) they are being rude to continue to mail b) they can get abusive c) saves both of us time - I just don't have time sometimes to plow through the messages - especially if I have put up a meet ad I get a lot of mail here . I don't have the time to mail back why I have that on my profile and so far lucky no nasty ones.I find most here are just lovely people and just not for me. I just know some it hurts their feelings being blocked they take it as a personal snub..

Well, perhaps I'm a hardened bitch but I'm not here to worry about other people's egos. And I also block people I have contacted who are not interested as it means I won't message them again. I just find it easier. I don't necessarily block straight away - usually when they just won't take no for an answer. Or they message repeatedly either trying their luck or because they have forgotten they have messaged me before. Guys do send out a lot of messages I imagine so they cannot keep track of everyone they have contacted.

I tend to get more of this if I put an ad up - lots of chancers who know I have rejected them before but think, because I advertise for a meet, then I will relax my preferences.

Mostly I do get a polite response - but for those who take the piss there is the block button and that is what it is there for. I don't understand why some on here think that somehow it makes you a bad person if you use it. I really cannot stand that 'holier than thou' attitude (that's not directed at anyone in particular). I use the site facilities to suit me - that's the point of them."
Yes we are all different here I know and have our own ways to deal with things .I have had no nasty rude people mailing been here years so i feel lucky I know some come across people like that here .. I have had over 200 letters a day here at times .. would be mailing all day long no thanks .. Just don't wish to hurt there feelings SO say it in my profile.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Put on your profile you cant mail everyone back and thanks for mailing you .That way you don't have to hurt there feelings and don't have to mail all back .

That doesn't work. I have that and still get asked why.I do to and just don't mail back as told them on my profile I get some mailing same people every week . up to them I don't block as not my thing .

I block since a) they are being rude to continue to mail b) they can get abusive c) saves both of us time - I just don't have time sometimes to plow through the messages - especially if I have put up a meet ad I get a lot of mail here . I don't have the time to mail back why I have that on my profile and so far lucky no nasty ones.I find most here are just lovely people and just not for me. I just know some it hurts their feelings being blocked they take it as a personal snub..

Well, perhaps I'm a hardened bitch but I'm not here to worry about other people's egos. And I also block people I have contacted who are not interested as it means I won't message them again. I just find it easier. I don't necessarily block straight away - usually when they just won't take no for an answer. Or they message repeatedly either trying their luck or because they have forgotten they have messaged me before. Guys do send out a lot of messages I imagine so they cannot keep track of everyone they have contacted.

I tend to get more of this if I put an ad up - lots of chancers who know I have rejected them before but think, because I advertise for a meet, then I will relax my preferences.

Mostly I do get a polite response - but for those who take the piss there is the block button and that is what it is there for. I don't understand why some on here think that somehow it makes you a bad person if you use it. I really cannot stand that 'holier than thou' attitude (that's not directed at anyone in particular). I use the site facilities to suit me - that's the point of them. Yes we are all different here I know and have our own ways to deal with things .I have had no nasty rude people mailing been here years so i feel lucky I know some come across people like that here .. I have had over 200 letters a day here at times .. would be mailing all day long no thanks .. Just don't wish to hurt there feelings SO say it in my profile."

The problem arises when they don't read the profile. I have it on my profile that if they get a no thanks that's all there is. I don't like being asked why - but I still get that! Then I block.

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

A quick "fuck off you are a wanker" works every time. Oh shit. Not that I would know. Just what I heard.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"A quick "fuck off you are a wanker" works every time. Oh shit. Not that I would know. Just what I heard."

I am never rude and abusive to people, unless someone sends me a rude message. Then they get what's coming - but I never use profanity. I just honestly tell them why they were rejected. And the truth can hurt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem arises when they don't read the profile. I have it on my profile that if they get a no thanks that's all there is. I don't like being asked why - but I still get that! Then I block.

Well I just don't mail back as I said it and up to them to read ... Do you think be best at top of profile in big letters ? maybe it would .

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"The problem arises when they don't read the profile. I have it on my profile that if they get a no thanks that's all there is. I don't like being asked why - but I still get that! Then I block.

Well I just don't mail back as I said it and up to them to read ... Do you think be best at top of profile in big letters ? maybe it would . "

I don't want something shouty at the top of my profile and it would still remain unread. And I don't mail back. I block and delete. Simple.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

As im not desprate engh to mail every female on here its not often I get rejected. Simple really

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

What's a rejection message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why. "

Some people get frustrated both here and in life however here you always have the block button so use it if you are getting pestered that's what its for.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why.

Some people get frustrated both here and in life however here you always have the block button so use it if you are getting pestered that's what its for. "

OO don't mention the dreaded block button! That somehow makes you a failure on here - or a bitch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why.

Some people get frustrated both here and in life however here you always have the block button so use it if you are getting pestered that's what its for.

