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"... guess what happened.... ??  "wasn't me, though i'm very tempted   | |||
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When, oh when, are single guys going to 'get it'??
I know most of you who delve into the forums do your utmost to ingratiate yourselves with couples like us in a way which shows that you've made an effort, but the majority do nothing to make it better for the ones who do...
Think I will resurrect 'Uncle Ted's Fabs Guide for Single Blokes'... 
Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear.....
a despairing ted. | |||
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"Your multi billionaire uncle got in touch and gave you a few million quid?" Ooooh - you just reminded me to check me lottery ticket...  | |||
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"So why take it off? That's what it's for. " We occasionally like to dip our (collective) toe....  | |||
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"You found the ideal single male to put a smile on Ruby's face?" Hmm... see above... | |||
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"... guess what happened.... ?? "2 buses came at once? | |||
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"Our 'looked at me' list was all-male within 24 hours, we had a slight plethora of one-line messages,.... and Ruby now has a library of cock pics with which she could easily redecorate her bathroom .... if she didn't have the Church knitting circle coming round every second Tuesday, and Mrs Fortesque-Williams does get 'caught short' quite often, she could have a rather bohemian design scheme in there.
When, oh when, are single guys going to 'get it'??
I know most of you who delve into the forums do your utmost to ingratiate yourselves with couples like us in a way which shows that you've made an effort, but the majority do nothing to make it better for the ones who do...
Think I will resurrect 'Uncle Ted's Fabs Guide for Single Blokes'...
Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear.....
a despairing ted. "re.. look at me at "filters".... it would have been that way anyway... if put back on the single man block, it would block you from seeing then on your "look at me"...
they were always there... you just couldnt see them!!! | |||
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"Now you know what its like for the test if us who aren't in a couple profile wise.... "Oh we know what it's like... been there before. Just genuinely depressed me to see, after all the threads on here about 'why am I not getting anywhere' over the last few months since we previously dropped our filter for a while, that the message (no pun int.) still hasn't got through... Guess somethings never change... ted. | |||
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"Our 'looked at me' list was all-male within 24 hours, we had a slight plethora of one-line messages,.... and Ruby now has a library of cock pics with which she could easily redecorate her bathroom .... if she didn't have the Church knitting circle coming round every second Tuesday, and Mrs Fortesque-Williams does get 'caught short' quite often, she could have a rather bohemian design scheme in there.
When, oh when, are single guys going to 'get it'??
I know most of you who delve into the forums do your utmost to ingratiate yourselves with couples like us in a way which shows that you've made an effort, but the majority do nothing to make it better for the ones who do...
Think I will resurrect 'Uncle Ted's Fabs Guide for Single Blokes'...
Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear.....
a despairing ted.
re.. look at me at "filters".... it would have been that way anyway... if put back on the single man block, it would block you from seeing then on your "look at me"...
they were always there... you just couldnt see them!!!"or are they... duh duh duuuuh maybe they are like Schroedingers cat | |||
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"Our 'looked at me' list was all-male within 24 hours, we had a slight plethora of one-line messages,.... and Ruby now has a library of cock pics with which she could easily redecorate her bathroom .... if she didn't have the Church knitting circle coming round every second Tuesday, and Mrs Fortesque-Williams does get 'caught short' quite often, she could have a rather bohemian design scheme in there.
When, oh when, are single guys going to 'get it'??
I know most of you who delve into the forums do your utmost to ingratiate yourselves with couples like us in a way which shows that you've made an effort, but the majority do nothing to make it better for the ones who do...
Think I will resurrect 'Uncle Ted's Fabs Guide for Single Blokes'...
Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear.....
