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If you could click and delete all bad memories would you?

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

...... or do these experiences make you the person you are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...... or do these experiences make you the person you are? "

sometimes I wish there was a rewind button, just so I could redo things, but I wouldn't delete anything, as I don't think I would be the same person I am today. J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make me the person I am (which in itself is slightly worrying) so no I'd keep them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...... or do these experiences make you the person you are? "

A lot of them have become the foundation of maturity for me. But, I wouldn't live with depression if I didnt know half the things I did. So if you got that delete button, I'd like to use it please lol

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"...... or do these experiences make you the person you are?

A lot of them have become the foundation of maturity for me. But, I wouldn't live with depression if I didnt know half the things I did. So if you got that delete button, I'd like to use it please lol"
But would that change the person you are now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But surely simply deleting the bad memories would not correct their cause and effect so you would be left with an unexplainable hollow in your life that would torture you to the grave…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...... or do these experiences make you the person you are?

A lot of them have become the foundation of maturity for me. But, I wouldn't live with depression if I didnt know half the things I did. So if you got that delete button, I'd like to use it please lolBut would that change the person you are now?"

That all depends what I managed to forget. I think i could do with forgetting more despicable people from my past and that wouldnt change me, just give me less of a mental burden.

I might become a bit more naive maybe but when I look around, I'm astounded by the amount of people that have so much good in their lives while being none the wiser about the shit that goes on right outside their door or even behind their backs.

It's the untypical horrors that I learned to live with that I'd keep and try to make positive things out of.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"...... or do these experiences make you the person you are?

A lot of them have become the foundation of maturity for me. But, I wouldn't live with depression if I didnt know half the things I did. So if you got that delete button, I'd like to use it please lolBut would that change the person you are now?

That all depends what I managed to forget. I think i could do with forgetting more despicable people from my past and that wouldnt change me, just give me less of a mental burden.

I might become a bit more naive maybe but when I look around, I'm astounded by the amount of people that have so much good in their lives while being none the wiser about the shit that goes on right outside their door or even behind their backs.

It's the untypical horrors that I learned to live with that I'd keep and try to make positive things out of. "
I totally get that...thank you for being so open xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I totally get that...thank you for being so open xx"

Welcome xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no.

Have to take the good with the bad in life, and what has not killed you has probaly made you stronger and a more complete human being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would def delete some fellas ive met over the years and maybe a few stupid mistakes but .........

Maybe knowing them guys (only a cpl) taught me a thing or two about dealing with shites....along with the mistakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if I get the time back...

But generally mistakes keep repeating if you don't learn or adjust...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is only 1 thing I wish I could delete out of my life, but would it bring him back if I did ?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

They say you learn from your mistakes* so I believe all experiences define us, we can't untangle the bad ones and remove them for fear of losing our very essence.

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*Funky Fun Fact #1245

I have never made a mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort of done that in my head already ! Can't change the past so I remember the good things and file the bad in a big locked box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They say you learn from your mistakes* so I believe all experiences define us, we can't untangle the bad ones and remove them for fear of losing our very essence.

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*Funky Fun Fact #1245

I have never made a mistake."

Ah but Funky O’l mate, do you not remember that time you thought you’d made a mistake, but then you realised you hadn’t,,,....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes if I get the time back...

But generally mistakes keep repeating if you don't learn or adjust..."

That's very true, and William Gibson once said "before you diagnose yourself with depression, make sure you're not just surrounded by arseholes!"

If you're intelligent and mature enough, you don't tend to repeat mistakes unless you want to and the problem is increasingly that more people are wilfully stupid when somebody elses life is in their hands.

Others have been my downfall the majority of the time and yet I refuse to become a control freak because of it. I'd be a worse person if I assumed control over the lives of others just to protect my own.

And like my counsellor said, the only aim of burying the hatchet is forgetting where you buried it and why you needed it. However, some things need to be forgotten and physically and mentally cannot, even when they're dangerous for your health.

You dont always come back stronger, you just learn to replace what you lost with something better, and that isnt possible for everybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me remembering the bad things makes you appreciate the good things and times you have

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"They say you learn from your mistakes* so I believe all experiences define us, we can't untangle the bad ones and remove them for fear of losing our very essence.

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*Funky Fun Fact #1245

I have never made a mistake.

