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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

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heres a cuddle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am regularly verbally abused at work and relish in it, I rest safe in the knowledge that no one else would put up my boss and the way he speaks to people and he knows it too, so can be as vile back as I wish without risk to my job and am very thick skinned so he never bothers me. very liberating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

Verbal yes, at times - I just take deep breaths and make sure whatever I retort with is appropriate and cuts to the quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

I've been attacked several times in the course of my job (you know what I do for a living). It's part of the job though and we're well trained in how to deal with it, defend ourselves and also defuse/resolve the situation. Still doesn't make you feel better when someone's headbutted you though.

So here's a huge hug from me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

If someone tries to piss me off, usually a particular fucknut sales rep.

I just give him the silent treatment.

Silence drives people delirious.

In my opinion silence is a fucking MASSIVELY underused social skill...and I'm crap at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

So here's a huge hug from me. X"

Same in my job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get unmerciful abuse at work. Not nearly as much as I give out though

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Quite a few times. I just pull my pants back up and carry on working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah all the time, I try to remember that the person is usually in crisis and often they apologise after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My job leaves me open to verbal and physical abuse on a daily basis

Monday morning just walked through the door and had a jug of water thrown at me and had to fight a man off me with the help of a security guard,dodging punches kicks and bites is commonplace,somethings i have zero tolerance for and other things I understand a little better,I have to just laugh it off sometimes,other times i go off and cry for a minute just to get it out of my system and calm down myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verbal and physical abuse.. just had some rather interesting training on how to deal and avoid conflict.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to as I was customer facing all the time. only verbal, I was just nice and flat with them and tried to help worked most of the time. always some cunt that does it now and will not take anything less. No I move to workshop so I do not have to deal with it. I think every having a bad day to day hug xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always worked in frontline public sector work in roles which were often traumatic and risky Every job had a high rate of abuse and threats/actual physical violence. It is constant and as such I'm not phased at all by it.

My role isn't quite as bad now as it has been in previous roles.

That's why I am never bothered by what is said on these forums or in messages. Words can never hurt you and I don't let people try and take the rise out of me or try and verbally abuse me. I've met nastier people face to face.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I get verbal abuse all the time from customers, the most recent because I refused to serve his daughter a vodka and because she didn't have ID to prove she was over 18. I was called a 'stupid little stuck up whore, who needs a good fucking to put a smile on my sour face.'

I neglected to mention that if I was a whore then I would hardly be short of fucking.

I find being sweet as pie in the face of nastiness winds people up even more, and gives me a grin too. Failing that, I have an extremely biting, sarcastic retort rate, so I just use that.

However, I begin a new job in 6 weeks, and may be subject to physical abuse as well as verbal, so unsure how I'm going to deal with that. Hopefully I'll be trained!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

Ile cuddle you and share my vodka with you

(Did I just say Ide share my vodka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeap A&E for me all day every day

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

Verbal and physical abuse.at present i have torn ligaments in hand

you just get used to it as they dont know there doing it

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Verbal abuse constantly, physical abuse hmmmm not so. Must tend to back off when they see the size of my spanner.

Had a nugget today spouting off because I shut his unsafe boiler off. Going on about I had no right and it had been like it since being fitted..

Told him my tires said India on them, didn't mean they'd ever get there.. He just looked bewildered as I walked off

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I care for dementia sufferers in their homes... you can't imagine the abuse I have been given.. threatened with knives .. shoes thrown.. not to mention the verbal but I know its the disease. .. still I do need tlc sometimes to deal with it. .. my dogs give the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I care for dementia sufferers in their homes... you can't imagine the abuse I have been given.. threatened with knives .. shoes thrown.. not to mention the verbal but I know its the disease. .. still I do need tlc sometimes to deal with it. .. my dogs give the best

We all need TLC.

nothing like a good cuddle after a crap day is there.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

On a daily basis. I follow work protocols and remain calm. And I never take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup its part n parcel of my job i let verbal abuse go over my head and physical i restrain im used to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

If someone tries to piss me off, usually a particular fucknut sales rep.

I just give him the silent treatment.

Silence drives people delirious.

In my opinion silence is a fucking MASSIVELY underused social skill...and I'm crap at it.

It's a tactic I have perfected people hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to work in a booking office, for the railway.

We would get verbal abuse regularly.

I find that if you remain polite and not react to the abuse, it really bugs them and you may get support from people around.

