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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more."

I got slated yesterday for saying the same thing. At the end of the day if youve got a face like a cows backside & have a great profile,it aint gonna matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok thanks for the reply mate,

me and you are most prob one of quite a few asking the same question day in day out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it is that to have sex with someone I need to find them attractive. If I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to have sex with them. There are some women and men who can, but I'm not one of them. I'm not going to comment on either profile as it will get me a trip on the naughty step.

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well I got he face of Brad Pitt,the body of an Adonis, could there be just the remotest possiblity my 1 and 1/2 inch cock is the reason I can't pull?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people got for looks and some go for personality. Some want the whole package. Its all down to prefrences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I got he face of Brad Pitt,the body of an Adonis, could there be just the remotest possiblity my 1 and 1/2 inch cock is the reason I can't pull? "

No, that's the reason you don't get a second meet

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

hehe Mysterious. you are on form today.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"The way I see it is that to have sex with someone I need to find them attractive. If I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to have sex with them. There are some women and men who can, but I'm not one of them. I'm not going to comment on either profile as it will get me a trip on the naughty step. "

Agree with ruby here.

But even if a really fit guy messages me with a sleazeball message I don't reply. So it's a whole package kinda thing. I'm not desperate enough to shag anyone that messages me id rather hold out for guys that totally fit my preferences and appeal to me personality wise too.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more."

There is also another saying..... You get out what you put in.....

I don't think it is a case of if your face fits, more a. Case of making a good impression....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now that is a good saying but does get you down hearted when you try yr best and you don't even get a thanks.or anything along those line's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, physically, I ain't all that.. I'm not ripped like Superman, I don't run marathons, the closest I get to six pack is the beer isle in Tescos and the nicest compliment I've been paid recently about my face pictures is 'well, that wasn't what I expected at all'.

But...I have a mind, its razor sharp and, on occasion, can make the ladies laugh (with me, not at me). I have respect, mindfulness, understanding, humour and I let my greatest attributes work for me. Humour, conversation, repartee and a well-adjusted attitude are some of the most powerful panty-moistening abilities there are!

This means that what I seek are ladies and couples who look for something beyond a simple physical 'tick in a box'.

Does it mean I have to work harder than Mr Brad 'Adonis' Pitt - yes it does.

Does it mean I have less success? Possibly - but only if you measure your success in 'notches on the bedpost', which I don't. Every meet (social or physical) I have tells me that what I do, who I am, is worth just as much as 'Mr Fit'.

Negativity is the end of all. Its the SINGLE biggest turnoff anyone can display on here and it leads to being jaded and pissed off - and by that point you need to hang it up and leave.

Look in the mirror. Be at ease with what you have, embrace it. Play to your strengths, not your weaknesses. Have fun with it all and realise that, like many things in life, great reward comes with time, effort, patience and good humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See, physically, I ain't all that.. I'm not ripped like Superman, I don't run marathons, the closest I get to six pack is the beer isle in Tescos and the nicest compliment I've been paid recently about my face pictures is 'well, that wasn't what I expected at all'.

But...I have a mind, its razor sharp and, on occasion, can make the ladies laugh (with me, not at me). I have respect, mindfulness, understanding, humour and I let my greatest attributes work for me. Humour, conversation, repartee and a well-adjusted attitude are some of the most powerful panty-moistening abilities there are!

This means that what I seek are ladies and couples who look for something beyond a simple physical 'tick in a box'.

Does it mean I have to work harder than Mr Brad 'Adonis' Pitt - yes it does.

Does it mean I have less success? Possibly - but only if you measure your success in 'notches on the bedpost', which I don't. Every meet (social or physical) I have tells me that what I do, who I am, is worth just as much as 'Mr Fit'.

Negativity is the end of all. Its the SINGLE biggest turnoff anyone can display on here and it leads to being jaded and pissed off - and by that point you need to hang it up and leave.

Look in the mirror. Be at ease with what you have, embrace it. Play to your strengths, not your weaknesses. Have fun with it all and realise that, like many things in life, great reward comes with time, effort, patience and good humour.

"
this

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Now that is a good saying but does get you down hearted when you try yr best and you don't even get a thanks.or anything along those line's"

In which case if the negativity comes out, you will never get anywhere and you have lost before you start.....

Maybe a change in mindset is needed... If you are new and you went to a pub, would you expect to be treated by the locals like some long lost conquering hero?

Expect nothing.........

If you get a reply.... Consider it a bonus, no one is owed anything....

I wonder how ppl get along at times with being so fragile, that no getting a no thank you crushes them......