a despairing ted. "The trouble here really is the same as with everything else involving the human race, from my personal observations (I'll admit I'm narcissistic before anybody else says it lol ) at least 70% or so are born thick as pig shit (I'm not talking education here, I'm talking genetically as thick as pig shit, hence 70% people in privileged positions still 'enjoy' the same thickness percentage, possibly more with inbreeding) thus whether it's swinging, managing or even just understanding things, you've only got about 30% of the population who 'get it' in life in general to a reasonable level | |||
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So.prob cannot navigate the forums... Or have the mentality of once I show that bird my meat im fucking her... | |||
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"As a single Guy.......I have to say that all idiots aside who can't read or write, Some Females and Couples do kinda bring it on themselves. If the Females and Couples were a little more "Understanding" of the single Guy's position perhaps maybe just perhaps The single guy's wouldn't feel that sending Cock pics is the way to get talking to you. I spent many months writing Nice or Polite messages with hardly any being read never mind replied to, When you look at it from that perspective what is the obvious message that a guy gets, And no it's not that the female or couple are "too busy" or "get too many to reply to". To the single guy's all it says is these females and or couples are not wanting nice or polite. I do have sympathy for the females and couples but i would hope that you would all as adults try to understand. Surely a lesson for would be Guy's should try and not send cock pics unless asked for and females and couples should appreciate the guy's position more....... (Crawls back in me hole)" If you take a look at our veris, you'll see that we (or rather Ruby) are/is more than 'accomodating' towards single males. Sometimes, instead of us going huntin', we like to see what comes our way based on THEIR impression of our profile. When we get a message which is written 'reasonably' well, consists of more than a four word sentence (we are not looking for War & Peace, just something that catches our eye) and it's accompanied by pics which give (specially) Ruby an idea of what the guy is all about then, yes, they DO get a reply even if it's a polite (and we ARE polite) 'No thank you'. I really do feel sorry for the guys on here who put the time and effort in, but who unluckily didn't spot our profile and send us a message, and one or two 'character' pics, before we put the filter back in place. For those who DO try to do it the 'right way' (if there is, indeed, a right way) and persist and are not put off altogether, you have my admiration. I wouldn't have the patience. ted. | |||
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It is however nice that Ruby selects from the crowd, from time to time, a single male to let through to her boudoir . | |||
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"Try putting up an ad for a meet as a single woman! LOL I get repetitive strain injury typing 'No thank you' to all the blokes who are evidently not for me and who, had they bothered to read the profile, would have known that and could have saved themselves the bother. Some single guys don't do themselves any favours and then whine when they get no response when they did not meet the preferences of the person they messaged in the first place." I'm sure that there is a lot of idiots out there who don't read your ad fully, But perhaps it kinda proves my point in general that the single guy's do get ignored too much in a way. I'm sure that you do try and there are a good many females who do try hard to at least read and reply to single guy's, Just a few bad eggs spoiling it for others really... | |||
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"If you know what its going to be like why take the filter off" Because as I said somewhere above, sometimes it's interesting the kind of guy it 'throws up' who we may have not even considered, or who isn't in our search criteria, who we look at and think 'Hmmm... yeah, why not..' and we reply. As a case in point, Ruby is meeting a guy this weekend for the fourth or fifth time who our 'normal' criteria would never have brought to our attention. Sometimes doing things a little differently has a pleasant outcome... ted. | |||
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"Try putting up an ad for a meet as a single woman! LOL I get repetitive strain injury typing 'No thank you' to all the blokes who are evidently not for me and who, had they bothered to read the profile, would have known that and could have saved themselves the bother. Some single guys don't do themselves any favours and then whine when they get no response when they did not meet the preferences of the person they messaged in the first place. I'm sure that there is a lot of idiots out there who don't read your ad fully, But perhaps it kinda proves my point in general that the single guy's do get ignored too much in a way. I'm sure that you do try and there are a good many females who do try hard to at least read and reply to single guy's, Just a few bad eggs spoiling it for others really..." Firstly, I click on their name and have a good look at the profile, veris, pics if there are any, etc. Then I look at the message. If there is not a single face pic anywhere they don't get a response. If they do have one then I make a decision based on that and their profile combined. Then I answer - either a 'No thank you' or something to let them know I like what I see (and I usually then attach a face pic). Very simple and straightforward. | |||
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"What makes me despair is when people act like its all such a shock to them when they've been here for so long that single men would dare to look and make contact Some couples make themselves look so arrogant and up your own arses that it makes me wish that no one showed any interest at all,im sure you'd have something to moan about if you were completely ignored Stop moaning and go have some fun!" couldn't agree more, some think their a cut above the rest | |||
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"If you chuck a leg of lamb into a piranha infested river you should expect a lot of attention.
