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Sexy texts from my exboss

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By *allen Madonna OP   Woman
over a year ago

In my own little world

Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.

Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.

So what do I do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well say it was good to catch up.. Always respected his opinion professionally. Set a formal tone.

ask for reference permissions, take it and move on. Don't cross the line... Just say you don't think of him as date/ fun material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.

Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.

So what do I do?"

Dont let him try to use it as bargaining for sex, whatever you do. That is pretty poor of him to act that way

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

ignore the texts . be flattered cos you are gorgeous. is it worth the hassle of getting him involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suck him off and get that promotion

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

do you think he's found you on here so thought it was ok to kiss/sext you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.

Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.

So what do I do?"

You've lost respect but your still thinking of doing something with him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.

Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.

So what do I do?

Dont let him try to use it as bargaining for sex, whatever you do. That is pretty poor of him to act that way"

^^^ this. Not very professional of him

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Sorry, but why is the guy purely at fault here?

3 kisses? If it was that uncomfortable, 1 would not have led to 3......

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

come on, take a chill pill, there has to be some perks for all the shit u take as a boss, just get on your knees suck him off and ask for a good reference, no problem, and 5 minutes of your time, lets be honest your not exactly a chaste virgin

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's good

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By *obbygggMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Who initiated the meeting? If it was him then why he want to meet and why did you go? If it was you why didn't you mention the reference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there any chance he actually fancies you like mad and wants a relationship?

This happened to me in reverse. On my last day in the office a young married woman came in and said she would miss me and could we have a drink sometime.

We met later the next week and she said she could not say anything whilst we were colleagues because it was inappropriate but she fancied me. We had a passionate affair for a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you seem to forget, is nothing is real in cyber space, even more so in a sex chat room. If things bother you, maybe you have a problem, I am here for a laugh, nothing more, nothing less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There really wouldn't be a dilemma if I was in your shoes!

He wouldn't have got 2 kisses on the lips let alone 3....and I would have ignored and deleted the text messages. He would have been sternly told after the first! And I am pretty sure you don't have to sleep with your ex boss to gain a reference these days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes 2 to tango, and he would only kiss you on the lips and then risk sending sexy text messages if he was secure in the fact you wouldn't use them against him, if you feel at all uncomfortable, let go and end your contact with him, after all you must open the text messages, if I didn't want them from a certain person, I just delete them or block a number, so easy to do. if he is a letch, he wont help you anyway.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It takes 2 to tango, and he would only kiss you on the lips and then risk sending sexy text messages if he was secure in the fact you wouldn't use them against him, if you feel at all uncomfortable, let go and end your contact with him, after all you must open the text messages, if I didn't want them from a certain person, I just delete them or block a number, so easy to do. if he is a letch, he wont help you anyway. "

I liked your other answer best. Far more realistic x Get out of sensible mode!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.

Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.

So what do I do?"

He thinks you're easy.

My guess is he's married.

He does not want to love you.

He does not think you are all that.

He wants a bit of fun in life.

If you really fancy him go for it , have fun and get a reference.

If you don't fancy him and you are going to go ahead with it hold out for something a little more lucrative than a reference.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.

Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.

So what do I do?

He thinks you're easy.

My guess is he's married.

He does not want to love you.

He does not think you are all that.

He wants a bit of fun in life.

If you really fancy him go for it , have fun and get a reference.

If you don't fancy him and you are going to go ahead with it hold out for something a little more lucrative than a reference.

"
this....don't sell your soul. People will tell you anything to get laid....yes mainly blokes.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I adore you. Take off your clothes and write me a reference......

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Play it fairly, ask him for a reference, if he demands "a favour" in return, tell him you have kept the texts and will show them his wife. (If he's married) play fire with fire if he wants to play dirty.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The reference and respect thing is giving me the giggles.

She contemplated asking for a reference.

He knows nothing about it.

She says she lost respect.

She doesn't say who for.

He made a play

Everyone beats him up.

She followed his lead and considered how to use it as blackmail.

No one says anything.

You HAVE to love the twisted morality here sometimes.

He's at home somewhere thinking he had a sly snog ...... he's blisfully unaware of where it might be leading. Poor bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good to catch up yes, but u could have at least mentioned wanting a reference at the meetup??????

for all ue EX-bosse's knowledge is that a hot woman that used to work with him, might have wanted a little more.

some above of the assumptions are bewildering

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

You leave a job, your boss will expect that you will ask for a reference. He knows what he is doing. Sly snog, no, it's the first move.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

But he's not doing anything wrong.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S.

He wasn't her boss.

He was her Ex bosses boss.

So it's nowt to do with work.

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Ex boss will expect to be asked for reference. If he's married and snogged her, he playing the game.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

With all the speculation in this thread I'm surprised the op has not replied yet just to clear up some points

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met on Monday for a very quick drink, my ex boss of three years ago. Well technically my bosses boss. Great to catch up, but on leaving I expected a kiss on the cheek but I got 3 on the lips. I must have been like a rabbit caught in headlights after the 1st.

Anyway since then sexy texts. Real shame as I've lost respect but at the same time I wouldn't mind a reference for a project I'm about to start.

So what do I do?"

How could he resist?!

A very tricky situation, if he's a good reference (after all they can only give their honest professional opinion) ask him and take him to task first?

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone


"With all the speculation in this thread I'm surprised the op has not replied yet just to clear up some points "

indeed, we'll all just have to look at her profile instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally do not see anything wrong with his behaviour. By the third kiss I would have been dragging him to my bed

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By *iggly GirlWoman
over a year ago

Don't wear a coat on a Saturday night out

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