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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

this came up in a conversation today bewteen myself and another fabber.

basically how old would you deem acceptable to start teaching sex ed, obv not the full gory details but you know like relationships between mum and dad/bf and gf and same sex couples.

my personal opinion on it is start them in pr 1 and work from there and eventually getting sex into in pr 7. i mean the netherlands are so open about sex and they have the lowest teen pregnancy rating in the world i think it is, had i had that sort of up bringing with my parents i dont think i woulda been so shy about sex with them when i was a teen. hoping my son isnt as shy as i was back then to ask my parents about sex as i am quite happy explaining to him about couples and family relationships.

whats everyone elses thoughts on it?

excuse my typing this keyboard is crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a great believer in answering questions from kids about sex at whatever age they ask it. I always tell the truth just change the way it is said to match age and understanding. I guess for me then it's the age they start asking is the age to start telling.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm a great believer in answering questions from kids about sex at whatever age they ask it. I always tell the truth just change the way it is said to match age and understanding. I guess for me then it's the age they start asking is the age to start telling. "
I agree I answered questions right from when he first asked, you tailor the answers appropriate for what the child understands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this came up in a conversation today bewteen myself and another fabber.

basically how old would you deem acceptable to start teaching sex ed, obv not the full gory details but you know like relationships between mum and dad/bf and gf and same sex couples.

my personal opinion on it is start them in pr 1 and work from there and eventually getting sex into in pr 7. i mean the netherlands are so open about sex and they have the lowest teen pregnancy rating in the world i think it is, had i had that sort of up bringing with my parents i dont think i woulda been so shy about sex with them when i was a teen. hoping my son isnt as shy as i was back then to ask my parents about sex as i am quite happy explaining to him about couples and family relationships.

whats everyone elses thoughts on it?

excuse my typing this keyboard is crap. "

7 seems a little young but I think children should know where babies come from and not think it has anything to do with stalks delivering them so maybe it isn't thinking about it.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

My sex ed started when my dad noticed i was taking a firm interest in girls (mind the pun). I was 11 at the time.

Your mileage may vary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 (primary 1) is far too young to learn about relationships/sex. The kids find it hard to keep up with the hungry caterpillar at that age!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids seem to know so much at a early age anyway so I'm upfront and honest if asked anything.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm a great believer in answering questions from kids about sex at whatever age they ask it. I always tell the truth just change the way it is said to match age and understanding. I guess for me then it's the age they start asking is the age to start telling. "

This! Exactly what I did. Always answered their questions so they could and still do ask me anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a great believer in answering questions from kids about sex at whatever age they ask it. I always tell the truth just change the way it is said to match age and understanding. I guess for me then it's the age they start asking is the age to start telling.

This! Exactly what I did. Always answered their questions so they could and still do ask me anything."

My daughter phoned me up when she was 18 to say she wasn't a virgin anymore, think I did my job very well to allow her to do that without fear of any kind of lecture.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm a great believer in answering questions from kids about sex at whatever age they ask it. I always tell the truth just change the way it is said to match age and understanding. I guess for me then it's the age they start asking is the age to start telling.

This! Exactly what I did. Always answered their questions so they could and still do ask me anything.

My daughter phoned me up when she was 18 to say she wasn't a virgin anymore, think I did my job very well to allow her to do that without fear of any kind of lecture. "

Conversely, when my elder two stopped asking I knew they were working it out themselves and my job was done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5 (primary 1) is far too young to learn about relationships/sex. The kids find it hard to keep up with the hungry caterpillar at that age! "

I don't think it is too young as at that age they do ask questions. Like we have found out. Obviously it's about relationships like why are 2 men sleeping it the same bed on a tv program. So id say from when they ask about it and then when they are about 11/12 year old for for the sex side of things. Then that way they understand before they notice changes in them selves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5 (primary 1) is far too young to learn about relationships/sex. The kids find it hard to keep up with the hungry caterpillar at that age!

