FabSwingers.com forum: Too close for comfort?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Recently chatting to a guy with the view to meeting him and his fb and find out he lives in the same street as me. Needless to say I ran for the hills - way to close for my liking. Anyone else had this problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently chatting to a guy with the view to meeting him and his fb and find out he lives in the same street as me. Needless to say I ran for the hills - way to close for my liking. Anyone else had this problem?

it happens. Wouldn't really bother me as long as they could respect my privacy.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

C recently had one who was in the next street almost backing onto her house and another that lived at the end of the road and recognised her whilst both passing in their respective cars

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I've met people who live very close, if I felt I could trust them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Wouldn't bother me in the least as my playmates know where I live and I them and boundaries have never been crossed! I prefer local meets anyway.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've met people who live very close, if I felt I could trust them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering I live with my parents and they don't know about what I do, I don't think I'd be too keen on the idea.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Considering I live with my parents and they don't know about what I do, I don't think I'd be too keen on the idea. "

I can see that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer not to meet anyone that lives in the same town to me.

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

"I prefer not to meet anyone that lives in the same town to me.

I'm with u there Hun lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont meet anyone from same town as me either. Too risky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wont meet with anyone that lives within 15 miles of me.

I guess it depends on what you are personally comfortable with, some people don't mind the wink wink at the school gates

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By *picenicelyCouple
over a year ago

third star on the right

"I wont meet with anyone that lives within 15 miles of me.

I guess it depends on what you are personally comfortable with, some people don't mind the wink wink at the school gates "

Completely agree

Mrs

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By *hoe_nixCouple
over a year ago

leeds

once saw one of my "single guy meets" in the local supermarket --- with his wife and kids -- Bastard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't mind same area but not a few doors away, we have a young child and we like to keep our playing lives away from family life.

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley

We've never met anyone local, guess that's an answer in itself. That said, nothing surprises us who is in the lifestyle, including the most demure and gorgeous eastern European lady and her husband who's son was in my sons' class, who we saw on here, after they had moved away.....damn, if only we had known!!! Seen and had the nod a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer not to meet anyone that lives in the same town to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I'm not ashamed to be on here and i'd meet my next door neighbour if i got the chance, (shes hot, lol). But then again, i'm just a typical, horny guy, lol.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My "baby" is 21 and I'm divorced. I've bumped into a playmate in Sainsbury's we were both alone and barely acknowledged each other and the day before I was riding his face!

That's how my boys roll: discrete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet anyone who I feel close enough that I could bump into them in every day life, I don't want to be seeing guys I've shagged while i'm shopping in ASDA with my kids

Also I do community nursing and I really don't want to be going on a call and finding their son's a guy I met last week

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

All the above posts make me want to ask,

How close is too close?

Is too close to home a mile or 5 miles?

As a guy it would be good to know who I shouldn't chat to because they are too close and who I can contact because they are just the right distance away.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"All the above posts make me want to ask,

How close is too close?

Is too close to home a mile or 5 miles?

As a guy it would be good to know who I shouldn't chat to because they are too close and who I can contact because they are just the right distance away."

You decide who you want to contact: if you're too close they'll let you know. I only meet people who can accommodate and I have no intention or inclination to travel hours for a meet. In my part of south London it can take nearly two hours to travel to someone on the SAME road!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the above posts make me want to ask,

How close is too close?."

That all depends where you live I suppose. I'm in a very rural area and know someone in every village for miles around. I've met two that are within 10 miles but I made sure they understood the need for discretion before I agreed. Luckily they both wanted the same so that was ok. Anyone new joining Fab that I feel is too close for comfort are added to my blocked list.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"All the above posts make me want to ask,

How close is too close?

Is too close to home a mile or 5 miles?

As a guy it would be good to know who I shouldn't chat to because they are too close and who I can contact because they are just the right distance away."

I'd actually like to find a guy within walking distance who I could see regularly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the above posts make me want to ask,

How close is too close?

Is too close to home a mile or 5 miles?

As a guy it would be good to know who I shouldn't chat to because they are too close and who I can contact because they are just the right distance away.