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I hit the delete key if a guy sends me a four word message. But if a chap has clearly read my profile and sends a face pic, I will have a look . On a site like this looks are important, but I tend to pick guys that I can relate to rather than because they have a toned torso ( I prefer stocky guys anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i get a no thanks i just move on & think there loss they dont know wot there missing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure... If you face fits you're in luck... But different people like different things so your face will always fit somewhere. From a personal perspective I find personality very important and a good personality will influence my perceived attractiveness of the other person. I have also seen some stereotypically gorgeous guys who can't maintain a conversation and gone right off them. I guess those of us who are less conventionally attractive just have to work a little harder and sell our wares.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with the Professor

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

there are more new posters in these forums all the time, guys and ladies and most seem to connect with new friends and have a great time on here... join in and take your time. All types

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure... If you face fits you're in luck... But different people like different things so your face will always fit somewhere. From a personal perspective I find personality very important and a good personality will influence my perceived attractiveness of the other person. I have also seen some stereotypically gorgeous guys who can't maintain a conversation and gone right off them. I guess those of us who are less conventionally attractive just have to work a little harder and sell our wares. "

I stopped 'selling my wares' years ago. These days they are just free to a good home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I see it is that to have sex with someone I need to find them attractive. If I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to have sex with them. There are some women and men who can, but I'm not one of them. I'm not going to comment on either profile as it will get me a trip on the naughty step.

Agree with ruby here.

But even if a really fit guy messages me with a sleazeball message I don't reply. So it's a whole package kinda thing. I'm not desperate enough to shag anyone that messages me id rather hold out for guys that totally fit my preferences and appeal to me personality wise too. "

I'm with Ruby and Miss H B on this one. Id rather wait till I feel a connection with someone who fits my preference totally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your face fits what exactly?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

8 inches and above: my interest in their face lessens by the inch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"8 inches and above: my interest in their face lessens by the inch"

If we are going by height, I'm 5ft 11 - it may explain the total lack of interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For every women that turns you down always another that may not, did use to get bit down when I first joined after seeing messages deleted and no reply no good for ego . But now heard blokes far outweigh the women it's case of not getting down just move on. As for my face not fitting probably as never good in pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd just like to say that what one person likes is not necessarily what another likes. The person who I've had the best connection with on here hasn't been the most stereotypically attractive. I've had some not great sex with hot guys. What turns me on is someone's brain and whether it clicks with me. The person I had the best connection with managed to turn my brain on, and I his, and therefore the chemistry between us was phenomenal. I am yet to have better sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd just like to say that what one person likes is not necessarily what another likes. The person who I've had the best connection with on here hasn't been the most stereotypically attractive. I've had some not great sex with hot guys. What turns me on is someone's brain and whether it clicks with me. The person I had the best connection with managed to turn my brain on, and I his, and therefore the chemistry between us was phenomenal. I am yet to have better sex! "
could do with more ladies like this on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i get a no thanks i just move on & think there loss they dont know wot there missing "

When I get a no thanks I know it's because they do know what they are missing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok thanks for the reply mate,

me and you are most prob one of quite a few asking the same question day in day out "

What is the answer that you want? That there is a special swinging gang that you need to be a member of to get a meet? Who on earth would want to be a member of such a gang?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke


"For every women that turns you down always another that may not, did use to get bit down when I first joined after seeing messages deleted and no reply no good for ego . But now heard blokes far outweigh the women it's case of not getting down just move on. As for my face not fitting probably as never good in pictures "

As you rightly say there are a hell of a lot more blokes than ladies on here. Which is whay it still amazes me that men still send ' Hi great legs wanna shag?" messages. A bit of effort does make all the difference .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For every women that turns you down always another that may not, did use to get bit down when I first joined after seeing messages deleted and no reply no good for ego . But now heard blokes far outweigh the women it's case of not getting down just move on. As for my face not fitting probably as never good in pictures

As you rightly say there are a hell of a lot more blokes than ladies on here. Which is whay it still amazes me that men still send ' Hi great legs wanna shag?" messages. A bit of effort does make all the difference ."
. And wish blokes would stop throwing dummy's out if get turned down by the women, speak to few women on here and amazes me some messages they receive if they delete or turn a bloke down

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more."

If your face fits into what? There isn't a list of people on the site who everyone plays with....there are just lots of people who make their own mind up who they play with.

I doubt if playing the victim will help you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I see it is that to have sex with someone I need to find them attractive. If I don't find someone attractive I'm not going to have sex with them. There are some women and men who can, but I'm not one of them. I'm not going to comment on either profile as it will get me a trip on the naughty step.

Agree with ruby here.

But even if a really fit guy messages me with a sleazeball message I don't reply. So it's a whole package kinda thing. I'm not desperate enough to shag anyone that messages me id rather hold out for guys that totally fit my preferences and appeal to me personality wise too.

I'm with Ruby and Miss H B on this one. Id rather wait till I feel a connection with someone who fits my preference totally. "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more."

Not really sure what " your face fits" is meant to mean?

The thing is with this site your not guaranteed a shag! You have to put in a bit of effort and work into it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have got to say that this thread makes me glad I've given up meeting. Single men who seem to think they've a god given right to get a meet on here. Without this sounding awful but if you want a site where you're guaranteed a shag there are other sites. Swinging is not instashag.

