FabSwingers.com forum: My wife is a swinger not a Prostitute

By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago

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Some guys!

Got a wink, a message and friends invite all in one go from a single fella. Never spoken to him before so what did the message say?

"Fancy sharing the cost of a hotel room tonight"

That's it!!!

No other communication whatever, this guy doesn't want a swinging partner he wants a prostitute for free, at least that's the way we see it. As a couple we always reply to single guys, they get a rough deal as it is, but when you get this sort of request its not hard to see why they do!

A bad egg spoils it for the many genuine single guys on here. We have simple rules for meeting single guys, if we contact you we will pay for the room if a hotel is required. You contact us and if we decide to meet, you pay for the hotel or provide other accomodation.

Rant over!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a shame that some think the

people on this site will shag anyone and anything.

And as you say, treat your other half like a prostitute.

To me they are NOT swingers, they may have just joined in the hope they will get lucky...

kin cheek.

Thankfully, there are some nice guys about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sits back n waits for the "why do some people on here have to publish messages".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you considered that there are a lot of transitional users on sites like these. People who have heard about swinging (usually from the NOTW in some tatty article that paints all the women as slags and all the men as fat old pervs), these guys then decide to have a looksee, but lo and behold, before they can message anyone they have to register.

Now equipped with a username that they couldn't have put any thought into - y'know, DonkeyDick69 sorta thing - they set about messaging someone - anyone in fact - and, finding a profile where the woman looks like she needs a damn good fucking from our brand new studmuffin, completely ignoring the fact she's got a partner (I mean, it's his fucking problem, right?) - he sends a message to the object of his lust.

But... what does he say?

He don't know her from Adam, and he don't know what swingers say to each other to initiate a bonk fest.

So he does the one thing he knows how to do.

He plays it cool. He plays it like he don't care. He plays it like he's only got one brain cell and that one has fucked off out for the day.

He says, "Wanna go halves on a hotel?"

or...

Even better, cut to the chase, "Wanna fuck?"

Roll forward, ooooh about 3 minutes???

Nobody has jumped at the opportunity to shag this LoveGod, so he's fucked off to the pub to find his brain cell.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Sits back n waits for the "why do some people on here have to publish messages".

I said that once and no one else answered why they do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah have a few of that and just block them after telling them where to go

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Some guys!

Got a wink, a message and friends invite all in one go from a single fella. Never spoken to him before so what did the message say?

"Fancy sharing the cost of a hotel room tonight"

That's it!!!

Rant over!!

To be fair, your profile doesn't say anything about a hotel other than that is where you play, so how is the man supposed to know that you expect him to pay all of it ?

Some people send one line mails, some send essays, sadly not everyone will like either of those.

We just say no thanks to any that don't impress us.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Sits back n waits for the "why do some people on here have to publish messages".

I said that once and no one else answered why they do it."

I will rephrase that to..I said something like that once and no one else answered.

What I did say was, why do people do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did, we have received loads of abusive and downright nasty mails. All we have ever done in the past is ignore and move on. The mail we were sent was unusual even for us, and in the heat of the moment we put it in the forum.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Yeah I know you answered, I meant no one else answered.

I am guessing you have been waiting all this long to be able to say it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why didn't you insist that you pay for the room instead ..... kinda turns the whole thing on it's head really don't it

Either that or tell him to go fuck himself ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand where the OP is coming from.

I often get mails saying I'm up playing golf will be at such and such hotel on such and such date meet me at 8 o clock, or even worse can I put them up for a few days!

To those mails I usually reply I am neither a free B&B nor a prostitute.

Heaven help me when the open is on... my profile will be hidden!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it all sounds a bit disrespectful really.

Great that you take time to reply to peopla and maybe the answer is to treat individual assholes as individuals and keep replying to the good people you get messages from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I know you answered, I meant no one else answered.

I am guessing you have been waiting all this long to be able to say it though

No this is not the first chance, it is one of many. But had a glass of wine tonight. Shock horror answering back to a mod.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I am only a mod when it comes to having to mod.....when I am chatting I am just mrs rugby , so answer away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some guys!

Got a wink, a message and friends invite all in one go from a single fella. Never spoken to him before so what did the message say?

