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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a size 18 and I'm fairly self conscious about my size/figure. My husband says he loves me as I am. Anyone else have these issues?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes in very self conscious , constantly up and down with my weight

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By *tuAvrCouple
over a year ago

SOUTHAMPTON

Yep. When I see these buff blokes, I'm like grrr. No one will even look at me, let alone come near me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see a cuddly woman is just more to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone different if your happy bollocks to em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Constantly feel wrong being a size 18 my tummys always been my least favourite area. I know they say everyone's attractive to someone but at times does feel like why would amu guy glance at me when my gorgeous size 8 best friend is there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I try to drop a bit and do a bit of exercise but then we end up snuggling and watching a film and it all goes out of the window. I just hate the idea of going to a club tomorrow and being looked at like I'm a beast

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I'm a size 18 and I'm fairly self conscious about my size/figure. My husband says he loves me as I am. Anyone else have these issues?"

Don't think many women don't have issues about their bodies no matter what size they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep me i class myself as a larger lady yet when people see me or pics they dont.

I am pretty much the hour glass figure but i have my wobbly bits that i feel self concious of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my body, im your classic yo yo dieter, it holds me back on here quite a lot, i've often turn down guys because I don't have the confidance to meet them even tho i'd love to

we all have issues of some form I think

I always say you have to realise not everyone see's you as you see yourself but that's easier said that believed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Constantly feel wrong being a size 18 my tummys always been my least favourite area. I know they say everyone's attractive to someone but at times does feel like why would amu guy glance at me when my gorgeous size 8 best friend is there "

I think that's a common feeling, I have gone to clubs many times and looked at some of the women there and thought...what the f**k are you doing here, whos going to want you!

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Another self conscious lady here. I was a size 6-8 before daughter, size 18-20 after n have varied between 14-20 since. Currently a 16.

Add ex h who made snide comments about weight pretty much as soon as I gave birth...and confidence sinks.

Going ww trying to eat healthy n exercising (mainly swimming) to get to a healthy and sustainable size, but its hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Concentrate on the things you like and forget about the things you don't. Some people will like you and some won't, just as some will like a size 8 woman and some won't. x

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

It works both ways. I am the opposite. I would like a bit more weight.

Someone pass me another burger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It works both ways. I am the opposite. I would like a bit more weight.

Someone pass me another burger. "

show off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone said to me in the club yesterday, "for a big girl you've got a really pretty face" I'd just played with a gorgeous guy, his response was to caress my curves and say I had a great body too.

At the end of the day I know I'm a fat bird! I also know there's men out there who find me attractive.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"It works both ways. I am the opposite. I would like a bit more weight.

Someone pass me another burger.

show off "

Lol I'm being serious.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Im a size 18 my OH thinks /says im fat.

fortunately others are more kind. we cant all look like the 9 and half stone hotties we once were 40 years ago.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

please please please please dont beat yourselves up over size and weight issues... guys love your large boobs wide hips marble thighs big smiles soft curves and kisses surprisingly small soft voices ... enjoy your voluptuous lives... thats why voluptuous is such a lovely sexy word. dress sexy and have fun xxx

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

We are alsways our sternest critics about how we look, I gave up smoking and put on loads of weight on and felt like shit but my fb's loved it!!

Swinging is probably the most relaxed social environment in where a womans appearence is judged, a few more curves, lumps, bumps and wobbly bits are desirable not a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 18 and I'm fairly self conscious about my size/figure. My husband says he loves me as I am. Anyone else have these issues?"
yes i feel the same im not a size 10 and i always worry about my tummy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having lost 8 stone i have issues and lost confidence

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By *lyce and Mister MCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Yes. I'm a size 16 with stretch marks, a wobbly tummy and an ass that Nicki Minaj would be proud of.....

I am self concious and it's a nightmare at times not only for me but for the other half, who loses out cos of my self confidence and my issues!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I have problems with my shape, no I don't. Do I have problems with the way I may appear to others or how I act in front of others. Yes I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

"

Your 24. You don't look it . You ever want to reduce your size. You know where I am

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

the tummy is always the big issue on these threads .

let me say catagorically guys are not interested or bothered about bellies. we just accept you have probably had children and it is difficult to get it flat again.. if you wamt it to go flat , just lie on your back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The things at always makes me laugh, and I don't know if others are the same, but I look at other larger ladies and some are really sex, dress nice and look good in what they wear, I don't look at other big ladies and think, fat cow, so why do I think it about myself?

why are we much harder on ourselves than we are on others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

Your 24. You don't look it . You ever want to reduce your size. You know where I am "

I carry it well my dear! But no I'm not that bothered about reducing it. I is what I is xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 18 and I'm fairly self conscious about my size/figure. My husband says he loves me as I am. Anyone else have these issues?

Don't think many women don't have issues about their bodies no matter what size they are"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

Your 24. You don't look it . You ever want to reduce your size. You know where I am

I carry it well my dear! But no I'm not that bothered about reducing it. I is what I is xxx"

Basically meant if you want some exercise to keep fit and healthy. Then I know a way of doing where we can both enjoy doing it

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick


"the tummy is always the big issue on these threads .

let me say catagorically guys are not interested or bothered about bellies. we just accept you have probably had children and it is difficult to get it flat again.. if you wamt it to go flat , just lie on your back "

Why are you acting as spokesman for "guys"?