I'd actually like to find a guy within walking distance who I could see regularly lol"

If you start out now, you'll get here by next tuesday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ! Far too close like the next block of flats

So glad he sent his pic first x

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Wouldn't bother me. In fact it's a local guy I'm actually looking for. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we know not everyone's discreet about their sex life's, I've seen it many times on here where people say they are open about swinging, their mates know, their kids know etc, I don't want to find out the local guy I meet is one of these people while he's pointing me out to his mates the next time he see's me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been chatting to a guy who works in pub close to me. Don't think I'll be going in there with friends or family and have made out clear that I prefer discretion of I do go in in unavoidable circumstances.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Close proximity is a cause for treading carefully. Will they offer same respect and discretion as we would and do. If so why not, guys on their own perhaps less inclined couples would depend on length of relationship or marriage. For is its down to the individual on their own merit. We,re both pretty good at recogonising good souls, if they betray that then they,ll go missing anyway lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a woman who LITERALLY lives right around the corner from me and we've been meeting up regularly for almost a year now!

So it's not always a bad thing haha.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Wouldn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are times when id actually like a playmate that lived close by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met a woman who LITERALLY lives right around the corner from me and we've been meeting up regularly for almost a year now!

So it's not always a bad thing haha."

lol I am that woman and I must say I am lucky he lives so close. what a lovely surprise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know a few local couples on here that we knew before joining the site. They know we know and we know they know but we never discuss the topic as our swinging needs are not compatable..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mates fb live in next street we have met as 3 sim but would not go round etc out of respect to my mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Closer the better, saves on fuel.

Think of the environment people.

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

I wouldn't mind my next door neighbour being on here. I've even thought about doing a Fabs flyer to put through his letterbox..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"once saw one of my "single guy meets" in the local supermarket --- with his wife and kids -- Bastard"

might have been his sister or friend and kids or even his ex wife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm chatting with someone I went to school with who lives close ... Neither of us will show our face pics or tell names ...so don't want I'm naughty past time posted on facebook !!! Its very amusing though ! I'm sure one day we will see each other in the street and know straight away ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to me all the time. Living on a small Island can be a problem sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens to me all the time. Living on a small Island can be a problem sometimes."

Brings a whole new meaning to 'wee man in a boat'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really see the big deal if they seem trust worthy but then I don't live in a small town where people 'talk'.

I once bumped into a work colleague at a club night - oh how we laughed... Well she nearly shrank into the floor but hey ho. I just figure its a shared secret and mutual standoff. Like the cold war

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I know the majority of local "single" guys on here...all of them not actually single so I won't play with them (no problems with married guys, but not locals as neighbours seeing strange blokes isn't a big deal, but seeing Jane Smith's husband coming to mine would be). If there was a genuinely single local guy/couple/female that ticked the boxes for me I'd have no problem meeting up and maybe playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't meet anyone who I feel close enough that I could bump into them in every day life, I don't want to be seeing guys I've shagged while i'm shopping in ASDA with my kids

Also I do community nursing and I really don't want to be going on a call and finding their son's a guy I met last week

This is why I think close can be too close!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

London is big with lots of people. I have found meeting people from the other side of London doesn't make you immune from meeting them in a bar or at the theatre.

The people who live closest I seem to bump into less frequently. It all boils down to trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"London is big with lots of people. I have found meeting people from the other side of London doesn't make you immune from meeting them in a bar or at the theatre.

The people who live closest I seem to bump into less frequently. It all boils down to trust."

I have trust issues lol

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By *ickloverMan
over a year ago

Devizes

My ex FB works in my local newsagent , we were together for 7 years. Saved a fortune on texts and calls as every morning when I picked up my paper I saw her ! A crafty wink from her meant I was in for a good evening !

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

As someone who lives alone, I really won't care if I'm shagging the next door neighbour (m or f).

As long as they don't come round every day and eat my biscuits.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Off topic question for the OP. ..

Is that bingo hall still open in Bathgate? I used to work there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Off topic question for the OP. ..

Is that bingo hall still open in Bathgate? I used to work there."

Yes it is, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I got chatting to a guy only to find he live's a 10 minute walk from my place... Still met up though, and met several times! It's been great fun, had a few social only nights too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer not to meet anyone that lives in the same town to me.

lived here for 8 years and never been sexually involved with anyone in the town..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could there not be the possibility of the same thing happening while at say xtasia ( other clubs are available) or while dogging, has it happened ?

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"It's been great fun, had a few social only nights too!

Anyone in HX just want to hit the bingo one night. I know how to treat the ladies

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