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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OOOoooooooooh, I've never had one of those messages yet. I feel left out now........not

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

You should have just stopped at Dumbass as they clearly are not doms. They are little boys who are trying to pretend to be all grown up by talking like they do in the 70's porn they've been wanking to.

Be grateful that the wankers identify themselves so quickly, block and move on.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"You should have just stopped at Dumbass as they clearly are not doms. They are little boys who are trying to pretend to be all grown up by talking like they do in the 70's porn they've been wanking to.

Be grateful that the wankers identify themselves so quickly, block and move on."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should have just stopped at Dumbass as they clearly are not doms. They are little boys who are trying to pretend to be all grown up by talking like they do in the 70's porn they've been wanking to.

Be grateful that the wankers identify themselves so quickly, block and move on."

Well said! Doms?!? They haven't got a clue!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx "

Tumble..................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx "

pmsl funky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx pmsl funky "

And he's back!

Thank fook! Was getting unnerved looking at the damn evil avatar all bloody weekend!

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I cant imagine an approach like that ever works.... You would think they would learn when they never get any replies....or maybe they just get off writing such dross....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

They are not dom.

They've seen porn and think that Dom means to degrade and humiliate.

They are women haters in the making.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx "

Probably not, but my God, your pictures made my day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're about as 'Dom' as Dom from 'Dick and Dom' !!

*and probably more 'Dick' too now I come to think about it!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx pmsl funky

And he's back!

Thank fook! Was getting unnerved looking at the damn evil avatar all bloody weekend! "

Yobro! I have made an apology on your thread :P

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx "

One sugar or two ?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx

One sugar or two ?"

I am sweet enough but because it's you I will taste your sugar. IF U NO WAT I MEAN!!ยก

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got the same yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they think being a dominant or being a dom is as easy as speaking to someone like shit, leave them to it.

They're making it easier for people's decisions by revealing themselves

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle


"I got the same yesterday "

I have NEVER let you taste my sugar! Fibber !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not a Dom until the lady submits, and those who think being a Dom is about being a bastard to your sub, go and read fifty shades of grey.....and leave the grown ups alone till you reach a mental age in double figures, a Dom is NOT in charge, he is the one doing all the work, making sure the sub

1, enjoys the experience

2, is safe

3, is able to let go without the constraints of wether it's safe to ask for more pain, choking, or what ever the sub wants

It's all an illusion the Dom is the slave to the sub in essence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got the same yesterday

I have NEVER let you taste my sugar! Fibber !"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got the same yesterday

I have NEVER let you taste my sugar! Fibber !

"

Oi you cum dump bend over while your daddy dips his sugar cane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

"

just put them in their place and watch them offer to serve you.. I don't let it annoy me.. I just use it to amuse myself. Thankfully I have a good dominant.. but don't stop the dimdoms messaging me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages! "

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx"

so it does...lol

I am slightly sub....but not on the lookout for a dom....just a bit of slap and tickle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx

so it does...lol

I am slightly sub....but not on the lookout for a dom....just a bit of slap and tickle "

don't worry... The dimdoms are easily despatched xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx

so it does...lol

I am slightly sub....but not on the lookout for a dom....just a bit of slap and tickle

don't worry... The dimdoms are easily despatched xxx"

Indeed My block button gets more action than I do these days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Indeed My block button gets more action than I do these days! "

I amuse myself for a bit before hitting the block button. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Indeed My block button gets more action than I do these days!

I amuse myself for a bit before hitting the block button. Xxx"

Lol you devil!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got the same yesterday

I have NEVER let you taste my sugar! Fibber !

Oi you cum dump bend over while your daddy dips his sugar cane "

Daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx

so it does...lol

I am slightly sub....but not on the lookout for a dom....just a bit of slap and tickle "

Packs a tickling feather for Kent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx

so it does...lol

I am slightly sub....but not on the lookout for a dom....just a bit of slap and tickle

Packs a tickling feather for Kent "

*blushes* Roll on Kent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx

so it does...lol

I am slightly sub....but not on the lookout for a dom....just a bit of slap and tickle

Packs a tickling feather for Kent

*blushes* Roll on Kent! "

Only to tickle your toes with of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile doesn't even say I'm sub, and I still get those messages!

your profile picture implies it though lol xxx

so it does...lol

I am slightly sub....but not on the lookout for a dom....just a bit of slap and tickle

Packs a tickling feather for Kent

*blushes* Roll on Kent!

Only to tickle your toes with of course "

Of course! That vibrating thing in my bag in a neck massager...