By all means speak for yourself but your views do not represent mine...ta!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

Your 24. You don't look it . You ever want to reduce your size. You know where I am

I carry it well my dear! But no I'm not that bothered about reducing it. I is what I is xxx

Basically meant if you want some exercise to keep fit and healthy. Then I know a way of doing where we can both enjoy doing it "

Like a personal trainer where most exercise os horizontal? I could buy into that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I get older and the more people I meet who enjoy my body the better I feel about it ! And to be honest once lust sets in any worries I have sort of vanish ! Sexy is what sexy does x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

Your 24. You don't look it . You ever want to reduce your size. You know where I am

I carry it well my dear! But no I'm not that bothered about reducing it. I is what I is xxx

Basically meant if you want some exercise to keep fit and healthy. Then I know a way of doing where we can both enjoy doing it

Like a personal trainer where most exercise os horizontal? I could buy into that!"

Vertical, horizontal, at an angle. All up to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I get older and the more people I meet who enjoy my body the better I feel about it ! And to be honest once lust sets in any worries I have sort of vanish ! Sexy is what sexy does x "

That kind of goes with what I believe about myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Constantly feel wrong being a size 18 my tummys always been my least favourite area. I know they say everyone's attractive to someone but at times does feel like why would amu guy glance at me when my gorgeous size 8 best friend is there "

To me, size 18 is lovely, if you have a nice smile. The media makes us obsessed with dress sizes. The hip waist ratio matters more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I get older and the more people I meet who enjoy my body the better I feel about it ! And to be honest once lust sets in any worries I have sort of vanish ! Sexy is what sexy does x "

Whooooop. I think therefor I am !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Constantly feel wrong being a size 18 my tummys always been my least favourite area. I know they say everyone's attractive to someone but at times does feel like why would amu guy glance at me when my gorgeous size 8 best friend is there

To me, size 18 is lovely, if you have a nice smile. The media makes us obsessed with dress sizes. The hip waist ratio matters more. "

I havnt has a waist for many years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I get older and the more people I meet who enjoy my body the better I feel about it ! And to be honest once lust sets in any worries I have sort of vanish ! Sexy is what sexy does x

Whooooop. I think therefor I am !"

Just looked at your pics hun and you sure are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a big girl, hate my tum, but as someone else has said, it doesn't seem as much of an issue to fellas. I'm very fortunate to meet with gorgeous fit young men with bodies like the diet man! They come back too. So perhaps it's us that have it wrong, what we've always thought men want, perhaps it isn't. Albeit, I'm not overlooking this site is about sex...not a beauty competition lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I get older and the more people I meet who enjoy my body the better I feel about it ! And to be honest once lust sets in any worries I have sort of vanish ! Sexy is what sexy does x

Whooooop. I think therefor I am !

Just looked at your pics hun and you sure are "

Why thank you very much you gorgeous minx you! X

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By *lyce and Mister MCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

I don't think women will ever be happy with how they look really. I have a snag list on myself a mile long and wish I could change every bit of it. But my other half loves it and some other people seem to think I look alright so thats good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do it daily put myself down cos i have a bit of a tummy. my other half loves me for me and tries to make me feel good about myself. i think a lot of women are the same though and pics of skinny models everywhere dont help.

peachy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl, hate my tum, but as someone else has said, it doesn't seem as much of an issue to fellas. I'm very fortunate to meet with gorgeous fit young men with bodies like the diet man! They come back too. So perhaps it's us that have it wrong, what we've always thought men want, perhaps it isn't. Albeit, I'm not overlooking this site is about sex...not a beauty competition lol. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im self concious and always will be, its as simple as that to me really, regardless of what anyone else says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl, hate my tum, but as someone else has said, it doesn't seem as much of an issue to fellas. I'm very fortunate to meet with gorgeous fit young men with bodies like the diet man! They come back too. So perhaps it's us that have it wrong, what we've always thought men want, perhaps it isn't. Albeit, I'm not overlooking this site is about sex...not a beauty competition lol.

"

If its a beauty completion you ALL WIN as you're all beautiful for different reasons. You may look different size/shape wise, but you still are all attractive from what I see. Even though I won't describe how a man looks. I can safely say they aren't bad as they get female attention on here because of their looks alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yes.....what woman doesn't,but the one thing I have learnt off here is. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. And I now have soooo much more confidence since being on here, and from your profile pic I'd say your were gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

"

That's amazing, I love it and really wish I could think like that. You are awesome xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a 24 pack round my waist, and more then happy with the way I am.

I don't care what others think of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 20/22. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

"

Sammi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a big girl, hate my tum, but as someone else has said, it doesn't seem as much of an issue to fellas. I'm very fortunate to meet with gorgeous fit young men with bodies like the diet man! They come back too. So perhaps it's us that have it wrong, what we've always thought men want, perhaps it isn't. Albeit, I'm not overlooking this site is about sex...not a beauty competition lol. "

This is like me ive met some real sexy guys with amazing bodies and get messages off lots....it doesnt seem to be a problem for them and they always want more.

