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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm having a really shit to today, I suppose every now and again life catches up with you and you get a reality check

My eldest daughter moved out last year as she was going to uni that was to far for her to commute from home so she moved, my middle daughters doing the same this year and i've spend most of the morning helping her pack as she's moving into her new flat next week, I'm now looking at my youngest and thinking in a few years she will be doing the same and i'll be left all alone

I know this is the natural order of life, you have kids, they grow up and leave, and don't get me wrong i'm happy both my kids are at uni and doing well but when you've spent your whole life being mum, it really does leave a massive gap in your life that im finding hard to fill and the thought of my youngest going in the not to distant future is killing me

I think I need to get pregnant again quite before its to late lol I cant imagine life without my kids, I know the visit when they have the time but its not the same is it

oh well back to feeling sorry for myself

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Buy a dog?

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Empty next syndrome....

Perhaps now is the time to look at what you want out of life when it isn't dictated by kids and their comings/goings/needs...

Once the youngest has gone you will have your life back

never forget however that you never stop being a mum and they never stop needing you......

Hugs anyway..xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Already got two

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Hobbies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fill the gap with lots of fun for a little while and before you know it you may have grandchildren to fill all your time up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a boyfriend?

Its like another pet, but requires more attention and training.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eldest moved out on Monday..phoned me Wednesday saying she had left a bag of washing by the machine and could I wash it as she doesn't get her machine until next week.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get a boyfriend?

Its like another pet, but requires more attention and training.

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im struggling to train the dog never mine a man lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely post

they get older and move on/out but you will always see them,

my mother always worked a 50% principle while I was in teen years

Eg if I was going out and needed to 'borrow' £20 she would give me £10

I would return for the other 10 later at which time she got to see me check up on me see how much I had drank etc

Never knew at the time she told me many years later, Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Transport to and from uni seems much simpler nowadays, not that many students do leave home

When I went to uni there seemed to be an unwritten rule that you had to move at least 50 miles away, just so that you couldn't come home every weekend !

I think it's actually best to let them go, as they then develop into the fully fledged adults they're becoming....

I know that's if no consolation to you though

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon


"I'm having a really shit to today, I suppose every now and again life catches up with you and you get a reality check

My eldest daughter moved out last year as she was going to uni that was to far for her to commute from home so she moved, my middle daughters doing the same this year and i've spend most of the morning helping her pack as she's moving into her new flat next week, I'm now looking at my youngest and thinking in a few years she will be doing the same and i'll be left all alone

I know this is the natural order of life, you have kids, they grow up and leave, and don't get me wrong i'm happy both my kids are at uni and doing well but when you've spent your whole life being mum, it really does leave a massive gap in your life that im finding hard to fill and the thought of my youngest going in the not to distant future is killing me

I think I need to get pregnant again quite before its to late lol I cant imagine life without my kids, I know the visit when they have the time but its not the same is it

oh well back to feeling sorry for myself "

Feel for you, there is plenty of good advice out there, but nevertheless it is a difficult and emotional time when it happens.

All I can say is that it does get better, and you will begin to build a different life. Your relationship will change, and your life becomes fuller when that relationship enables you to share some of their life away from, home.

We have two sons, one works in Moscow, one plays Rugby in France, and of course we miss them, but it's lovely when they come home, and have fantastic times visiting them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Life is funny. I had my children young (sterilised at 31) with the hope I'd raise them to be independent, leave home, be happy, and my husband and I could travel and enjoy each other.

Well, I got divorced and only one of my kids has married and moved out. My 25 year old is saving for her own place. Even with my ex and I coughing up half the deposit, she's still home. My youngest, 21, is in the final year of uni: so I thought, she wants to continue with her Masters, then another post grad qualification. That's another four years at home and I'm depressed at the thought.

My children shouldn't be at home when I retire. I love my girls, but they need to get out of my house!

Sadly, all my friends with children my age are in the same position. Some, their kids have had kids and they're now baby sitting while their kids have fun. My friend has retired to look after her great grandson.

I'm 53 next month and never been on my own. I can't wait to miss my girls, but they have to move out first!

Sorry you're feeling sad Naughty, but one mans meat...I envy you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You have your new home to look forward to nn. I bought kittens when callum moved out. He's just been back for 3=months but gone again now. It took me about six months to get used to not having him here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My shoes on the other foot my kids are still really young 5 and 7 but I miss them so darn much I split from my ex 18 + months back after 16 yrs together and just sit and wonder and sadly enough cry far to much thinking about them I so want them with me all the time to put them to bed to hold and hug them but I will never have that again no matter how hard I try to get my life back and believe me oh I've tried

So never wish your kids away no matter how hard things seem as I'd give everything I could to be there again and not get the little time I do now

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum was just saying that yesterday! Saying how she couldnt believe we're all moving out! Her youngest is 15/16 and wont be long before shes left school and working or at college :/ im thanking that my babies only 2 in 4weeks savouring every little bit about him! Haha my mates got 1 and a half as preg and I watch them and think soon he'll be like me!! Ahhhhh!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a boyfriend?

Its like another pet, but requires more attention and training.

im struggling to train the dog never mine a man lol"

This is probably going to come across as strange, but if you need help trainging your dog, I can recommend someone to contact from just outside Ross on wye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no useful advice, sorry. Just want to send a hug. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try the OU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm having a really shit to today, I suppose every now and again life catches up with you and you get a reality check

My eldest daughter moved out last year as she was going to uni that was to far for her to commute from home so she moved, my middle daughters doing the same this year and i've spend most of the morning helping her pack as she's moving into her new flat next week, I'm now looking at my youngest and thinking in a few years she will be doing the same and i'll be left all alone

I know this is the natural order of life, you have kids, they grow up and leave, and don't get me wrong i'm happy both my kids are at uni and doing well but when you've spent your whole life being mum, it really does leave a massive gap in your life that im finding hard to fill and the thought of my youngest going in the not to distant future is killing me

I think I need to get pregnant again quite before its to late lol I cant imagine life without my kids, I know the visit when they have the time but its not the same is it

oh well back to feeling sorry for myself "

Its like having your arms cut off to begin with big hug x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the same

My daughter starts uni in 3 weeks (my son moved out 3 months ago), and I will be left with 4 cats and the spiders!

I have adored every day of having them here - yes, even the rows, the monthly mood, the boyfriend/girlfriend sagas!

but I am sure they will come back every now and again - and I will welcome them with open arms x

shhh - don't tell them tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope it's your own house, or the bedroom tax man will be after you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt the same when all mine left home. 6 months later I left home myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mind feeling sorry for yourself, well done you two beautiful intelligent daughters off to university, you should be bursting with pride

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

Can't get rid of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like someone needs some good old TLC how about a nice hot bath with bubbles and back rub and chocolate for dinner?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Can't get rid of mine "

My problem too!

I want to retire to France but can't while they're still here. I was married with kids at their age. I'm near retirement and they're still here.

God, I sound like an awful mother!

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