It is however nice that Ruby selects from the crowd, from time to time, a single male to let through to her boudoir . "Hahaha now that is a cracking analogy | |||
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"Glad you did the experiment, and thanks for posting the results too. Its a shame that so many on this site (mainly men) don't "get it", especially when it comes to message etiquette. "  | |||
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"Glad you did the experiment, and thanks for posting the results too. Its a shame that so many on this site (mainly men) don't "get it", especially when it comes to message etiquette. " If that's in reply to my post, which I'm presuming it is, then yes fair play. I was off at a tangent without particularly reading much but I stand by my findings lol. What I'm really trying to say is that most people are thick so you have to take that into account and not get wound up about it | |||
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"Glad you did the experiment, and thanks for posting the results too. Its a shame that so many on this site (mainly men) don't "get it", especially when it comes to message etiquette. " Having met you a couple of weeks back, and even though you've never sent us an intro message before, I would put money on the way you would write one - and it's the kind of thing that would get our attention as YOU would take the trouble. The point I was trying to make is that I'm sure a lot of couples do what we did quite often, but they shut the filter again fairly quickly as the guys who just do the 'cut n' paste n' cock pic' type of approach are just sitting there 'ready to pounce' and it just depresses you being on the receiving end of it. And that's not good for all the single guys on here who we may like to consider meeting, and we may not find them looking ourselves... ted. | |||
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"What makes me despair is when people act like its all such a shock to them when they've been here for so long that single men would dare to look and make contact Some couples make themselves look so arrogant and up your own arses that it makes me wish that no one showed any interest at all,im sure you'd have something to moan about if you were completely ignored Stop moaning and go have some fun!" Maybe you got the wrong end of the stick. I was NOT moaning. I was actually despairing for the single guys who may be just what we would go for, but who are effectively blocked out thanks to the (apparent) majority who just go for the scatter gun approach. I don't mind if we get 500 single guys look at us, 200 of those message us, and 100 actually include pics etc every day. But what does annoy me is that IF they are all the "Hi fancy a f**k' (a question mark would be nice....) and here's a pic of my cock" brigade, then a lot of people's reaction will be 'too hell with it' and the filter goes back in place. What if, ten seconds after that filter goes back in, the best single guy we could ever have met looks at us but can't message now, due to the 500 in the previous 24 hours who ballsed it up for him..???? That's the guy I feel for... Please note: feel 'FOR'... ted. | |||
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"Glad you did the experiment, and thanks for posting the results too. Its a shame that so many on this site (mainly men) don't "get it", especially when it comes to message etiquette. Having met you a couple of weeks back, and even though you've never sent us an intro message before, I would put money on the way you would write one - and it's the kind of thing that would get our attention as YOU would take the trouble. The point I was trying to make is that I'm sure a lot of couples do what we did quite often, but they shut the filter again fairly quickly as the guys who just do the 'cut n' paste n' cock pic' type of approach are just sitting there 'ready to pounce' and it just depresses you being on the receiving end of it. And that's not good for all the single guys on here who we may like to consider meeting, and we may not find them looking ourselves... ted." Thank you, i appreciate that. It also brings up the point many make on the forums in response to threads from (mostly single men) unhappy about their success on the site. Although they are the usual stock answers, those that work harder to stand out DO get noticed. And then it becomes a process of elimination - do they fit preferences, are they available at the required time, is there attraction, etc etc. Although i do subscribe to the philosophy of individuals making their own luck on here. I do think it works both ways in that couples like you are willing to put in the legwork and seek out exactly what you are looking for. | |||
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"There are a lot of single guys on here, I am one of them, and threads like this one seem to vilify the single guy, the problem is with this kind of thread is that genuine non pushy single guys probably tend to not message when there is talk of us being such a chore to to get messages from and when the genuine nice guys don't send messages who do you think then sends the messages the ones that are pushy, the ones that think "no single guys" is not applicable to them, and the guys that their cock is so impressive that if they send you a picture of it you will be round in ten mins to get your hands on it, see the thing is that there are a lot of guys that think that women are on here because they will sleep with anyone it's up to us all to them out but I'm not convinced that this is the way because the genuine guys DO take note of fourum posts and stay away, but it's not the genuine guys that are causing the problems is it" No, it's not. And I was not remotely trying to vilify single guys either if you read my earlier comments. It's guys like you, and a few others who have posted on this thread, who I feel for. There has been myriad discussion in the forums about what so many single guys do wrong when contacting a couple or single, yet it just doesn't get through, and guys like you suffer as a result. It's fairly easy to add things into a website so there 'ought' to be no great problem having a pop up come up before sending an intro message to remind the sender what an intro ought to be like. Not sure Admin would take up the idea, but it is utterly frustrating for guys who do put in the effort in the right way, only to have a barrier put in their way due to the lack of effort of others. But, such is the single guy experience on here.. and the same kind of thing happens all too frequently in many areas of life these days... ted. | |||