And like someone else has said ive seen some amazingly sexy bigger ladies in clubs and never given it a 2nd thought we are always harder on ourselfs.

I went to a club recently and was worried my outfit was a little short as you could see my butt cheeks.

But someone commented with legs like that how could you ever keep them covered...but i always see myself as having thunder thighs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I went to a club recently and was worried my outfit was a little short as you could see my butt cheeks.

But someone commented with legs like that how could you ever keep them covered..but i always see myself as having thunder thighs. "

Yes but that's where media has brain washed us !!!! Some men .. And more than admit it love "thunder thighs" and all that comes with that ! And thank god for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the tummy is always the big issue on these threads .

let me say catagorically guys are not interested or bothered about bellies. we just accept you have probably had children and it is difficult to get it flat again.. if you wamt it to go flat , just lie on your back "

Having children is in no way a reflection of your size!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the tummy is always the big issue on these threads .

let me say catagorically guys are not interested or bothered about bellies. we just accept you have probably had children and it is difficult to get it flat again.. if you wamt it to go flat , just lie on your back

Having children is in no way a reflection of your size!

"

But it's the only excuse I have Julie sssshhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Larger ladies that i know always seem to be the lovliest lookin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the tummy is always the big issue on these threads .

let me say catagorically guys are not interested or bothered about bellies. we just accept you have probably had children and it is difficult to get it flat again.. if you wamt it to go flat , just lie on your back

Having children is in no way a reflection of your size!

But it's the only excuse I have Julie sssshhhh "

Haha, let you off but annoys me when it is generalised that having children therefore means you are overweight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Larger ladies that i know always seem to be the lovliest lookin"

Another great sweeping generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm self conscious about being naked, but that is not necessarily connected to body size, I disliked being naked when I was very slim.

I know that I'm a big girl and I'm not tall but I'm ok with myself. As long as I can get clothes that I like and as long as o feel good when I'm dressed ready to go out I'm ok.

I'm not bothered what other men think of me, if my OH told me he didn't like my body it would definitely affect me.

I think women are more critical of each other than men are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the tummy is always the big issue on these threads .

let me say catagorically guys are not interested or bothered about bellies. we just accept you have probably had children and it is difficult to get it flat again.. if you wamt it to go flat , just lie on your back

Having children is in no way a reflection of your size!

"

its not

but I know many thin ladies who hate their bellies after having kids

not liking your belly is a woman thing not a size thing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think women are more critical of each other than men are. "

oh god yes

If ive ever had any rude comments at clubs its always been off woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the tummy is always the big issue on these threads .

let me say catagorically guys are not interested or bothered about bellies. we just accept you have probably had children and it is difficult to get it flat again.. if you wamt it to go flat , just lie on your back

Having children is in no way a reflection of your size!

its not

but I know many thin ladies who hate their bellies after having kids

not liking your belly is a woman thing not a size thing lol"

The point I was making is the generalisation that having children therefore means you will be overweight not whether you like your stomach regardless of size lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is something you don't like or wish it was different then get off your ass & do something about it.

You only get one chance in life so why be worried about being too fat too thin etc.

Having kids is no excuse that anyone has a wobbly belly or has put on excess weight ... Poor diet & lack of exercise causes most of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes in very self conscious , constantly up and down with my weight"

Oooo fancy going up and down a bit more????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look,all you wimmin are never satisfied no matter what you look like. But your all beautiful in your own way, BE HAPPY

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've been trying to tone up and get slightly toned but the ripped fit muscle men I see in the gym is really depressing. Haven't they got bloody jobs to go to? I haven't got any body imagine issues or anything but I would like to be fitter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think women are more critical of each other than men are.

oh god yes

If ive ever had any rude comments at clubs its always been off woman"

Ive found the same. I've never had comments (to my face anyway) but I've had quite a few instances of women looking me up and down, and not in a pleasant way. I am very good at seeing people out the corner of my eye whilst pretending that I'm not aware of them at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been trying to tone up and get slightly toned but the ripped fit muscle men I see in the gym is really depressing. Haven't they got bloody jobs to go to? I haven't got any body imagine issues or anything but I would like to be fitter. "
ive got issues want it to be younger lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im more concerned about the way people test each other than their size.

There is no such thing as a perfect man or womans body... We all see things differently.

I don't lack confidence, and I don't need anyones opinion to justify my body shape...

some people just so t like each other regardless of body shape or size.

And men feel conscious too, when the veranda hangs over the bits!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meant to write.. The way people treat each other....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im lucky I've always been confident with my body even when ive been my heaviest which was 15stne and I was that for some time I get frustrated more now when I buy clothes on line in the size I am and they dnt fit. I have always wanted to be a calendar girl for lager ladies lol its been a dream for some time maybe we should do a fab calendar xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was "

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me "

What a vile man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

What a vile man"

That was nothing , added to that I was also ugly. Only in last couple years have I been happy to look in a mirror

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"I'm a size 18 and I'm fairly self conscious about my size/figure. My husband says he loves me as I am. Anyone else have these issues?"