Also if you can stay calm and above it all you show the abuser up. They can't argue if you don't

Have a big hug from me !! Xx

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

TBH i dont feel like its been a productive day if there hasnt been some verbal abuse from the boys at work.

But its all good natured banter which i guess is not what you meant by this thread OP. Chin up and keep smiling it soon shuts up the abuser knowing they aint got on your nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that for some, verbal / physical abuse can be an unwelcome part of the job, and for those who are unaware unable to control it (such as those who work with with patients with Stage 2 dementia and above) I fully understand and sympathise that its unwelcome but unfortunate and that as many safeguards as possible should be in place.

However, what should be wholly unacceptable is for frontline staff to face abuse (Doctors, Nurses, social workers etc) in the course of providing services and helping others who are in control of their cognitive functions and DO have a choice to behave in such a way. Abusive people like that should simply be ejected from the building.

...preferably tasered in the bathing suit area prior to ejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah constantly, in 12 years in security (12yr anniversary tomorrow) I've been stabbed 4 times, shot once in the face with an air rifle and had more broken bones than I can remember but I just get on with it.

Yeah I get pissed off and angry but jobs a job and it pays the bills.

Think I'm addicted to the adrenaline

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My job leaves me open to verbal and physical abuse on a daily basis

My god! What on earth do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, why do your workplace allow the service users to the physically / verbally abusive toward you?

Are there no policies in place to prevent this and to handle offenders swiftly and efficiently (see getting tasered

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"OP, why do your workplace allow the service users to the physically / verbally abusive toward you?

Are there no policies in place to prevent this and to handle offenders swiftly and efficiently (see getting tasered

?)"

It's not physical as I am no longer front line but it's verbal and constant...it's part and parcel for what I do but we are able to terminate the call when they just carry on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a job where I was confronted daily by people, the dole office, I once had a guy come in and demand a counter payment when I told him that he would have to wait he threw my pot of pens at me and started shouting at me that he needed his money now and that I should go and get it cos I work for him " I pay your wages" I'm ashamed to admit it but I snapped punched him and jumped over the desk at him and he started shouting you can't do this to me I know my rights I got the sack for that and a caution from the police but the look on the guys face he was known for threatening behaviour but from what my old work mates told me he calmed down after that

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Yes I get verbal abuse on a daily basis at work but then I knew what I was letting myself in for when I accepted the job.

Have only been attacked once and that was a few years back now.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I work on site, and ripping the piss out of each other is what makes it such a happy place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always been far too likeable

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

so ive got to spray your oven with mr sheen and cuddle you while the foam leans your shelves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

I get sworn at countless times a day, but it is just the nature of my industry, it's a mans world and that is just the way they communicate best, unfortunately. I'm used to it now, you just have to give as good as you get!

Chin up

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

What jobs do you lot have! Shocked and stunded here. I drive a lorry so am used to the verbals and the rude gestures I get just for doing the job but blooming heck some of yours sound really bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It often does, and thats just my colleagues.

But then im glad to have a job, better than any alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually work with offenders...so emmmmm yeah, plenty abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes unfortunately I regularly get threatened and abused and occasionally assaulted.

Were all human and yes it bothers me, but we find coping mechanisms, but most of all I learn to behave nothing like the perpetrators, who very often have issues beyond their coping ability. Soldier on hey ?

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

So here's a huge hug from me. X"

Same with my last job, although a 12 hour night shift goes alot quicker with some chaos happening, you have to just not take it too personally or do what I sometimes do and have a glass of wine and a cry when I get home x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only thing i get is people trying to tell me how to do my job or moaning that we were not there 3 weeks ago when we only got the passed to us by there landlord that morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only thing i get is people trying to tell me how to do my job or moaning that we were not there 3 weeks ago when we only got the passed to us by there landlord that morning "

Obviously not on the eviction squad the,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave you open to abuse whether its verbal or physical and how do you deal with it?

I have had one of those days that seem to of been just a brain fuck in terms of the abuse I have received....Anyway I am home and could do with a cuddle

yeah verbal all the time.... but I smile walk away or place the phone down

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I love it when they scream you don't know what the fuck its like to be blah blah or gone through blah blah....I just feel like saying yes I fucking do but 10 times worse then you....but alas I can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love it when they scream you don't know what the fuck its like to be blah blah or gone through blah blah....I just feel like saying yes I fucking do but 10 times worse then you....but alas I can't "

im the same.. yet face to face I smile and say remember I pay your wages and give u overtime

usually they shut up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but some places i go do need the tenants kicked out

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