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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at least you're the one whose being the adult. they'll soon learn x

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

I go we'll out of my way to make sure that they see him..... Honestly don't know why I even bother?

Least they have an amazing step dad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can anyone possibly judge who is being 'adult'?

I hope your children grow up able to appreciate both of their parents - and I hope you all enjoy your holidays.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is. "

It's pretty damaging for them to have their birth father slated be it the truth or not.

My own father was pretty spectacular even though my mum didn't love him.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"How can anyone possibly judge who is being 'adult'?

I hope your children grow up able to appreciate both of their parents - and I hope you all enjoy your holidays."

Well said

I haven't read anything particularly adult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is.

It's pretty damaging for them to have their birth father slated be it the truth or not.

My own father was pretty spectacular even though my mum didn't love him. "

Only if the OP is slating their birth father and the children are aware of it.

If OP is merely venting... Better here than in front of the kids. It's called letting off steam in a safe and ahem adult like manner

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is.

It's pretty damaging for them to have their birth father slated be it the truth or not.

My own father was pretty spectacular even though my mum didn't love him. "

Of course, which is why I never dream of saying anything around them. My father was very similar and my mother never bad mouthed him in front of us. As we entered our teens we could see for ourselves what he was like. It has taken over 16yrs and for my dad to have a stroke to build a relationship with him again.

I would hate for my girls to have the same sort of relationship with theirs... I know how painful it can be. I wish he made an effort with them cos its only going to hurt them in the long run....

So of course this makes me angry

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is. "

When my husband and I separated there was hurt on both sides but without discussing it neither of us badmouthed the other.

The result: three happy and balanced girls who grew up knowing they were loved, recognising there's not always a happy ever after, but two people who created them were always there for them and each other.

My husband had two sons before we met, I see them about once a month now. Their mum died recently and their sisters were there for them. The "kids" are 21, 25, 30, 36 and 37: happy and secure.

If we slagged each other off and wished for the other to mess up...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"How can anyone possibly judge who is being 'adult'?

I hope your children grow up able to appreciate both of their parents - and I hope you all enjoy your holidays."

Agreed!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is.

It's pretty damaging for them to have their birth father slated be it the truth or not.

My own father was pretty spectacular even though my mum didn't love him. "

Indeed!

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Perhaps it would be more adult of me not to encourage a good relationship then? As I know I am doing the right thing by my children. There are so many mothers out their that don't let willing good fathers see their children and I get slated for trying to make sure mine spend as much time as possible with theirs who has never once visited, called or paid a penny? Huh - go figure...

As far as all are concerned we get on, this post is merely stating how I feel NOT what I am doing.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

~Who is slating you ? Him ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP the kids will see his true colours soon enough. I'd assume he doesn't want to see them and just go on holiday and have fun. Having similar issues but the kids are well aware of how he is. I don't slag him off but I don't defend him either. Just be honest and don't let it upset you. x

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Maybe the problem rests in the OP's use of 'my'


"....... It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! ..........."

to describe 'their' children.

Being/ feeling excluded is never a good basis for any relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's dead beat dads for ya...

Ranting won't change who they are. They'll still be arseholes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't tar all of us Dads with the same brush

Some of us are good guys, though I do sympathise with the op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is there blood there Dad and no matter what he has done is still that there dad and let them make there minds up as could back fire on you .

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Please don't tar all of us Dads with the same brush

Some of us are good guys, though I do sympathise with the op "

Oh believe me I don't! I know some amazing dads

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think I am missing something, I thought this was a rant because the OP can't contact the dad and not that the OP has slagged off the dad to the kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My lil uns dad went 4 bread milk 12 months ago and hasnt returned so domt start me lol...and he lives 5 mins away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please don't tar all of us Dads with the same brush

Some of us are good guys, though I do sympathise with the op "
glad there are super dads lik urself out there xxx

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Maybe the problem rests in the OP's use of 'my'

....... It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! ...........

to describe 'their' children.

Being/ feeling excluded is never a good basis for any relationship."

This has actually made me laugh!!

As I said before I go above and beyond to make sure he sees them....he is far from excluded!!!

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Kids have a habit as they grow up of seeing the reality.

If he doesn't spend time with them they will realise in time.

You do the right thing by encouraging them to see him and him to see them. I'm sure you would never dream of slagging him off in front of them but i can guarantee that when they are old enough they will see him for who he is, whatever that might be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the best Dad in the world but not mother .

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Some estranged dads are great - some aren't.

My daughter is getting married soon - we've paid for most of it and are happy to have done so. Her dad on the other hand (who never paid a penny in maintenance when the girls were young) has contributed a measly £100. He will be there on the day though basking in his role as father of the bride (and before anyone comments on his financial situation - he has plenty of cash but prefers to spend it touring the country playing various golf courses)

I just wish I could slip some laxatives into his wine on the day to assist with his tight arse!

