FabSwingers.com forum: men accomodating

By *ancs Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Burnley

Is it me or has the amount of men on here who say they can't accomodate even though single seems to have risen.,and before you slate me,yes I do know and have met some genuine men who for one reason or another cannot accomodate,but just noticed there appears now to be so many more!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm do you have a theory miss marple

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By *ancs Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Burnley

Not at all,just something I have noticed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly down to younger guys flat sharing etc instead of living alone?

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By *ancs Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Burnley

Would agree with you,but mid 40;s

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I tend not to wonder why men can't accommodate (after all, neither can I) but I do tend to filter them out. Bit unfair I know as I prefer hotel meets anyway, but knowing there's somewhere we can meet is a bonus, so men who can accommodate are better for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Middle age guys have children, and unfortunately house share

It's the world we live in now, when relationships go wrong, It's hard to get back on the ladder .

Some of us fall off :0/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So shall we also analyse all the reasons why single women cant accommodate - compare them to the list of reasons why single men cant accommodate and see where the match up?

Because I bet they are more or less identical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a 40 year old single female and can't accommodate when I'm at home in the Mids, as I live with family currently due to working away 5 days a week its a bit pointless paying rent on my own place to use for two nights a week.

For this reason, I tend to just ask people that can't accommodate and not make any assumptions about the reasons. I know not everyone does, but I always try to give everyone a fair chance on here.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"So shall we also analyse all the reasons why single women cant accommodate - compare them to the list of reasons why single men cant accommodate and see where the match up?

Because I bet they are more or less identical.

Even though its the 21st century and people should be considered equal, I think it not entirely unreasonable for a woman to worry about giving her address out to strange men. Which is why I prefer hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So shall we also analyse all the reasons why single women cant accommodate - compare them to the list of reasons why single men cant accommodate and see where the match up?

Because I bet they are more or less identical.

Never worries me and I hate going out, but I do have a very big dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or has the amount of men on here who say they can't accomodate even though single seems to have risen.,and before you slate me,yes I do know and have met some genuine men who for one reason or another cannot accomodate,but just noticed there appears now to be so many more!!"

I'm a single man but as mentioned in the thread I house share. I do get days (like today) where I can accommodate because I'm the only one in. Alas, I've still had no meet though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So shall we also analyse all the reasons why single women cant accommodate - compare them to the list of reasons why single men cant accommodate and see where the match up?

Because I bet they are more or less identical.

The reason I choose not to accommodate is for safety reasons. Especially after having someone's "missus" turning up at the door the night after meeting him, then finding out that she was just a fuck buddy 8 months later when he turned up at my mum's house.

So yeah - I don't accommodate, oh and I also don't really like meeting out of clubs either!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm a single man but as mentioned in the thread I house share. I do get days (like today) where I can accommodate because I'm the only one in. Alas, I've still had no meet though.... "

Those verifications were a good hallucination then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So shall we also analyse all the reasons why single women cant accommodate - compare them to the list of reasons why single men cant accommodate and see where the match up?

Because I bet they are more or less identical.

I totally agree - the same can also be true for guys - I mean it only takes one nutjob!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single man but as mentioned in the thread I house share. I do get days (like today) where I can accommodate because I'm the only one in. Alas, I've still had no meet though....

Those verifications were a good hallucination then?

I meant today sorry haha. Those two verifications funnily enough were not at my place.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

As I prefer to meet at home whether a man could accommodate or not was never an issue until I mentioned to a playmate (whilst in my bed) that our next meet would be at his as my daughter was coming home from uni.

His response was he didn't meet people off the internet in his home, as it wasn't a knocking shop!

After I ejected him unceremoniously from my home I've never allowed anyone into it who can't accommodate. I don't care what the reason is, don't care how hot they are, if I can't visit their home all I'm thinking is theirs is sacrosanct: mine not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I prefer to meet at home whether a man could accommodate or not was never an issue until I mentioned to a playmate (whilst in my bed) that our next meet would be at his as my daughter was coming home from uni.

