FabSwingers.com forum: The path has lead to a discovery

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have found something out about myself, it's something that I'm not keen on, it's not something that would hurt others, in fact it is for most something to be celebrated, but for me, I'm not comfortable with it but I know it's going to keep poking at me until I do something about it, not sure what my next step is but I just felt the need to say something even though I've not really said anything it's all just weirded me out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what did you find out ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after."
That's a lovely way of looking at things. xxx

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry .... loads of blokes wank over shemale porn.....

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I've heard Anusol is quite effective against those pesky grapes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nothing to do with Marmite is it?…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't worry .... loads of blokes wank over shemale porn.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its nothing to do with Marmite is it?…..

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you maybe on to something .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he's bought Jedwards new single...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, it's Friday afternoon, I'm blonde and easily confused at the best of times

but would you care to enlighten us as to what the heck you're talking about

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

The bro wants to win his brown wings.

Fair play yo!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after."

I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found the same, though more its that I admitted it openly and was quite a revelation, not sure either what to do next and it cannot be cured, I just need to learn to chill and relax, not expect everything done immediately as it just makes me feel stressed, agitated, angry and depressed all at the same time

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I have found the same, though more its that I admitted it openly and was quite a revelation, not sure either what to do next and it cannot be cured, I just need to learn to chill and relax, not expect everything done immediately as it just makes me feel stressed, agitated, angry and depressed all at the same time

Are you talking about anal too?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after.

I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all"

You are the only one that can make the decision about whether you want to cripple yourself or walk freely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after.

I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all"

These days its quite acceptable for men to have more than a passing interest in musical theatre …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm totally lost on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after.

I have no doubt but taking it out in the first place is the biggest step of all"
well I hope you're well and you can cope .... life can give you a curveball at times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you feeling the need to experience a hard dick in your ass?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a big scary leap though and I'm not sure I understand it myself yet

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Maybe speak to someone who can give you some advice, settle your mind on whatever it is..?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"It's a big scary leap though and I'm not sure I understand it myself yet"

Just tell me and I will discreetly tell everyone else.

Most leaps are scary, if it's just a small stepping stone you wouldn't have a problem doing it.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Are you a werewolf or something? Or just discovered a love of train spotting?

TELL MEEEEEE!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a big scary leap though and I'm not sure I understand it myself yet"
You turning to god ? Is this spiritual in some way .? After life ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Are you a werewolf or something? Or just discovered a love of train spotting?

TELL MEEEEEE!!!!"

No tantrums now Funky. It's almost six and you can have a biscuit.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Bet all these nosey fuckers will be messaging you to see what it is lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just have to talk to someone when I get back home I can be less cryptic it's only fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neil Armstrong took a small step and look what happened to him ...he's dead !...just spit it out !..especially if it is marmite connected .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive got it... Its show tunes.... Sing up, be proud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe found love and going to head off and give himself to it .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's a big scary leap though and I'm not sure I understand it myself yet"

Is your name Bigdon Lemming ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe he found out he liked onions in all ways . maybe a food thing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey, has he still not told us

I thought I'd be put out of my confused state by now but it seems I'm still to be held in suspenders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crikey, has he still not told us

I thought I'd be put out of my confused state by now but it seems I'm still to be held in suspenders

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maybe he will say just a wind up had us all fooled ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some weird single guys on the forums from Birmingham last few days...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't worry .... loads of blokes wank over shemale porn.....

And girls too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have barbaque beef hulahoops and vimto , I'm prepared to sit it out ., this could be a ' Frost / Nixon ' type thingy ...people will want to remember where they were when they first heard it...like when Neil Kinnock slipped on his arse on that beach .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crikey, has he still not told us

I thought I'd be put out of my confused state by now but it seems I'm still to be held in suspenders

maybe he will say just a wind up had us all fooled ,

If he does that, he's getting a slap! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much longer do we have to wait

I think I have guessed though

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

He's fallen for someone, needs to see how they feel before he announces to the world (or at least Fab)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like a little stone in your shoe. Just take it out and you'll find each step feels a little better after."

I like this and may have to keep it in the memory bank for future use!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Can someone pm me when we know, save me keep checking back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

care to enlighten us with your theory Floro ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't worry .... loads of blokes wank over shemale porn.....

