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Do Girls / Couples on here just not want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have sent a few messages, been in both the South West and Wales chat rooms, chatted a little to some people, yet I still get no offers or even winks/friend requests.

So I have to wonder if the girls/couples of here think i'm

A: Ugly

B: Timewaster

C: Not their Type

D: Other

Any suggestions ?

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"So I have to wonder if the girls/couples of here think i'm

A: Ugly

B: Timewaster

C: Not their Type

D: Other

Any suggestions ?

"

A: Some will, some won't

B: How can anyone know that if they haven't arranged to meet you

C: Some will, some won't

D: Of course there will be other reasons.

You've only been here 4 weeks... There are mountains of posts from people here 6 months / 1 year+ who haven't had meets. You need to have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not their type just keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just be you...

relax go to a few socials mingle

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Yes they do. You are stacked against the odds, there are sooooo many more guys than fems and couples. Think about that, if the penny don't drop then it,ll be tough and maybe your efforts or lack of will mean it doesn't work out how you'd wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they do. You are stacked against the odds, there are sooooo many more guys than fems and couples. Think about that, if the penny don't drop then it,ll be tough and maybe your efforts or lack of will mean it doesn't work out how you'd wish"

+1

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

People tend to read the profile before the message.

Stand back and think: there's probably 500 single men to every single female/couple. Look at your profile through the eyes of a single woman who's receiving 50 messages a day from men with informative, funny profiles with the promise of great sex: see why your messages are deleted unread?

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works both ways as I have been free all weekend and struggled to get guys to let me know whether they want to meet or not, had the same the last time I was on annual leave yet when I am working 6 days per week I am drowning in requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP can I ask you a few question?

what was your expectation when you joined FAB?

How many meets were you expecting a week?

Why do you think couples/women don't meet, when you can see from verifications they do?

Is this a serious question or just you having a moan that you can't get a meet & think this thread will some how help?

In reply to you question, you're not my type so I would politely decline a meet with you and yes I do meet....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways as I have been free all weekend and struggled to get guys to let me know whether they want to meet or not, had the same the last time I was on annual leave yet when I am working 6 days per week I am drowning in requests "

This lol :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile reads like a rant. You don't need to say half of what you've written.

And your age preferences is 18-99...maybe adjust that.

Possibly better profile pics too.

Hope that helps a bit.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

You should try the Canada chat room. They are wild in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have sent a few messages, been in both the South West and Wales chat rooms, chatted a little to some people, yet I still get no offers or even winks/friend requests.

So I have to wonder if the girls/couples of here think i'm

A: Ugly

B: Timewaster

C: Not their Type

D: Other

Any suggestions ?

"

Only a few messages? And chatted a little? Maybe thats your answer.

Its a patience game, at some point you will come across or someone will come across you and it will all click

Till then just relax and enjoy the site for its social aspects

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have sent a few messages, been in both the South West and Wales chat rooms, chatted a little to some people, yet I still get no offers or even winks/friend requests.

So I have to wonder if the girls/couples of here think i'm

A: Ugly

B: Timewaster

C: Not their Type

D: Other

Any suggestions ?

"

A:Yes

B: Possibly

C: Probably

D: Probably

Yes, if it's getting you that upset that everyone is having a better time than you, then your expectations of the site are way off and you need to either drop them drastically or leave. Otherwise you'll just get bitter. It's not a dating site or a Instashag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is very negative with an air of desperation. You need to think about the things you enjoy doing and perhaps think of what you have to offer others. You do have alot of competition. Also look at how you are writing your messages. Cliche one liners or negative emails do tend to get deleted before being read.

Remember no one is going to throw themselves at your feet you have to work at this. Try reading other guys profiles that do seem to be having lots of fun they are obviously doing something right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should try the Canada chat room. They are wild in there. "

He'd get fucking killed in there.

I've been in there twice!

Waaay too fast for me...I struggle to keep up.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Your profile is very negative with an air of desperation. You need to think about the things you enjoy doing and perhaps think of what you have to offer others. You do have alot of competition. Also look at how you are writing your messages. Cliche one liners or negative emails do tend to get deleted before being read.