His response was he didn't meet people off the internet in his home, as it wasn't a knocking shop!

Absolutely.. If I'm not good enough to visit your place, you're sure as hell not coming to mine!

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By *on YonsonMan
over a year ago

London

I can accommodate but just need my meets to be a bit discrete as I'm in shared house - sometimes it's just preferable to not have your flatmates quiz and grill you on people you bring back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at the accomodate or travel bit ever. I wouldn't go to a stranger's house and I wouldn't have them back to mine.

If it said a bloke couldn't accomodate I'd just assume he has his reasons, same as I have mine. None of my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being able to accommodate has never caused me any problems.

Likewise many folk I know. If neither party is able (or willing) to accommodate there's always the options of hotels or clubs - or (controversial I know!!) - move on to another profile/person/couple where there is a chance of getting together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So shall we also analyse all the reasons why single women cant accommodate - compare them to the list of reasons why single men cant accommodate and see where the match up?

Because I bet they are more or less identical.

Hotel meet then?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

His response was he didn't meet people off the internet in his home, as it wasn't a knocking shop!

I've come to this juncture too. Plus the safety issues. I also got fed up with men expecting me to accommodate/assuming that the woman always does.

I do ask men why they can't accommodate. If it feels like they are married and not admitting it then I challenge. I now prefer to meet at clubs but lots of men won't meet in that situation. I'm not desperate enough to change my practice.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

His response was he didn't meet people off the internet in his home, as it wasn't a knocking shop!

I've come to this juncture too. Plus the safety issues. I also got fed up with men expecting me to accommodate/assuming that the woman always does.

Thing is I don't ask. I have it on my profile (when visible) that I only accommodate to those that do too to enable people to exclude themselves.

Those that accommodate I also ask if they accommodate in their bedroom as I've encountered two men who had an old sheet on their lounge floor. Funny, they couldn't understand when I declined to play.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Thing is I don't ask. I have it on my profile (when visible) that I only accommodate to those that do too to enable people to exclude themselves.

Those that accommodate I also ask if they accommodate in their bedroom as I've encountered two men who had an old sheet on their lounge floor. Funny, they couldn't understand when I declined to play.

I gave up with guidance and instruction on my profile a long time ago.

As to the sheet on the floor, they probably thought they were doing a great thing remembering to put a sheet down for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is I don't ask. I have it on my profile (when visible) that I only accommodate to those that do too to enable people to exclude themselves.

Those that accommodate I also ask if they accommodate in their bedroom as I've encountered two men who had an old sheet on their lounge floor. Funny, they couldn't understand when I declined to play.

I gave up with guidance and instruction on my profile a long time ago.

As to the sheet on the floor, they probably thought they were doing a great thing remembering to put a sheet down for you."

A sheet on the floor is considered highly romantic oop north. You southerners are too posh.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

we would just assume they are married/partnered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know for a fact this sight is well know by guys in the forces , so alot are all in barracks or abroad therefor cant accom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a new option on profile saying "hotel meets only " with respect to accommodation

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

I can accom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both my husband & myself have singles accounts and a couples account too .....we say can't accomodate on all three as there isn't an option for "don't want to accomodate" We both prefer club or hotel meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too prefer Hotel meets, plus I house-share. When you're single, no children, there's not a hope in hell of getting housed by councils - and private rent and council tax alone would be £600 plus if I lived in a 1 bed flat on my own.

Also I tend to prefer not to meet people in others homes too. I would rather meet people in a neutral environment. Swingers clubs are amazing for that.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

I wondered how long before this sort of thread comes up again. I house share as im sure most people down in the south know, the house prices/rents are just stupidly high. I could Im not sure how keen a couple would be to come to do a meet at mine if my house mates were there watching football on tv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as above said, expensive and possibly sharing... or hiding something. myself, if i didnt want them at my home I would get a hotel room.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Thing is I don't ask. I have it on my profile (when visible) that I only accommodate to those that do too to enable people to exclude themselves.