"Fancy sharing the cost of a hotel room tonight"

That's it!!!

Rant over!!

I can understand your rant,

I am a single guy but cannot accomodate so use hotels for meets and always pay,if the person i'm meeting wants to contribute thats up to them would never ask,Maybe i'm old fashioned but is just the way i am.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive had all sorts of requests from guys, ive had ones say "can i book an appointment" a common one is "what do you offer" to the second i always reply if your paying me £250 an hour you have every right to ask what i offer but as your not you can **** off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 out of 10 for dramatic thread title

Looking at your profile it's possible this guy actually read it, the spontaneous comment and the if you like what you see, take a look at our private gallery may have prompted him to message.

His choice of wording his message suggests to me he was dashing around profiles desperately searching for a meet.

A simple no thank you, or even ignore would suffice.

If prostitutes offered services for half the fee of a hotel room, there would be far fewer single guys here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a newbie to swinging i'm beginning to see a few signs when someone is looking for a quick shag, this line is one of them. I can't meet at the drop of a hat and my profile says why, so those who dont read my profile that says cant accommodate as ive a son living at home, the youngsters that send me messages even though im definitely not into that sort of thing, anyone that can't seem to use the queens english and text talks lol, as far as im concerned, anyone in their 40's should act grown up not like a child lol. As it says on my profile "if you dont get a reply, this is why" lol and i dont like adding people as friends without at least getting to know someone first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the OP, i sometimes feel like a free hooker on here, dont get me wrong i have met many really nice guys but sone just dont want to make the effort, all they want to do is send one message and be in your pants half a hour later

on my profile it stays im looking for swingers not men after a qiick fuck if you dont know the difference dont mail me......and i get messages most days from guys asking what i mean by that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree 100% with op there . its a shame when you get people like that who view your wife as more or less a peice of meat or some free entertainment when thats not what swinging is about , hopefully whoever the guy is will read this forum and maybe chamge his views , apologies and best of luck x

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By *dinburgh_duoCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Sits back n waits for the "why do some people on here have to publish messages".

Yeah! As well as the 'rate my profile' thread and the 'who wants their pictures taken by a photographer - I'm discreet'!!!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"agree 100% with op there . its a shame when you get people like that who view your wife as more or less a peice of meat or some free entertainment when thats not what swinging is about , hopefully whoever the guy is will read this forum and maybe chamge his views , apologies and best of luck x "

But maybe that approach will work for some people?

Lots of people use the meet today, we have done too, decided after a couple of mails to meet someone. The man we met had a funny first mail that was a few words long, it got us mailing him back and met him.

Some of us also don't want ping pong mail and swinging relationships, some of us want NSA with virtual strangers that we don't see again.

We are all different, so no need really to apologise for single men getting it wrong with people, as he will get it right with other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 out of 10 for dramatic thread title

Looking at your profile it's possible this guy actually read it, the spontaneous comment and the if you like what you see, take a look at our private gallery may have prompted him to message.

His choice of wording his message suggests to me he was dashing around profiles desperately searching for a meet.

A simple no thank you, or even ignore would suffice.

If prostitutes offered services for half the fee of a hotel room, there would be far fewer single guys here

There is no other way to take this post as saying that single men on here meet women on here as they are cheaper than prostitues. Guess I need to think things through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read this thread when it first started. Didn't comment as I sometimes think it's best not to.

I've just re read it and I am of the same opinion I was when I first read it.

What's the problem ?? I really can't see the problem ?? I've tried and tried again. Particularly as everyone is sympathising with the OP I thought perhaps I was missing something. I've read and re read. He hasn't done anything wrong.

Also I can't get it out of my head that the O.P immediately thinks this sullies his wife?? Maybe he viewed you as as rent boy!!

There's a couple of posters on this thread who show their own thoughts when they try to second guess other peoples intentions.

A man asking for sex on a swingers site. Who'd have thought it !!

Now my tongue goes firmly into my cheek ..... He should have only offered to pay a third of the hotel! There are two in the other part after all :P

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I read this thread when it first started. Didn't comment as I sometimes think it's best not to.