I don't think it is too young as at that age they do ask questions. Like we have found out. Obviously it's about relationships like why are 2 men sleeping it the same bed on a tv program. So id say from when they ask about it and then when they are about 11/12 year old for for the sex side of things. Then that way they understand before they notice changes in them selves. "

I'm sorry, but i got the impression that the question was asking about learning in school! Of course i would answer my kids questions to the best of my ability. I just think they are too young at 5yo to have it on their curriculum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've never seen it as an age, for me when my kids was old enough to start asking questions they was old enough to be told the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 is too young let them be kids for a while at least. my daughter was 10 when her primary school started teaching them and she came home saying im too young to know this stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5 is too young let them be kids for a while at least. my daughter was 10 when her primary school started teaching them and she came home saying im too young to know this stuff."

depends what the subject is

my youngest daughter was 8 when she started her periods, i'd not given her the period talk and they wasn't doing it as school that young either, I just didn't dream in a million years she would start that early but she did and she didn't have a clue what was happening, it was a shame for her, but girls are starting younger so I think the puberty talk needs to be done earlier now days

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I say sex ed I wssnt talking about having them looking at body parts but like obviously theyare gonna see different parts so maybe explaining to them why theyre seeing different body parts and gradually working up to it, il do like most have said and answer my child/rens qurstions when they ask but I think basics mighthelp them on a bit, I know most dont want their babies growing up too fast but I think it may help the respect thing between boys and girls. When I was in school my teacher was embarrassed to teach sex ed to a bunch of delinquent 11yos because at that age we thought the word sex was bad and embarassing but as I said its merely an opinion thread and what others thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5 is too young let them be kids for a while at least. my daughter was 10 when her primary school started teaching them and she came home saying im too young to know this stuff."

Exactly this. My youngest boy is 9, and every time i try and bring the subject of birds n bees up, he's like 'yeew dad, girls are horrible'! Why force the subject on them? Let them be the kids they are and leave it until they come to you and ask!

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

There can be no set age as all children are different.

As long as you can answer their questions sensibly and in a manner they can understand that's always a good start.

Obviously, younger children don't need the full descriptive details but they still need to learn that as long as they are happy to ask, I'm happy to answer.

My eldest has already asked me stuff from about 10 years old and hopefully my answers have helped put him on the right path

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My boys ask about it & get honest answers from me, we have mixed sexuality relationships in the family & stepkids etc so there's always someone either pregnant or just popping a baby out, or the best one this year is my nephew & partner going through ivf & surrogate mothers........ Try sugar coating that one lol

Honesty is the only policy with kids x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the system is all wrong, but we can't stop it. For example if it was up to me. Sex education would be taught after their GCSE's. 16 is a sensible age to get curious about it, start doing things, etc. If people stared at that age to think about it. Britain wouldn't be in the state it is now. However people's bodies change before then. So it wise to explain the changes before then. Maybe explain bodies change first and a few years later teach sex? All that said though it is sad that "kids" are getting pregnant now. So they have to learn about precautions when they merely children about 9/10 is the right age for that sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids know that no subject is off limits, when my daughter was 7 she wanted to know why se went to visit uncle and aunt this and uncle and aunt that but when she visits my younger brother its uncle and uncle lol I just explained that most of the time a man and a woman fall in love, but sometimes a man and a man or a lady and a lady fall in love this explanation has surficed and now she just knows that she has a gay uncle who loves her very much it's a lot less embarrassing than you would think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the system is all wrong, but we can't stop it. For example if it was up to me. Sex education would be taught after their GCSE's. 16 is a sensible age to get curious about it, start doing things, etc. If people stared at that age to think about it. Britain wouldn't be in the state it is now. However people's bodies change before then. So it wise to explain the changes before then. Maybe explain bodies change first and a few years later teach sex? All that said though it is sad that "kids" are getting pregnant now. So they have to learn about precautions when they merely children about 9/10 is the right age for that sadly "

16 is the age of consent so it needs to be taught well before then. When they hit puberty there are loads if questions that need answered because there are feelings they have never had before. What you meant to do tell them not to worry about it you'll find why that happens when your 16.

