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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you laides and gents not get feelings for people you have fun with.

I had a ladie friend over on the weekend and even though we meet for fun was more like a date. Lots of kissing and cudddling etc.

Maybe im just to soft a guy for swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you laides and gents not get feelings for people you have fun with.

I had a ladie friend over on the weekend and even though we meet for fun was more like a date. Lots of kissing and cudddling etc.

Maybe im just to soft a guy for swinging. "

Have you asked this lady-friend if she had similar feelings ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually get told I'm an emotional cripple. So I don't get this problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go around saying you are a soft guy

However not being single it is not an issue for me, I assume if you both agree up front that it is NSA and one feels differently it is time to break ties or discuss with that person.

See it happening all the time where one fwb develops feelings and it can be car crash, you would be emotionally dead if you didn't have some feelings for a person you spend a lot of time with however it is when the scale tips to more than just caring it no longer is NSA.

Communication is key and what you both expect from the "deal" and boundaries set in place to start with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmm well you see did not meet her from a sex site.

But we did arrange fun and tbh it was mind blowing had a smile for days.

And well I am a big softie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kiss n snuggle with meets, I certainly don't have any loving feelings towards them. I have met them several times too.. My feelings never get in the way of my lifestyle here on fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm well you see did not meet her from a sex site.

But we did arrange fun and tbh it was mind blowing had a smile for days.

And well I am a big softie "

Well I would suggest then that you have an open conversation with her about how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm well you see did not meet her from a sex site.

But we did arrange fun and tbh it was mind blowing had a smile for days.

And well I am a big softie

Well I would suggest then that you have an open conversation with her about how you feel."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get told I'm an emotional cripple. So I don't get this problem. "

Oh and I thought you had fallen in love with me !!! I'm gutted

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

The sad thing is that it ruins the friendship. I recently lost a friend because I cared too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just you know...

She might not feel the same.

$0.02

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one can plan if they get feelings towards someone..it kinda happens!

can get on with many people but then 1 comes along and boom!

dunno why but theres just that extra click with someone..and yes can be tricky especialy if they dont feel the same. but then i suppose on circumstances and the individual too.

but like anyone...even on here have seen people got together and fell for each other.. so it does can and does happen and just natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just repeated meself in last bit..haha! lack of sleep as been on nights!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for great advice guys.

I just unsure if want settle down etc again as only been single since end of feb x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as lots of times with friends who i like hanging out with but like that bit extra to top it off.

Course sometimes feelings will come into it the more you see someone but for me its more the feelings i would have for a friend and i care about my friends.

I dont do lovey dovey stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have feelings you have them

I hate all this ' you can't do this and you can't feel that' bullcrap

Sometimes feelings come along and you can't control them

If you do and they like you too in the same way - I wish you all the luck in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like lots of kissing and cuddling and like my meets to be chatty and relaxed as well as having adult fun, but that's all it is.

I've done the feelings thing and got hurt very badly so now I dont do them. I like to have a connection with my meets and I like to be Fab friends but this is my fantasy life not my real life, if that makes sense and I keep the two separate.

You need to ask her if she feels the same way. If she does then good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers ladies.

Not saying im going go out with her but mite put off meeting others why me and her are meeting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one person here i let me guard down and had a few cuddles and more intimate and more softer side to me

but i dont think it will happen ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aww sorry to hear the jacqs.

Dont let all men put you off there is some nice guys out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The sad thing is that it ruins the friendship. I recently lost a friend because I cared too much. "

I lost a good friend as I couldn't tell him how I truely felt I hid it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aww sorry to hear the jacqs.

Dont let all men put you off there is some nice guys out there. "

I know but im not looking for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can happen and does happen sometimes with a happy ending sometimes not.

I like to cuddle and snuggle with one or two of my meets who I see regular I don't see anything wrong with this as I'm a tactile person but I don't have feelings for them in a loving way.I see it as two good friends enjoying each other be it sexual or not.

I'd say talk to her, communication is key. Good luck OP

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

It's just fun, someone can be either incredibly sexy or stunning we feel nothing for them. We enjoy the fun, respect them and their time but when we close the door they're gone.

We love each other, making the seperation to swinging friends we find easy

Could you ever see a girlfriend or wife of yours kissing and playing with another man or woman ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I de attach from it. Meets and fun to me are about making friends and enjoying the experiences we all share. If feelings develop then you may need to question, if what your doing is right for you. Also helps me that people have told me i can be an emotionless wreck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to set your boundaries, and both of you to be on the same page.