I've just re read it and I am of the same opinion I was when I first read it.

Also I can't get it out of my head that the O.P immediately thinks this sullies his wife?? Maybe he viewed you as as rent boy!!

There's a couple of posters on this thread who show their own thoughts when they try to second guess other peoples intentions.

A man asking for sex on a swingers site. Who'd have thought it !!

Now my tongue goes firmly into my cheek ..... He should have only offered to pay a third of the hotel! There are two in the other part after all :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 out of 10 for dramatic thread title

Looking at your profile it's possible this guy actually read it, the spontaneous comment and the if you like what you see, take a look at our private gallery may have prompted him to message.

His choice of wording his message suggests to me he was dashing around profiles desperately searching for a meet.

A simple no thank you, or even ignore would suffice.

If prostitutes offered services for half the fee of a hotel room, there would be far fewer single guys here

There is no other way to take this post as saying that single men on here meet women on here as they are cheaper than prostitues. Guess I need to think things through. "

We each read into things as we will and as we do, one sentence can mean several different things according to who reads it and how the sentence is perceived.

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over a year ago

"I read this thread when it first started. Didn't comment as I sometimes think it's best not to.

I've just re read it and I am of the same opinion I was when I first read it.

Also I can't get it out of my head that the O.P immediately thinks this sullies his wife?? Maybe he viewed you as as rent boy!!

There's a couple of posters on this thread who show their own thoughts when they try to second guess other peoples intentions.

A man asking for sex on a swingers site. Who'd have thought it !!

Now my tongue goes firmly into my cheek ..... He should have only offered to pay a third of the hotel! There are two in the other part after all :P

But, in general, we agree with one another here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confused

Was expecting to hear of some rude bloke offering money for a meet with the OP

Not someone offering to pay half a hotel bill on a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sits back n waits for the "why do some people on here have to publish messages".

Guilty of this and don't see anything wrong with it providing there is nothing in the quote that will give away the senders identity.

I do it in the hope that others who might be tempted to send a similar message will see the kind of response such messages get.

On the OP's subject manner I think the message is doomed to failure but not exactly insulting or calling your wife a prostitute, many couples share hotel costs with other couples or single guys.

Many couples would not let a single guy pay for the hotel room without some contribution from them as this would make them feel more like they were taking something out of inviting a guy to join them.

I read the message more as a very bad attempt to say "would you like to meet up for some fun tonight, I would be happy to share hotel costs with you"

Some people will never learn that badly composed one liners will rarely get them anywhere but they are harmless with a number of options for the recipitent - the delete button, the delte and block button - ignore and read the next one

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Some guys!

Got a wink, a message and friends invite all in one go from a single fella. Never spoken to him before so what did the message say?

"Fancy sharing the cost of a hotel room tonight"

That's it!!!

Rant over!!

sorry that you felt like that... for a first message I think that was out of order....I would absolutely agree,

but in a way, it also brings up another interesting topic...

I have gotten in contact with couples (or they have contcted me) in the past we chat and we get to the point of possibly meeting.....

so for a few of them, we set up a hotel meet (never really need to very often as I can accomodate and as I live on my lonesome) so it is suggested that we meet "half way"

some of them have insisted that I pay for the room.... rather than going halves.... after all... is everyone not having fun?

for me that is a bad........ as in a single guy should be so greatful for the meet that we should be bending over backwards and give in to demands...

so as I have said in a few threads at the moment... If we are going to have a sensible conversation, then is it only fair that both sides of the discussion are put....

some couples are as guilty of doing this as single guys.... and yet we never hear couples being dragged thru the mud as much as single guys.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 out of 10 for dramatic thread title

Looking at your profile it's possible this guy actually read it, the spontaneous comment and the if you like what you see, take a look at our private gallery may have prompted him to message.

His choice of wording his message suggests to me he was dashing around profiles desperately searching for a meet.

A simple no thank you, or even ignore would suffice.

If prostitutes offered services for half the fee of a hotel room, there would be far fewer single guys here

There is no other way to take this post as saying that single men on here meet women on here as they are cheaper than prostitues. Guess I need to think things through. "

I'm with you Granny, I had to read that last bit twice lol

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By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

"I read this thread when it first started. Didn't comment as I sometimes think it's best not to.

