FabSwingers.com forum: Selling yourself

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some profiles seem to be written in a positive way to highlight what people have to offer, and some seem to state what they are (or aren't!) looking for in other people.

Do you use your profile to sell yourself? Is it an advert to show people what you have to offer? Are your photo's carefully chosen to highlight your best points?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some profiles seem to be written in a positive way to highlight what people have to offer, and some seem to state what they are (or aren't!) looking for in other people.

Do you use your profile to sell yourself? Is it an advert to show people what you have to offer? Are your photo's carefully chosen to highlight your best points?"

Bloody good point... Time for a revision, methinks...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now you come to mention it my profile is probably weighted too much towards what I'm looking for and not enough on what I might be able to offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any profile is a marketing tool,

If an advert said,

We sell sofas for the same price as anyone else, and there is no discount available, and we are open 2pm till 3 pm on a Wednesday, how long would that company last.

no one wants to read about how fabulous you are or what you do or don't want,

or how many meets, how much sex you have had, that is usually a turn of.

People want to hear about how you can enrich their life, what you are offering.

and most of all people need to see your eyes,

attraction and therefore sex begins between the ears and works down,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my profile because it was written for me by a lovely Lady called Lickeysplits and she got me.

My pics show my good points I think

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My profile is quite long and my photos could be improved but it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess as a couple we get enough mail (even with filters on), that we don't have to sell ourselves as such, more put down our likes and dislikes on the profile (and after being at this for a few years, we definitely know what we like/don't like now!).

Think the same applies for the single ladies?

As for the poor gents on here, they don't get an easy ride, so think a little more effort has to be made on their part, even to get a 'thanks but no thanks!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hav'nt had what id call a full on proper sell myself profile for absolutely ages,it was never a negative list of what we did'nt want though,I don't see the point of wasting time over what does'nt interest me,its always been about the things that we do like,I found that positivity breeds positivity

As for pictures,well hardly likely anyone will put a pic on their profile they're not happy with regadless of what other people may think of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our profile was written by me for a laugh as writing a normal one on here just fades into a sea of other profiles.

we often get comments about it and hopefully it raises a smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my profile sells me well, hopefully so do my pics.

They've both worked well so far.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

My profile is a pretty good reflection of me,, the pictures Hi light my best featuresthey are limited by the ability of the photographer (me) and the subject matter (me),

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is just honest ! Because that's what I want in return !!! My pics are maybe not quite so honest !!! No one wants to see the bad bits !!!!!! So read between the lines ! If its not in a pic its not something I want to show off !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is awesome!

Read it and see for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might have to re_iew mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love my profile because it was written for me by a lovely Lady called Lickeysplits and she got me.

My pics show my good points I think

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We will have to take your word for it Queen,as your profile is hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might have to re_iew mine"

having re_iewed it for yer leave it alone Snogga its a fucking belter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a woman once 20 yrs older than she said and someone elses pics hence quick exit

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Any profile is a marketing tool,

If an advert said,

We sell sofas for the same price as anyone else, and there is no discount available, and we are open 2pm till 3 pm on a Wednesday, how long would that company last.

......"

That would depend entirely on the sofas.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

"My profile is quite long and my photos could be improved but it works for me. "

Yours made me laugh out loud, in a good way..

You like oral sex.. Really?

For our profile, Hollie spent ages thinking about what to write and sat for ages adjusting it.

We get out of the blue messages saying we are not for them but the profile made them laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think mine tells people a little bit about me fairly well and outlines what I'm looking for. My public pics give a brief idea what Im like but anyone I'm kern on meeting gets added to my friends list so they can see the rest. I tried not to make my profile too negative as I think it putts people off. Seems to have worked ok so far

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

I'm the first to admit that I have a long - profile! It rambles on a bit but I prefer to give a full idea of who I'm looking for and what to expect should people meet me.

I make no apologies for going on and have been complimented on how I portray myself. For a while, I shortened my profile, as many users didn't read or didn't absorb the long version. I've returned to the fuller blurb now because I would much rather have quality over quantity in those I choose to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love my profile because it was written for me by a lovely Lady called Lickeysplits and she got me.

