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"And this is News to you?? " Well you can only go by your own behaviour. I'd be attracted to her face,tastes and interests and figure to some degree which would shine through on either site presuming the lady had facial pics on fabs and a body pic on the dating site | |||
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"You see a person can be shaggable but not dateable...you can have a physical spark but not that spark that you think I can date that person...takes a lot for me to get that spark its almost like I have become cautious...." I hear what you're saying and I guess it's different for each and every person. I'd only meet a lady on fabs that I felt I'd want to meet were it a date and that takes into account a lady from a couple in an instance where that could never happen. | |||
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"You see a person can be shaggable but not dateable...you can have a physical spark but not that spark that you think I can date that person...takes a lot for me to get that spark its almost like I have become cautious.... I hear what you're saying and I guess it's different for each and every person. I'd only meet a lady on fabs that I felt I'd want to meet were it a date and that takes into account a lady from a couple in an instance where that could never happen." lol don't listen to me....lol. I have been a bit meh about dating recently lol | |||
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"Guys will use a dating site even if they really just want sex tho and perhaps her dating profile dint say 'will get laid' on it lol" That's true and it didn't. | |||
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"Something I don't fortunately have an issue with not being on a dating site but more importantly I feel for women who experience this as it is something I have never encountered and wouldn't wish to." Men can experience this too. | |||
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"It is shit being told yeah great shag but I would not date you...lol " Again without sounding bloody awful I really don't understand why some women do! As in entertain the idiots that treat them like that and get away with it | |||
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"Something I don't fortunately have an issue with not being on a dating site but more importantly I feel for women who experience this as it is something I have never encountered and wouldn't wish to. Men can experience this too. " Either way it is degrading imo. | |||
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"You see a person can be shaggable but not dateable...you can have a physical spark but not that spark that you think I can date that person...takes a lot for me to get that spark its almost like I have become cautious...." no i agree the physical attraction may be there but not the mental connection isnt | |||
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"Something I don't fortunately have an issue with not being on a dating site but more importantly I feel for women who experience this as it is something I have never encountered and wouldn't wish to. Men can experience this too. Either way it is degrading imo." Yes, it is. I postulated a while back that there is a certain amount of 'sexual objectification' which can occur in swinging, which I don't think is necessarily compatible with the ideals of dating and relationships. | |||
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"It is shit being told yeah great shag but I would not date you...lol Again without sounding bloody awful I really don't understand why some women do! As in entertain the idiots that treat them like that and get away with it " It's promise the world syndrome you get sucked in then they get what they want and fuck you off... | |||
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"Priorities on a site like this differ from those you'd see on a dating site (mostly). This goes for both men and women. I've known women that were physically stunning and that i'd happily have sex with, but would never dream of dating. Not because i wouldn't want to be seen out with them, but rather they weren't they type of people i'd want to date. It happens vice versa too, some men even use it to their advantage, knowing they aren't dating material for some women, but they'd happily be ridden to orgasm. As with all things, as long as people are honest with themselves (most of all) and with the people they are contacting, then i don't see the issue. And the above isn't anything to do with standards per say, but rather the seperation of the physical aspect of sex, and the emotional aspect of dating." That's a well scribed piece. I guess I need the emotions present with the physical otherwise it's a trifle empty as an experience for myself. I know that with swinging this may be a minority view but we're all different regarding what we desire. | |||
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"Something I don't fortunately have an issue with not being on a dating site but more importantly I feel for women who experience this as it is something I have never encountered and wouldn't wish to. Men can experience this too. Either way it is degrading imo. Yes, it is. I postulated a while back that there is a certain amount of 'sexual objectification' which can occur in swinging, which I don't think is necessarily compatible with the ideals of dating and relationships. " From an outsider looking in I can only view it as sexual gratification where the meaning of such is not understood by both parties coherently. | |||
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"Priorities on a site like this differ from those you'd see on a dating site (mostly). This goes for both men and women. I've known women that were physically stunning and that i'd happily have sex with, but would never dream of dating. Not because i wouldn't want to be seen out with them, but rather they weren't they type of people i'd want to date. It happens vice versa too, some men even use it to their advantage, knowing they aren't dating material for some women, but they'd happily be ridden to orgasm. As with all things, as long as people are honest with themselves (most of all) and with the people they are contacting, then i don't see the issue. And the above isn't anything to do with standards per say, but rather the seperation of the physical aspect of sex, and the emotional aspect of dating. That's a well scribed piece. I guess I need the emotions present with the physical otherwise it's a trifle empty as an experience for myself. I know that with swinging this may be a minority view but we're all different regarding what we desire. " I hear ya, and totally understand. Thankfully, most people on sites like this do a great job of explaining that physical to emotional balance that they crave when it comes to sex and their desires. | |||
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"The dating/swinging/emotional/physical dynamic has been something which I've given a lot of consideration to - and is the core reason why I'm not meeting. I know the answer to my predicament - but I also know Id drop this lifestyle choice in a heartbeat if it meant I could be with 'the one'. Hopefully though, she'd want this too " I would imagine that a high percentage of single people on fabs would drop the swinging lifestyle for " the one " I certainly would | |||
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"It is shit being told yeah great shag but I would not date you...lol Again without sounding bloody awful I really don't understand why some women do! As in entertain the idiots that treat them like that and get away with it It's promise the world syndrome you get sucked in then they get what they want and fuck you off..." I am not sure what to say in response and have been pondering because it just isn't something I can understand. So for once I am lost for words! | |||
