FabSwingers.com forum: Ive been thinking..

By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
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12 hours ago

Kent

I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

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its the clothes part that stresses me out, I wear jeans (skinny, black usually) all the time, normally with band tees or the occasional tight fitting shirt/top, jordans/converse etc. I dont own a dress, ive one black pencil skirt thats never been worn. I hate, hate all the pretty, girly stuff and I find it all really uncomfortable.

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me.

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By *ersatilefoxMan
12 hours ago

Notts

Absolutely not, you wear what makes you feel comfortable, my last meet was nearly always in joggers and a top when I picked her up. She said they're only going to be on a few minutes and end up on the bedroom floor anyway.

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By *ickle_my_pickleWoman
12 hours ago

nosy town

I always have lashes on but i rarely wear makeup unless on a night out, i genuinely cant be bothered with the faff. I do it if i really have to like we are going to an nice bar or somewhere, but the best socials i have had have been dog walks or a walk out were i can just turn up in gym/loungewear and not have to faff about. In the bedroom i make an effort but i really have 0 motivation in any other way.

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By *ookie46Woman
12 hours ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I just dress what I’m comfy in

The other week was a long skirt cropped Blondie tee, cropped denim jacket and trainers

He seemed to like it

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By *ffy_xoWoman
12 hours ago

Fife

Don't get me wrong I like making an effort, but dresses and overly girly outfits isn't me. I can wear them and will if it fits in with the occasion, but I'm not as comfortable as I could be wearing something else.

The last social I went on i wore jeans and a nice top. I never got any complaints.

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By *lderflowerAppleWoman
12 hours ago

Hampshire

I never wear makeup, and my hair is almost always a mess no matter how much I try and style it.

I dress for comfort - for me - not for anyone else. And if anyone has a problem with that then that's their problem, and they're not my people.

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By *heWickedWitchWoman
12 hours ago

I rarely do dressed up, I'll only wear a dress if going to a club.

99% of the time I meet anyone I'll wear jeans or joggers! I don't do fancy lingerie and am just more comfortable dressed down, I feel like mutton dressed as lamb otherwise! I wear eye liner and mascara and that's it for make up and my hair dries naturally. If they don't like that version of me then they can go elsewhere.

Luckily I win the guys over with my charm 🤣

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By *uke_silverMan
12 hours ago

London

Not only do I not mind, I'd say I'd prefer it that way (as long as they're comfortable not dressing fancy).

I'm not going to do it myself, so the effort differential will be skewed otherwise.

Same for makeup.

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By *exy RexyMan
12 hours ago

Up North

Big titties and a nice hole and I’m ‘IN’

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By *a LunaWoman
12 hours ago

Wales

Jeans and a top kind of gal here.

Or jeans and a jumper if it’s cold

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By *sWyldWoman
12 hours ago

Edinburgh

I like to make an effort but end up over thinking or trying too hard, then doubting myself.

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By *KTim61Man
12 hours ago

Tipton

It doesn't matter to me, but the cuckold couple that came to mine, well she looked great on what she was wearing, but looked as good out of them too

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By *hilly1515Man
12 hours ago

I myself find , a nice pair of boot cut jeans boots and a fitted jumper shirt / blouse on a woman, also like the dress skirt type of clothing

casual can equally be smart and give that wow factor is what I am getting at.

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By *hortieWoman
12 hours ago

Northampton

I don't sweat it.

I sniff the crutches of any trousers and armpits I plan on wearing.. if I recoil, they get washed. (And the clothes).

Then I just wing the rest of it.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
12 hours ago

North East Lincolnshire

I’d find it hotter that a woman wore something she felt more of herself in.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
12 hours ago

North Somerset

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me. "

I'm sure I've seen you in a dress before....🤔🤔

But no. I couldn't give a monkeys what anyone wears on a meet. Comfort is key to a stress free time.

And if it's a social then there's no need to try and dress to impress. I'd be more interested in personality than what clobber someone has on.