I think a lot of people (not all) feel like this, men and women, I'm a size 8 but would probably feel self conscious stood next to you!

Just remember for every body part you hate about yourself there's something about you that others will feel jealous of, for instance I may be smaller but then I'd love to have your boobs, so that's what I would be thinking if I was next to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give me a happy woman anyday regardless of size or shape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was "
many would want your. legs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having seen a few of you during the dare to show I'm in shock as you all looked great to me. You will always be your harshest critic so it's up to you to change that. If you're not happy with your body then do something to change it however don't change too much because there's not too much needs changing

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Everyone is different, and everyone has different estimations of beauty and what looks good to them.

I know its hard, but the sooner we all REALLY start believing that not everyone will find us attractive, regardless of size, the happier we'll be.

By the above, i especially mean men and women who put up mental blocks for themselves due to body hangups. Guy with a six pack showing genuine interest in a size 18 lady? It can happen. Petite size 10 woman showing genuine interest in cuddly guy with a belly? I've seen it.

Enjoy yourself and be as sexy as you can be, for you. Confidence alone, sometimes, can be a huge turn on above all else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im lucky I've always been confident with my body even when ive been my heaviest which was 15stne and I was that for some time I get frustrated more now when I buy clothes on line in the size I am and they dnt fit. I have always wanted to be a calendar girl for lager ladies lol its been a dream for some time maybe we should do a fab calendar xx "

Thats a great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my body, but when i am on meets i am constantly being told that i am a sexy person, But i just don't see what they do. Ted took me to Euerka's and made me strip in front of all, yes there were people there bigger and smaller of course and it did boast my confidence a little. But i do still have an issue both with the way skin looks and my body size.... Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im lucky I've always been confident with my body even when ive been my heaviest which was 15stne and I was that for some time I get frustrated more now when I buy clothes on line in the size I am and they dnt fit. I have always wanted to be a calendar girl for lager ladies lol its been a dream for some time maybe we should do a fab calendar xx

Thats a great idea "

I think so too Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. When I see these buff blokes, I'm like grrr. No one will even look at me, let alone come near me. "

Yep it's the only reason I have not got a body photo as a would not get a lookin when there's so many buff/fit men about

Am just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate my body, but when i am on meets i am constantly being told that i am a sexy person, But i just don't see what they do. Ted took me to Euerka's and made me strip in front of all, yes there were people there bigger and smaller of course and it did boast my confidence a little. But i do still have an issue both with the way skin looks and my body size.... Ruby"

Looks just fine to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep. When I see these buff blokes, I'm like grrr. No one will even look at me, let alone come near me.

Yep it's the only reason I have not got a body photo as a would not get a lookin when there's so many buff/fit men about

Am just me"

Its taken me years of practice to suck my gut in and make it look toned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

many would want your. legs x"

You always compliment me. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

What a vile man

That was nothing , added to that I was also ugly. Only in last couple years have I been happy to look in a mirror "

A vile man indeed. You're gorgeous! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

What a vile man

That was nothing , added to that I was also ugly. Only in last couple years have I been happy to look in a mirror

A vile man indeed. You're gorgeous! X"

I will second that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

What a vile man

That was nothing , added to that I was also ugly. Only in last couple years have I been happy to look in a mirror "

Hugs xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a size 18, currently on slimming world "again". Ive lost 13 1/2 pounds in six weeks. Im not that happy in my skin obviously but want to get back in my clothes i bought new when i lost 4 stone 2 years ago. My husband says nothing to me fat or slim. Your husband loves you as you are so that is lovely. Im doing this for me no=one else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 18 and I'm fairly self conscious about my size/figure. My husband says he loves me as I am. Anyone else have these issues?"
You are a similar shape to me, hope you dont mind but i looked at your pics, nothing wrong with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex gf who was supermodel herself used to be proper nasty to me about my size. But at the end of the day I always say it's not the size of the person. It's who the person is that counts the most xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And for reference to this I'm a size 20 dress size. And that's one stag theme I hope nobody ever thinks of again I don't know how you ladies walk in high heels all the time my calfs were burning for about a week after lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 20 top & 16-18 bottom & I love my shape..... I'll never be a slim size 10 & have learned to love my body, the number of beautiful bodied women on here is untrue!! Its how you see yourself & it shines through xx

& yes my tummy is covered in stretch marks & scars & wobbles....... Not had any complaints:P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

many would want your. legs x

You always compliment me. Thank you "
its true though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 20 top & 16-18 bottom & I love my shape..... I'll never be a slim size 10 & have learned to love my body, the number of beautiful bodied women on here is untrue!! Its how you see yourself & it shines through xx

& yes my tummy is covered in stretch marks & scars & wobbles....... Not had any complaints:P"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a size 20 top & 16-18 bottom & I love my shape..... I'll never be a slim size 10 & have learned to love my body, the number of beautiful bodied women on here is untrue!! Its how you see yourself & it shines through xx