How old do you mean as "kids" when on about getting pregnant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the system is all wrong, but we can't stop it. For example if it was up to me. Sex education would be taught after their GCSE's. 16 is a sensible age to get curious about it, start doing things, etc. If people stared at that age to think about it. Britain wouldn't be in the state it is now. However people's bodies change before then. So it wise to explain the changes before then. Maybe explain bodies change first and a few years later teach sex? All that said though it is sad that "kids" are getting pregnant now. So they have to learn about precautions when they merely children about 9/10 is the right age for that sadly

16 is the age of consent so it needs to be taught well before then. When they hit puberty there are loads if questions that need answered because there are feelings they have never had before. What you meant to do tell them not to worry about it you'll find why that happens when your 16.

How old do you mean as "kids" when on about getting pregnant?"

16 maybe legal in the uk, but it varies over the rest of the world. Doesn't mean its right or wrong (our consent I mean), but the Vatican is wrong as their age is 12. By kids I mean 13 year olds getting pregnant, but they get active at about 12 . Bit old fashioned here as I believe anyone from 15 and under should be more interested in hobbies and education, not sex. Going by society though that will never happen. So have to teach it very early.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

My daughter stuck with a hippy for a mum n gets told everything. My sis started periods early n thought she was dying. Didn't want that to happen to my daughter.

She first asked when about 5 her stepmum was pregnant n I answered honestly but appropriate for her age n continued to do so as she asked. But noticed around 8/9 she was getting quite moody n teary so had period talk.

She had a friend at school with 2 mums so that prompted that question.

By now at 12 she knows just about everything ... And would even had I not told her as she and her friends discuss it all. But because I am open she can ask me anything, and does. We're currently on myths of not getting pregnant (first time, standing up, while on period)

But, I've also drummed into her the health risks associated with having sex young, that there's no rush n anyone who tries to rush her isn't worth her time. I've also been honest re sti's which I don't think happens enough any more. A lot of her friends think HIV n

hepatitis no longer a big deal

Give kids the truth n they're not daft they'll generally look out for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"5 is too young let them be kids for a while at least. my daughter was 10 when her primary school started teaching them and she came home saying im too young to know this stuff."

If your daughter came home saying that, then I would be seriously questioning how the school was introducing/presenting/teaching the whole subject. Ten is way too late to my mind...

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a great believer in answering questions from kids about sex at whatever age they ask it. I always tell the truth just change the way it is said to match age and understanding. I guess for me then it's the age they start asking is the age to start telling.

This! Exactly what I did. Always answered their questions so they could and still do ask me anything.

My daughter phoned me up when she was 18 to say she wasn't a virgin anymore, think I did my job very well to allow her to do that without fear of any kind of lecture.

Conversely, when my elder two stopped asking I knew they were working it out themselves and my job was done! "

This is where I am coming from on this whole subject too. I was determined my two boys were not going to have to kind of 'supposedly cossetted' upbringing I had where even the mention of girls was frowned upon.

One of the few things I agreed with their Mum on was that they would get an honest, straight and age-appropriate answer whenever they asked a question, regardless of what age they were.

I've told the tale of my eldest son dragging three of his 15yr old girl friends round to ours before, so his Dad could give them the sex ed 'talk' that both their parents and the school had failed miserably at. At least my son was mature enough to step in before they made a potentially life-changing mistake, and I was very proud of him for doing so.

ted.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Why do the schools have to do it? It's the parents responsibility first and foremost and you take the lead frI'm the child. Of they ask questions answer them appropriately for their age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do the schools have to do it? It's the parents responsibility first and foremost and you take the lead frI'm the child. Of they ask questions answer them appropriately for their age. "

Because some parents barely look after their kids in general. Or the parents are too shy to discuss sex even with each other.

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