If it's for more than just a social, then it'll likely be coming off anyway. 🤷‍♂️

Obi

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By *onin25Man
12 hours ago

Durham

I like a woman to feel comfortable and be themselves. That includes how they dress, so wear what you like.

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
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12 hours ago

Kent

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me.

I'm sure I've seen you in a dress before....🤔🤔

But no. I couldn't give a monkeys what anyone wears on a meet. Comfort is key to a stress free time.

And if it's a social then there's no need to try and dress to impress. I'd be more interested in personality than what clobber someone has on.

If it's for more than just a social, then it'll likely be coming off anyway. 🤷‍♂️

Obi"

That was a mini skirt and a top and i was meant to be a whore 🤣🤣 (that entire sentence sounds very dodgy)

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By *ed and WolfieCouple
12 hours ago

Gravesend

Wear what you are comfortable in. Simple really. If you are comfortable your personality is more likely to come out, and thats just as attractive as the body under the clothes.

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By *eliWoman
12 hours ago

I don't get brows or lashes done, rarely have my nails done and makeup wise I rarely, if ever wear it. I don't hate all that girly stuff but it's just not me. I don't see it as fancy if someone does a full face, I do think I can't be arsed.

I do wear dresses and skirts often because I only own one pair of trousers (and some leggings for the gym) - I don't really see it as being dressed up all fancy.

My point is - don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has different ways of doing things and the right people will like/fancy you in the style you're happiest.

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By *aissez-faireMan
12 hours ago

Right behind you…. Boo

I’m driven be chemistry and I believe what you wear has a huge impact on how you feel.

Uncomfortable does not scream chemistry.

So, you do you and let me do me (which being a single guy is the general stage of affairs).

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By *ampireLoveMan
12 hours ago

Essex

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me. "

Your outfit style sounds uber cool OP. If someone is meeting you, it’s for you. That includes the skinny jeans and Jordan’s/converse ! Don’t overthink it and definitely don’t let it change what you would do 😘

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
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12 hours ago

Kent

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me.

Got my fishnets/black denim hotpants/leather converse ready for download! You better be there ❤️

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By *infullyObedientWoman
12 hours ago

Woodley

I am so not girly at all. I very rarely wear any make up at all, dont do my nails and only wear dresses on holiday somewhere warm. For a social its leggings or jeans and a nice top, could just be a crisp white tshirt, nothing fancy, and most likely with trainers. For something more than a social, probably something similar with nice lingerie but its not staying on so it doesnt really matter. Id rather be comfy and myself.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
12 hours ago

North Somerset

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me.

I'm sure I've seen you in a dress before....🤔🤔

But no. I couldn't give a monkeys what anyone wears on a meet. Comfort is key to a stress free time.

And if it's a social then there's no need to try and dress to impress. I'd be more interested in personality than what clobber someone has on.

If it's for more than just a social, then it'll likely be coming off anyway. 🤷‍♂️

Obi

That was a mini skirt and a top and i was meant to be a whore 🤣🤣 (that entire sentence sounds very dodgy) "

😂😂😂😂

See. We're definitely getting older. I couldn't remember exactly what you were wearing.

I do recall the horrendous pimp suit I had on though. 🤦🤦🤦

Obi

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
12 hours ago

(not meeting)

I wear what I like. I don’t get dressed up fancy as I only meet for the first time at the monthly no play social that’s usually in a pub.

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By *awtybikerMan
12 hours ago

Barnoldswick

Where whatever you like, I’d much rather meet someone that felt comfortable, than have them worrying about outfits etc

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
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12 hours ago

Kent

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me.

I'm sure I've seen you in a dress before....🤔🤔

But no. I couldn't give a monkeys what anyone wears on a meet. Comfort is key to a stress free time.

And if it's a social then there's no need to try and dress to impress. I'd be more interested in personality than what clobber someone has on.

