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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm having a conversation with a lad who has a girlfriend, she doesn't know he's on fab. He's now trying to tell me that by being on here with my husband, as a fully consenting couple, that we are cheating on each other. I said that what he's doin is cheating, and his response is that I'm doing the exact same thing. What are people's opinions on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think in really, really, really strange ways...

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

He's talking bollocks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha I know! He's adamant that I'm cheating. He said his girlfriend is his relationship and fab is his sex. And I'm the one in the wrong

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"I'm having a conversation with a lad who has a girlfriend, she doesn't know he's on fab. He's now trying to tell me that by being on here with my husband, as a fully consenting couple, that we are cheating on each other. I said that what he's doin is cheating, and his response is that I'm doing the exact same thing. What are people's opinions on this?"

surely cheating is doing it without the other persons knowledge. if you swing as a couple with both knowing how can it be cheating.. yes he is cheating as hes going behind her back..

Some people try anything to make themselves feel and sound better with what they are doing..

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Cheating means that someone is being deceived ie his partner. Ask him who is being deceived in your case as your partner is fully aware?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's talking bollocks! "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Haha I know! He's adamant that I'm cheating. He said his girlfriend is his relationship and fab is his sex. And I'm the one in the wrong "

Do you really care what nonentities think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating means that someone is being deceived ie his partner. Ask him who is being deceived in your case as your partner is fully aware? "

Just what I was going to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This, cheating has nothing to do with sex, everything to do with hiding things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup he's talking bollocks, numpty!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not cheating if both couples are here, and sharing each other. that is not cheating.

He is cheating on his gf, because he is playing with others without her knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To us he's cheating as he's hiding it from his gf as you are a couple that are both happy with swinging there's nothing wrong with that at all were the same x

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

yep... all about knowledge/trust.

i just do as instructed

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By *ornaandjimCouple
over a year ago

BRISTOL

Cheating is a personal thing depending on the rules of the couple.

If the behaviour breaks the couple's agreed rules or boundaries then it's cheating.

Some couples may have the rule that it's ok to have email or internet contact with others so having a profile on a swinging or chat site wouldn't be cheating for them.

If his girlfriend doesn't know he's on fab but they've not discussed it as a rule, he's technically not cheating but I'm not sure she would agree.

Too many people make assumptions that they are both on the same page when it comes to cheating. Normally, 'true' swingers define their boundaries and rules quite clearly.

All the above is just my opinion of course!

L

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not really, i actually think he's quite funny now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does make me wonder though if he's not shagging his gf, who is??

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

it's not cheating if your partner is watching. He's talking bollox. He's cheating and i am presuming has got the hump coz you won't meet him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheating is a personal thing depending on the rules of the couple.

If the behaviour breaks the couple's agreed rules or boundaries then it's cheating.

Some couples may have the rule that it's ok to have email or internet contact with others so having a profile on a swinging or chat site wouldn't be cheating for them.

If his girlfriend doesn't know he's on fab but they've not discussed it as a rule, he's technically not cheating but I'm not sure she would agree.

Too many people make assumptions that they are both on the same page when it comes to cheating. Normally, 'true' swingers define their boundaries and rules quite clearly.

All the above is just my opinion of course!

L"

if your on as a couple you both need to have rules that your both comfortable with and to hide it from your partner is wrong he should really talk to his gf about it never know she might surprise him and be happy to join him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ask his girlfriend who she thinks is cheating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That all escalated and I've now changed all my pics to private and lost trust in the site completely

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"ask his girlfriend who she thinks is cheating"

Amoeba

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Strictly speaking, and not in any way saying this is my opinion, but having sex with someone you are married with could be seen, in some circles, as adultery.

That said, however, as far as I am concerned if you are both here swinging in a mutual arrangement which suits you both as a couple it is not 'cheating'.

Someone on here without the knowledge and consent of a loving partner IS cheating.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

No he is full of shit and like most people full of shit is trying to justify his bogus actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he is an idiot.end of really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wtf, what happened, no conversation on here should ever get to that point before the big block button gets used!! Don't let others ruin it for you, you're better than that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That all escalated and I've now changed all my pics to private and lost trust in the site completely "

Why you letting the words of a total stranger make you feel bad? He means nothing to you so his words mean diddly squat too. Just block his arse and move on.... It's not the end of the world !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That all escalated and I've now changed all my pics to private and lost trust in the site completely "

Why? x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I'm having a conversation with a lad who has a girlfriend, she doesn't know he's on fab. He's now trying to tell me that by being on here with my husband, as a fully consenting couple, that we are cheating on each other. I said that what he's doin is cheating, and his response is that I'm doing the exact same thing. What are people's opinions on this?"

Utter bolloks.

Consent - no cheating

No consent - cheating

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"That all escalated and I've now changed all my pics to private and lost trust in the site completely

Why? x"

By all accounts he is being a threatening bully now, needs to be taken to task tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's talking bollocks! "

That about sums it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That all escalated and I've now changed all my pics to private and lost trust in the site completely

Why? x

By all accounts he is being a threatening bully now, needs to be taken to task tbh "

Then block and report. She should have just done that when he accused her of cheating. He sounds like a total moron to me, not someone she would want to meet anyway. What's the point in arguing your ground with a total stranger? Doesn't get you anywhere...

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I would personally never have got so deep in conversation with him....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would personally never have got so deep in conversation with him...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would personally never have got so deep in conversation with him...."

As soon as anyone shows signs of being weird I stop the conversation. OP block him and move on. If he was abusive, report him. And don't let what a stranger says bother you. x

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