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By *ogamuffinMan
over a year ago

slough

How about body from baywatch, and face from crimewatch. Lol

Most importantly its people getting along with each other, with a sexual chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more."

There has to be some attraction for most people so I guess the saying is probably right.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

There are some wise words and good advice i,,, the posts,

I d say you have to have the triple h factor display these in and on your profile, messages and forum posts

Honesty,

Humour

and

Hung like a horse *

The first two are for the majority of folks , the third *is for _iew,, ( welcome back btw,)

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke


"There are some wise words and good advice i,,, the posts,

I d say you have to have the triple h factor display these in and on your profile, messages and forum posts

Honesty,

Humour

and

Hung like a horse *

The first two are for the majority of folks , the third *is for _iew,, ( welcome back btw,)"

The fist two deffo, but the third... I actually don't like really big dicks, i'm a small lady and they just hurt!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"See, physically, I ain't all that.. I'm not ripped like Superman, I don't run marathons, the closest I get to six pack is the beer isle in Tescos and the nicest compliment I've been paid recently about my face pictures is 'well, that wasn't what I expected at all'.

But...I have a mind, its razor sharp and, on occasion, can make the ladies laugh (with me, not at me). I have respect, mindfulness, understanding, humour and I let my greatest attributes work for me. Humour, conversation, repartee and a well-adjusted attitude are some of the most powerful panty-moistening abilities there are!

This means that what I seek are ladies and couples who look for something beyond a simple physical 'tick in a box'.

Does it mean I have to work harder than Mr Brad 'Adonis' Pitt - yes it does.

Does it mean I have less success? Possibly - but only if you measure your success in 'notches on the bedpost', which I don't. Every meet (social or physical) I have tells me that what I do, who I am, is worth just as much as 'Mr Fit'.

Negativity is the end of all. Its the SINGLE biggest turnoff anyone can display on here and it leads to being jaded and pissed off - and by that point you need to hang it up and leave.

Look in the mirror. Be at ease with what you have, embrace it. Play to your strengths, not your weaknesses. Have fun with it all and realise that, like many things in life, great reward comes with time, effort, patience and good humour.

"

Apart from the "I'm not all that..." I'm all that and a bag of chips ...this!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

All I'll add is if I receive a message that shows my profile has been read, with a insight into the humour of the sender, clear body shot etc, face of a god, if there's a picture that makes my previous meal threaten to make a reappearance, then it's an instant turn off!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"8 inches and above: my interest in their face lessens by the inch"

You are such a tart!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd just like to say that what one person likes is not necessarily what another likes. The person who I've had the best connection with on here hasn't been the most stereotypically attractive. I've had some not great sex with hot guys. What turns me on is someone's brain and whether it clicks with me. The person I had the best connection with managed to turn my brain on, and I his, and therefore the chemistry between us was phenomenal. I am yet to have better sex! could do with more ladies like this on here "

I think you'll find there are a lot of ladies with similar mindset and experiences: you just haven't met any interested in you!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"ok thanks for the reply mate,

me and you are most prob one of quite a few asking the same question day in day out

What is the answer that you want? That there is a special swinging gang that you need to be a member of to get a meet? Who on earth would want to be a member of such a gang? "

Those not getting none: duh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more.

I got slated yesterday for saying the same thing. At the end of the day if youve got a face like a cows backside & have a great profile,it aint gonna matter"

Contrary to some men's beliefs the swinging scene is not full of women that will shag anybody at the drop of a hat.

The harsh reality is that if you have no luck meeting women in the real world then you'll probably struggle here too. And that is down to a lot more than just looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok thanks for the reply mate,

me and you are most prob one of quite a few asking the same question day in day out

What is the answer that you want? That there is a special swinging gang that you need to be a member of to get a meet? Who on earth would want to be a member of such a gang?

Those not getting none: duh! "

I knew the answer really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more.

I got slated yesterday for saying the same thing. At the end of the day if youve got a face like a cows backside & have a great profile,it aint gonna matter

Contrary to some men's beliefs the swinging scene is not full of women that will shag anybody at the drop of a hat.

The harsh reality is that if you have no luck meeting women in the real world then you'll probably struggle here too. And that is down to a lot more than just looks."

Tactful and true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so been here for a bit and been thinking is the saying ture if your face fits your in luck,or do ladies and couples look for maybe that bit more.

I got slated yesterday for saying the same thing. At the end of the day if youve got a face like a cows backside & have a great profile,it aint gonna matter"

Every pot has it's lid

It's finding the right lid for the pot and perhaps on occasion realising that if your pot was bought in the pound store, the lid isn't coming from Harvey Nicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YIKES

sorry

*every pot has its lid! Bloody auto correct!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree"

Ooops. Was trying to respond to an earlier post, I'll get the hang of this eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree

Ooops. Was trying to respond to an earlier post, I'll get the hang of this eventually"

Thought you were sympathising with my autocorrect

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