If it's for more than just a social, then it'll likely be coming off anyway. 🤷‍♂️

Obi

That was a mini skirt and a top and i was meant to be a whore 🤣🤣 (that entire sentence sounds very dodgy)

😂😂😂😂

See. We're definitely getting older. I couldn't remember exactly what you were wearing.

I do recall the horrendous pimp suit I had on though. 🤦🤦🤦

Obi"

That was such a funny night. 🤣🤣

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By *nlyPantiesMan
12 hours ago

Ilkeston

I'm more interested in people than fashion.

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By *peedyGMan
12 hours ago

Telford

"Where whatever you like, I’d much rather meet someone that felt comfortable, than have them worrying about outfits etc"

Exactly this

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By *andZ36Couple
12 hours ago

Norfolk

We wouldn't mind what outfit someone chas chosen as long as its clean and not your pj's... Z

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By *npressuredchillMan
12 hours ago

South Wales/ All over UK

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me. "

If we’re meeting, then I’d much rather you were comfortable and at ease.

If that means you’re wearing one of several variations of black T-shirt with tour dates on the back, then that actually gives us something to talk about!

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By *cFlirtyMan
12 hours ago

Alton

I think anyone should feel comfortable and themselves with what they wear! And besides jeans can accentuate some lovely curves , jeans can be hot as much as " girly" clothes

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By *rAfterDark!Man
12 hours ago

Glasgow

Dress what your comfortable in don’t change for a person, if want to get all fancy then go for it, if you want jeans and T-shirt then do it! Personally I think tight jeans a T-shirt can be far sexier than a dress and full on glam, rather see a genuine person than someone who’s face colour will end up on the pillows 😂

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By *lirtyFilthWoman
12 hours ago

Troublesville suburb of Barnstaple

I’m a jeans girl. My dress up is black jeans and a top that shows a bit of cleavage. Eye make up. Tatty trainers.

I do have dresses and skirts but they are summer wear. Not necessarily something I’d wear on a meet unless I’m heading down the beach then I’ll wear it for ease of changing.

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By *partharmonyCouple
12 hours ago

Tonbridge

I personally like a natural, casual look much more than dressed up with makeup. It's not difficult to wear something nice but it doesn't have to be some slinky dress or something. Luke

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By *ancsmale64Man
11 hours ago

Rossendale

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me. "

I prefer someone to be comfortable and who they are...rather than done up like a peacock and not relaxed..

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By *aughtydealcoupleCouple
11 hours ago

Walmer, Deal

Wear what im comfortable in usually a maxi dress and flipflops if people dont like it thats there problem not mine not had any complaints so far

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By *viatrixCouple
11 hours ago

Gatwick

I have a (small) number of outfits that I wear for social meets. Mostly dresses, though I have a wet look black legging/red satin shirt combo that goes down very well too.

I can’t do make up to save my life but I do try. Sometimes nails, sometimes not. I don’t wear jewellery. I have my signature perfume and that’s it.

I wore lower heels briefly last week and it was ok! That gives me a bit of hope haha

I need my hair to grow back from me chopping 5 inches off it when cutting it myself a few weeks ago to regain my confidence

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By *ear_TinkerbellCouple
11 hours ago

The lost village

I used to spend hours getting ready and stressing over every little detail and then I realised Im much happier dressing for me and what makes me comfortable. Sometimes that's jeans and Converse. Sometimes that's a dress and boots. I love wearing a dress because I find them comfy but I don't wear make up, rarely do my nails and havent worn heels in about 2 years. Im always clean and I'll drag a brush through my hair before I tie it up but I can't be arsed faffing around anymore.

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By *rthur30Man
11 hours ago

Warrington

I would expect the people meeting to be anxious. The more comfortable they feel (including dress, make-up, surroundings etc), the better.

Be yourself!

