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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"

Never done it, would never do it......

Ladies just need to pick the good ones!

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By *oxerjoshleeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Because they are quite literally wankers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"

Man that suck. well havea big cuddle then. pity your so far from me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the wife needs taking to Tesco...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had the same with a couple who deleted their account, don't stress about it you have time to arrange to meet another friend and you know not to bother with the guy that has cancelled on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must have been exceedingly lucky in my years of swinging on and off. I've never once had a last minute cancellation or a no show!

I'm sure it'll happen one day to me though.

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By *utmegsMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Because the wife needs taking to Tesco..."

I'm constantly amazed that blokes complain that they can't get meets, but then drop out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chill out and take the same approach i do- it ain't a meet until you're naked and nuts deep.....have a back up plan even it its a glass of something cold and a film

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did it to someone...not blocking but had to cancel.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"
That's not being stood up tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"

because they have changed their minds?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did it to someone...not blocking but had to cancel."

I have cancelled a few times, I have always told them tho, even if I have arranged to meet if between the time of agreeing to meet and meeting something is said or done that makes me have second thoughts I will cancel, we all have the rights to put our safety first and pull out at anytime, I think people should say tho not just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did it to someone...not blocking but had to cancel."

We all have to cancel sometimes real life can take over ! But everyone deserves an explanation ! I'd personally like the truth from people if they can't make it or have changed there minds ! Just to block someone is very childish !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least it was the day before......being stood up is standing there waiting and no one turns up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes im not sure if i want to meet someone after iv said i would, its better to just say you have changed your mind, even if you feel a bit awkward about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got cancelled on once, a hour before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told them the day before as i had to work as someone got sick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have the attitude that its a maybe ... Always get them to text me when they are leaving ... Never leave b4 them ... And if I get there and they are there then its game on ! Up until then you can never be sure !

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

I have only ever been stood up once. Left sitting in a pub by myself like a fool.

It happens unfortunately. Chin up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many people get nervous the closer it gets to meeting and they just decide to not bother going.

It's never nice when it happens to you, but don't take it personally as I don't think it's meant that way.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Because they are quite literally wankers! "

...and you come to that conclusion how? If your fellow single man had started this thread you'd have said get over it, block too and move on!

Op, I'll say what I would a single man: it could have been something you said, a recent verification, photo...who knows.

You weren't left waiting and people are allowed to change their mind.

Onwards and upwards hey!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR

Man that suck. well havea big cuddle then. pity your so far from me xx"

Doesn't mean she'd meet you though does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they were struggling to look like the brad Pitt pic they sent and the penis pump wasn't getting the 9 inches they promised ? Just a thought

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I did it to someone...not blocking but had to cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they were struggling to look like the brad Pitt pic they sent and the penis pump wasn't getting the 9 inches they promised ? Just a thought

Good theory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the wife needs taking to Tesco..."

Or won't let him out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they are quite literally wankers!

...and you come to that conclusion how? If your fellow single man had started this thread you'd have said get over it, block too and move on!

Op, I'll say what I would a single man: it could have been something you said, a recent verification, photo...who knows.

You weren't left waiting and people are allowed to change their mind.

Onwards and upwards hey! "

Everyone deserves an explanation though ! Male or female !!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I did it to someone...not blocking but had to cancel.

I don't reply to people outwith my criteria to avoid the insults, if someone is pushy, needy, add pics showing bareback sex whilst professing to practice safe sex etc I block without further discussion!

If that makes me childish: oh well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did it to someone...not blocking but had to cancel.

If that makes me childish: oh well! "

That's not what I said ! There is nothing wrong with blocking ! But You would not have arranged to meet that person !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because the wife needs taking to Tesco...

Or won't let him out "

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I've been cancelled on which was fine because I was told in plenty of time. Fortunately I've never been stood up.