Im a sensitive little soul, i care about people a lot. But, as friends though. Just because i want to fuck your lights out doesn't mean i wouldnt care about you or be sensitive around you.

..if i realise im developing feelings or so forth, i would end it. Well, only if the feeling is not mutual.

However, the heart is a delicate piece of flesh. So, you will have to see what works for you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you are not, my fwb and I spend weekends together and don't see it as anything more than friends with benefits

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I kiss n snuggle with meets, I certainly don't have any loving feelings towards them. I have met them several times too.. My feelings never get in the way of my lifestyle here on fab!"

I've been seeing some of mine for six years and haven't fallen for them. I like having them around but as soon as I've finished with them and they're in the shower I'm thinking what to cook for tea and how much longer are they going to be in the bathroom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I kiss n snuggle with meets, I certainly don't have any loving feelings towards them. I have met them several times too.. My feelings never get in the way of my lifestyle here on fab!

I've been seeing some of mine for six years and haven't fallen for them. I like having them around but as soon as I've finished with them and they're in the shower I'm thinking what to cook for tea and how much longer are they going to be in the bathroom! "

I hear you. I guess It's about having the right mindset while on here. Knowing exactly what it is you want from this site helps!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I kiss n snuggle with meets, I certainly don't have any loving feelings towards them. I have met them several times too.. My feelings never get in the way of my lifestyle here on fab!

I've been seeing some of mine for six years and haven't fallen for them. I like having them around but as soon as I've finished with them and they're in the shower I'm thinking what to cook for tea and how much longer are they going to be in the bathroom!

I hear you. I guess It's about having the right mindset while on here. Knowing exactly what it is you want from this site helps!"

I know what id like

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers guys and gals.

We meet up again this weekend and was diffrent than last time still had fun but not as much. So maybe it was just a bit of lust as been single since feb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers guys and gals.

We meet up again this weekend and was diffrent than last time still had fun but not as much. So maybe it was just a bit of lust as been single since feb.

"

Yes lust often confused with feelings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

defo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings can develop, I think it's only natural. It has happened to me a few times, I've always find talking to that person helps and putting your cards on the table.....it can be awkward and yiu get hurt sometimes but better in the long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 'feelings' for several Fab members I've met! Obviously there's my FB - we're great friends, but know it won't ever be anything more - but that doesn't stop us having feelings of any kind!

There's also several people I consider friends that I've met a fair few times. No 'feelings' in the lovey dovey sense, but I do have a coonection with them.

And then there's plenty i'd love to have feelings for!

Sorry - typo - I mean i'd love to feel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I use the word feelings..I gotta put it in parenthesis so I don't catch any.

I can get them but it takes fucking ages and I'm not the best at expressing them.

I just kinda go "here's some flowers and put some clothes on..we're going out".

Im quite unspontaneous in a spontaneous sort of way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't fathom why people want to avoid them

I like knowing Im not dead on the inside even though on the outside I have this look that says I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst Im on it .. I have to have some kind of ' feeling' or I wouldn't have sex with them

There has to be that spark and the excitement and lust

Im going now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 'feelings' for several Fab members I've met! Obviously there's my FB - we're great friends, but know it won't ever be anything more - but that doesn't stop us having feelings of any kind!

There's also several people I consider friends that I've met a fair few times. No 'feelings' in the lovey dovey sense, but I do have a coonection with them.

And then there's plenty i'd love to have feelings for!

Sorry - typo - I mean i'd love to feel! "

Aww so I shouldn't mention the love notes you leave me in my inbox every morning

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

There are a few people i lust over ...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

im along time dead and if feelings occur they occur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few people i lust over ... "

Me too

I like lust - even better if they lust you back though I don't like being given restraining orders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made some very good friends through swinging, some of whom have become real life friends too. I care about them as a friend, but there is a line I do not cross and im very good at keeping feelings seperate from fun.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Only one guy sees the real me, he's a very good friend and I've known him over seven years, but I think its only the last 18 months he's seen the real me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 'feelings' for several Fab members I've met! Obviously there's my FB - we're great friends, but know it won't ever be anything more - but that doesn't stop us having feelings of any kind!

There's also several people I consider friends that I've met a fair few times. No 'feelings' in the lovey dovey sense, but I do have a coonection with them.

And then there's plenty i'd love to have feelings for!

Sorry - typo - I mean i'd love to feel!

Aww so I shouldn't mention the love notes you leave me in my inbox every morning "

He's leaving you love notes whilst sexting me?! The cheating bastard!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lust is not love ... Love is a very different feeling it never go .. its with you for life .

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over a year ago

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