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

This thread should be renamed Dom-Ass Dumbos. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are few subs who qualify as doormats. A huge majority are strong women who wish to lend control. They are the ones who ultimately hold the power.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

"

Hey, If a guy claiming to be 'domme' contacts you and is using those terms, as far as I am concerned he is not the real deal, Far too many dom wannabees here on fab, I urge all genuine submissive people to be very careful who you give your trust to, Bloody Fifty Shades has a lot to answer for.

Stay Safe and block these idiots , Adele xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are few subs who qualify as doormats. A huge majority are strong women who wish to lend control. They are the ones who ultimately hold the power."

That was the thoughts of non-vanilla cupcake who's at present unable to post. I also share her sentiments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are few subs who qualify as doormats. A huge majority are strong women who wish to lend control. They are the ones who ultimately hold the power."

my favourite reply is I'm a sub not a door mat lol xxx

it's that bloody book... Wonder if I could sue. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are few subs who qualify as doormats. A huge majority are strong women who wish to lend control. They are the ones who ultimately hold the power."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should have just stopped at Dumbass as they clearly are not doms. They are little boys who are trying to pretend to be all grown up by talking like they do in the 70's porn they've been wanking to.

Be grateful that the wankers identify themselves so quickly, block and move on.

Well said! Doms?!? They haven't got a clue! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another from non-vanillacupcake.

Patronise anyone who sends such messages (run along sonny, come back when you're voice has broken) or laugh at them, followed by a block.

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By *oulmatesCouple
over a year ago

barnsley

Respect should come as standard , well put xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respect should come as standard , well put xxxx"

Respect. A word thrown about so easily these days esp on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respect should come as standard , well put xxxx"

It should. My advice to my mentorees... Is never to Never bother with a guy who uses Dom, master, sir or Mr grey in his name online.

Or someone who expects you to submit or call him a title from day one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx pmsl funky

And he's back!

Thank fook! Was getting unnerved looking at the damn evil avatar all bloody weekend! "

I miss that pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Respect should come as standard , well put xxxx

Respect. A word thrown about so easily these days esp on here

"

Totally agree with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a Dom who says he is a Dom is insecure. A dom who knows he/she is one gains better respect in treating another with respect. No one has a right to demean another unless specified

A sub is not weak if she / he submits.

Have been on both sides -so respect is earned both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always thought myself more sub than Dom but been told I'm more a Switch as I can be rather Dom but I wouldn't just message someone and expect them to just do as I say etc.... How can you expect someone you don't know and that doesn't know you to just place that kind of trust in you.

Here needs to be some connection, and a lot of trust

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

"

wow those opening lines make mine seem almost Shakespearean

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

"

Pseudoalphas and most of them have no actual BDSM experience other than using a blindfold and toy handcuffs. We have similar bad experiences with pseudosubs, "you can do anything to me" and "I want to wear your collar". Normally when you check their profile there is no actual mention of BDSM or their experience.

Just put it down to pathetic wannabes and block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what makes a Dom and what makes a Sub?

I've no interest in either, I'm just preparing myself for people to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to my world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought myself more sub than Dom but been told I'm more a Switch as I can be rather Dom but I wouldn't just message someone and expect them to just do as I say etc.... How can you expect someone you don't know and that doesn't know you to just place that kind of trust in you.

Here needs to be some connection, and a lot of trust "

Defiantly switch

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


" a Dom is NOT in charge,

"

Bollocks,

That is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did tell one guy how dear he talk to me like that.

he was very sorry. Said he thought that was what I wanted and that he was a really nice guy and could he start again.

Told him to go fuck himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did tell one guy how dear he talk to me like that.

he was very sorry. Said he thought that was what I wanted and that he was a really nice guy and could he start again.

Told him to go fuck himself. "

sounds very dominant.... NOT. Good on you lol xxx

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work. "

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"

Hey, If a guy claiming to be 'domme' contacts you and is using those terms, as far as I am concerned he is not the real deal, Far too many dom wannabees here on fab, I urge all genuine submissive people to be very careful who you give your trust to, Bloody Fifty Shades has a lot to answer for.

Stay Safe and block these idiots , Adele xx"

I'd have a bloody good chuckle at any male describing himself as 'domme'...

Oh and 50 shades is a pile of toss and has nothing to do with BDSM at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm far from sub & any one attempting to call me demeaning- or then again, any - names is setting themselves up for a fall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe myself to be quite submissive in that I like to let my partner take control, dictating the pace we go at, and when and if I am allowed to cum. To me it is all about giving them pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound in control now sexysub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work.