I've just re read it and I am of the same opinion I was when I first read it.

Also I can't get it out of my head that the O.P immediately thinks this sullies his wife?? Maybe he viewed you as as rent boy!!

There's a couple of posters on this thread who show their own thoughts when they try to second guess other peoples intentions.

A man asking for sex on a swingers site. Who'd have thought it !!

Now my tongue goes firmly into my cheek ..... He should have only offered to pay a third of the hotel! There are two in the other part after all :P

So what you are saying then is YOU are happy to jump into bed and fuck anything in trousers, just as soon as they send you a message, no matter how short or curt???

No I thought not, nobody is that desperate for sex are they??

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I think you may be reading it wrong.

I think the jist is, people will ask for meets in mails, it is up to the indivdual which ones impress them but an offer of a meet is all the man asked.

Ok it didn't impress you...but as we are all on a sex site, people will ask for sex and meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 out of 10 for dramatic thread title

Looking at your profile it's possible this guy actually read it, the spontaneous comment and the if you like what you see, take a look at our private gallery may have prompted him to message.

His choice of wording his message suggests to me he was dashing around profiles desperately searching for a meet.

A simple no thank you, or even ignore would suffice.

If prostitutes offered services for half the fee of a hotel room, there would be far fewer single guys here

There is no other way to take this post as saying that single men on here meet women on here as they are cheaper than prostitues. Guess I need to think things through.

I'm with you Granny, I had to read that last bit twice lol

There so would be fewer single guys here, and fewer couples looking for single bi fems, to many, this is about sex, not so much friendship, if anyone could meet a single female simply by paying half to a hotel room, or spend weeks chatting first and still get nothing then the former would be chosen so many times over the later, good example is the OP, I'm not sure you read it how I meant.

What I'm saying is simply, if there was an option of pay half towards a hotel room and that guarantees a female to play with, then that option would be taken by so many, and as this place doesn't really offer that then there would be less here seeking females, however, as prostitution also doesn't offer this as an option, then I'm not suggesting everyone would use prostitution services, my point really, is it was silly (IMO) for the OP to even mention the term prostitute, as they (as far as I'm aware) do not offer sex for half the hotel room fee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand your rant,

Nothing wrong with old fashion chivalry in my book!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like this thread

it sort of presents why i like the forums

we post on here sometimes to get feedback, support, guidance and just a general cyber hug

if you feel let down or upset by a message then why not share it with the forums?

you get support or a different point of view or be told to snap out of it

either way you share your frustration, learn and move on

just post and dont name or hurt --

or am i being too simple?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I can understand your rant,

See.... this is where some single guys are going to disagree... me being one!!

Maybe I am more modern, but if everyone is suppose to get something out of the meet then surely shouldn't everyone be contributing?

you do get some couples use there power by saying that singles guys must pay for the hotel and if not they won't meet.... I wish at some point they would say "enough is enough" but sadly it will never happen as people will crawl over each other to get meets.....

for me all I can say is that my integrity is worth more than any meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i like this thread

it sort of presents why i like the forums

we post on here sometimes to get feedback, support, guidance and just a general cyber hug

if you feel let down or upset by a message then why not share it with the forums?

you get support or a different point of view or be told to snap out of it

either way you share your frustration, learn and move on

just post and dont name or hurt --

or am i being too simple?

You are loved up with the forums today, ain't ya!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Fabio that one should always contribute if one is going to get something out of the meet.

I personally do not like taking peeps for a ride, and would always offer to contribute, sometimes insist in doing so.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

Had a message sent earlier..

"Do you want to play whilst my wife is out?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read this thread when it first started. Didn't comment as I sometimes think it's best not to.

I've just re read it and I am of the same opinion I was when I first read it.

Also I can't get it out of my head that the O.P immediately thinks this sullies his wife?? Maybe he viewed you as as rent boy!!

There's a couple of posters on this thread who show their own thoughts when they try to second guess other peoples intentions.

A man asking for sex on a swingers site. Who'd have thought it !!