It's a pretty poor show not to tell you though if you have already made the arrangements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever had to cancel one meet. I gave a day and a half notice and the reason but because I couldn't bring the meet forward 24 hours I was blocked

so I blocked him back and didn't feel so bad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"

With an ass like that, he's either married, gay, married and gay or just a bottler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"

and wtf? you are 50? didn't expect that when i looked at your profile

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By *obb2upCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

we had a guy who,s mum died twice in a month .....we never gave him an other chance we thought his mum had been through enough

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"we had a guy who,s mum died twice in a month .....we never gave him an other chance we thought his mum had been through enough"

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"we had a guy who,s mum died twice in a month .....we never gave him an other chance we thought his mum had been through enough"

Haha

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"we had a guy who,s mum died twice in a month .....we never gave him an other chance we thought his mum had been through enough"

that made me chuckle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"

Well he's completely bonkers if you ask me!!!! I know I've just seen the pics

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

we all know life gets in the way, something

can turn up unexpected ,but all of us on here male or female and couples deserve

respect .tell someone you cant meet .dont just block or not turn up.

i have had it happen to me got all ready and no show .

so come on guys be honest to your fellow

swingers ..PLEASE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"
seams 2 be a time waster

not saying who they are

just report n block them

rather than rant in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They dont do the other singles any favours

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

"They dont do the other singles any favours "

and for that reason i'm out.

i not meet anyone at home now just go to clubs cos they have spoilt this for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They dont do the other singles any favours

and for that reason i'm out.

i not meet anyone at home now just go to clubs cos they have spoilt this for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they are quite literally wankers! "
yes or could be married x and all a dream.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"we had a guy who,s mum died twice in a month .....we never gave him an other chance we thought his mum had been through enough"

*Giggles*

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRRseams 2 be a time waster

not saying who they are

just report n block them

rather than rant in here"

Report for what?

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By *artinichilled1TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

I must be doing something right as all my meets have turned up.Ive had cancellations the day before or 3 or 4 hours before the meet but havent had it where ive been stood up.Exchanging mobile numbers helps and tell them that to confirm me or tell me to cancel.Ive cancelled meets but have given good notice.

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By *uddlesloves!Woman
over a year ago

Plymouth

Well I had my first no show yesterday ( Wed).

Spoke with the guy the night before at length. I knew quite a lot about his job so connected well, had a good laugh etc. Had a lovely surprise Wed lunch time asking if I was free to meet as he had the rest of the day and night off.

Told him I would have to re-arrange some things and would book a hotel. He kept texting to make sure all o.k for 3p.m at the hotel.

I checked in and surprise, surprise!!..no word from him. Texted him but but no reply. How ignorant. Still no word all evening.

So I arranged to meet up with an old friend and had an amazing afternoon. Couldn't let the room go to waste..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people have to get all technical on this site, the lady is p***ed off as she made an arrangement to meet a guy who up until the night before was up for it then just blocks her, in our eyes he needs to grow a pair of balls. Whether he just changed his mind, felt he wasn't attracted to her after all or had prior engagements. A little 2 minute message to say he couldn't make it was all that was needed.

We always say from the start if we feel we're not right for each other and if we can't make the plan we've arranged we will tell them at the soonest opportunity.

I guess some people just don't have the balls to say how it is and others just enjoy an argument on here. The moral of the story is... She has a right to feel p***ed off and "stood up" whether she was waiting for him to turn up or whether he just blocked her either way it weren't fair!

I'm sure someone will bitch about this but we don't mind we can take it.

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we had a guy who,s mum died twice in a month .....we never gave him an other chance we thought his mum had been through enough"

This made us giggle a lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have only ever been stood up once. Left sitting in a pub by myself like a fool.

It happens unfortunately. Chin up! "

Shocking ... Were you offered anything in the way of an excuse or apology?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they just get kicks out of the fact that that someone is waiting for them, nursing their lack is self esteem. I have been on this site a year now and it has happened to me a multitude of times. Infact , have met one person in my year of being here for a social. I can sympathise,it can be immensely frustrating. Keep going young lady ! Best wishes.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I have only ever been stood up once. Left sitting in a pub by myself like a fool.

