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By *eithboi OP   Man
over a year ago

Leith

OK folks, fairly newbie here. Single guy....

Can I start a thread (or debate :P ) on friend requests.

Very grey area, which Im sure there are several thoughts on. My grievances: I message someone and chat to them through messages or chat room. Why is it that when you ask can you add them as a friend, the reply is: "I only add people I know or real friends" I mean come on, your not likely to meet your childhood friends here. Im here to make friends, can't see how that is possible with such a negative attitude.

I do agree however, that it is totally ignorant to add someone the first time you visit their profile. Some respect and courtesy... chat, ask and accept their reply.

Would like to put this to those older and wiser to guide me

Love to all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's to the individual who they add or consider friends here, I don't think there are many looking for a childhood friend, but consider real friends through here to be those they have met, and not just chatted too.

There are a lot of picture hunters that want to become friends just so they can check out, maybe even copy pictures from peoples private gallery, so many have learnt to be a little more cautious and go about their own way in being so.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I can only speak for myself, I only add people I have already met or am truly liable to meet to my friends list.

I get friends requests every day from people living up to 450 miles away from me, I am not likely to ever meet them so won't add them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you want to be on someone’s friends list if they aren’t your friends? is it so you can view their pictures? cannot think of any other reason.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Everyone has a different take on what/who they class as friends. A lot of people are happy to add amyome who they are attracted too, some only add people they have been chatting to with with a view to meeting, others only want people they have actually met. Its all down to personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only accept Friends Invites from peeps I have interacted with, like exchange messages or meet in person etc...

Also, if I am unlikely to meet that person, I shan't accept their Friends Invites.

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

We only add people to our friend's list when we have met them as there are a lot who only want to look at your private pic's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say only send a friend request once you have chatted a bit or met that's the best thing. Many couples and Females have pics they only want to share with guys that trust somewhat or have met. Use the Hotlist to remember who you may want to contact at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say only send a friend request once you have chatted a bit or met that's the best thing. Many couples and Females have pics they only want to share with guys that trust somewhat or have met. Use the Hotlist to remember who you may want to contact at some point. "

got it in one! The friends list is for people you want to share pictures with and with the nature of this site many like a little privacy.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To be honest, you don't need to add people as friends to be able to chat with them.

But we don't add many people as friends, we use the hotlist to keep track of who we might meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only add people I've met to my friends list. I have a face and naked body shot I don't want all and sundry to see. I also don't add further verifications as in my view you really only need one person to say yes, met, real, does what she says.

My friends list is also hidden as it's my business who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say only send a friend request once you have chatted a bit or met that's the best thing. Many couples and Females have pics they only want to share with guys that trust somewhat or have met. Use the Hotlist to remember who you may want to contact at some point. "

I agree with this, and I do like it if a person asks me if it's ok, shows some respect..........

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"I'd say only send a friend request once you have chatted a bit or met that's the best thing. Many couples and Females have pics they only want to share with guys that trust somewhat or have met. Use the Hotlist to remember who you may want to contact at some point.

I agree with this, and I do like it if a person asks me if it's ok, shows some respect.......... "

I feel honoured

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say only send a friend request once you have chatted a bit or met that's the best thing. Many couples and Females have pics they only want to share with guys that trust somewhat or have met. Use the Hotlist to remember who you may want to contact at some point.

I agree with this, and I do like it if a person asks me if it's ok, shows some respect..........

I feel honoured "

The feeling is mutual

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk


"I'd say only send a friend request once you have chatted a bit or met that's the best thing. Many couples and Females have pics they only want to share with guys that trust somewhat or have met. Use the Hotlist to remember who you may want to contact at some point.

I agree with this, and I do like it if a person asks me if it's ok, shows some respect..........

I feel honoured

The feeling is mutual "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only except friend requests from people ive chatted to and got along with via messaging, i ignore all requests from people who havent got the manners to even bother messaging me before adding me. specially when you can tell they only do it cause they wanna see pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only add/send friends invites to those we intend to meet and only after initial contact via messages on this site. We never accept invites from anyone who have not bothered to message us first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We only add/send friends invites to those we intend to meet and only after initial contact via messages on this site. We never accept invites from anyone who have not bothered to message us first."

Thats the same with us,we have put that on our profile but still get a few friends invites a day,we dont see point in accepting someone as a friend if we are never going to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I add anyone, you only have to look at my profile to see that.

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Its nice to be picky on who you add as it adds a little mystery

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By *eithboi OP   Man
over a year ago

Leith

Thanks for so many replies

I think on reflection, I should have considered the point about private pics.

I really use this site, like a swingers social networking site, where, if I chat to someone, I ask them if it's ok to include them in my friends list. I use hot list, more as a hit list, of people I think look good, and will make contact with. Friends-people I have chatted to and got on. Im genuinely on here to make friends in non-sexual sense as well as sexual. Confusing myself now hehe

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for so many replies

I think on reflection, I should have considered the point about private pics.

I really use this site, like a swingers social networking site, where, if I chat to someone, I ask them if it's ok to include them in my friends list. I use hot list, more as a hit list, of people I think look good, and will make contact with. Friends-people I have chatted to and got on. Im genuinely on here to make friends in non-sexual sense as well as sexual. Confusing myself now hehe

x"

It is a good thread for us newer members so we know why invites get rejected.

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