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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I see this happening more and more, on the news, in my local area, some parents don't seem bothered what their kids are up to, one couple near me regularly go to the pub and let their 14 year old sort out his younger brothers and sisters, toddlers up til all hours, especially in the hot weather.

Or is it just me, am I imagining it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its shocking quite frankly,, round here there was a case of a toddler of just 20 months walking the streets alone just after midnight.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Older ones left in charge while parents are out all day and night, houses like pigstys, kids not going to school. Plus they always seem to havecaload of kids not just one or two

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Older ones left in charge while parents are out all day and night, houses like pigstys, kids not going to school. Plus they always seem to havecaload of kids not just one or two"
I haven't been in their house, but I can't see how the kids would get enough sleep to concentrate properly at school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its shocking i leave the lads to fend for themself now but at 16 they can....normally do stuff for them to micro or pizza for food.....but i dont even have them care for the hobbit who is 8 i make prior arrangements with the ex i dont think they should have the responsibility put on them if they do look after her ive only popped out.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I was thinking about this recently. I think it is indicative of the level of self-absorbed society we see now. Parents that assume that it is the role of school to teach their children everything from going to the toilet to how to cook as well as the reading, writing and arithmetic.

However, my family was poor. We couldn't afford childcare and at 5 I was left to look after my 3 year old sister, walk to school on my own and do housework. My parents were out working.

Getting the balance between looking after and teaching independence can be difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was thinking about this recently. I think it is indicative of the level of self-absorbed society we see now. Parents that assume that it is the role of school to teach their children everything from going to the toilet to how to cook as well as the reading, writing and arithmetic.

However, my family was poor. We couldn't afford childcare and at 5 I was left to look after my 3 year old sister, walk to school on my own and do housework. My parents were out working.

Getting the balance between looking after and teaching independence can be difficult."

This is why i dont do it my parents worked and as one of the older ones of 7 we used to have to do housework and prepare meals at a young age also drop the younger ones off with a neighbour who did child care before school.

We used to then pick them up and bring them home for my mother getting in.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I think it is indicative of how society has changed. Some people are more self indulgent and seem to think that what most of see as our responsibility, is somebody else's. They are always looking for somebody else to blame.

The hot weather may contribute to the increase in it because kids will be playing out more. But, its the supervision of them playing out that is lacking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always put my kids first and even now older I still do it ... I could never have just left them without the right care .. my mum or a very close friend of the family I trust.. How can a 14 year old look after a young child no way .. and its not right in this day and age all sorts go on ... and you just never know . I think some see 14 a age they can cope .... Well 9/10 they live on the net or texting their mates and other things on there mind ...

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


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The hot weather may contribute to the increase in it because kids will be playing out more. But, its the supervision of them playing out that is lacking. "
I see this all of the time, a local policeman knocked a door at the top of my street as the kids were playing footie in the road, causing problems with traffic and obviously were oblivious to the dangers....he suggested she take them to the parks, of which there are two locally, she said that if they were to go to the park she would have to take them and she was watching her favourite programme.

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

We had a meet planned at a local club once with some one who asked if we could pick them up we got to their house and were greeted by 6 kids ranging from 15 down to 3 the eldest child had learning difficulties so the 13 year old was looking after all the other kids we made our excuses and left however we bumped into them an hour later in the club as they had got a cab surely this is proof of self absorbed parents who put their kids last

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I have always put my kids first and even now older I still do it ... I could never have just left them without the right care .. my mum or a very close friend of the family I trust.. How can a 14 year old look after a young child no way .. and its not right in this day and age all sorts go on ... and you just never know . I think some see 14 a age they can cope .... Well 9/10 they live on the net or texting their mates and other things on there mind ... "

I had a job at 14 and was certainly mature enough to look after others. I know some young people I wouldn't have a problem trusting them with their siblings and others that I couldn't trust to cross the road on their own. It's the balance of teaching independence and responsibility with the care and protection.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I have always put my kids first and even now older I still do it ... I could never have just left them without the right care .. my mum or a very close friend of the family I trust.. How can a 14 year old look after a young child no way .. and its not right in this day and age all sorts go on ... and you just never know . I think some see 14 a age they can cope .... BWell 9/10 they live on the net or texting their mates and other things on there mind ...

I had a job at 14 and was certainly mature enough to look after others. I know some young people I wouldn't have a problem trusting them with their siblings and others that I couldn't trust to cross the road on their own. It's the balance of teaching independence and responsibility with the care and protection."
but I bet you all got to school and your house was tidy. Think this is more about kids just being completely neglected, running wild, getting into trouble, living in filthy housing

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I have always put my kids first and even now older I still do it ... I could never have just left them without the right care .. my mum or a very close friend of the family I trust.. How can a 14 year old look after a young child no way .. and its not right in this day and age all sorts go on ... and you just never know . I think some see 14 a age they can cope .... BWell 9/10 they live on the net or texting their mates and other things on there mind ...

I had a job at 14 and was certainly mature enough to look after others. I know some young people I wouldn't have a problem trusting them with their siblings and others that I couldn't trust to cross the road on their own. It's the balance of teaching independence and responsibility with the care and protection.but I bet you all got to school and your house was tidy. Think this is more about kids just being completely neglected, running wild, getting into trouble, living in filthy housing"
The eldest lad is well known to the local police.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I have always put my kids first and even now older I still do it ... I could never have just left them without the right care .. my mum or a very close friend of the family I trust.. How can a 14 year old look after a young child no way .. and its not right in this day and age all sorts go on ... and you just never know . I think some see 14 a age they can cope .... BWell 9/10 they live on the net or texting their mates and other things on there mind ...