It happens unfortunately. Chin up!

Shocking ... Were you offered anything in the way of an excuse or apology? "

Half a lager and lime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY DO SOME GUYS ARRANGE TO MEET YOU THEN THE DAY BEFORE THEY BLOCK YOU WTF GRRRRR"

& women I may add.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which I may add applies to both men and women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had to cancel a meet and people have with me. As long as its done the right way annoying yes but things happen sometimes.

OP it seems harsh but sitting in a pub somewhere waiting would be a whole lot worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the wife needs taking to Tesco..."

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I have had to cancel because I had to stay late in he office it does happenbut if you call and explain.

I now try to only meet at weekends

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Personally I'd sit and take a long hard look at my life if I got twisted and out of shape if a stranger decided he didn't want to fuck me as I'd obviously have lost perspective!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd be rather embarrassed if I had the same outlook on life as you, very narrow minded and you obviously only feel your opinion and way of life is the right way. But hay ho we all can't be the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I'd be rather embarrassed if I had the same outlook on life as you, very narrow minded and you obviously only feel your opinion and way of life is the right way. But hay ho we all can't be the same!"

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over a year ago

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I have had to cancel because I had to stay late in he office it does happenbut if you call and explain.

I now try to only meet at weekends

I've just had a cancellation for just this reason (last night, actually). It's someone I have seen a few times before. Mind you - he has used this excuse 3 times before so I think he will be surprised when he asks me for another meet! A no thank you heading his way.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"I have had to cancel because I had to stay late in he office it does happenbut if you call and explain.

I now try to only meet at weekends

Well for me I work for a large multinational so sometimes I do have to work late. To use it 3 times is a bit to much

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I have had to cancel because I had to stay late in he office it does happenbut if you call and explain.

I now try to only meet at weekends

Well for me I work for a large multinational so sometimes I do have to work late. To use it 3 times is a bit to much

LOL I think he has forgotten that he has used that excuse with me before. I knew he would cancel - I even invited my daughter round and didn't even bother getting ready!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picking the wrong guys chin up were not all muppets xx

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Picking the wrong guys chin up were not all muppets xx

Sometimes you don't know they are the wrong guy. I agreed to meet someone who was a member and well-verified. We had chatted for a while, had swapped numbers and everything was set. He never showed even though I had heard from him that day to confirm. I thought it was a guarantee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been stood up but I personally have had to cancel things arranged

family happens ... Things beyond my control can happen.

Some people have gone as far as not talk to be again or blatantly call me a liar

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

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"Picking the wrong guys chin up were not all muppets xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

That's what personally means: personal to me. If people get upset over someone changing their mind that's personal to them.

Didn't realise we all had to agree and by doing so it meant only my way counted: well I never. Excuse me whilst I go and bawl my eyes out as some nonentity on the internet disagrees with me stating my opinion.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Picking the wrong guys chin up were not all muppets xx

When they go silent before a meet, when they don't show.

I don't do too badly - had very few in the years I've been doing this. That's why I like a bit of a chat, see verifications, photo verified, etc. If they hide veris and won't show them even with asking that is entirely their choice. But those could be old veris and only by webcam or phone (when the site used to use phone veris). Unless I see they actually meet and have done fairly recently I don't bother. If they only have on picture I don't bother - they could have nicked it. If they are not photo verified I don't bother. If I don't get a mobile I don't bother. I could go on and on - but generally this s out the vast majority of timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Picking the wrong guys chin up were not all muppets xx

When they go silent before a meet, when they don't show.

Good advice.

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over a year ago

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Damn then I wouldn't be able to meet then as I don't have an up to date verification lol.....

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Damn then I wouldn't be able to meet then as I don't have an up to date verification lol.....

You're also miles away!

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