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"The dating/swinging/emotional/physical dynamic has been something which I've given a lot of consideration to - and is the core reason why I'm not meeting. I know the answer to my predicament - but I also know Id drop this lifestyle choice in a heartbeat if it meant I could be with 'the one'. Hopefully though, she'd want this too I would imagine that a high percentage of single people on fabs would drop the swinging lifestyle for " the one " I certainly would" I have encountered this a few times and not being single it certainly has not worked as I think people forget that if you want a long term relationship go out or yes on dating sites where people are looking for a soul mate but imo it rarely works on here. | |||
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"The dating/swinging/emotional/physical dynamic has been something which I've given a lot of consideration to - and is the core reason why I'm not meeting. I know the answer to my predicament - but I also know Id drop this lifestyle choice in a heartbeat if it meant I could be with 'the one'. Hopefully though, she'd want this too I would imagine that a high percentage of single people on fabs would drop the swinging lifestyle for " the one " I certainly would" Maybe. But i also imagine most won't look for "the one" on here. At least, not with a view to a long term relationship. It can (and has happened) for some, but those tend to be exceptions to the rule, rather than the norm. The moment emotions enter the equation, it can and usually gets messy. | |||
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"It is shit being told yeah great shag but I would not date you...lol Again without sounding bloody awful I really don't understand why some women do! As in entertain the idiots that treat them like that and get away with it It's promise the world syndrome you get sucked in then they get what they want and fuck you off... I am not sure what to say in response and have been pondering because it just isn't something I can understand. So for once I am lost for words! " Lol been here a few times....now I ain't so bloody stupid | |||
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"The dating/swinging/emotional/physical dynamic has been something which I've given a lot of consideration to - and is the core reason why I'm not meeting. I know the answer to my predicament - but I also know Id drop this lifestyle choice in a heartbeat if it meant I could be with 'the one'. Hopefully though, she'd want this too I would imagine that a high percentage of single people on fabs would drop the swinging lifestyle for " the one " I certainly would Maybe. But i also imagine most won't look for "the one" on here. At least, not with a view to a long term relationship. It can (and has happened) for some, but those tend to be exceptions to the rule, rather than the norm. The moment emotions enter the equation, it can and usually gets messy." I agree that fabs isn't the most prudent source of seeking for " the one " and imagine many single folk use fabs as a sexual stop gap until their desired partner emerges in other circumstance | |||
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"It is shit being told yeah great shag but I would not date you...lol Again without sounding bloody awful I really don't understand why some women do! As in entertain the idiots that treat them like that and get away with it It's promise the world syndrome you get sucked in then they get what they want and fuck you off... I am not sure what to say in response and have been pondering because it just isn't something I can understand. So for once I am lost for words! Lol been here a few times....now I ain't so bloody stupid " Have a hug then just for the sake of it | |||
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"It is shit being told yeah great shag but I would not date you...lol Again without sounding bloody awful I really don't understand why some women do! As in entertain the idiots that treat them like that and get away with it It's promise the world syndrome you get sucked in then they get what they want and fuck you off... I am not sure what to say in response and have been pondering because it just isn't something I can understand. So for once I am lost for words! Lol been here a few times....now I ain't so bloody stupid Have a hug then just for the sake of it " Lol cheers me Julie | |||
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"The dating/swinging/emotional/physical dynamic has been something which I've given a lot of consideration to - and is the core reason why I'm not meeting. I know the answer to my predicament - but I also know Id drop this lifestyle choice in a heartbeat if it meant I could be with 'the one'. Hopefully though, she'd want this too I would imagine that a high percentage of single people on fabs would drop the swinging lifestyle for " the one " I certainly would Maybe. But i also imagine most won't look for "the one" on here. At least, not with a view to a long term relationship. It can (and has happened) for some, but those tend to be exceptions to the rule, rather than the norm. The moment emotions enter the equation, it can and usually gets messy. I agree that fabs isn't the most prudent source of seeking for " the one " and imagine many single folk use fabs as a sexual stop gap until their desired partner emerges in other circumstance" Well I will say that Im not using this site to find 'The One'! In fact I'm not using any site. Going old-school! | |||
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"You see a person can be shaggable but not dateable...you can have a physical spark but not that spark that you think I can date that person...takes a lot for me to get that spark its almost like I have become cautious...." What she said | |||
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"ive never shagged a guy first that i wanted to date. if i wanted to date them i wouldnt be shagging them straigh away. if someone is going to give them what they want who can blame them" | |||
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"The dating/swinging/emotional/physical dynamic has been something which I've given a lot of consideration to - and is the core reason why I'm not meeting. I know the answer to my predicament - but I also know Id drop this lifestyle choice in a heartbeat if it meant I could be with 'the one'. Hopefully though, she'd want this too I would imagine that a high percentage of single people on fabs would drop the swinging lifestyle for " the one " I certainly would" I've seen a good few profiles (male and female) either stating that or strongly hinting at it...I'm not on dating websites because I've no desire for any sort of relationship, especially if I felt I had to give up shagging who I like, when I like; I certainly wouldn't give up swinging were I to stumble over "the one" if such a person exists | |||
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"The two aren't mutually exclusive are they? I have shagged guys I wouldn't wish to date in a million years, but I have been lucky to find a guy I love dating and shagging! " me too - aint life grand | |||
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"ive never shagged a guy first that i wanted to date. if i wanted to date them i wouldnt be shagging them straigh away. if someone is going to give them what they want who can blame them" So what happens if you find you are not sexually compatible? | |||
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"ive never shagged a guy first that i wanted to date. if i wanted to date them i wouldnt be shagging them straigh away. if someone is going to give them what they want who can blame them So what happens if you find you are not sexually compatible?" Then I assume you'd go and date someone else! | |||
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