& yes my tummy is covered in stretch marks & scars & wobbles....... Not had any complaints:P"

Here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to drop a bit and do a bit of exercise but then we end up snuggling and watching a film and it all goes out of the window. I just hate the idea of going to a club tomorrow and being looked at like I'm a beast "

If anyone at a club looks at you like you're a beast they've got the problem not you.. You're hot, curvy sexy and gorgeous! Screw then and their prejudices they miss out on one of the hottest sexiest nights they'd have had!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

awwww guys!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

many would want your. legs x

You always compliment me. Thank you "

With legs like yours couldn't fail to compliment... But everybody has their own gorgeous bits, and bits they're not happy with... xx your legs are yummy tho.... ...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't have a problem with my size...Other people seem to but that is their issue not mine....If the day ever arrives where I do have an issue then I will do something about it.....I have been slim (results of an eating disorder) and i have been much bigger....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't have a problem with my size...Other people seem to but that is their issue not mine....If the day ever arrives where I do have an issue then I will do something about it.....I have been slim (results of an eating disorder) and i have been much bigger.... "

You are very sexy x

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Think that most women (and men) are self conscious about something.

I have got better the older I have got but I still don't like to be seen comletely naked. Like to disguise the bits that I really don't like.

Some days I am more body confident than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the opposite. I'm really slim and have been down to we're even a 28" waist was big for me. try buying mens trousers in the right size was a nightmare. I got to the point where I thought bollocks to it. I am how I am and funny enough when I stopped worrying about it, it seemed as if everyone else did as well. If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well, I claim to be self conscious, but we had the best time last night. We were in the chatrooms, cam on and let people watch us have sex. Never done it before and I loved it, lumpy bits and all

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over a year ago


"I don't have a problem with my size...Other people seem to but that is their issue not mine....If the day ever arrives where I do have an issue then I will do something about it.....I have been slim (results of an eating disorder) and i have been much bigger....

You are very sexy x"

She is very sexy.. So are you.. Part of her sexiness is her attitude though.. Miss shows off what she wants to disguises what she doesn't and is happy with herself.. That is sexy in itself, self confidence takes hard work but you deserve it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

many would want your. legs x

You always compliment me. Thank you

With legs like yours couldn't fail to compliment... But everybody has their own gorgeous bits, and bits they're not happy with... xx your legs are yummy tho.... ..."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been bigger and Ive been slimmer

Now I change daily due to IBS

It dictates whether I'll be my normal size or 2 sizes bigger so if people have a problem then there is not a lot I can do about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me "

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I always hated my body. Finally did something about it. Lost 3 stone. Was happy with myself for the first time In ages. The day after I hit my target weight I found out I was pregnant. Stupidly ate loads of the wrong stuff during pregnancy (partly due to morning sickness and then heartburn, other half due to me being a pig!) and put it all back on and then some. Now not happy with myself AT ALL! Hoping to stick to the healthy eating this time round tho. Would like to have shifted a fair bit by September when my lad goes to nursery so I can join the gym again and get fit like a was before!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm size 22 and disabled, and was once told "your not what I was expecting" I later found out I was too fat! Make nervous to meet now, as I'd hate other to think the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I see a cuddly woman is just more to play with"

Love curves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh "

I've put a hit out on your ex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh "

What a total wanker !!! Just send him a copy of the 60 odd veris u have all saying what a sexy lady you are !!!! 60 v 1 I know what I'd believe !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm size 22 and disabled, and was once told "your not what I was expecting" I later found out I was too fat! Make nervous to meet now, as I'd hate other to think the same x"

My profile makes it more than clear what I am !!!!! If they are shocked then more fool them for thinking with their dick and not listening !!!!! I get told to stop putting my self down all the time but I don't see it like that I just see it as being honest I'd rather they were pleasantly surprised than not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Men who call their partners fat are scum in my opinion. Although a lot of my issues come from my mum. Me and my ex split up when I was 19, I'm 31 now and she still goes on about him all the time. But when we split she told me it was my fault because of my size and no man was ever gonna want me because I was disgusting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh

What a total wanker !!! Just send him a copy of the 60 odd veris u have all saying what a sexy lady you are !!!! 60 v 1 I know what I'd believe !!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men who call their partners fat are scum in my opinion. Although a lot of my issues come from my mum. Me and my ex split up when I was 19, I'm 31 now and she still goes on about him all the time. But when we split she told me it was my fault because of my size and no man was ever gonna want me because I was disgusting "

Just mad at this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your size 18 or 8 you will always pick up on something you dont like, you houkd be proud of who you are as we all have different tastes and what we want, I a man has a belly he wants a six pack, if he has an 8" cock he wants it to be 10"

People dint take you for who you are then they aint worth meeting at all, living in a media dominated world where we percive ladies of size 0 to be perfect is totally wrong, some of the moster cocks in here would break there spines, just be happy with what you have and just enjoy the fun times as there loss at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men who call their partners fat are scum in my opinion. Although a lot of my issues come from my mum. Me and my ex split up when I was 19, I'm 31 now and she still goes on about him all the time. But when we split she told me it was my fault because of my size and no man was ever gonna want me because I was disgusting

Just mad at this!"
I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I think all women have parts of themselves that they don't like.

