FabSwingers.com forum: bi sexuality/gay, is it hereditry

By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I truelly believe that you are born with your sexuality although some may not k ow until they are 18+ due to the trauma,and tribulations of the teenage years. Do you think it could run in families? I know this is quite difficult question as sadly people used to have to hide their sexuality, either by getting married or becoming bachelors or spinisters. Two examples I can give. I worked with twins and he was gay and so was she. My ex husband has a gay brother and and a gay nephew (by another brother) and my ex husband is bi sexual. So do you think it can run in families or just a coincidence

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

agree, one is whom one is..

it may be denied, hidden or rejected but it is whom you are..

pretty glad that as a society whilst we are far from 'there' that folk by and large have the freedom to be who they are..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

How do gay men have gay babies?

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Don't know if sexuality is heredity, infertility is.

If your parents were infertile you will not have children.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"How do gay men have gay babies?

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not straight down the line but cousins, aunties, uncles ect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it is more environmental than genetic.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Think it is more environmental than genetic."
interesting, what makes you think that

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"How do gay men have gay babies?

not straight down the line but cousins, aunties, uncles ect"

Heredity is the passing of traits from parent to child. I think you're talking about genetics. In that case, we are looking at evolution, as genetics are changed over the generations. In which case homophobes are going to have some real problems in a couple more generations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of people being more open these days and that it is more freely expressed.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Think it is more environmental than genetic."

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

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By *allDarkFoxForYouMan
over a year ago

Winchester/London

I agree that you're born with your sexuality and that it may take time to emerge for various reasons including being prepared to activate those feelings/religious guilt.

Via the genetics it is more likely to run in certain family lines also

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"How do gay men have gay babies?

not straight down the line but cousins, aunties, uncles ect

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yes guess I did mean genetics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc.."

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Because of people being more open these days and that it is more freely expressed."
but do you not think that they where born with their sexuality even if they had to surpress it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because of people being more open these days and that it is more freely expressed.but do you not think that they where born with their sexuality even if they had to surpress it"

Guess we are all born with may things, not all things stay hidden though.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I agree that you're born with your sexuality and that it may take time to emerge for various reasons including being prepared to activate those feelings/religious guilt.

Via the genetics it is more likely to run in certain family lines also

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so you would agree that in some families it could be genetics

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's a difficult concept as much can also be about nurture and life experiences.

There was some research ages ago about testosterone levels during pregnancy. We're all exposed to them but sometimes more is released by some women at critical points in the pregnancy. Whether there is a genetic link to that or not I can't remember.

I think we're all on a continuum with people at either extreme. Many of us will swim along happily in the middle and only realise a curiosity or act on this when placed in the right environment.

I haven't noticed gay parents ending up with gay children and I have seen enough children born to gay parents now for them to have reached adulthood.

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By *adyH and GrissomCouple
over a year ago

Llantarnum

Couldn't say whether it's due to genetics but I'm bisexual and have one gay son and one straight one.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection."

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw.."

It has to do with the genes surely?

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I e just had a pm from someone and out of three siblings two are gay and one big sexual

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By *allDarkFoxForYouMan
over a year ago

Winchester/London

"I agree that you're born with your sexuality and that it may take time to emerge for various reasons including being prepared to activate those feelings/religious guilt.

Via the genetics it is more likely to run in certain family lines also

so you would agree that in some families it could be genetics"

Absolutely it could but the genetic doesn't always follow suit such as a family where three generations have a certain cancer as genetics skip generations at times

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By *allDarkFoxForYouMan
over a year ago

Winchester/London

"I e just had a pm from someone and out of three siblings two are gay and one big sexual"

" Big sexual " erm a huge member ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Though have twins in my family one is gay the other straight?

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By *iamondsmiles. OP Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I e just had a pm from someone and out of three siblings two are gay and one big sexual

" Big sexual " erm a huge member ?

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lol, these bloody tablets

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw..

It has to do with the genes surely?"

Not sure tbh, does genetics define different aspects of sexuality ?

thought it was more medical conditions ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw..

It has to do with the genes surely?

Not sure tbh, does genetics define different aspects of sexuality ?

thought it was more medical conditions ?

Human sexuality is driven by genetics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I heard you could catch it off a toilet seat.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw..

It has to do with the genes surely?

Not sure tbh, does genetics define different aspects of sexuality ?

thought it was more medical conditions ?

Human sexuality is driven by genetics"

thanks, not something if being honest I have given too much thought to..

folk are folk..

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

"I agree that you're born with your sexuality and that it may take time to emerge for various reasons including being prepared to activate those feelings/religious guilt.

Via the genetics it is more likely to run in certain family lines also

so you would agree that in some families it could be genetics"

I suspect it is much more complex. I think few people are 100% straight or 100% Gay. I think as born we are on a bell shaped graph, lip on one side 100% one way, the lip on the other side 100% the other. Majority of people somewhere in the middle.

Then other factors come into play. The sex of someone that first aroused us, or gave us our first climax (this often 'imprints' and could be high heels or sheer under garments or seeing someone pee.. etc.). Society's attitudes and name calling in schools for example. Or even just having sex with your own sex and finding you like it, possibly as much as or more so than with the opposite sex.

Complex area, good that we have the freedom to be who we are, unlike our parents or grandparents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw..

It has to do with the genes surely?

Not sure tbh, does genetics define different aspects of sexuality ?

thought it was more medical conditions ?

Human sexuality is driven by genetics

thanks, not something if being honest I have given too much thought to..

folk are folk.."

Do we ever think about things we do not understand? or can accept?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw..

It has to do with the genes surely?

Not sure tbh, does genetics define different aspects of sexuality ?

thought it was more medical conditions ?

Human sexuality is driven by genetics

thanks, not something if being honest I have given too much thought to..

folk are folk..

Do we ever think about things we do not understand? or can accept?"

True, as well as things we do understand but may change or improve..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think it is more environmental than genetic.

so how does that explain when a person realises they are gay in a 'nuclear family' (think that's the term)..

str8 Mum n Dad, same for both sets of Grandparents..

extended family and siblings etc..

Hard to explain unless scientist find a connection.

but is science the right means of finding out..

its not after all something 'wrong', just different..

not intimating you are saying that btw..

It has to do with the genes surely?

Not sure tbh, does genetics define different aspects of sexuality ?

thought it was more medical conditions ?

Human sexuality is driven by genetics

thanks, not something if being honest I have given too much thought to..

folk are folk..

Do we ever think about things we do not understand? or can accept?

True, as well as things we do understand but may change or improve..

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

People used to think homosexuality was a medical condition and could be cured!

I wonder how many things that are generally believed today will seem just as ridiculous in the future?

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By *picenicelyCouple
over a year ago

third star on the right

There was a tv programme made by John Barrowman that I remember watching where he had genetic tests and brain tests in an effort to determine if it was nature or nurture.

Very interesting and definitely worth a look

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting- neighbours have 2 kids and both are gay, don't think it has much to do with upbringing as the father is a very blokie bloke- motor bike riding tradesman type geezer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son is gay and as far as i am aware he is the only one in the family on both sides of the family. I knew he was going to be gay from a very early age so when he came out at the age of 14 it was no surprise to us.

It has it's up's because he knows how to dress well and often tells me and his sister what goes well together and what dosn't...

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People used to think homosexuality was a medical condition and could be cured!

I wonder how many things that are generally believed today will seem just as ridiculous in the future?"

Ha that made me laugh and remember a classic quote from my nan 20 years ago. We were visiting my grandad in hospital and the nurse happened to be my gay friends boyfriend. Nan said "it's such a shame, he can't help it!"

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