Now my tongue goes firmly into my cheek ..... He should have only offered to pay a third of the hotel! There are two in the other part after all :P

So what you are saying then is YOU are happy to jump into bed and fuck anything in trousers, just as soon as they send you a message, no matter how short or curt???

No I thought not, nobody is that desperate for sex are they??"

My response doesn't say anything of the sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 out of 10 for dramatic thread title

Looking at your profile it's possible this guy actually read it, the spontaneous comment and the if you like what you see, take a look at our private gallery may have prompted him to message.

His choice of wording his message suggests to me he was dashing around profiles desperately searching for a meet.

A simple no thank you, or even ignore would suffice.

If prostitutes offered services for half the fee of a hotel room, there would be far fewer single guys here

There is no other way to take this post as saying that single men on here meet women on here as they are cheaper than prostitues. Guess I need to think things through.

I'm with you Granny, I had to read that last bit twice lol

Que ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i like this thread

it sort of presents why i like the forums

we post on here sometimes to get feedback, support, guidance and just a general cyber hug

if you feel let down or upset by a message then why not share it with the forums?

you get support or a different point of view or be told to snap out of it

either way you share your frustration, learn and move on

just post and dont name or hurt --

or am i being too simple?

No I agree with you. I don't dislike this kind of thread and don't mind that people start them.

I just don't understand why some get uppity when soemone offers an alternative viewpoint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 out of 10 for dramatic thread title

Looking at your profile it's possible this guy actually read it, the spontaneous comment and the if you like what you see, take a look at our private gallery may have prompted him to message.

His choice of wording his message suggests to me he was dashing around profiles desperately searching for a meet.

A simple no thank you, or even ignore would suffice.

If prostitutes offered services for half the fee of a hotel room, there would be far fewer single guys here

There is no other way to take this post as saying that single men on here meet women on here as they are cheaper than prostitues. Guess I need to think things through.

I'm with you Granny, I had to read that last bit twice lol

Que ? "

You're a smart woman, smarter than I, I would say, I'm sure you can work it out.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"i like this thread

it sort of presents why i like the forums

we post on here sometimes to get feedback, support, guidance and just a general cyber hug

if you feel let down or upset by a message then why not share it with the forums?

you get support or a different point of view or be told to snap out of it

either way you share your frustration, learn and move on

just post and dont name or hurt --

or am i being too simple?

Hmmm maybe a little

Sometimes you get the people turn up who are being talked about to defend themselves and complain they are the subject of a forum thread because of a mail they thought they were sending private. As no one would want their private mails plastered on a forum I can understand why they would feel agrieved but then all hell breaks loose and it ends up being shut anyway.

Fabio...I agree with you, if we were to have a meet at a hotel we would share costs. I don't see why one half of the meet should pay it all as we are all meant to be having the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read this thread when it first started. Didn't comment as I sometimes think it's best not to. I've just re read it and I am of the same opinion I was when I first read it. What's the problem ?? I really can't see the problem ?? I've tried and tried again. Particularly as everyone is sympathising with the OP I thought perhaps I was missing something. I've read and re read. He hasn't done anything wrong. Also I can't get it out of my head that the O.P immediately thinks this sullies his wife?? Maybe he viewed you as as rent boy!! There's a couple of posters on this thread who show their own thoughts when they try to second guess other peoples intentions. A man asking for sex on a swingers site. Who'd have thought it !! Now my tongue goes firmly into my cheek ..... He should have only offered to pay a third of the hotel! There are two in the other part after all :P So what you are saying then is YOU are happy to jump into bed and fuck anything in trousers, just as soon as they send you a message, no matter how short or curt??? No I thought not, nobody is that desperate for sex are they??"
totally agree! All t.he OPwas pointing out that the guy was really blunt, one line message, wink and friend invite all together. Most ppl want some sort of chat or contact before sex. We are not animals and wont shag everything that moves. Yes at the end me the day all the guy did was ask for a meet but its how he did it! Dont think anyone on this thread would have ran out to a hotel room after getting that message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am with the OP on this one....lets not get all intellectual here!

Some people, Guys, Cpls , Women or whatever are just down right rude!

Our profile is clear, if peole take the time to read it!