I used to be a size 32 and have lost 10 stone but with losing the weight I dislike more of me! My belly is awful and my boobs no longer defy gravity but I love my shape if that makes sense?

I dress to flatter my shape and have never had any complaints, i'm happy enough to be naked around my other half and whilst on most meets I tend to keep lingerie on, it doesn't bother me if it comes off either. Sexy is subjective and a state of mind, if I feel sexy then others think the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always hated my body. Finally did something about it. Lost 3 stone. Was happy with myself for the first time In ages. The day after I hit my target weight I found out I was pregnant. Stupidly ate loads of the wrong stuff during pregnancy (partly due to morning sickness and then heartburn, other half due to me being a pig!) and put it all back on and then some. Now not happy with myself AT ALL! Hoping to stick to the healthy eating this time round tho. Would like to have shifted a fair bit by September when my lad goes to nursery so I can join the gym again and get fit like a was before!! "

You look just perfect to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men who call their partners fat are scum in my opinion. Although a lot of my issues come from my mum. Me and my ex split up when I was 19, I'm 31 now and she still goes on about him all the time. But when we split she told me it was my fault because of my size and no man was ever gonna want me because I was disgusting "

Wrong in so many ways....having men say it is one thing but a mother should tell their child they are beautiful regardless....my lads dad was a body builder and always obsessed with his body...and it was his mothers name calling because he was an overweight child and this eventually led to his death way too young.

Parents who put their children down are the lowest of the low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me "

It sounds like we were married to the same man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men who call their partners fat are scum in my opinion. Although a lot of my issues come from my mum. Me and my ex split up when I was 19, I'm 31 now and she still goes on about him all the time. But when we split she told me it was my fault because of my size and no man was ever gonna want me because I was disgusting

Wrong in so many ways....having men say it is one thing but a mother should tell their child they are beautiful regardless....my lads dad was a body builder and always obsessed with his body...and it was his mothers name calling because he was an overweight child and this eventually led to his death way too young.

Parents who put their children down are the lowest of the low "

I agree, I could never do it. My husbands mother is quite similar. My mum would try my clothes on when I'd been shopping to show how slim she was and how big I was. I've lost weight since then and feel better about myself than I used to, every now and then though I look in the mirror and think ugh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men who call their partners fat are scum in my opinion. Although a lot of my issues come from my mum. Me and my ex split up when I was 19, I'm 31 now and she still goes on about him all the time. But when we split she told me it was my fault because of my size and no man was ever gonna want me because I was disgusting

Wrong in so many ways....having men say it is one thing but a mother should tell their child they are beautiful regardless....my lads dad was a body builder and always obsessed with his body...and it was his mothers name calling because he was an overweight child and this eventually led to his death way too young.

Parents who put their children down are the lowest of the low

I agree, I could never do it. My husbands mother is quite similar. My mum would try my clothes on when I'd been shopping to show how slim she was and how big I was. I've lost weight since then and feel better about myself than I used to, every now and then though I look in the mirror and think ugh!"

I think we all do that for me at the mo its developing laughter lines when i smile ive always looked quite young for my age and i feel this is my age catching up with me...i keep smiling and looking at them and feeling old lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only you can change it babypanda although you look bloody lovely to me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has there hang ups about their own body

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Everyone has there hang ups about their own body "

I don't. I am what I am. Gave up worrying about it a long time ago. Much happier now.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Everyone has there hang ups about their own body "

I don't. I am what I am. Gave up worrying about it a long time ago. Much happier now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has there hang ups about their own body

I don't. I am what I am. Gave up worrying about it a long time ago. Much happier now. "

Best way to be you look fantastic to me everyone here does. It's the person inside that matters Id much rather have somebody who could make me laugh out loud then someone who couldn't hold a convosation

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've listened to my Mum telling me 'you'd be stunning if you were thin' for the last 20+ years. I'm not sure why I don't have some sort of eating disorder if I'm honest. If I ever have kids I can be sure they'll never hear that shit from me.

I'm generally quite comfy in my skin but what with one thing and another this year I've retreated a little and don't really meet people much these days.

I think the Audrey Hepburn quote is very true... 'I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've listened to my Mum telling me 'you'd be stunning if you were thin' for the last 20+ years. I'm not sure why I don't have some sort of eating disorder if I'm honest. If I ever have kids I can be sure they'll never hear that shit from me.

I'm generally quite comfy in my skin but what with one thing and another this year I've retreated a little and don't really meet people much these days.

I think the Audrey Hepburn quote is very true... 'I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls'. "

Yer bloody gorgeous xx

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford


"Everyone different if your happy bollocks to em"
Agreed

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh "

Sounds so like my experiences, he once rang me to say he was leaving if I didn't go to the gym.

Daisy adores me exactly as I am.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh "

Sounds so like my experiences, he once rang me to say he was leaving if I didn't go to the gym.

Daisy adores me exactly as I am.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh "

Sounds so like my experiences, he once rang me to say he was leaving if I didn't go to the gym.