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By *oltonman69Man
11 hours ago

Wigan

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me. "

I’d say just be yourself and don’t overthink it, much rather meet someone who is comfortable than having this expectation that they are trying to live upto and feeling awkward x

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By *he Happy ManMan
9 hours ago

Merseyside

The way I look at it what the woman wants to wear is up to her. I would rather meet a woman in something she feels comfortable dressed in than dressed in something she thinks I would want her dressed in. Also, if things progress clothes will be taken off.

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By *eroLondonMan
9 hours ago

Mayfair

"So, fellas...honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isn't dressed up all fancy?"

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I prefer women to be themselves, presentable and smart in their attitudes. They don't need to be fancy, uncomfortably attired or ostentatious.

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By *lueKitchenMan
6 hours ago

Warrington

If you dress as you like, you'll wear your clothes well. That's all that matters.

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By *uggers74Man
6 hours ago

Kent

I’m not looking to meet to assess someone’s wardrobe - so what you wear should be your decision

Yes it’s always nice to find some sexy undies waiting when the clothes come off but skin is probably THE sexiest outfit ever

Besides that who are us single guys trying to kid … most of us would be happy just to get a meet with someone like you let alone in a pretty dress

Always be comfortable with yourself and the fun will happen

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
6 hours ago

Bognor Regis

I do all the prep and always have good sexy underwear on but my style is not girlie.

I typically wear jeans and boots etc if I'm meeting them socially, if they're coming to mine then I tend to greet them in the underwear haha.

I firmly believe you should wear what you're comfortable in, it will help you to relax and be more confident when meeting someone especially if you haven't met before.

I'm sure men don't worry about this like women do. Most guys turn up in jeans and a t shirt, I think it's fine for the lady to dress justas she wants to.

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By *issHottieBottie OP Woman
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2 hours ago

Kent

Thanks for all the replies. ❤️

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By *ermanentlyHorny8082Couple
2 hours ago

North West

Takes me about 10 mins 😂 shower and teeth, jeans and a revealing top

, drag a brush through my hair, and I’m done!

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By *975manMan
2 hours ago

DARLINGTON

"I see threads often about the lovely ladies of fab and the way they prepare for a meet or even a social.

Hours of prep, picking out pretty outfits, stockings etc.

Now dont get me wrong, I get my nails,brows and lashes done regularly anyway, always freshly showered, shaved and smelling nice, face on and I own plenty of pretty/sexy matching sets of underwear

BUT

It honestly puts me off meeting coz I get in my own head then just talk myself out of arranging anything altogether.

So, fellas..honestly please. Do you mind if the person you meet isnt dressed up all fancy?

And ladies...anyone else not a fan?, or is it just me. "

Sorry if this has already been said, but why wouldn't you be yourself? In attitude and dress.

Do you.

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By *hoddSevernsMan
60 minutes ago

Abergavenny

It certainly wouldn't bother me at all , the clothes do not make the person , thats why I adore naturists , everyone is equal

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By *orphia2003Woman
50 minutes ago

Tonypandy.

I wear what I'm comfortable in. Usually jeans or trousers and a top / shirt. Almost always black.

Sometimes I do long boots and jumper dresses in the winter.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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15 minutes ago

East Sussex

I enjoy dressing up 'all fancy' but that doesn't mean everyone does or should. I have been accused of being over dressed which to me indicates that there will always be someone who thinks you should be wearing something other than what you chose and (hopefully) look and feel good in.

I think that feeling good in what you're wearing gives confidence and that's never a bad thing

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By *ideshaft1971Man
11 minutes ago

Midlands

Everyone should be comfortable wearing what they want without thinking it doesn’t conform, a pair of jeans with a top can look as sexy on a woman than a dress so keep it up!

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By *oneyBee200Woman
11 minutes ago

Kent

I’m strictly a jeans and top person, I need to feel comfortable. I always prepare them and say no I don’t dress up. It’s what is underneath the clothes that counts 😉 No complaints so far

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By *WB85Man
10 minutes ago

Staffordshire

Go to a social that shows who you really are.

Wear what makes you feel comfortable and relaxed.

We all over think these initial moments.

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