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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. " you can only help someone so much and then you have to walk away and yes I have been there. The first guy I lived with died at 50 from psorosis of the liver | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. " It’s very sad…… I really don’t know how I feel about him right now...but I think I'm starting to lose my sympathy towards him as an individual.... Part of me suspects he won’t make old bones, but I really want him too get clean…. I just feel so sorry for all those people who’ve continually put their faith in him….!. | |||
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"That man has had far more support and opportunity then any everyday alcoholic or substance misuser...who often have to wait to get a place in rehab where is is funded publicly rather then privately.... That bloke will die from his addiction that is for sure however how many chances does he want? I have spent pretty much my whole career supporting those with addiction issues...myself have a drug addiction many years ago...who would of given their right arm for the support and opportunity that gazza has had..." wot she said | |||
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"I'm not sure I would stick around if I was experiencing domestic violence along with the drinking..." exactly, I stuck it for four years, what was I expected to do stay with him just in case he changed. Life with a violent alcoholic is shit | |||
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"I'm not sure I would stick around if I was experiencing domestic violence along with the drinking...exactly, I stuck it for four years, what was I expected to do stay with him just in case he changed. Life with a violent alcoholic is shit" His ex didn't stick around due to the d*unken abuse she was 'allegedly' getting! And she is STILL 'allegedly' recieving abuse from him! How many times does a woman have to go through that sort of behavior before people stop saying 'aw, its gazza, he's such a cad when inebriated'! | |||
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"lets not make such a big deal of him beeing a wife beater, the report i read said he grabbed her arm after she tried to step in between him and a guard, hardly wife beating, lets not judge untill we know the facts" Aaah. Thats ok then! He only grabbed her after she stepped in when he was abusing a guard for doing his job. No problem there then! | |||
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"lets not make such a big deal of him beeing a wife beater, the report i read said he grabbed her arm after she tried to step in between him and a guard, hardly wife beating, lets not judge untill we know the facts Aaah. Thats ok then! He only grabbed her after she stepped in when he was abusing a guard for doing his job. No problem there then! " Allegedly | |||
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"lets not make such a big deal of him beeing a wife beater, the report i read said he grabbed her arm after she tried to step in between him and a guard, hardly wife beating, lets not judge untill we know the facts Aaah. Thats ok then! He only grabbed her after she stepped in when he was abusing a guard for doing his job. No problem there then! Allegedly " Oops, erm, thats what i meant, lol. | |||
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"That man has had far more support and opportunity then any everyday alcoholic or substance misuser...who often have to wait to get a place in rehab where is is funded publicly rather then privately.... That bloke will die from his addiction that is for sure however how many chances does he want? I have spent pretty much my whole career supporting those with addiction issues...myself have a drug addiction many years ago...who would of given their right arm for the support and opportunity that gazza has had..." well said | |||
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"I didn't say the guy is a saint. But callinghim a wife beater is a bit strong. Personaly I think he is an idiot. But my point is don't name him things until you know facts" Isn't this the same guy who's wife was always having to wear extra large shades to hide the black eyes when they were married? Maybe she was just clumsy and kept walking into cupboard doors though eh! | |||
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"You can't defend what he has done or has been alleged to have done but I'm sure if you could seperate the alcoholic gazza from the human gazza for one minute the human gazza would be so deeply ashamed if his behaviour, but that's the point the drink makes you do some horrible shit to people how many people have woken up next to a person that they wouldn't sleep with when sober, ohh that many lol" I think theres a bit of a difference between sleeping with a lass when your d*unk and knocking 10 shades of shit out of her though! | |||
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"You can't defend what he has done or has been alleged to have done but I'm sure if you could seperate the alcoholic gazza from the human gazza for one minute the human gazza would be so deeply ashamed if his behaviour, but that's the point the drink makes you do some horrible shit to people how many people have woken up next to a person that they wouldn't sleep with when sober, ohh that many lol I think theres a bit of a difference between sleeping with a lass when your d*unk and knocking 10 shades of shit out of her though! " Yeah there is but my point was more about judgement calls and how alcohol affects how you behave and that although its safer for the partner of an abusive d*unk to leave its not always easy | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. " | |||
