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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I went almost completely deaf as a child. At the age of 7 I had an op which restored much of my hearing but have been hearing impaired most of my life and with age it seems to have worsened. I have yet to give in to a hearing aid but will, no doubt, have to succumb to this at some point. (My vanity perhaps).

I often find it hard to hear conversations when in a group due to background noise interference, and some tones (deeper ones) are hard to hear. I always have subtitles on the television.

I manage just fine and most people don't realise until I tell them I sometimes struggle to hear.

They either do one of two things; start shouting (which can often actually hurt my ears - speaking clearly is better), say 'what?' - which is a crass joke I have heard a million times and wasn't actually funny the first time I heard it.

I wonder if those same people would wave their hands in front of someone sight-impaired saying 'can you see this?' and laugh? Or perhaps ask someone on crutches if they wanted a race?

It's the only part of me I am a little sensitive about. It makes telephone calls to call centres in India frustrating as the accent is also very difficult for me to process and often they must think I am just being an awkward twat.

Just thought I'd share - pisses me off sometimes the way people behave once they know.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Similar issue here - 50% hearing in one ear, other ear better than most (I can say that, it gets tested regularly) but also tinnitus in my duffel ear.

The "what" or "pardon" comment is not remotely funny and has been done to death. The thing that really annoys me is the expectation that I'll find it funny and the sulk that follows when I don't!

Btw I've got a hearing aid (though I'm a bit lazy with it) and it can really help in some situations - the cinema is ace cos the loop pipes all the sound effects directly to it!

And it qualifies you for a disabled rail card.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Couldn't be more with you ppl are just compleat dicks some times. Iv had hearing probs since early 20 mainly my own falt load clubs an even loader bikes. I often wonder how long they would take to get pist off with there silly joke if it was them after all it doesn't take much just a little understanding. Just 1 of my pet peeves

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"

The "what" or "pardon" comment is not remotely funny and has been done to death. The thing that really annoys me is the expectation that I'll find it funny and the sulk that follows when I don't! "

It's the response when you don't laugh - yes. As if you are a miserable git and they take offence that you don't find their inane joke funny. The irony being they do not see how offensive they are being!

I will at some point get a hearing aid - I know I will. My mum had a digital one but found that in group situations it merely made it louder and she simply could not distinguish individual voices which is a problem I have. I just don't want it to be made louder! Sometimes people think I am being ignorant when they don't get an answer from me not realising that I didn't hear them in the first place. It's the main reason I don't like pubs and clubs anymore. I often feel isolated and left out of conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it just goes to show how ignorant some people are

Those that are like that aren't worth knowing, just as much as anyone else who discriminates in any other shape or form

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I think it just goes to show how ignorant some people are

Those that are like that aren't worth knowing, just as much as anyone else who discriminates in any other shape or form "

The thing is that some of these people are not all crass, ignorant, prejudiced people!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Apparently if you wear it all the time your brain learns to screen out the background noise and there comes a point when you can distinguish. Though since I only put mine in when my tinnitus is bad I wouldn't know.

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

My mum wore hers all the time - it didn't help with group situations but she had really bad hearing so it was a boon generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going the same way and also struggle with groups or when there is a lot of other noise (varying frequency loss and a loss of level in one ear) just in the middle of tests to see if its due to an ear infection years ago, genetics (quite a few deaf heads in the immediate family- group conversations can be interesting sometimes) or it could be self inflicted- another one who has spent many hours in clubs, raves, gigs and cars with big stereos.

thanks for the heads up on the 'what?' joke- i am now armed to respond with 'i've heard that comment as often as you've been told your an ignorant, ugly git'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have menieres so I lip read alot

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I'm going the same way and also struggle with groups or when there is a lot of other noise (varying frequency loss and a loss of level in one ear) just in the middle of tests to see if its due to an ear infection years ago, genetics (quite a few deaf heads in the immediate family- group conversations can be interesting sometimes) or it could be self inflicted- another one who has spent many hours in clubs, raves, gigs and cars with big stereos.

thanks for the heads up on the 'what?' joke- i am now armed to respond with 'i've heard that comment as often as you've been told your an ignorant, ugly git' "

I just give them 'the look'. They generally get the message and apologise - unless they are really ignorant twats, in which case I feel free to let the abuse flow.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I went almost completely deaf as a child. At the age of 7 I had an op which restored much of my hearing but have been hearing impaired most of my life and with age it seems to have worsened. I have yet to give in to a hearing aid but will, no doubt, have to succumb to this at some point. (My vanity perhaps).