OO don't mention the dreaded block button! That somehow makes you a failure on here - or a bitch! "
just if it right for you ... do it . We are not the same here and thank god , Be as boring as hell.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why.

Some people get frustrated both here and in life however here you always have the block button so use it if you are getting pestered that's what its for.

OO don't mention the dreaded block button! That somehow makes you a failure on here - or a bitch! just if it right for you ... do it . We are not the same here and thank god , Be as boring as hell."

That comment was not directed at you - by the way.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"What's a rejection message?

"
email me and you will find out. He he.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a rejection message?

email me and you will find out. He he. "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but you could like me if you met me

or

i look better in the flesh so im told

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

you are not going to please everyone...

if you send a rejection.. some will complain

if you block... some will complain

if you don't send a reply.. some will complain

if they were to give people the option of a standard reply.... i am sure people would complain because it wasn't personal enough!!!

it always makes me wonder just how fragile some people are, and how badly some people react to a "no".....

quite scary as it does make you think how people deal with rejections in the big wide world....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why cant some people just accept that we don't fancy them and move on. It doesn't bother me because I just use the delete and block button, but I do wonder why they insist on needing to know why I don't fancy them. If a guy told me I wasn't for him, I wouldn't actually want to know why. "
..well said same here.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What's a rejection message?

email me and you will find out. He he. "

A cursory glance suggests several reasons why I won't be bothering.

He he.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this is a bit off topic but...

This is what worries us about clubs. If they can't take a rejection on here how do you deal with it face to face. You say sorry no thank you. They say why not. And you end up going in circles trying not to offend them. But as never having been to a club it might not be like that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this is a bit off topic but...

This is what worries us about clubs. If they can't take a rejection on here how do you deal with it face to face. You say sorry no thank you. They say why not. And you end up going in circles trying not to offend them. But as never having been to a club it might not be like that lol"

It's actually easier face to face in clubs! For starters you can see them - not just a faceless avatar behind a keyboard.

And secondly anyone in a club environment that gets pushy (including the 'why not?' guys that don't take an initial no as an answer - very rare!) faces being evicted and banned if reported. A good motivator to behave.

And if verbal reasoning fails - a death stare and a loud "Fuck off - I said No!" in earshot of others will cause sufficient embarrassment for the offender to lose the ability to get an erection for a week or two!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite the site's 'don't keep messaging' message most or probably all of my meets have been with women I have messaged 3 or 4 times before getting a reply. Remember mine, as with many other bloke's messages get bulk deleted without really being looked at much of the time.

I do take no for an answer and most of the time it's all very amicable. Occasionally having a laugh with the babe who's declined me before saying 'bye' for good. occasionally I'm blocked : hey-ho. I can live with it. Only had two where it's been not so nice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this is a bit off topic but...

This is what worries us about clubs. If they can't take a rejection on here how do you deal with it face to face. You say sorry no thank you. They say why not. And you end up going in circles trying not to offend them. But as never having been to a club it might not be like that lol

It's actually easier face to face in clubs! For starters you can see them - not just a faceless avatar behind a keyboard.

And secondly anyone in a club environment that gets pushy (including the 'why not?' guys that don't take an initial no as an answer - very rare!) faces being evicted and banned if reported. A good motivator to behave.

And if verbal reasoning fails - a death stare and a loud "Fuck off - I said No!" in earshot of others will cause sufficient embarrassment for the offender to lose the ability to get an erection for a week or two! "
..A very loud "Fuck off" will do the job.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

I had a guy asking to meet today. I sent a polite reply saying no thanks because he obviously not read the profile. He replied saying he don't like being told what to do and didn't like my controlling attitude. Did make me giggle but don't these idiots give the genuine single guys a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a guy asking to meet today. I sent a polite reply saying no thanks because he obviously not read the profile. He replied saying he don't like being told what to do and didn't like my controlling attitude. Did make me giggle but don't these idiots give the genuine single guys a bad name. "

Nope!

Said it many a time before - nobody gives me a bad name. Or anyone else for that matter.

Everyone's an individual and the 'giving a bad name' line is a total crock of shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this is a bit off topic but...

This is what worries us about clubs. If they can't take a rejection on here how do you deal with it face to face. You say sorry no thank you. They say why not. And you end up going in circles trying not to offend them. But as never having been to a club it might not be like that lol

It's actually easier face to face in clubs! For starters you can see them - not just a faceless avatar behind a keyboard.

And secondly anyone in a club environment that gets pushy (including the 'why not?' guys that don't take an initial no as an answer - very rare!) faces being evicted and banned if reported. A good motivator to behave.

And if verbal reasoning fails - a death stare and a loud "Fuck off - I said No!" in earshot of others will cause sufficient embarrassment for the offender to lose the ability to get an erection for a week or two! "

Now that does make it feel a lot safer. And thanks for the tip. Just need to go now

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