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when to mention you are a swinger to a new partner?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

have been swinging for about two years as a single guy,recently started seeing a nice lady,and developed further,however i would still like to swing,how do i bring up this without risking losing her?i would love to see her with another woman 2 lol dont we all x x hope someone answers sensibly 2

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"have been swinging for about two years as a single guy,recently started seeing a nice lady,and developed further,however i would still like to swing,how do i bring up this without risking losing her?i would love to see her with another woman 2 lol dont we all x x hope someone answers sensibly 2 "
well at some point wouldnt you discuss your fantasies??? explain about a mff, and see her reaction ?

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

start by having they pillow talks after amazing sex about fantasies and how much a turn on it would b to see her with another fem.....c how she reacts...lol then take it from there you'll know if you can talk further or to drop subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would tell them straight off, and would also take time out from swinging until we got to know each other more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just realise, you might find she fancies mmf rater than mff.

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

be careful what ye wish for tho you could be unleashing something beyond your control...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when your shagging her best mate - its always a good time to point out

"but hun didnt you realise I was a swinger when we met"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice lady" implies you think she'll find this lifestyle some what distasteful but you still want to continue.

I suggest you take time out from swinging to concentrate on your "nice lady" and get to know each other before even raising it as this "nice lady" might run a mile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm personally if i was wanting to carry on swinging it would have been one of the first things i told her

It may have shocked her there and then but she will be more shocked and upset the longer you leave it mate xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work out if it is worth losing her first. Then try some tact possibly leaving a book out or informally say you have a friend who swings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mmm personally if i was wanting to carry on swinging it would have been one of the first things i told her

It may have shocked her there and then but she will be more shocked and upset the longer you leave it mate xx"

I agree with swingmates she should have known from the outset, though I do see that sexual preferences are not what anyone ( not just swingers ) open up a first conversation with.

If you decide to tell her just be upfront. The advice you have been given about discussing fantasies seems very deceitful and a bit like grooming to me. If I found out that someone had been so sickeningly sly it would put me right off them. Just say that before you met her you had experienced sex with more than one person present.

If you decide not to tell her then you must be sure that you want to give up swinging. If you still want to swing and can't as you haven't been open you just might begin to resent her 'niceness' ( incidentally I am VERY nice ) and that resentment could cause you to cheat or call it off.

Let me know how you go on Im interested. Im also VERY interested in what makes a bloke think a woman is 'nice' .... ?

Love Granny Nicey. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have actually been in that situation.

I met a nice lady and told her from day one I was a swinger. I did stop when we got together, she was at first quite shocked but also curious but thats as far as it went and I didn't push her.

We were together for quite a while only started swinging again when we split up.

So for me tell her as soon as if she loikes you then it really shouldn't matter what you got up to before you met !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have actually been in that situation.

I met a nice lady and told her from day one I was a swinger. I did stop when we got together, she was at first quite shocked but also curious but thats as far as it went and I didn't push her.

We were together for quite a while only started swinging again when we split up.

So for me tell her as soon as if she loikes you then it really shouldn't matter what you got up to before you met !!!! "

I agree with you: what you did prior to meeting a new partner shouldn't matter but I don't think that's what the OP is saying. He wants her to join in the lifestyle and get down to some girl-on-girl action unless I misunderstood!

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