Daisy adores me exactly as I am.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh "

Sounds so like my experiences, he once rang me to say he was leaving if I didn't go to the gym.

Daisy adores me exactly as I am.

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By *eter2477Man
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I'm a size 24. I have days where I feel like an elephant in a tutu, and I probably look like it too but most of the time I'm alright. I like to dress nicely and it doesn't distract from my womanlyness in any way.

Granted I'm not everyone's cup of tea and have limited appeal but no more than anyone else, some guys like slim girls, I'm big. I'm also a brunette and some guys like blonde, I've dark eyes and some are attracted to piercing blue. There's a cup for every saucer. Mines a big cup and needs a strong saucer!

That's amazing, I love it and really wish I could think like that. You are awesome xx"

All you ladies with ya wobbly bits you are very sexy and and amazing confidence is is a problem for both men and women , would love to chat a have fun with all you gorgeous ladies message me for a chat

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am constantly amazed that gorgeous guys want to bed me, but they do. Once I get to know guys I am fine being naked in their presence. I mean, I can't lose weight on demand so they either like me as I am or bugger off.

Having said that I am constantly in the gym so deep down I must want to change something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No is is ever going to please everyone . We all have preferences and things we like in people.

If someone likes me enough to try and get me naked, then they have already seen past the wobbly bits and I have nothing to worry about. He's probably as much concerned by holding his tummy in and "showing me the way to the beach" to be bothered about me holding in mine. Let it go. Enjoy. Explore and have fun. Smiles make the world go around

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By *eter2477Man
over a year ago

Maidstone


"No is is ever going to please everyone . We all have preferences and things we like in people.

If someone likes me enough to try and get me naked, then they have already seen past the wobbly bits and I have nothing to worry about. He's probably as much concerned by holding his tummy in and "showing me the way to

the beach" to be bothered about me holding in mine. Let it go. Enjoy. Explore and have fun. Smiles make the world go around "

Wow you are truely amazing and very sexy

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I am constantly amazed that gorgeous guys want to bed me, but they do. Once I get to know guys I am fine being naked in their presence. I mean, I can't lose weight on demand so they either like me as I am or bugger off.

Having said that I am constantly in the gym so deep down I must want to change something. "

I can safely say you'd don't have much to worry about at all. FWIW

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I am constantly amazed that gorgeous guys want to bed me, but they do. Once I get to know guys I am fine being naked in their presence. I mean, I can't lose weight on demand so they either like me as I am or bugger off.

Having said that I am constantly in the gym so deep down I must want to change something.

I can safely say you'd don't have much to worry about at all. FWIW"

Aww thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I do feel much better. My hubby loves me and that's all that matters

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nope. Can honestly say I am happy how I am. My family ans friends love me. I have a great fella that loves me ans my body.

If it wasn't For poor health I wouldn't be too bothered about losing weight really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just larger people who have body issues either, because im a size 10 im not allowed to have weight issues ( according to the girls at work)

All I ever get is " you dont need to go to the gym" or " god theres nothing on you" they think im crazy because I get up and go for a run at stupid o'clock before starting a shift at 6am or going to the gym after a night shift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To everyone in this thread.

Why let it bother you?

If someone else doesn't like it they can F off.

Personality rules every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have issues with my weight, and don't like any part of my body apart from my eyes and my hair.

I was an 18/20 now almost a 12/14. I guess I'm just not happy inside which is making me feel this way about me. I have plenty to be happy about, but also alot of unhappiness yet to be expressed.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

We could be a size 10 supermodel with stunning looks but if you are not happy with yourself on the inside you are not going to be happy with yourself on the outside you have to work within....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To everyone in this thread.

Why let it bother you?

If someone else doesn't like it they can F off.

Personality rules every time. "

I dont think thats always the point, for me its not about if others like my body, its that I dont like certain parts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been every size from an 8 to a 24, an 18/20 atm, my favourite, is in the middle, 14/16, but even at that size I'm don't like my body. I think most women have hang ups, it's how you deal with them that sets you apart. The things I dislike I can't change, so I accept, if someone doesn't like them, their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To everyone in this thread.

Why let it bother you?

If someone else doesn't like it they can F off.

Personality rules every time.

I dont think thats always the point, for me its not about if others like my body, its that I dont like certain parts"

im the same

I can honestly say I don't care what other people think about me, I really don't, its the feeling of depression (ok maybe a little strong but you get my drift lol) I get when I look at myself that bothers me

What bothers me even more is that I am so active, I do community nursing and as I don't drive I cycle between my calls, I cycle on average 30 miles a day I work 7 days on 1 off, plus I go to the gym Monday to Friday every week yet im still over weight and I have no idea why, people say to me all the time with the amount of exercise I do I should be a size 8 lol and if im honest it does get me down as I don't know what else to do

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"We could be a size 10 supermodel with stunning looks but if you are not happy with yourself on the inside you are not going to be happy with yourself on the outside you have to work within...."