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"I can't see him turning it around now think he will end up like George Best." Give it 12 months he will be dead...he has gone past the point of ever getting sober | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. " yeah u would if u were being beaten the living daylights out of daily and almost killed sorry gazza has no sympathy from me he knows what he is doing | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. yeah u would if u were being beaten the living daylights out of daily and almost killed sorry gazza has no sympathy from me he knows what he is doing" loved ones Mmmmm never seen the digging deep in their pockets to send him.to rehab | |||
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"There's only so many chances you can give a person. If he doesn't want to help himself then no-one else can." | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. " Disease yes but all self inflicted | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. " Hmm, I have seen a close family member in a relationship with an alcoholic and seen what it did to the children, sometimes you have to walk away to save yourself and the kids. It isn't a question of not loving the person its a question of survival. | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. Hmm, I have seen a close family member in a relationship with an alcoholic and seen what it did to the children, sometimes you have to walk away to save yourself and the kids. It isn't a question of not loving the person its a question of survival." is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted | |||
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"Leaving Newcastle for Tottenham was disasterous,Sir Bobby would of kept his feet on the ground" he was the same at Newcastle Don't kid yourself once a clown always a clown | |||
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"Leaving Newcastle for Tottenham was disasterous,Sir Bobby would of kept his feet on the ground he was the same at Newcastle Don't kid yourself once a clown always a clown" grew up with paul ,went to school with paul, lived 2 doors away from him for 14 years and yes he is and always will be the joker until the day he dies,unfortunately that day is looking sooner rather than later | |||
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" is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted " I don’t think it’s fair to try and shoulder guilt on his family for trying to live their own lives in their own why whilst having the ever present shadow of his antics looming over them …. I know nothing about his daughter, but good luck to the girl…. | |||
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" is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted I don’t think it’s fair to try and shoulder guilt on his family for trying to live their own lives in their own why whilst having the ever present shadow of his antics looming over them …. I know nothing about his daughter, but good luck to the girl…. " ah but it ok to use Gaza's name when it suits her needs, I don't think so | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. Hmm, I have seen a close family member in a relationship with an alcoholic and seen what it did to the children, sometimes you have to walk away to save yourself and the kids. It isn't a question of not loving the person its a question of survival. is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted " Isn't she entitled to use his name? After all, he sure hasn't given her anything else. I saw an interview she gave, and she stated "i love my dad for being my dad, but i hate him for what he's done to the family"! | |||
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" is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted I don’t think it’s fair to try and shoulder guilt on his family for trying to live their own lives in their own why whilst having the ever present shadow of his antics looming over them …. I know nothing about his daughter, but good luck to the girl…. ah but it ok to use Gaza's name when it suits her needs, I don't think so" That’s a bit double standards ani’t it?,,,, after-all you've used it to bring her into the equation ! | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. Disease yes but all self inflicted " How do you work that out? None of us know we are alcoholics when we pick up that first drink. But it's that first drink that clinches the deal. Do you think my parents would have allowed me that snowball at Christmas as a child if they had known I was an alcoholic? | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. Hmm, I have seen a close family member in a relationship with an alcoholic and seen what it did to the children, sometimes you have to walk away to save yourself and the kids. It isn't a question of not loving the person its a question of survival. is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted " Eh? I'm talking about my family so no it isn't the same daughter. I'm not defending any ones actions just pointing out life's realities, it would be lovely to be able to give unconditional love to one family member who is addicted to something be it alcohol, drugs, gambling but there comes a point when there is no more that can be done and if you stick with them you are just facilitating the addiction. The hardest love to give isn't unconditional it's tough love. | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. Disease yes but all self inflicted How do you work that out? None of us know we are alcoholics when we pick up that first drink. But it's that first drink that