Instead, I shall smile graciously knowing we have nothing to thank him for.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"My lil uns dad went 4 bread milk 12 months ago and hasnt returned so domt start me lol...and he lives 5 mins away "

What do you have on your cereal ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I just wish I could slip some laxatives into his wine on the day to assist with his tight arse!

"

You can't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is. "

Ass hole I'd jump at the chance to see my daughter but her mother won't even let me just to hurt me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The father of the two oldest children is a complete utter knob!!!!

I'm absolutely fuming right now! My mum is taking them off of holiday so thought I'd take them down early so could spend some extra time with their dad as they are in Norfolk. This was arranged last week.

We're due to leave in a couple of hours and I still can't get hold of him to confirm. Have been trying for 3 sodding days! It pisses me right off that in 10yrs hes never made an effort with my girls and they think he's a wonderful dad! You'd think he'd be jumping at the chance to have them.

Can't wait for them to see what a self cantered selfish arse he really is. "

Please do not take offence as not intending to do so but letting off steam is good however fact you say hols start in couple hours surely that should be focus until they go then go mental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some estranged dads are great - some aren't.

My daughter is getting married soon - we've paid for most of it and are happy to have done so. Her dad on the other hand (who never paid a penny in maintenance when the girls were young) has contributed a measly £100. He will be there on the day though basking in his role as father of the bride (and before anyone comments on his financial situation - he has plenty of cash but prefers to spend it touring the country playing various golf courses)

I just wish I could slip some laxatives into his wine on the day to assist with his tight arse!

Instead, I shall smile graciously knowing we have nothing to thank him for."

If that was my dad I wouldn't have him at the wedding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey, some people on here really do need a good shag!!! For a site focused on sex there appears to be A LOT of frustration in the air!!

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Some estranged dads are great - some aren't.

My daughter is getting married soon - we've paid for most of it and are happy to have done so. Her dad on the other hand (who never paid a penny in maintenance when the girls were young) has contributed a measly £100. He will be there on the day though basking in his role as father of the bride (and before anyone comments on his financial situation - he has plenty of cash but prefers to spend it touring the country playing various golf courses)

I just wish I could slip some laxatives into his wine on the day to assist with his tight arse!

Instead, I shall smile graciously knowing we have nothing to thank him for.

If that was my dad I wouldn't have him at the wedding. "

I guess she loves him regardless. I've always encouraged my girls to have a good relationship with their dad no matter what. They see him for what he is now (selfish) but look past that as he IS their dad and they'd rather he was in their lives than not. It's frustrating for me at times but I wouldn't wish them to sweep him from their lives just because he's tight fisted. I guess there are other facets to being a dad and that's what they focus on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I now how frustrating It can be I'm a single dad to 3 wonderful children. My time with them is the best has I'm away with work a lot (solider).

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Blimey, some people on here really do need a good shag!!! For a site focused on sex there appears to be A LOT of frustration in the air!! "

This is The Lounge.

Plenty of other forums for specifically sex stuff.

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

With respect to all posters here we are obviously only getting one side of the story.If it were possible I'd love to hear the other side.Wonder if they might disagree,just a teensy,weeny bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With respect to all posters here we are obviously only getting one side of the story.If it were possible I'd love to hear the other side.Wonder if they might disagree,just a teensy,weeny bit. "

Yes always two sides to a story.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Blimey, some people on here really do need a good shag!!! For a site focused on sex there appears to be A LOT of frustration in the air!!

This is The Lounge.

Plenty of other forums for specifically sex stuff."

I am not sure he said the post shouldn't be here, but that some people could do with a good shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some estranged dads are great - some aren't.

My daughter is getting married soon - we've paid for most of it and are happy to have done so. Her dad on the other hand (who never paid a penny in maintenance when the girls were young) has contributed a measly £100. He will be there on the day though basking in his role as father of the bride (and before anyone comments on his financial situation - he has plenty of cash but prefers to spend it touring the country playing various golf courses)

I just wish I could slip some laxatives into his wine on the day to assist with his tight arse!

Instead, I shall smile graciously knowing we have nothing to thank him for.

If that was my dad I wouldn't have him at the wedding.

I guess she loves him regardless. I've always encouraged my girls to have a good relationship with their dad no matter what. They see him for what he is now (selfish) but look past that as he IS their dad and they'd rather he was in their lives than not. It's frustrating for me at times but I wouldn't wish them to sweep him from their lives just because he's tight fisted. I guess there are other facets to being a dad and that's what they focus on."

That's good. You've raised them well. Maybe I'm just a bitter old woman lol. But at least they've got you. x

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"With respect to all posters here we are obviously only getting one side of the story.If it were possible I'd love to hear the other side.Wonder if they might disagree,just a teensy,weeny bit.

Yes always two sides to a story."

Always at least three. His, hers and the truth.

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