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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you word your profile to show what you are looking for?

We put what we want but still get messages off people who don't fit the type.

We posted a meet today for a muscular male for outdoor fun.I don't know if our idea of muscular is the same as theirs but it keeps happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly in the way i have!

And if people choose to ignore that - then it should come as no surprise to them when they get no reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will always chance their arm. Nature of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think mine is worded and reflects who I would most like to meet

If I ask for Gerard Butler I may get him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

think we may have to be a bit more brutal.dont want to appear like some profiles that are like a riot act though.

we used to reply saying no thanks you are not what we are looking for.

just started to ignore them now.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nominees to get brutal. People chance their arm on here that's what they do!!

I put not meeting in my profile and still get messages asking for meets even from peopleiI have met because and have explained the situation to.

Don't see the point in getting worked up about it as the only persons experience you are ruining is your own. They don't care, one more rejection is just one more to them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

No need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"think we may have to be a bit more brutal.dont want to appear like some profiles that are like a riot act though.

we used to reply saying no thanks you are not what we are looking for.

just started to ignore them now."

Ignoring isn't brutal.

And if they've not bothered to read your requirements and make sure they match them - not rude either!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

re worded profile to see if that changes anything.

you would think finding a man on this site would be easy hahah

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

You will always get non-readers or those that chance it, seems fair enough to ignore if that is the case. And you will always get those that whinge when ignored!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

1st one blocked already lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've recently changed my wording, as it was starting to get a bit stale, has it made any difference? Hell no!

So, yes the easiest is to just ignore the chancers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use message filters, it prevents most people who are not my type from messaging me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?"

Why would she do that? Oh I know.... she doesnt know what shes missing until she try it!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?"

Why? They like muscular men.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?"

We are all allowed our personal preferences surely. 'shallow' on a swingers site, who would have thought it! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You put exactly what you want on it,of people choose to ignore it then you can choose to ignore them

Having a profile that reads like a riot act will make no difference to people that don't read them anyway so its pointless

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

"

Maybe they aren't desperate enough to have sex with someone they don't want to?

Just a wild stab in the dark.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Mine works perfectly. Not a single shot putter has bothered me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?"

This is a couple who looks like they enjoy the gym and look after their bodies to keep them in shape. Why would they settle for anything less than what they want?

You could always try going to the gym to buff up a bit but that would require a bit off effort on your behalf thus probably too much to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to me and all

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Nominees to get brutal. People chance their arm on here that's what they do!!

I put not meeting in my profile and still get messages asking for meets even from peopleiI have met because and have explained the situation to.

Don't see the point in getting worked up about it as the only persons experience you are ruining is your own. They don't care, one more rejection is just one more to them. "

This!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Mine works perfectly. Not a single shot putter has bothered me. "

...yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just won't read, or will try anyway.

I've had a few today wanting to take me out etc.. and treat me before going outside somewhere.

If they had read my profile they would know I don't do that.

Oh and the amount of men that try to ignore my age range.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I know I'm not every ones cup of tea but if I saw someone looking for 'muscular' I'm hardly gonna chance it. I did see one couple asking for a black guy and I messaged and said I was tanned and they said no, it wasn't good enough. It was just my duff sense of humour though. I always chance the 'vwe required', 'repeater and stamina', and the 'breathe through your ears' ones though.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Mine works perfectly. Not a single shot putter has bothered me. "

I know you're not meeting guys and cant accommodate but do you fancy meeting up at yours?

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"Mine works perfectly. Not a single shot putter has bothered me.

I know you're not meeting guys and cant accommodate but do you fancy meeting up at yours? "

Lol

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Mine works perfectly. Not a single shot putter has bothered me.

I know you're not meeting guys and cant accommodate but do you fancy meeting up at yours? "

I said shot putter not cock gobbler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

Maybe they aren't desperate enough to have sex with someone they don't want to?

Just a wild stab in the dark."
here here

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"re worded profile to see if that changes anything.

you would think finding a man on this site would be easy hahah "

Perhaps YOU should look for men instead of waiting for them to contact you, that way you only chat to people you are looking for! easy!

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you word your profile to show what you are looking for?

We put what we want but still get messages off people who don't fit the type.

We posted a meet today for a muscular male for outdoor fun.I don't know if our idea of muscular is the same as theirs but it keeps happening.