"

Second this xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I thought I was a Dom master until I started to learn more about It now I realise that I am just plain old assertive but I would never call anyone names unles specifically asked to do so ie first contact once boundary s have been set its all good though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be fair I thought I was a Dom master until I started to learn more about It now I realise that I am just plain old assertive but I would never call anyone names unles specifically asked to do so ie first contact once boundary s have been set its all good though"

You'd be surprised how many men think they are Dom cuz they like rough sex, telling a women what to do or cuz they like to call women names.

I tell these guys that all Doms love a big fat cock up their arse and would you like to arrange a meet cuz I've got a 10 incher on standby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really bothered about doms or masters, personally speaking the whole 'serious' part of the scene does my head in, and i cringe when I hear 'master' or 'bull'

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I had one who thought it meant growling at me. I almost laughed in his face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I thought I was a Dom master until I started to learn more about It now I realise that I am just plain old assertive but I would never call anyone names unles specifically asked to do so ie first contact once boundary s have been set its all good though

You'd be surprised how many men think they are Dom cuz they like rough sex, telling a women what to do or cuz they like to call women names.

I tell these guys that all Doms love a big fat cock up their arse and would you like to arrange a meet cuz I've got a 10 incher on standby. "

Lol I do know a sub who likes to fuck her masters arse with a strap on, not sure if its ten inches though lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be fair I thought I was a Dom master until I started to learn more about It now I realise that I am just plain old assertive but I would never call anyone names unles specifically asked to do so ie first contact once boundary s have been set its all good though

You'd be surprised how many men think they are Dom cuz they like rough sex, telling a women what to do or cuz they like to call women names.

I tell these guys that all Doms love a big fat cock up their arse and would you like to arrange a meet cuz I've got a 10 incher on standby.

Lol I do know a sub who likes to fuck her masters arse with a strap on, not sure if its ten inches though lol"

When I've got a strap-on on I anit no sub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work. "

I scrolled up to see who said this. Excellent quote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had one who thought it meant growling at me. I almost laughed in his face. "

meow

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We have got this alot especially on kik, messages like I order you to send pics now slut blabla! Like was said doms very rarely shout about it or say they are doms as such, it's about a partnership of trust and respect, alot of guys think I'm Dom i can tell a girl what to do!!

A good way of finding a experienced Dom from a monkey is discuss subspace .... No it's not a club!! Ha ha ha

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

sorry .. they sound a bit pathetic to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have got this alot especially on kik, messages like I order you to send pics now slut blabla! Like was said doms very rarely shout about it or say they are doms as such, it's about a partnership of trust and respect, alot of guys think I'm Dom i can tell a girl what to do!!

A good way of finding a experienced Dom from a monkey is discuss subspace .... No it's not a club!! Ha ha ha "

Ok you've lost me. What's subspace?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have got this alot especially on kik, messages like I order you to send pics now slut blabla! Like was said doms very rarely shout about it or say they are doms as such, it's about a partnership of trust and respect, alot of guys think I'm Dom i can tell a girl what to do!!

A good way of finding a experienced Dom from a monkey is discuss subspace .... No it's not a club!! Ha ha ha

Ok you've lost me. What's subspace? "

I think it is when your mind has disconnected from your body, and you need bringing back to reality, but it needs to be done by someone who knows what they are doing? Could be wrong though so don't quote me on it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have got this alot especially on kik, messages like I order you to send pics now slut blabla! Like was said doms very rarely shout about it or say they are doms as such, it's about a partnership of trust and respect, alot of guys think I'm Dom i can tell a girl what to do!!

A good way of finding a experienced Dom from a monkey is discuss subspace .... No it's not a club!! Ha ha ha

Ok you've lost me. What's subspace?

I think it is when your mind has disconnected from your body, and you need bringing back to reality, but it needs to be done by someone who knows what they are doing? Could be wrong though so don't quote me on it!! "

Like an outer body experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are my absolute top hate on here.... So disrespectful in their messages and for the record boys; only time im sub is when I choose to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have got this alot especially on kik, messages like I order you to send pics now slut blabla! Like was said doms very rarely shout about it or say they are doms as such, it's about a partnership of trust and respect, alot of guys think I'm Dom i can tell a girl what to do!!

A good way of finding a experienced Dom from a monkey is discuss subspace .... No it's not a club!! Ha ha ha

Ok you've lost me. What's subspace?

I think it is when your mind has disconnected from your body, and you need bringing back to reality, but it needs to be done by someone who knows what they are doing? Could be wrong though so don't quote me on it!!

Like an outer body experience? "

Yes, but not in a good way. If left in this trance like state could be dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have got this alot especially on kik, messages like I order you to send pics now slut blabla! Like was said doms very rarely shout about it or say they are doms as such, it's about a partnership of trust and respect, alot of guys think I'm Dom i can tell a girl what to do!!