Those that accommodate I also ask if they accommodate in their bedroom as I've encountered two men who had an old sheet on their lounge floor. Funny, they couldn't understand when I declined to play.

I gave up with guidance and instruction on my profile a long time ago.

As to the sheet on the floor, they probably thought they were doing a great thing remembering to put a sheet down for you."

What was galling both had been in my home, my bedroom. When they'd finished provided shower, towels, toothbrush, refreshment etc, treated like the welcome guests they were but I get sheet on the floor!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Thing is I don't ask. I have it on my profile (when visible) that I only accommodate to those that do too to enable people to exclude themselves.

Those that accommodate I also ask if they accommodate in their bedroom as I've encountered two men who had an old sheet on their lounge floor. Funny, they couldn't understand when I declined to play.

I gave up with guidance and instruction on my profile a long time ago.

As to the sheet on the floor, they probably thought they were doing a great thing remembering to put a sheet down for you.

A sheet on the floor is considered highly romantic oop north. You southerners are too posh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe a new option on profile saying "hotel meets only " with respect to accommodation "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Both my husband & myself have singles accounts and a couples account too .....we say can't accomodate on all three as there isn't an option for "don't want to accomodate" We both prefer club or hotel meets

What annoys me is when visible my profile states I don't meet in hotels or clubs: ever! I state I only accommodate those that accommodate me. I never search for meets, never ask or expect people to tell me why they can't accommodate: ain't my business, yet some people expect you to make exceptions for them.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"i know for a fact this sight is well know by guys in the forces , so alot are all in barracks or abroad therefor cant accom "

I find this too, esp as I live near a naval base. Doesn't bother me as I like military guys (just maybe shouldn't have married one!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...im sure most people down in the south know, the house prices/rents are just stupidly high... "

God aren't they just, stupidly high. Even the rough areas you wouldn't be seen dead in are stupid prices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Jewel - it is suspicious. There are unfortunately a lot of men who like all the benefits of marriage while acting single.

Mind you, some people on Fab say they can't accommodate and they can't travel. What do they do then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with Jewel - it is suspicious. There are unfortunately a lot of men who like all the benefits of marriage while acting single.

Mind you, some people on Fab say they can't accommodate and they can't travel. What do they do then?"

Mine says that

I travel everywhere though locally ... I assumed it meant for 'out of area' ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I agree with Jewel - it is suspicious. There are unfortunately a lot of men who like all the benefits of marriage while acting single.

Mind you, some people on Fab say they can't accommodate and they can't travel. What do they do then?

Mine says that

I travel everywhere though locally ... I assumed it meant for 'out of area' ?

It means you're not willing or able to travel to a meet anywhere. Most people put it up when they're not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with Jewel - it is suspicious. There are unfortunately a lot of men who like all the benefits of marriage while acting single.

Mind you, some people on Fab say they can't accommodate and they can't travel. What do they do then?

Mine says that

I travel everywhere though locally ... I assumed it meant for 'out of area' ?

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with Jewel - it is suspicious. There are unfortunately a lot of men who like all the benefits of marriage while acting single.

Mind you, some people on Fab say they can't accommodate and they can't travel. What do they do then?"

Mainly from what I have seen the can't travel means they do not drive so have to rely on local transport therefore they only travel locally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single can accommodate or travel would sooner accommodate as i do not have a car, not had one for about 12 years as i work overseas and don't need one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accom but it's rare that I'm about when my housemate isn't. We box and play basketball for the same teams so are both knackered and in the house at the same time. There are loads of blokes playing away on here though so you can see why people get that impression. IF there are as many 'single men' on here as it says there are, I'm leaving the site to go after their 'not wives'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a 40 year old single female and can't accommodate when I'm at home in the Mids, as I live with family currently due to working away 5 days a week its a bit pointless paying rent on my own place to use for two nights a week.

For this reason, I tend to just ask people that can't accommodate and not make any assumptions about the reasons. I know not everyone does, but I always try to give everyone a fair chance on here."