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"There are a lot of single guys on here, I am one of them, and threads like this one seem to vilify the single guy, the problem is with this kind of thread is that genuine non pushy single guys probably tend to not message when there is talk of us being such a chore to to get messages from and when the genuine nice guys don't send messages who do you think then sends the messages the ones that are pushy, the ones that think "no single guys" is not applicable to them, and the guys that their cock is so impressive that if they send you a picture of it you will be round in ten mins to get your hands on it, see the thing is that there are a lot of guys that think that women are on here because they will sleep with anyone it's up to us all to them out but I'm not convinced that this is the way because the genuine guys DO take note of fourum posts and stay away, but it's not the genuine guys that are causing the problems is it No, it's not. And I was not remotely trying to vilify single guys either if you read my earlier comments. It's guys like you, and a few others who have posted on this thread, who I feel for. There has been myriad discussion in the forums about what so many single guys do wrong when contacting a couple or single, yet it just doesn't get through, and guys like you suffer as a result. It's fairly easy to add things into a website so there 'ought' to be no great problem having a pop up come up before sending an intro message to remind the sender what an intro ought to be like. Not sure Admin would take up the idea, but it is utterly frustrating for guys who do put in the effort in the right way, only to have a barrier put in their way due to the lack of effort of others. But, such is the single guy experience on here.. and the same kind of thing happens all too frequently in many areas of life these days... ted." I'm not trying to be argumentative and what I am about to say is not to start an aargument but rather to give you an outsiders perspective as it stands you are coming across as quite arogant we all know how the site works (and doesn't ) and it seams you want everyone to fall into line including the people who run the site, I have been on and off this and many like this site for some time and I have never seen a post like this, I'm sure you are nice people but at the moment this is not coming across, that's my view if you are offended by this then I apologise it is not my intention to personally attack or insult anyone but I just felt I had to say my piece. | |||
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"Point of the thread = lots of wankers on here get in the way of good guys. Nothing arrogant or vilifying about that at all."
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"Point of the thread = lots of wankers on here get in the way of good guys. Nothing arrogant or vilifying about that at all.
at the OP, as a single bloke is it acceptable to have a look (or perve) at your profile and not message "Absolutely. Be our guest! | |||
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"Point of the thread = lots of wankers on here get in the way of good guys. Nothing arrogant or vilifying about that at all.
at the OP, as a single bloke is it acceptable to have a look (or perve) at your profile and not message
Absolutely. Be our guest! "WOOHOO!!!
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"Point of the thread = lots of wankers on here get in the way of good guys. Nothing arrogant or vilifying about that at all." the "good guys" will always find a way to stand out, they will act in a way, or do things that others dont do... in fact.. I hope there are more arses out there, because the good guys will stand out even more... no one else affects my chance, I create my own, I dictate me and my fortunes... | |||
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"OK haven't read the whole thread but surely the only people you are spreading your message to are the ones that come in the forums ....................... and the statistics are often quoted what a low percentage of the people using the site this is ...... so you haven't been able to get your message out to those guys that you need to .............. why don't u make a suggestion to admin that you mail them something that would help to get the message across the board and not just the forums? I will now go away before you start yelling at me!!!!! "Moi?? Yell at you, dear Minxie-kins??? I don't have enough insurance for that!! You will see earlier in the thread that I did say that, maybe, a pop-up could be incorporated before anyone sends a message reminding them what messages are likely to work and not to work.. Can't see it happening any time soon though.. And yes, you are right - the percentage of users who even read anything in the forums, let alone comment, is so small as to be almost insignificant...
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"The only filters I have set are for new members, We have never had a problem with single guys at all! " I don't have any filter (other than age) and never have any problems with too much mail! Wait! That's a bad thing!!!  | |||
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