Ah but Funky O’l mate, do you not remember that time you thought you’d made a mistake, but then you realised you hadn’t,,,....

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... ... ... well apart from that time then! Tut!

I'm sure other time travellers' companions don't point out their every error like you do! Haaaarumph!

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

Yes, because life's too short to be dwelling on bad memories... that said, I don't class those 'bad' memories that are life lessons as bad so they wouldn't be deleted (which should result in no change to my personality anyway).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cause it helps me remember where I was then to where I am now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we didn't have bad memories we wouldn't value our good memories as much as we do well that's my personal opinion

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just keep my bad memories locked away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres a few memories I would definitely delete...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes if I get the time back...

But generally mistakes keep repeating if you don't learn or adjust...

That's very true, and William Gibson once said "before you diagnose yourself with depression, make sure you're not just surrounded by arseholes!"

If you're intelligent and mature enough, you don't tend to repeat mistakes unless you want to and the problem is increasingly that more people are wilfully stupid when somebody elses life is in their hands.

Others have been my downfall the majority of the time and yet I refuse to become a control freak because of it. I'd be a worse person if I assumed control over the lives of others just to protect my own.

And like my counsellor said, the only aim of burying the hatchet is forgetting where you buried it and why you needed it. However, some things need to be forgotten and physically and mentally cannot, even when they're dangerous for your health.

You dont always come back stronger, you just learn to replace what you lost with something better, and that isnt possible for everybody."

Sounds like our counsellors have something in commen...... Although mine doesn't agree with my opinion of burying the hatchet in sternums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just keep my bad memories locked away"
that's what I did for awhile but that's never a good thing to do coz they are never being dealt with then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Sounds like our counsellors have something in commen...... Although mine doesn't agree with my opinion of burying the hatchet in sternums "

Hehehe I preferred to aim for the spine. My counsellor is a great man, a truly great man.

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Hell no, even though I disagree what didn't kill to makes you stronger. I wouldn't be the person I am today without those experiences and I certainly wouldn't want to forget them an become complacent enough to do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha!!

spine via sternum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hell no, even though I disagree what didn't kill to makes you stronger. I wouldn't be the person I am today without those experiences and I certainly wouldn't want to forget them an become complacent enough to do it again "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahaha!!

spine via sternum "

NICE!!! lol via scenic route of bollocks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one situation id like to rewind is to see my first born smile instead of looking at me wiyh his eyes shut and not breathing that I would walk to yhe the moon and back for.. but I was blessed with a 2nd son who is healthy and full of life and I love him even more because he is my special baby xxxxx it makes you stronger but the pain never fades away xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...... or do these experiences make you the person you are? "
only some .......... that have hurt me over the years with my mum Drinking getting nasty ... But some have made me who I am today .. as I have learned a lot from people being nasty over the years ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you could click and delete all bad memories would you?"

Nope!

"or do these experiences make you the person you are?"

Not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because the bad ones define you as much as the good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine have already been deleted and ive moved on

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think some know my past history....however do you know what no i would not delete it....It turned my life around I was a pretty vile person for a few years but situation and experiences taught me you don't get far in life being vile and turned myself around....It also taught me to take no shit from people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahaha!!

spine via sternum

NICE!!! lol via scenic route of bollocks haha"

Hahaha!

Its almost as if you know me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahaha!!

spine via sternum

NICE!!! lol via scenic route of bollocks haha

Hahaha!

Its almost as if you know me "

Erm... well you are in/from Merseyside lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes rewind and delete all the shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I think it has definitely made me who I am. Some awful things but would never want to delete them from my life. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hahaha!!

spine via sternum

NICE!!! lol via scenic route of bollocks haha

Hahaha!

Its almost as if you know me

Erm... well you are in/from Merseyside lol "

Point but I doubt it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Erm... well you are in/from Merseyside lol

Point but I doubt it x"

Well (I have to be careful here) I have been know to get around. Not like I'm a bike, just like I've had a lot of jobs lol but yes, lets go with 'doubt it' haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NO

yes some of them hurt but they make you stronger. And some of them you to keep well away from the bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something like this?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1GiLxkDK8sI

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Theres 3 years of my life I wasted a long time ago and that's down to a certain person who I would gladly strangle

BUT life goes on

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