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"Nice to see a positive thread by a single guy" Thank you x | |||
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"Nearly been to a few but my anxiety of going as a single guy would go through the roof and I’d talk myself out of going out of fear of being out of place and unwelcomed " Yep I had the same feelings. You just need to get there and chat ,honestly you won't regret it. Even if you don't play at least you've done it and you'll try again. | |||
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"Well done! 👌 Being the only single guy there was definitely a result. Obi" It definitely was but very daunting haha | |||
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"Were you invited as a couple but went alone? " Yes i was , I was going with my wife. Didn't know anyone there. There was about 15 couple's there and me lol . | |||
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"Nearly been to a few but my anxiety of going as a single guy would go through the roof and I’d talk myself out of going out of fear of being out of place and unwelcomed Yep I had the same feelings. You just need to get there and chat ,honestly you won't regret it. Even if you don't play at least you've done it and you'll try again. " I’ll give it a try the next time I can attend one | |||
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"Nearly been to a few but my anxiety of going as a single guy would go through the roof and I’d talk myself out of going out of fear of being out of place and unwelcomed Yep I had the same feelings. You just need to get there and chat ,honestly you won't regret it. Even if you don't play at least you've done it and you'll try again. I’ll give it a try the next time I can attend one " You definitely should | |||
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"If guys joined in more on social side they would get a far better hit rate ,well done op top effort " 100 % I didn't go in thinking i was going to get some fun ,but I just wanted to get there and chat to couples and get a connection and before I knew it i was on the bed having the time of my life haha. | |||
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"Always said that parties and clubs are the best place for single men to start, they are in demand more than they realise. Mrs x" Definitely at least your talking to people face to face and you can get a better connection with people x | |||
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"This is great to hear, well done! I read threads all the time about "why don't I get a message back" ect... People at socials are so welcoming and chatty, just take that first step and get meeting people..." Totally agree as long as they can see you are chatting and not just sat in the corner on your own , then people are friendly . | |||
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"A p➕sitive thread — lovely to hear about your experience, OP. 💚" Thank you fella  | |||
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"Not to put a dampener on this thread, but it sounds like you were the only single guy there because your wife didn’t join you. I’d be interested to know if other single guys were also invited or if it was meant to be a couples only party. If it was the latter, it does change the perception somewhat as a fair few parties (not all I admit) don’t accept single men" I don't get what you mean??? I'm just trying to let single guys know that if you do get invited to a party then put yourself out there and go. Its not always about the playing but you can get a few verifications from people for just talking to people. | |||
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"A single guy who takes the effort to chat will always go a long way. Well done OP for taking yourself of your comfort zone - I’m sure you were well rewarded. " | |||
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"A single guy who takes the effort to chat will always go a long way. Well done OP for taking yourself of your comfort zone - I’m sure you were well rewarded. " Exactly and that's what people were saying. I made the effort. I dressed smart ,spoke to mostly every couple and people welcomed me in. X | |||
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"Not to put a dampener on this thread, but it sounds like you were the only single guy there because your wife didn’t join you. I’d be interested to know if other single guys were also invited or if it was meant to be a couples only party. If it was the latter, it does change the perception somewhat as a fair few parties (not all I admit) don’t accept single men I don't get what you mean??? I'm just trying to let single guys know that if you do get invited to a party then put yourself out there and go. Its not always about the playing but you can get a few verifications from people for just talking to people. " My point is, were you invited as a single guy or as a couple? And were other single men invited also? Because in my experience a large amount of party organisers do not invite single men | |||
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"I’ve always felt shy and don’t know how to get into parties or clubs " Just bite the bullet and go for it. What's the worst that can happen?? | |||
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"Not to put a dampener on this thread, but it sounds like you were the only single guy there because your wife didn’t join you. I’d be interested to know if other single guys were also invited or if it was meant to be a couples only party. If it was the latter, it does change the perception somewhat as a fair few parties (not all I admit) don’t accept single men I don't get what you mean??? I'm just trying to let single guys know that if you do get invited to a party then put yourself out there and go. Its not always about the playing but you can get a few verifications from people for just talking to people. " I assume he meant was it meant to be couples only? Which, if you do a bit of 'research' you can easily see that it wasn't. 🤷♂️ It's not hard to read veris, look who left them and view a profile that states single men are welcome at some of the hosts parties. Although from a bit of reading, it does seem you may not have been the only single there. But your point is still valid. Single guys should take advantage of invites to parties, go with an open mind and have a blast! 👌 Obi | |||
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"Not to put a dampener on this thread, but it sounds like you were the only single guy there because your wife didn’t join you. I’d be interested to know if other single guys were also invited or if it was meant to be a couples only party. If it was the latter, it does change the perception somewhat as a fair few parties (not all I admit) don’t accept single men I don't get what you mean??? I'm just trying to let single guys know that if you do get invited to a party then put yourself out there and go. Its not always about the playing but you can get a few verifications from people for just talking to people. I assume he meant was it meant to be couples only? Which, if you do a bit of 'research' you can easily see that it wasn't. 🤷♂️ It's not hard to read veris, look who left them and view a profile that states single men are welcome at some of the hosts parties. Although from a bit of reading, it does seem you may not have been the only single there. But your point is still valid. Single guys should take advantage of invites to parties, go with an open mind and have a blast! 👌 Obi" OP himself stated above that A) He was the only single guy there B) He was originally invited as part of a couple with his wife. So you can see why it could be inferred that other men may not have been invited | |||