Some guys DO see swinging as free prostitution!!

Spoils it for all the good guys...

We just delete and Block!

Grrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am with the OP on this one....lets not get all intellectual here!

Some people, Guys, Cpls , Women or whatever are just down right rude!

Our profile is clear, if peole take the time to read it!

Some guys DO see swinging as free prostitution!!

Spoils it for all the good guys...

We just delete and Block!

Grrrrrr

Uhmmmmmmmmm ........ mmmmmmmm ..... if it's free... it's not prostitution but I know what you mean x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am with the OP on this one....lets not get all intellectual here!

Some people, Guys, Cpls , Women or whatever are just down right rude!

Our profile is clear, if peole take the time to read it!

Some guys DO see swinging as free prostitution!!

Spoils it for all the good guys...

We just delete and Block!

Grrrrrr

Or perhaps they see prostitution as paid swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grrrrrrr!

The point is......if people read the Profiles, did not send crass one line or cut and paste messages, Expect us to drop everything that second and rush off to meet them....the whole swinging thing would be more fun and a whole lot less trouble!!!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

gonna throw my 2 pence worth in (which is what the forums are for i guess

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i dont think that the guy wo messaged you thinks your wife is a prostitute as he didnt say 'does your wife fancy sharing the cost of a hotel room?' he messaged the both of you.

yes there are people who meet after random one line messages, i for one do this depending on how horny i am at the time

and i would gladly go halves on a room with someone as i am skint all the time

if you took offence to the message then that is your perogotive and you should not be mocked or told that you are wrong in doing so, conversly you should not insinuate that others are wrong for not seeing that the guy was implying your wife was a prositute on the basis of his opening message.

as is fast becoming the mantra in these forums 'each to their own - if you dont like them or their messages delete-block-move on' (think that might e a bit long for a mantra but you get the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

Got to agree shagarooney

If you want things to be kept fun, don't let mails you don't like wind you up.

Delete, block and move onto the next one

lol @ fluffy bunnies

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

Got to agree shagarooney

If you want things to be kept fun, don't let mails you don't like wind you up.

Delete, block and move onto the next one

lol @ fluffy bunnies

see the mantra - the FAB mantra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

Spin that 180 deg's

Why should the person who likes to send short one liners be expected to do anything different

There is nothing is the site rules to say they are doing anything wrong and expecting everyone else on the site to conform to your expectations is totally unrealistic.

That said I agree with your sentiment however where we differ is that I accept that not everyone is going to act in a manner that I approve of and as such I refuse to lose any heartbeats over it

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

Got to agree shagarooney

If you want things to be kept fun, don't let mails you don't like wind you up.

Delete, block and move onto the next one

lol @ fluffy bunnies

see the mantra - the FAB mantra

lol oh yeah lol yours is a tad long for tired aching fingers though

lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

Got to agree shagarooney

If you want things to be kept fun, don't let mails you don't like wind you up.

Delete, block and move onto the next one

lol @ fluffy bunnies

see the mantra - the FAB mantra

lol oh yeah lol yours is a tad long for tired aching fingers though

lol"

yeah - it needs work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

Got to agree shagarooney

If you want things to be kept fun, don't let mails you don't like wind you up.

Delete, block and move onto the next one

lol @ fluffy bunnies

Ohhhh trust me lol......I really dont get THAT cross!...it comes somewhere below Niff Naff and Trivia.....Swinging for us is a now and again thing...we dont take it seriosly...and do like to laugh at our selves and others...in a nice way of course

And an occaisional Foram Hand Grenade is fun too!

xxx Shagaloony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and I clearly dont take spelling seiously either!

Durrrrrr

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over a year ago

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

Got to agree shagarooney

If you want things to be kept fun, don't let mails you don't like wind you up.

Delete, block and move onto the next one

lol @ fluffy bunnies

And an occaisional Foram Hand Grenade is fun too!

xxx Shagaloony

You're not too big to go over my knee you know.

Want to share costs to a hotel room?.

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over a year ago

"Grrrrrrr!

Think Calm, Think Calm......fluffy bunnies fluffy bunnies!

And if people could see the lighter side of life, it too would be more fun.