And girls too

Aww

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok after much speculation here is what happened.

I woke this morning with what I thought was the monumental horn, by late afternoon I realised that it wasn't the horn, I realised that I missed my FB and then I realised that I Love Her, I have been to see her this evening and told her everything, it just poured out so naturally and felt so good to say it out loud we have been friends for years and it just felt so right.

But she don't feel the same way, ego bruised, and she has ended our special part of our friendship saying "it's not you it's me" can't see how this happened think I'm going to order a curry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok after much speculation here is what happened.

But she don't feel the same way, ego bruised, and she has ended our special part of our friendship saying "it's not you it's me" can't see how this happened think I'm going to order a curry.

Ouch. Hugs xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awwwww

I want to give you a big cwtch now! So sorry! x

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Good call Bigdon. Curry fixes most things. Chin up, have some lager as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not The ending I was hoping for either ...sorry to read this ,..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes guts to admit your feelings like that. Bad luck how it panned out but at least you're not going to be wondering 'what if...'

Enjoy your curry xxx

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"He's fallen for someone, needs to see how they feel before he announces to the world (or at least Fab)"

Love hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been through the same thing in my younger days.

It's painful to hear at first but don't worry, the curry is the first step on the road to recovery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure your worth more then a curry x let her dwell on it ........... its out in the open now. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe found love and going to give himself head

profound.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe found love and going to give himself head

profound."
This man is worth more then a curry x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Ok after much speculation here is what happened.

But she don't feel the same way, ego bruised, and she has ended our special part of our friendship saying "it's not you it's me" can't see how this happened think I'm going to order a curry.

Painful as it is right now it's probably better than always living in hope that she will wake up one day feeling as you do. If the friendship is strong you will find a way of being friends.

You need to get out and get some new shoes. It wasn't a stone - you had outgrown the ones you were wearing.

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Best to find out for sure by telling her.

Shame it did not work out.

Enjoy your curry and good luck. I guess many of us have been through similar? I have, best foot forward and just this once, have enough lager to help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just feel so foolish now

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I just feel so foolish now"

Don't feel foolish. You took a risk, it didn't go the way that you wanted but no one died. Better this way than blurting it out at more intimate moments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

banish The foolish thoughts Don , your wore your heart on your sleeve , nothing but respect from me and an apology for making light of The situation .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't ever feel foolish. You took a chance and that's a brave thing to do. Its not the outcome you wanted and it'll take time to come through it but you will x hugs x

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Not foolish at all, the foolish ones that have not had the bottle to do as you have done. Some would have got a yes and they blew it forever.

Take heart, you've got balls.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I just feel so foolish now"

don't..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just feel so foolish now"

I know how you feel it happened to me but be brave. Sometimes life doesnt work out as you hope but there may be even better things in store in the future xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you talking about anal too?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just feel so foolish now"

Like the above poster said.. let her dwell on it.

It may have come as a shock to her if she wasn't expecting your feelings towards her.

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just feel so foolish now"

Aww don't feel foolish! Same thing happened to me and I was really gutted at the time. Still getting over it slowly but I will and so will you. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just feel so foolish now"

You have nothing to feel foolish for mate - quite the opposite. You told her how you feel - you were honest with her. She has told you she doesn't feel the same, and for her it's no longer the same. Neither of you is kidding the other any longer.

Hold your head high - you did the right thing.

Unfortunately these things always happen at the wrong time and life feels shite for while, but you're the bigger, better person for coming clean.

Not that any of this helps, but you have my (manly) admiration for having the guts to be truthful with her.

ted.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Big hugs

You did a very brave thing telling her. At least now you won't drive yourself mad wondering maybe, if, perhaps....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all for you supportive messages, I'm going to take stock of the situation ill give her a call tomorrow and see how she feels let her have some space, I know things have now changed between us and it will never be the same, but hey, I'll be back to my normal self and bothering the single fems in no time right now I'm just going to chill spend some time with my kids and just let things happen the way they will happen.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Oh bugger I just remembered this thread I've been out all day and am gutted for you! But your a braver person than me and credit to you for telling her.

Sorry it didn't go the way you'd hoped but like the others said least you know now x

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