A good way of finding a experienced Dom from a monkey is discuss subspace .... No it's not a club!! Ha ha ha

Ok you've lost me. What's subspace?

I think it is when your mind has disconnected from your body, and you need bringing back to reality, but it needs to be done by someone who knows what they are doing? Could be wrong though so don't quote me on it!!

Like an outer body experience?

Yes, but not in a good way. If left in this trance like state could be dangerous. "

How exactly does this state occur? and how do you get them out the right way?

Also have we slipped into the Xfiles?

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By *uy4swingingMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work. "

Correct answer! Beautifully put. Wikipedia take note!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work. "

Thanks.

Still confused!

So how is the Dom dominant if the have to be given control and how is the Sub submissive if they decide when to give it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I stop crying with laughter now please as it has tickled me

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work.

Thanks.

Still confused!

So how is the Dom dominant if the have to be given control and how is the Sub submissive if they decide when to give it? "

Does a tree falling in a forest still make a noise if there is nobody there to hear it?

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By *uy4swingingMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work.

Thanks.

Still confused!

So how is the Dom dominant if the have to be given control and how is the Sub submissive if they decide when to give it?

Does a tree falling in a forest still make a noise if there is nobody there to hear it?"

Ok a Dom is in control when the sub accepts him. He controls and leads, encourages and gives her permission which she submits too, but only if she respects him. It's power exchange. Being offensive to a sub does not earn her respect for him, and so her submission to him.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"We have got this alot especially on kik, messages like I order you to send pics now slut blabla! Like was said doms very rarely shout about it or say they are doms as such, it's about a partnership of trust and respect, alot of guys think I'm Dom i can tell a girl what to do!!

A good way of finding a experienced Dom from a monkey is discuss subspace .... No it's not a club!! Ha ha ha

Ok you've lost me. What's subspace?

I think it is when your mind has disconnected from your body, and you need bringing back to reality, but it needs to be done by someone who knows what they are doing? Could be wrong though so don't quote me on it!!

Like an outer body experience?

Yes, but not in a good way. If left in this trance like state could be dangerous.

How exactly does this state occur? and how do you get them out the right way?

Also have we slipped into the Xfiles? "

usually through high intensity activity - such s breath play or prolonged (forced) masturbation.. probably hard play too.

And no, its not a club pmfsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a power balance, the dominant has no control unless it's given, but the sub needs to give it or there is no submission. They need each other for it to work.

Thanks.

Still confused!

So how is the Dom dominant if the have to be given control and how is the Sub submissive if they decide when to give it?

Does a tree falling in a forest still make a noise if there is nobody there to hear it?

Ok a Dom is in control when the sub accepts him. He controls and leads, encourages and gives her permission which she submits too, but only if she respects him. It's power exchange. Being offensive to a sub does not earn her respect for him, and so her submission to him. "

Thank you. That made sense.

Natasha_david: trees falling in a fores...what the f**k you been smoking?!

...can I have a bit?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

and to add .. subspace isn't all bad, its quite erotic and can be induced quite quickly..

but its not a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and to add .. subspace isn't all bad, its quite erotic and can be induced quite quickly..

but its not a club "

it's not all bad, but it needs careful management after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a so-called dom contact me. We exchanged a few messages. He then claimed not to have any spaces for a new sub and that I would have to prove to him I was worth time and effort.

So I as I said goodbye.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"I had a so-called dom contact me. We exchanged a few messages. He then claimed not to have any spaces for a new sub and that I would have to prove to him I was worth time and effort.

So I as I said goodbye. "

I bet you were devastated at the loss. Don't you know single female subs are 10 a penny? No, wait that should be Doms are 10 a penny, genuine female subs are rare.

Just go on any fetish website and the number of Doms outweigh female subs. He sounds like a fantasist, now they are common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

"

I 'play' dom n at NO point do I call anyone a derogatory name - either before a meet or during

Nor do I let anyone call me 'master ' . To me the sub/dom game is quite a different scenario about heightening someone's pleasure to their acknowledged boundaries, NOT about verbal abuse which is why I won't meet sluts, cumsluts etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a so-called dom contact me. We exchanged a few messages. He then claimed not to have any spaces for a new sub and that I would have to prove to him I was worth time and effort.

So I as I said goodbye.

I bet you were devastated at the loss. Don't you know single female subs are 10 a penny? No, wait that should be Doms are 10 a penny, genuine female subs are rare.

