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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi Guys

So here it is, You know if something not cool has happened in your life, you may feel the need to put it in a box , bury it, and leave it buried forever.

I have one of those boxes, full of hideous memories from my 2nd tour of duty in Iraq.

The bloody box is now on my dining room table, I have to go through it for legal reasons, full of medical notes and a time I would rather forget, how am i going to approach this, how would you go about opening your box that you thought was buried forever?

Hugs everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time. Remember you got through it, and its the past. Try and think what you've got ahead.

I feel for you.

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By *ike74Man
over a year ago

newport

Sadly if it has to be done it has to be done.

As fast and quick as I could making sure I got everything so I would not need to go back.

Once done nice glass of what you like and a relaxing hot bath.

Sorry you have to go their, hope it does not tax you to much.

Hug back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get pissed afterwards xx just try nt to divulge to much on things that have happened in the past xx good luck though

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Is it something only you can do? Or can you get someone to help?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahh, Thanks, I know its not a very sexy subject and I really appreciate such kind words, Im laughing as there is no way i am opening that fucking box, ggrrr but i have to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its to look out med notes speak to ur doc see if he could do it for you or some one u fully trust

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it something only you can do? Or can you get someone to help?"

I have to do it alone Ryan, Its seeing the notes from when i was injured, field hospital notes and maybe something is in there i have forgot, ggrrr, Going to make sure its well and truly buried next time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If its to look out med notes speak to ur doc see if he could do it for you or some one u fully trust "

My doctor is civvy and these are Army notes, xx

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Is it something only you can do? Or can you get someone to help?

I have to do it alone Ryan, Its seeing the notes from when i was injured, field hospital notes and maybe something is in there i have forgot, ggrrr, Going to make sure its well and truly buried next time x"
best way to deal with it in my opinion is to confront it take the pain and deal with it exercise all demons surrounding it the box will never contain it only make it scarier each time it returns good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Local t.a centre or ur old unit if near by if u no longer serving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a strong coffee, take a deep breath and try to be brave. Just remember that there's always someone lurking about on here for a chat when you need a break

Big cwtch and good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open the box take out what you need to.Close the box the put it in another box so your starting of fresh again.

I was in iraq and it is not a easy place to forget. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Local t.a centre or ur old unit if near by if u no longer serving"

Thank you, no longer serving, The SPVA said i have to go though it to see if they have missed anything, grrrr hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Open the box take out what you need to.Close the box the put it in another box so your starting of fresh again.

I was in iraq and it is not a easy place to forget. Good luck x"

Huge hugs to you, Your right, impossible to forget, stay strong x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you just get to the bits you need and not look at the other stuff in it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empty everything out of the box without looking at them. Then put everything back (except what you need). That way you aren't actually taking stuff out but putting it in to the box.

Prepare yourself metally as you know what's in there and try to associate something positive to the memories, your ability to survive, your strength, your progress....

All the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

celebrate the past, you have come through it, don't let the fear of the past stop you moving on, we are shaped and made by past events, be proud, be happy and GO FOR IT !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you just get to the bits you need and not look at the other stuff in it?"

I have to go through all the notes sadly, thank you so much for your message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it is hard but maybe seek advice from t.a centre or have a friend there with you to suport you if you have to face it or put the box away till you feel the time is ok for you to face it im sure there is many people that knows what your going through and will be there for you but please do not rush what ur not ready to deal with x

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Is it something only you can do? Or can you get someone to help?

I have to do it alone Ryan, Its seeing the notes from when i was injured, field hospital notes and maybe something is in there i have forgot, ggrrr, Going to make sure its well and truly buried next time x"

Some things just need to be done. You got through it the previous two times, you can do it again. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you just get to the bits you need and not look at the other stuff in it?

I have to go through all the notes sadly, thank you so much for your message x"

Well I wish you luck, just concentrate on what you need to find, try not to dwell and look forward to completing the task and give yourself a treat for doing so afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am touched by the response to this thread, its made me cry, the genuine kind words i have read. Overwhelmed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you just get to the bits you need and not look at the other stuff in it?

I have to go through all the notes sadly, thank you so much for your message x"

Take the bull by the horns and hit it head on.

I was wounded in 2006, could have lost a leg and several other bits of myself too. I have a nice piece of mortar casing they dug out of me as a good luck charm.

Contact Selly Oak and see if they can arrange counselling for you..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you just get to the bits you need and not look at the other stuff in it?

I have to go through all the notes sadly, thank you so much for your message x

Take the bull by the horns and hit it head on.

I was wounded in 2006, could have lost a leg and several other bits of myself too. I have a nice piece of mortar casing they dug out of me as a good luck charm.

Contact Selly Oak and see if they can arrange counselling for you.."

You must have been on Telic 7, same as me, so sorry you got injured, i hope your ok now x

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

You are obviously a very strong person. I know its will be painful to do but your a strong survivor. Huge fuckin hug

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A huge Thanks to all the messages I have recieved, a huge respect to my fellow fabsters that have served and dealing with their own box, and to all the lovely sexy peeps that have contributed to this thread, we will all get there in the end guys.

A moment for our comrades that did not come home.

We will remember them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A huge Thanks to all the messages I have recieved, a huge respect to my fellow fabsters that have served and dealing with their own box, and to all the lovely sexy peeps that have contributed to this thread, we will all get there in the end guys.

A moment for our comrades that did not come home.

We will remember them."

Utrinque Paratus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a thought provoking thread for a never served guy.

Respect to all service and ex-service personnel

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Only just seen this.

I agree with a PP that says empty the box and then piece by piece as you sort thru put it back in. Then hopefully you can lock it away and never have to look again.

I had a lot of friends that have been out in Kosovo, Sierra Leone, Iraq and afghan and although they've never spoken to me about it in great detail I know that it will stay with them forever.

Hope it's not too traumatic for you. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only just seen this.

I agree with a PP that says empty the box and then piece by piece as you sort thru put it back in. Then hopefully you can lock it away and never have to look again.

I had a lot of friends that have been out in Kosovo, Sierra Leone, Iraq and afghan and although they've never spoken to me about it in great detail I know that it will stay with them forever.

Hope it's not too traumatic for you. Xxx "

Thank you so much, your understanding is something special and your friends are lucky to have you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort through it this last once ...take what you need , take The box ,, set fire to The contents , wave your hand through The flame ,,, let that be the last time these things hurt you Xx

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