Kate Moss, Naomi Campbell and Victoria Beckham never look happy to me. Miserable sods, in fact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We could be a size 10 supermodel with stunning looks but if you are not happy with yourself on the inside you are not going to be happy with yourself on the outside you have to work within....

Kate Moss, Naomi Campbell and Victoria Beckham never look happy to me. Miserable sods, in fact."

Haha this is true and in all honesty I was a size 6 once upon a time and I never smiled. I was awful haha maybe being bigger is better, for me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a very confident person but when it comes to my body, all my confidence flies out the window. Even when i was a slim n toned I was never happy..... I always have and will always be self concious over my body! Just something I've learnt to live with... I am what I am, simple as that!!

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By *eter2477Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

All you ladies with curves are more gorgeous than anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think everyone has some part of them they're self conscious of wether it be weight, size, height or looks.

You can either be confident in who you are and accept I am who I am or you not and you make the change you feel will make you happier with in yourself.

All I'll say is don't feel you should change due to what others say or feel is the right, ie these skinny arse billboard models that look like they need a good meal.

We are all beautiful in our own ways and people will see that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think everyone has some part of them they're self conscious of wether it be weight, size, height or looks.

You can either be confident in who you are and accept I am who I am or you not and you make the change you feel will make you happier with in yourself.

All I'll say is don't feel you should change due to what others say or feel is the right, ie these skinny arse billboard models that look like they need a good meal.

We are all beautiful in our own ways and people will see that!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To everyone in this thread.

Why let it bother you?

If someone else doesn't like it they can F off.

Personality rules every time.

I dont think thats always the point, for me its not about if others like my body, its that I dont like certain parts

im the same

I can honestly say I don't care what other people think about me, I really don't, its the feeling of depression (ok maybe a little strong but you get my drift lol) I get when I look at myself that bothers me

What bothers me even more is that I am so active, I do community nursing and as I don't drive I cycle between my calls, I cycle on average 30 miles a day I work 7 days on 1 off, plus I go to the gym Monday to Friday every week yet im still over weight and I have no idea why, people say to me all the time with the amount of exercise I do I should be a size 8 lol and if im honest it does get me down as I don't know what else to do"

I know exactly what you mean!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think everyone has some part of them they're self conscious of wether it be weight, size, height or looks.

You can either be confident in who you are and accept I am who I am or you not and you make the change you feel will make you happier with in yourself.

All I'll say is don't feel you should change due to what others say or feel is the right, ie these skinny arse billboard models that look like they need a good meal.

We are all beautiful in our own ways and people will see that!! "
Yeah except the skinny arse models that look like they need a good meal eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think everyone has some part of them they're self conscious of wether it be weight, size, height or looks.

You can either be confident in who you are and accept I am who I am or you not and you make the change you feel will make you happier with in yourself.

All I'll say is don't feel you should change due to what others say or feel is the right, ie these skinny arse billboard models that look like they need a good meal.

We are all beautiful in our own ways and people will see that!! Yeah except the skinny arse models that look like they need a good meal eh "

Yeah the size 0 looking ones that look like they've not eaten in months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last post in this thread.

Like I already said above, I still say fuck it.

I hate Brad Pitt because I'm not Brad Pitt...

...I hate Bill Gates for the same reason.

What I'm trying to say is we are who we are.

I'm Ben..I'm a fucking jack-ass ..but I'm stuck with me.

/out of thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My last post in this thread.

Like I already said above, I still say fuck it.

I hate Brad Pitt because I'm not Brad Pitt...

...I hate Bill Gates for the same reason.

What I'm trying to say is we are who we are.

I'm Ben..I'm a fucking jack-ass ..but I'm stuck with me.

/out of thread."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think everyone has some part of them they're self conscious of wether it be weight, size, height or looks.

You can either be confident in who you are and accept I am who I am or you not and you make the change you feel will make you happier with in yourself.

All I'll say is don't feel you should change due to what others say or feel is the right, ie these skinny arse billboard models that look like they need a good meal.

We are all beautiful in our own ways and people will see that!! Yeah except the skinny arse models that look like they need a good meal eh "

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Chubs is a horrible word.

This is the only place I've seen it and I won't mind if I never see it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another very self conscious size 18 here! Ex hubby once looked at me naked and said 'f**k you're fat' GIT! Did nothing for my self esteem - or his sex life for two weeks either lol

Not all men are so insensitive though, a lovely man I met on here was texting me Mon night and told me how sexy I was

I spent 24 years with a guy who told me at least once a day for the last 15 years I was fat. He even shouted a waiter over while sat in a restaurant with kids and friends by saying oi fatty here wants her pudding. At my biggest I was 13 stone and that was pregnant.

Now after a long time I don't care what people think I love me

I had something along those lines with my ex, without going into long and boring details, he put me down at every opportunity about my looks

I remember his parting words to me when we split was him letting me that no other man would want me, the only guy's who would even look at me was some fat old man who hadn't seen a naked woman in years

No matter how many times people tell you to take no notice it does stick when you know the person whos supposed to love you feels like that about you, and if your own husband cant even look at you naked you do feel how am I supposed to get naked and feel good infront of other men

but what don't kill us makes us stronger eh "

That it does

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