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"Not to put a dampener on this thread, but it sounds like you were the only single guy there because your wife didn’t join you. I’d be interested to know if other single guys were also invited or if it was meant to be a couples only party. If it was the latter, it does change the perception somewhat as a fair few parties (not all I admit) don’t accept single men I don't get what you mean??? I'm just trying to let single guys know that if you do get invited to a party then put yourself out there and go. Its not always about the playing but you can get a few verifications from people for just talking to people. My point is, were you invited as a single guy or as a couple? And were other single men invited also? Because in my experience a large amount of party organisers do not invite single men " Yes i was going with my wife but she had a operation so couldn't go so I was invited on my own. They had a party there on the Friday night and singles were invited then . | |||
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"Not to put a dampener on this thread, but it sounds like you were the only single guy there because your wife didn’t join you. I’d be interested to know if other single guys were also invited or if it was meant to be a couples only party. If it was the latter, it does change the perception somewhat as a fair few parties (not all I admit) don’t accept single men I don't get what you mean??? I'm just trying to let single guys know that if you do get invited to a party then put yourself out there and go. Its not always about the playing but you can get a few verifications from people for just talking to people. I assume he meant was it meant to be couples only? Which, if you do a bit of 'research' you can easily see that it wasn't. 🤷♂️ It's not hard to read veris, look who left them and view a profile that states single men are welcome at some of the hosts parties. Although from a bit of reading, it does seem you may not have been the only single there. But your point is still valid. Single guys should take advantage of invites to parties, go with an open mind and have a blast! 👌 Obi" I was 100 % the only single there. They had a party Friday night when the singles went. I'm just trying to let single guys know that you should try to go to party's and clubs and get chatting, its much easier to get a connection with people than just messaging on here. | |||
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"Not to put a dampener on this thread, but it sounds like you were the only single guy there because your wife didn’t join you. I’d be interested to know if other single guys were also invited or if it was meant to be a couples only party. If it was the latter, it does change the perception somewhat as a fair few parties (not all I admit) don’t accept single men I don't get what you mean??? I'm just trying to let single guys know that if you do get invited to a party then put yourself out there and go. Its not always about the playing but you can get a few verifications from people for just talking to people. I assume he meant was it meant to be couples only? Which, if you do a bit of 'research' you can easily see that it wasn't. 🤷♂️ It's not hard to read veris, look who left them and view a profile that states single men are welcome at some of the hosts parties. Although from a bit of reading, it does seem you may not have been the only single there. But your point is still valid. Single guys should take advantage of invites to parties, go with an open mind and have a blast! 👌 Obi OP himself stated above that A) He was the only single guy there B) He was originally invited as part of a couple with his wife. So you can see why it could be inferred that other men may not have been invited " omg I'm trying to make a point about putting yourself out there as a single guy ,go to a party or club it's much easier than trying to meet up on here through messaging. | |||
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"How does one get invited to these parties? I've been to clubs but never a party." Just look at meets on here and updates they pop up quite a lot. I live in Dorset and it took me 3 hours to get there with the bad weather , but was definitely worth it  | |||
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"Always said that parties and clubs are the best place for single men to start, they are in demand more than they realise. Mrs x Definitely at least your talking to people face to face and you can get a better connection with people x" Exactly that x Mrs x | |||
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"Always said that parties and clubs are the best place for single men to start, they are in demand more than they realise. Mrs x Definitely at least your talking to people face to face and you can get a better connection with people x Exactly that x Mrs x" X | |||
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"The amount of times I've told myself I'll do it social anxiety kicks my ass and I dont get in touch with the event organiser " Yeah totally get it fella with the anxiety i had it Sat night but just went and what a night i had . But never don't tell them you're not going. | |||
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"I’ve been on my own to a party too , yes it’s terrifying to attend one but like you say I meet some great people at the few I’ve been to I know get invited which is even better now "Thats what its about, meeting the people face to face. | |||
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"I went to a party sat night on my own and I was the only single guy there. Took a lot of balls but so glad I did . Met lots of amazing couple's and was blown away by how I was treated. Had so much sexy fun it was amazing. Single guys if you want to meet people you need to get yourself to a party and get chatting to everyone. It's nerve racking but they won't bite ." Never a truer has been spoken. Talking from a viewpoint of having had a single profile and a couples profile, house party's are a single guy's gateway into the swinging scene. If a single guy gets an invite, turn up smart, do plenty of talking, remember, singles are needed at a party to give partners and hubbys a break and to spit roast, so you're vital to a house party. We've had many single guy's bottle it, no message, just don't turn up. If you put in a good shift then you're advertising yourself to couples who want a threesome. One warning, do NOT pester the host after, with 'hows it going messages'. Fab ain't Facebook, we're sex acquaintances, not friends. The hosts get fed up with that and then no more invites. | |||
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