Just go on any fetish website and the number of Doms outweigh female subs. He sounds like a fantasist, now they are common"

Oh woe is me and my devastation.

It happened again today and again I found myself .

If nothing else, these fantasists keep me entertained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Nor do I let anyone call me 'master ' . To me the sub/dom game is quite a different scenario about heightening someone's pleasure to their acknowledged boundaries, NOT about verbal abuse which is why I won't meet sluts, cumsluts etc etc "

I prefer Sir (and I can use that patronisingly ). Slut is a word that can be owned in a positive sense so that in itself does not feel abusive. It boils down to the manner in which it is used: the connection is there (metal connection and chemistry) and he whispers in a deep voice as he enters deeply, "are you my slut", mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Nor do I let anyone call me 'master ' . To me the sub/dom game is quite a different scenario about heightening someone's pleasure to their acknowledged boundaries, NOT about verbal abuse which is why I won't meet sluts, cumsluts etc etc

I prefer Sir (and I can use that patronisingly ). Slut is a word that can be owned in a positive sense so that in itself does not feel abusive. It boils down to the manner in which it is used: the connection is there (metal connection and chemistry) and he whispers in a deep voice as he enters deeply, "are you my slut", mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm "

ALL of which goes to show the broad spectrum of different people's expectations from the dom/sub genre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personal preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get many messages from guys trying to dominate me now... think my profile finally works lol

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Gosh I cannot resist this thread and I wonder why

To me (and this is only a personal observation) a lady who plays sub has to be intelligent to know what they want and be strong enough willed to be able to loose physical control to achieve it.

Strength and submissive come in many forms

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

I 'play' dom n at NO point do I call anyone a derogatory name - either before a meet or during

Nor do I let anyone call me 'master ' . To me the sub/dom game is quite a different scenario about heightening someone's pleasure to their acknowledged boundaries, NOT about verbal abuse which is why I won't meet sluts, cumsluts etc etc "

We think you are missing something here. In a scene/session many subs enjoy verbal abuse in the mix. Our sub answers to 'whore', if we called her by her own name she would say it spoiled the scene for her.

The psychology of the D/s relationship is extremely important. The use of Master or Sir or Mistress by someone who is collared is important to them. As is "bitch, slut or whore"

The armchair 'Dom', "kneel bitch brigade" are easily flushed out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

"

CRAM IT SISTA !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I prefer Sir (and I can use that patronisingly ). Slut is a word that can be owned in a positive sense so that in itself does not feel abusive. It boils down to the manner in which it is used: the connection is there (metal connection and chemistry) and he whispers in a deep voice as he enters deeply, "are you my slut", mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm "

Muha! You do have a mouth on you that can only be sorted with a firm spank on your arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

I 'play' dom n at NO point do I call anyone a derogatory name - either before a meet or during

Nor do I let anyone call me 'master ' . To me the sub/dom game is quite a different scenario about heightening someone's pleasure to their acknowledged boundaries, NOT about verbal abuse which is why I won't meet sluts, cumsluts etc etc

We think you are missing something here. In a scene/session many subs enjoy verbal abuse in the mix. Our sub answers to 'whore', if we called her by her own name she would say it spoiled the scene for her.

The psychology of the D/s relationship is extremely important. The use of Master or Sir or Mistress by someone who is collared is important to them. As is "bitch, slut or whore"

The armchair 'Dom', "kneel bitch brigade" are easily flushed out. "

Well perhaps I'm doing some other unique scenario but I'm certainly NOT engaged in the activities u describe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sick to death of "Doms" sending me first messages with the words

you cunt

you whore

you slut ect

And them demanding I call them Master.

I don't fucking know you. You have not right to call me anything or demand stuff just cuz I'm sub. It might work for some subs but I'm not one of them. You can't Dom me until I let you. I like to get to know a Dom before they can Dom me cuz in reality I'm not a slut I just role play it.

"

Is that before or after shouting 'bogies' in a library?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"

Ok you've lost me. What's subspace? "

It's a high, or rush, brought on by endorphins which are released in response to pain, fear, orgasm etc. It's one of the reasons that pre-defined limits are a good idea especially with casual partners.

The come down from this is sometimes known as subbie-flu because of the flu like symptoms and the reason that good after care is needed.

All good reasons not to play with dim-doms and domme wannabes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shut up biatches and make me a coffee!

Did I get it right? xxx "

Hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should have just stopped at Dumbass as they clearly are not doms. They are little boys who are trying to pretend to be all grown up by talking like they do in the 70's porn they've been wanking to.

Be grateful that the wankers identify themselves so quickly, block and move on.

Well said! Doms?!? They haven't got a clue! "

this

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