I often find it hard to hear conversations when in a group due to background noise interference, and some tones (deeper ones) are hard to hear. I always have subtitles on the television.

I manage just fine and most people don't realise until I tell them I sometimes struggle to hear.

They either do one of two things; start shouting (which can often actually hurt my ears - speaking clearly is better), say 'what?' - which is a crass joke I have heard a million times and wasn't actually funny the first time I heard it.

I wonder if those same people would wave their hands in front of someone sight-impaired saying 'can you see this?' and laugh? Or perhaps ask someone on crutches if they wanted a race?

It's the only part of me I am a little sensitive about. It makes telephone calls to call centres in India frustrating as the accent is also very difficult for me to process and often they must think I am just being an awkward twat.

Just thought I'd share - pisses me off sometimes the way people behave once they know. "

Eleven years ago I lost about 80% of my sight. I was hospitalised for three weeks, had two lumber punctures to relieve the pressure on my optic nerves and laser treatment to reattach my retinas.

It was a trying time, mother died marriage ending so I ignored the headaches putting it down to stress.

I can assure you people did wave their hands in front of me asking if I could see. What was annoying, they thought my intelligence diminished with my sight and they...would...slow...down...their...speech and enunciate each word!

If I could see the bastards at the time I'd have decked them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple of friends with limited hearing. I try to make eye contact in case they need to read my lips and also try to speak clearly. Is this ok? I never like to ask for fear of being told off but also worry that I'm being offensive.

I don't have hearing problems as such but I do have difficulty understanding some accents. I hate to ask them to repeat what they've said in case they think I'm taking the piss, because I'm not.

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I went almost completely deaf as a child. At the age of 7 I had an op which restored much of my hearing but have been hearing impaired most of my life and with age it seems to have worsened. I have yet to give in to a hearing aid but will, no doubt, have to succumb to this at some point. (My vanity perhaps).

I often find it hard to hear conversations when in a group due to background noise interference, and some tones (deeper ones) are hard to hear. I always have subtitles on the television.

I manage just fine and most people don't realise until I tell them I sometimes struggle to hear.

They either do one of two things; start shouting (which can often actually hurt my ears - speaking clearly is better), say 'what?' - which is a crass joke I have heard a million times and wasn't actually funny the first time I heard it.

I wonder if those same people would wave their hands in front of someone sight-impaired saying 'can you see this?' and laugh? Or perhaps ask someone on crutches if they wanted a race?

It's the only part of me I am a little sensitive about. It makes telephone calls to call centres in India frustrating as the accent is also very difficult for me to process and often they must think I am just being an awkward twat.

Just thought I'd share - pisses me off sometimes the way people behave once they know.

Eleven years ago I lost about 80% of my sight. I was hospitalised for three weeks, had two lumber punctures to relieve the pressure on my optic nerves and laser treatment to reattach my retinas.

It was a trying time, mother died marriage ending so I ignored the headaches putting it down to stress.

I can assure you people did wave their hands in front of me asking if I could see. What was annoying, they thought my intelligence diminished with my sight and they...would...slow...down...their...speech and enunciate each word!

If I could see the bastards at the time I'd have decked them!

"

That's really offensive! People used to speak to my mum like that because she was in a wheelchair.

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I have a couple of friends with limited hearing. I try to make eye contact in case they need to read my lips and also try to speak clearly. Is this ok? I never like to ask for fear of being told off but also worry that I'm being offensive.

I don't have hearing problems as such but I do have difficulty understanding some accents. I hate to ask them to repeat what they've said in case they think I'm taking the piss, because I'm not. "

Speaking clearly and facing someone is the best way, in my opinion. I certainly find it easier that way. If people are walking ahead of me in the street and talking I usually cannot make out what they say so have to get them to slow down and actually talk to me side by side.

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