Got to agree shagarooney

If you want things to be kept fun, don't let mails you don't like wind you up.

Delete, block and move onto the next one

lol @ fluffy bunnies

And an occaisional Foram Hand Grenade is fun too!

xxx Shagaloony

You're not too big to go over my knee you know.

Want to share costs to a hotel room?.

Ooooooohhhhhh Pleeeeease Mister!!!

Your soooooo horny lol

Shall I bring my extra Large Butt Plug for you to try!

No Lube!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i like this thread

it sort of presents why i like the forums

we post on here sometimes to get feedback, support, guidance and just a general cyber hug

if you feel let down or upset by a message then why not share it with the forums?

you get support or a different point of view or be told to snap out of it

either way you share your frustration, learn and move on

just post and dont name or hurt --

or am i being too simple?

You are loved up with the forums today, ain't ya!!

i think its my mother in laws home made wine - its made me very loving to everyone today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i like this thread

it sort of presents why i like the forums

we post on here sometimes to get feedback, support, guidance and just a general cyber hug

if you feel let down or upset by a message then why not share it with the forums?

you get support or a different point of view or be told to snap out of it

either way you share your frustration, learn and move on

just post and dont name or hurt --

or am i being too simple?

You are loved up with the forums today, ain't ya!!

i think its my mother in laws home made wine - its made me very loving to everyone today!

I could do with some of that, for my mother in law, she don't like me, says I'm too opinionated, the cheek, I've no idea what she means.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Maybe a 'name and shame' section on the site wouldnt be a bad thing then to counter the time wasters and the mugs..its all well and good having the varification option where you can leave a nice comment about people you have met etc..but they have the choice wether its shown or not..you never see 'was meant to meet this couple but they didnt show' or 'they say they are a couple but its a single male'..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes what a great idea....can i please add camswing2010 to the name and shame list...they arranged to meet me and stood me up. i actually think it is a mean pretending to be a woman/couple and they should be kicked off the site for being timewasters.

*disclaimer* i dont know camswing2010 from adam, im making a point

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Maybe a 'name and shame' section on the site wouldnt be a bad thing then to counter the time wasters and the mugs..its all well and good having the varification option where you can leave a nice comment about people you have met etc..but they have the choice wether its shown or not..you never see 'was meant to meet this couple but they didnt show' or 'they say they are a couple but its a single male'.."

i personally dont think naming and shaming is a good thing. i have been accused of being a time waster because i dont make myself available the second a guy or a couple (thats right, a couple!) want to meet however, i clearly state on my profile that this is an addition to my life, hings happen and sex gets knocked down the list - would i deserve to be put on the name and shame list????

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

great idea....

but you never showed up for our meet... does this mean I can name and shame you.... I travelled all them miles, and when I got to you never answered ya phone.. so you have now wanted my time, travel and hotel costs.....

you are a fine one to speak.. pot and kettle spring to mind....

obviously all the above was a lie, but in the end it is your word against mine and who would they believe? I wouldn't like to be on that panal and now do you see why it wouldn't work... it is open to way too much abuse........

that is why most sites don't operate a name and shame policy

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

And the sites that do have a 'name and shame' policy have flame wars all over their forums.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"And the sites that do have a 'name and shame' policy have flame wars all over their forums. "

whats a flame war???

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

People flaming (attacking) each other in the forums - goes from thread to thread and gets referred to as a flame war.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The thing is… if you look at some of the threads which have been knocking about… there are women who actually like that sort of message (or so they say).

People often say “live and let live” when it comes to differing approaches to recreational sex … yeah I can go along with that for many things as long as it’s not an attitude alluding to “you’re on here you must be up for it with anyone who asks, so I’d like to book you in to suit MY needs” deposited in my inbox!

Personally speaking, some guy contacting random women (whether single or not) to come and meet him at a hotel (because he’s in the area that night) is possibly a tight arse (with a vigilant partner watching their finances) looking for a free hooker.... note: I said 'possibly'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All a bit heavy for me!

Its swinging folks!!!

If your not happy, Block Em and Delete Em!

Now where did I put that Butt Plug???

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wife is yours under contract.....

A prostitute is pay as you go......

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