I had a job at 14 and was certainly mature enough to look after others. I know some young people I wouldn't have a problem trusting them with their siblings and others that I couldn't trust to cross the road on their own. It's the balance of teaching independence and responsibility with the care and protection.but I bet you all got to school and your house was tidy. Think this is more about kids just being completely neglected, running wild, getting into trouble, living in filthy housing"

The house was clean and tidy because that was our job. But yes, I know the difference you mean. I enjoyed school not just for the learning but because it got me away from home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always put my kids first and even now older I still do it ... I could never have just left them without the right care .. my mum or a very close friend of the family I trust.. How can a 14 year old look after a young child no way .. and its not right in this day and age all sorts go on ... and you just never know . I think some see 14 a age they can cope .... Well 9/10 they live on the net or texting their mates and other things on there mind ...

I had a job at 14 and was certainly mature enough to look after others. I know some young people I wouldn't have a problem trusting them with their siblings and others that I couldn't trust to cross the road on their own. It's the balance of teaching independence and responsibility with the care and protection."

Same here mom was a nurse and dad worked over seas a lot when I was growing up I have a sister a couple of years older who used to look after me after school. Also a lot of girls when I was growing up used to do babysitter to earn a few quid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always looked after my younger sister while my parents went out. I cooked and cleaned and I was never late for school.

I think it's always happened just sometimes you get a bad family.

if I didn't leave my kids looking after themselves at times I would never ever leave my house socially. However I have a others local that are on call. And it depends if my youngest is at home.. as I know my older ones collectively are all okay at watching for each other in the evenings.

it works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always put my kids first and even now older I still do it ... I could never have just left them without the right care .. my mum or a very close friend of the family I trust.. How can a 14 year old look after a young child no way .. and its not right in this day and age all sorts go on ... and you just never know . I think some see 14 a age they can cope .... Well 9/10 they live on the net or texting their mates and other things on there mind ...

I had a job at 14 and was certainly mature enough to look after others. I know some young people I wouldn't have a problem trusting them with their siblings and others that I couldn't trust to cross the road on their own. It's the balance of teaching independence and responsibility with the care and protection."
Most 14 year olds I know live on their laptops and phones playing games and chatting to friends and little time for others .. As at school and see there time as there own ... I know young people are not all the same and you can get some very grown up 14 year old as had too be independence and responsible ... I maybe was lucky when my children was small as had my mum and family around and family friends in my village .

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Their devices are usually Playstations or X boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see this happening more and more, on the news, in my local area, some parents don't seem bothered what their kids are up to, one couple near me regularly go to the pub and let their 14 year old sort out his younger brothers and sisters, toddlers up til all hours, especially in the hot weather.

Or is it just me, am I imagining it? "

I don't think it's anything new, I think that maybe you (and me and the rest of us) have reached an age that you notice and judge such behaviour. I remember growing up and talking to friends who were put in this 'predicament' but who have grown up to be well rounded, even successful criminals .. sorry I mean businessmen and women.

Judging when to give your children the space they need to grow and to become independent is a minefield ... my 12 year old son is extremely sensible and responsible, whereas my 17 yo and 11 yo son's are not. Middle child syndrome?.

We nearly paid the ultimate price for an error in this judgement when my ex wife let the youngest go to the shop, when he was 9, with a friend and he was knocked over ... lesson learned albeit too late.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"Its shocking i leave the lads to fend for themself now but at 16 they can....normally do stuff for them to micro or pizza for food.....but i dont even have them care for the hobbit who is 8 i make prior arrangements with the ex i dont think they should have the responsibility put on them if they do look after her ive only popped out."

Love your responsible parenting..and love it even more you call the small one the hobbit! I laughed out loud ..xx

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

There is no legal age requirement for babysitting only guidelines from various organisations.

The government recommends 14 and over for baby sitting.

NSPCC says 16 and over.

However both say the parent will be prosecuted if anything bad happens.

The rest of Europe thinks we are fucking idiots and the age should be way higher.

I think you have to use your own judgement on that particular 14 year old as some can be virtually cabbages and some are more sensible and responsible than a lot of adults I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a woman who does this and her teen that watches the others is constantly on their laptop, where as my younger sister who is now 15 is the most mature teen I know! I would trust her over my friends (ranging 21-30) to watch my 2yo. If shes visiting/or see us its phone down, laptop away and full focus on her nephew which sorta shows some have the capability to do it but they just wont. Iv left me 2yo for but half hours and when I get back they are both relaxing watching tv - hes even said her name and no one elses so shows he loves her haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did babysitting work at 13.. Can they not do this anymore?

It was legal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its shocking i leave the lads to fend for themself now but at 16 they can....normally do stuff for them to micro or pizza for food.....but i dont even have them care for the hobbit who is 8 i make prior arrangements with the ex i dont think they should have the responsibility put on them if they do look after her ive only popped out.

Love your responsible parenting..and love it even more you call the small one the hobbit! I laughed out loud ..xx "

Lol thats her nickname even my mother calls her it now...she calls herself it and she calls the boys the brothers like some gangster princess

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