My pics show my good points I think

We will have to take your word for it Queen,as your profile is hidden

I've seen it. It's amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love my profile because it was written for me by a lovely Lady called Lickeysplits and she got me.

My pics show my good points I think

We will have to take your word for it Queen,as your profile is hidden

I've seen it. It's amazing.

Its not hidden now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love my profile because it was written for me by a lovely Lady called Lickeysplits and she got me.

My pics show my good points I think

We will have to take your word for it Queen,as your profile is hidden

you can tease me anytime lol

I've seen it. It's amazing.

Its not hidden now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Is it an advert to show people what you have to offer? "

My profile makes Go-Compare adverts look sane.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the award for best thread in a forum goes to....lol

But yeah I am going to have a look at what I have written cos I think I was going through a 50 shades phase when I wrote it lmao even though I have never read it

If anyone can see anything that should be in there or shouldn't then let me know.

Brb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok done check it out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok done check it out "

I didn't see it before, looks ok to me though.

Ummm as you're asking, just re-read it yourself and think about punctuation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a negative profile but not trying to sell myself, no bugger reads them anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Is it an advert to show people what you have to offer?

My profile makes Go-Compare adverts look sane.

You're right there!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine isnt great but dont like to describe myself anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good point. Maybe ours could be changed a little in that direction.

We find that it is straight to the point though. And although it may put some people off, thus missing some good opportunities.

Those that do apply,are Mainly looking for exactly what we want.

We get a lot of 'we at interested in options 1,2 and 5' etc.

The only problem being we then have to look at our profile to remind ourself what those options were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some profiles seem to be written in a positive way to highlight what people have to offer, and some seem to state what they are (or aren't!) looking for in other people.

Do you use your profile to sell yourself? Is it an advert to show people what you have to offer? Are your photo's carefully chosen to highlight your best points?"

mines just honest, id sooner be honest about the way I look than big myself up only to disappoint people, i've never really been one for selling myself I think its better to just be yourself, tho I suppose selling yourself is being yourself to some people

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've done the best I can!

And I know it is quite long, but us single females do also have to state what we are not looking for as well as trying to sell ourselves, but I hope my humour comes across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The text is the last thing I look at and I glaze over after more than three paragraphs. I don't like the whole 'selling yourself' thing - just an idea of who you are is enough to help me decide if I'm interested.

Somewhere between not being arsed and trying too hard is what I like to see.

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Mine appeals to some, not to others.. I'd say its positive but only the people reading it can decide that.. It's me, it honest.

Had some luck so I can't complain

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"My profile is quite long and my photos could be improved but it works for me.

Yours made me laugh out loud, in a good way..

You like oral sex.. Really?

For our profile, Hollie spent ages thinking about what to write and sat for ages adjusting it.

We get out of the blue messages saying we are not for them but the profile made them laugh."

It did make me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just put what i like hoping i will get someone who i am fairly compatible with, i have lots of pictures so people can see what i look like and what i get up to on my meets, so there should be no excuse for people to say what are you into.

i have had a few messages lately where there is hardly anything writen on their profile, or sometimes too much and they sound too serious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile was written 3 years ago when we first joined fab. I updated the title a few months ago and my OH added in about us liking parties etc bit otherwise its the same. It was written with little thought and on the spur of the moment.

I don't go in for changing the profile text regularly to capture and appeal. It

is nothing more than a brief outline of who we are. I glean what I need to know and our likes and dislikes from the message exchange. The messages are the most insightful.

I don't understand why people find it so difficult to write a few lines about themselves or get others to write it for them. In my opinion there is no need to write a literary masterpiece, or a carefully devised profile to make people laugh. If you aren't a naturally humorous person, this will show in your messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All a profile ever really needs to say is

Fuck meeeeeee!!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I agree a profile is hugely important.

I just don't believe the stuff that is written on a lot

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"My profile is quite long and my photos could be improved but it works for me. "

Yours made me laugh out loud, in a good way..

You like oral sex.. Really?".....

Glad you liked it. And yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All a profile ever really needs to say is

Fuck meeeeeee!!!

Ok, deal!

Name the time and place honeytits

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