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'll never accom for a few reasons.

I've had a woman turn up on my doorstep, d*unk, a long time after a meet. Shouting, scaring my son, waking my neighbours. This house is my sons home and his future. I won't risk that again.

I've also had one couple here and found that after they'd left a few things went missing. They denied taking anything. Too suspicious for me though and again I won't risk that again.

Harsh lessons but they've led to me having quite strict rules that I just can't afford to break.

Another reason is that I know of one guy (on a different site) that was accused of a serious offence after meeting a lady in his home. Again, my son and his future are my priority. I won't risk that for anything.

I don't care if anyone finds it dodgy that I won't accom. All they have to do is ask but if they wish to judge without having the facts then they're not the kind of prople I'd want to meet anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well put Sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care if anyone finds it dodgy that I won't accom. All they have to do is ask but if they wish to judge without having the facts then they're not the kind of people I'd want to meet anyway."

Well said our couples says we dont accom and never will its our daughters home aswell. If they dont like it just move on and find someone who does accom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't expect anyone to accommodate us and prefer not to go to folks places. We just get a little cross that folk automatically assume when we say as singles we can't accommodate but other halves know and are happy with us meeting, that we're liars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have an empty home.. and a king size bed.. i would love for the right person to come and stay a while

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I don't care if anyone finds it dodgy that I won't accom. All they have to do is ask but if they wish to judge without having the facts then they're not the kind of people I'd want to meet anyway.

Well said our couples says we dont accom and never will its our daughters home aswell. If they dont like it just move on and find someone who does accom

Thank you. Sometimes people look for a conspiracy theory where there isn't any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience it is almost always assumed that I will accommodate even if the men have on their profile that they can.

It is beginning to annoy me now. I don't always want to have them come back to mine because I don't live alone even though its my house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's amazing how much men up this way in there 30s and 40s that flat share. Although in the "real" world I don't know one who does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm between houses after a messy break up and hosting is impossible until I buy a new house.

If people want to make assumptions based on my living situation then I don't really want to meet them. Don't give give a shit how much dick you can take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I'm married with children, I can accomodate, just a case of arranging it, can't do spontaneous meets though.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I'm between houses after a messy break up and hosting is impossible until I buy a new house.

If people want to make assumptions based on my living situation then I don't really want to meet them. Don't give give a shit how much dick you can take

A www, come stay with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's amazing how much men up this way in there 30s and 40s that flat share. Although in the "real" world I don't know one who does

Pretty much everyone I know (in their early 30's) are still flat sharing.

Renting a flat in London is ridiculously high.

I myself am not living on my own because of this very reason.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Why are we all farting round the poo here, we all know it's because they have wives or girlfriends and it wouldn't be convenient or prudent to bring dirty wimmin off the internet back to chez cheatington manor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny, I only explained this to someone today

I have cannot accommodate on !my profile, this is for the simple reason tbhast I have a young son, for me to go out means getting a baby sitter, and its been rare that he stays at his mothers because of her personal problems that I won't discuss.

Things have improved though, and he has had a couple of sleep overs in the last few weeks do hopefully this trend will continue.

However I won't be changing that part of my orofilke any time soon, simply because I still won't be inviting just anyone into my home, only people I have built up a report with, and who I feel I can trust.

Saying I can't accommodate, is slightly misleading, I won't accommodate just anyone before getting to know them, is one off meets, meets without a social meet first.

If its someone I know well and trust, then its the opposite, they can pop in for a cuppa anytime they like, but I don't want to subject my son to a constant parade of women (some chance) that he doesn't know, I've goit to be a dad first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can always accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only time I cannot accomodate is every second weekend when I have my young daughters here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny, I only explained this to someone today

Things have improved though, and he has had a couple of sleep overs in the last few weeks do hopefully this trend will continue.

Saying I can't accommodate, is slightly misleading, I won't accommodate just anyone before getting to know them, is one off meets, meets without a social meet first.

Bollocks. You're cheating mate

(Just kidding)

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