Remember no one is going to throw themselves at your feet you have to work at this. Try reading other guys profiles that do seem to be having lots of fun they are obviously doing something right. "
You say you are not sending any more messages in your profile, but will answer messages you receive. So you expect people to contact you? Good luck with that one.

As the OP says your profile is very negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of socials in Sth Wales, have you tried attending them?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"You should try the Canada chat room. They are wild in there.

He'd get fucking killed in there.

I've been in there twice!

Waaay too fast for me...I struggle to keep up.

"

I heard Diamondsmiles bared her arse in there last year.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP can I ask you a few question?

what was your expectation when you joined FAB?

How many meets were you expecting a week?

Why do you think couples/women don't meet, when you can see from verifications they do?

Is this a serious question or just you having a moan that you can't get a meet & think this thread will some how help?

In reply to you question, you're not my type so I would politely decline a meet with you and yes I do meet....

"

Okay answering

1: I expected to at least get a couple of replies to mails, or even chat with nice people.

2. Not really expecting a per week basis more of a couple a month possible with some person/couple

3. Yes I can see the verifications true

4. Serious Question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I'm confused if you can clearly see women and couples do meet, why ask the question if not just to have a moan?

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

OP you profile is way too negative.

You have a cheek calling people time wasters when your basing that fact on deleted messages. It's not rude not to reply, no response means not interested.

Perhaps you're best of going to the FAQ page and reading.

Please see below taken from FAQ:

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear that the site isn't working out quite as you had hoped. However, you have the opportunity to change your approach

Given that single men far outweigh ladies/couples on here, the most important thing is to be seen to be POSITIVE (i.e. no whinging in the Forum or on your profile)

Many ladies/couples take the initiative in finding the 'right' single guy for them, so it's important that your profile is as good as possible, so that you stand out from the crowd. Excellent face pics! But maybe lose the 'Sydney University warning', which is not really enforceable, anyway (see FAQs).

Apart from the Forums, the best way to start enjoying your Fab life is to join in the banter in the Chatrooms - you say you've tried them, but maybe you've given in, too easily? It does take a while to find your feet in the Chat. But when you do, you're likely to find that there are socials etc that you can attend, where you can make lots of friends. Patience is the key!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be positive , there are people out there that will want to meet you . I met my lover and now friend online and we clicked by being pleasant and friendly towards each other .

Stick with it and don't expect anything .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile way too negative pal and pics not great

Maybe a few cock shots alongside a sky remote or lynx can could seal it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile way too negative pal and pics not great

Maybe a few cock shots alongside a sky remote or lynx can could seal it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have sent a few messages, been in both the South West and Wales chat rooms, chatted a little to some people, yet I still get no offers or even winks/friend requests.

So I have to wonder if the girls/couples of here think i'm

A: Ugly

B: Timewaster

C: Not their Type

D: Other

Any suggestions ?

"

Stop posting in the lounge!!

FAB set up a Single Male moaning section.

Mate, keep your nose clean re write your profile and have PATIENCE!! It'll come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time that is all. Us newbie on the site have to wait it out. You will get a few meets that will then lead to more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont rely on the site, get out to socials and clubs and get known in person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Amended profile as per some suggestions here

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"Amended profile as per some suggestions here "

So I take it you're happy to be with a 80 odd year old woman as per your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amended profile as per some suggestions here "

get rid of the pics where u are looking down at the camera, I know u have some weight, but its u have to think about the angles u take pics at. and the long haired one...lose that definitely, just a bit grubby looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amended profile as per some suggestions here

So I take it you're happy to be with a 80 odd year old woman as per your profile."

well i like a nice slow soft bj..teeth to the side auld yin cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meeting a nice single girl to settle down with..stalker alarm bells would be on a few peoples minds, no harm saying ur looking for some regular meets.

remember really what sort of site/scene this is

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

All your photos where uploaded in July yet you look completely different on them all

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