"

Hi guys,

You idea of muscular "could" be different to others.

There are so many types such as:

Rugby build fatty muscular types

Skinny toned muscular types.. and the list goes on.

Be more descriptive.

If they still dont meet your expectations - message them back, just say "sorry you are not what we are looking for" - block and move on so they cant message you again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider myself muscley as I'm bigger than the average guy, bicep wise etc. But at the moment I'm not working out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why people sit and wait for people to mail them and then complain that they aren't suitable. Go looking for what you want.

Mine says sod all about what I'm looking for and sod all about me. And I get exactly what I want!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"People will always chance their arm. Nature of the site."

Not just here, but life in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"re worded profile to see if that changes anything.

you would think finding a man on this site would be easy hahah

Perhaps YOU should look for men instead of waiting for them to contact you, that way you only chat to people you are looking for! easy! "

Most definitely the best way to go.

Build a a list of acceptable guys, gals or couples - when you need to find someone, you know who to go to first.

It's what the HOTLIST/FRIENDS feature is for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?

This is a couple who looks like they enjoy the gym and look after their bodies to keep them in shape. Why would they settle for anything less than what they want?

Prick, what exactly do you know about me?

You could always try going to the gym to buff up a bit but that would require a bit off effort on your behalf thus probably too much to ask "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?

This is a couple who looks like they enjoy the gym and look after their bodies to keep them in shape. Why would they settle for anything less than what they want?

Prick, what exactly do you know about me?

You could always try going to the gym to buff up a bit but that would require a bit off effort on your behalf thus probably too much to ask "

Seems I hit a bit of a raw nerve! tongue in cheek mate, hence the smilies. I know sod all about you to be honest, other than a small pic that shows you stood horizontally.

Just don't see why you would think they are shallow for having certain requirements with regards to the type of people they would like to meet, and why they should lower their standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was very careful in the way I wrote my profile to be as specific as possible in what I'm looking for, but still get mails from single males telling me they can suck cock better than any woman, aswell as winks and friends invites from folks who didn't bother reading the very first line.

With regards to your single male requirements, have you tried posting a thread specifying that you're looking for muscular guys for outdoor sex? At least there's a chance you could get all you applicants in one places, and then choose the ones you like best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or try having sex with someone who is not muscular.

A bit of a shallow ask?

This is a couple who looks like they enjoy the gym and look after their bodies to keep them in shape. Why would they settle for anything less than what they want?

I just have no sympathy for people moaning about being inundated with people wanting to have sex with the, its like moaning you have too much money.

No raw nerve hit otherwise I wouldn't have a pic of me on here, I took it as a direct insult. If it was in jest then I retract my statement.

Prick, what exactly do you know about me?

You could always try going to the gym to buff up a bit but that would require a bit off effort on your behalf thus probably too much to ask

Seems I hit a bit of a raw nerve! tongue in cheek mate, hence the smilies. I know sod all about you to be honest, other than a small pic that shows you stood horizontally.

Just don't see why you would think they are shallow for having certain requirements with regards to the type of people they would like to meet, and why they should lower their standards? "

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Funny enough I'm very specific in what I'm looking for, and no bugger messages me, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the unexpected.

If it's all upfront..that's kind of boring to me.

I like the "uh..yeah ok".

Or

**delete** Like 10 minutes ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite specific in what I look for in a man on here and that's my choice, but I still get messaged from chancers who don't read.

I have only been rude once and pointed out that an ample 5'6 man from the other end of another country was nowhere near the 6'+ fit local man I was looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well... I'm here for the fun of it, and meeting new people. Yes, I have limits but I don't see why I should have to say that on my profile.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford


"Mine works perfectly. Not a single shot putter has bothered me. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you word your profile to show what you are looking for?

We put what we want but still get messages off people who don't fit the type.

We posted a meet today for a muscular male for outdoor fun.I don't know if our idea of muscular is the same as theirs but it keeps happening.

"

You have fabulous toned bodies and clearly want only the same. Maybe you need to a) underline this more in the ad, and b) take the lead and look for muscular people on other profiles. Some people might assume that "muscular" might just mean "fit", but if you can only get off on other gym bunnies it's more like a fetish and you ought to foreground this.

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