clinches the deal. Do you think my parents would have allowed me that snowball at Christmas as a child if they had known I was an alcoholic? " so it's not self inflicted sorry, I never knew he was held down and alcohol poured down his neck, silly me | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. Disease yes but all self inflicted How do you work that out? None of us know we are alcoholics when we pick up that first drink. But it's that first drink that clinches the deal. Do you think my parents would have allowed me that snowball at Christmas as a child if they had known I was an alcoholic? so it's not self inflicted sorry, I never knew he was held down and alcohol poured down his neck, silly me" No one held me down either but the first taste of it and I was off. Sneaking drink out of the cupboard by time I was 12. Being d*unk in school. I fight hard to keep my alcoholism under control. Daily. It's not easy and I'm in awe of those that stay dry once they become aware. So far my longest stretch is 12 years and I'm back fighting again now. Trouble is I'm a human. I'm weak. I love the taste of alcohol and enjoy it, even though its the one thing I have to avoid in order to control the disease I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. When I first got dry I was so self righteous, if I can do it anyone can type attitude and I raged when friends died. Now I've lapsed a few times I'm a lot more humble | |||
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"Alcoholism is a disease. It'd easy to say he isn't trying when you haven't been there. Would you walk away from a loved one? I wouldn't no matter how many times they relapsed. Disease yes but all self inflicted How do you work that out? None of us know we are alcoholics when we pick up that first drink. But it's that first drink that clinches the deal. Do you think my parents would have allowed me that snowball at Christmas as a child if they had known I was an alcoholic? so it's not self inflicted sorry, I never knew he was held down and alcohol poured down his neck, silly me No one held me down either but the first taste of it and I was off. Sneaking drink out of the cupboard by time I was 12. Being d*unk in school. I fight hard to keep my alcoholism under control. Daily. It's not easy and I'm in awe of those that stay dry once they become aware. So far my longest stretch is 12 years and I'm back fighting again now. Trouble is I'm a human. I'm weak. I love the taste of alcohol and enjoy it, even though its the one thing I have to avoid in order to control the disease I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. When I first got dry I was so self righteous, if I can do it anyone can type attitude and I raged when friends died. Now I've lapsed a few times I'm a lot more humble " That’s a hugely insightful post and wish you well with your ongoing battle…. | |||
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" Isn't she entitled to use his name? After all, he sure hasn't given her anything else. I saw an interview she gave, and she stated "i love my dad for being my dad, but i hate him for what he's done to the family"!" His kids have suffered for his addiction, possibly more than him. Calling it a "disease" does not absolve him of all responsibility for his behaviour. | |||
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"I do have to wonder if people would be so generous with their attitude towards Gascoigne and so forgiving, if he were just an 'ordinary Joe', people are forever making excuses for him and his behaviour...based mainly I believe on his footballing skills of the past. " I often wonder that too, a man from a council estate who drinks and was violent towards his wife.....what sympathy would he get? | |||
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"Apparently now in hospital after being found collapsed outside a London hotel… " That's hard for his loved ones. | |||
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"Apparently now in hospital after being found collapsed outside a London hotel… That's hard for his loved ones. " Not really, she is in the next bed to him after her beating! | |||
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" is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted I don’t think it’s fair to try and shoulder guilt on his family for trying to live their own lives in their own why whilst having the ever present shadow of his antics looming over them …. I know nothing about his daughter, but good luck to the girl…. ah but it ok to use Gaza's name when it suits her needs, I don't think so" Why not I can't see that he has given her much else. Hardly been a supportive father why shouldn't she take advantage of his name | |||
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" is that the same.daughter who wanted nothing to do with Gazza, but used his name to get what she wanted I don’t think it’s fair to try and shoulder guilt on his family for trying to live their own lives in their own why whilst having the ever present shadow of his antics looming over them …. I know nothing about his daughter, but good luck to the girl…. ah but it ok to use Gaza's name when it suits her needs, I don't think so Why not I can't see that he has given her much else. Hardly been a supportive father why shouldn't she take advantage of his name" | |||
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"Apparently now in hospital after being found collapsed outside a London hotel… That's hard for his loved ones. Not really, she is in the next bed to him after her beating!" No really it is hard for close family and can destroy them as surely as it destroys the alcoholic. | |||
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