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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wtf is going on just now? Lost my 13 year old in May, one of her cats got ran over on Sunday and another gone missing today. Dunno how much more I can take.

I'm not looking for sympathy just wondering if someone has an answer to what the heck is going on !

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It seems to have been a bad year for a few people on the forums and no doubt in real life to.

I'm sorry go hear of your losses and hope that the rest of the year brings you some peace x

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I know you said you aren't looking for it but sympathy coming your way, means nothing I know but lots of hugs I don't know how I would cope xxx

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Sorry to hear that Hun xx

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Sending you lots of positive vibes. I know missing kitty is just the tip of the iceberg but don't give up hope on it returning, once of mine vanished for a few nights completely out of character not long ago and returned safe and well. You'll probably want to hit me now as I know I got fed up of people telling me 'mine went missing and came back' or 'cats wander you know!'

You must be such a strong person to have got this far. All the best to you sweetheart xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sending you lots of positive vibes. I know missing kitty is just the tip of the iceberg but don't give up hope on it returning, once of mine vanished for a few nights completely out of character not long ago and returned safe and well. You'll probably want to hit me now as I know I got fed up of people telling me 'mine went missing and came back' or 'cats wander you know!' "

I really hope you're right as just feel that all I'm doing is letting her down and as a mum and that's what's really getting to me

One cat left and he'll be kept in tomorrow that's for sure!

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

When mine went I checked with local vets, registered with the rspca, spent hours walking around looking and listening..... on the fourth night he just came tearing down the road meowing his head off at me, with dirty feet and smelling of mown grass. Bloody random! Keep us updated? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I cold give answers ti life's tragedies. So sorry for the losses. Virtual hugs been sent?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wished i believed in god. Id pray for you but i don't. I wish i could tell you it will get better but i can't. Losing someone doesn't ever go away but it does get to a point where you can have some peace. I wish that peace for you. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you to everyone. Still no sign of cat number 2, it's 4am. The remaining cat is being very strange but he's lost his snuggle partners so can't blame him. Just giving him lots of tlc.

I don't know what I believe in. I like to think if there was a god he wouldn't put little kids through all I've seen while criminals the likes of murderers, rapists and paedophiles get nothing.

Life sucks!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Only just seen your post or id have commented earlier sorry. Yes life a real bitch at time an I cant say I can even biggin to say I know how you must feel as thankfully both my kids are fit an healthy thank god. Having said that I have lost some very close family an the hardest for me was my sister. The tatt you can see amogest other things is my tribute to her. My mum was the bitch from hell so my sis was closest I had to a mum an I still miss her despratly. They say every thing happens for a reasen oh an the other clasic what doesent kill you only make you stronger.....im sorry but what a crack of shit that is life can be unfair an at times unbearable but I guess we have no choice but make the best of it cos 1 things for sure its the only 1 your gona get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What scares me the most is I'm quite a firm believer in getting out of life what you put in and controlling your own destiny. What has happened to you clearly defies this and I can't only offer my deepest sympathies.

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By *b586Couple
over a year ago

pemberton twp

Big hug k

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only just seen your post or id have commented earlier sorry. Yes life a real bitch at time an I cant say I can even biggin to say I know how you must feel as thankfully both my kids are fit an healthy thank god. Having said that I have lost some very close family an the hardest for me was my sister. The tatt you can see amogest other things is my tribute to her. My mum was the bitch from hell so my sis was closest I had to a mum an I still miss her despratly. They say every thing happens for a reasen oh an the other clasic what doesent kill you only make you stronger.....im sorry but what a crack of shit that is life can be unfair an at times unbearable but I guess we have no choice but make the best of it cos 1 things for sure its the only 1 your gona get"

Am sorry for your loss. ((Hug))

The other thing that gets me is when people say time is a great healer. I don't want time to take this pain away! After losing my dad 13 years ago I can say that it doesn't compare to the pain of losing your only child. Time doesn't heal, we are forced into living a new way of life, one that isn't very appealing.

In hindsight this is probably not the place I should be talking about this, apologies if I've upset anyone.]

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cat update

Still nothing. Have rung vets who haven't got him or heard anything but will ring if they do. So fingers crossed he's home soon xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wtf is going on just now? Lost my 13 year old in May, one of her cats got ran over on Sunday and another gone missing today. Dunno how much more I can take.

I'm not looking for sympathy just wondering if someone has an answer to what the heck is going on ! "
wish we had the answer your searching for, but sending our best wishes and loads of hugs, and hope the remainder of 2113 is much better for you x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When mine went I checked with local vets, registered with the rspca, spent hours walking around looking and listening..... on the fourth night he just came tearing down the road meowing his head off at me, with dirty feet and smelling of mown grass. Bloody random! Keep us updated? Xx "

Beastie my cats used to disappear for cpl weeks at a time. Given where you live it's hunting season for them. Stay strong. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only just seen your post or id have commented earlier sorry. Yes life a real bitch at time an I cant say I can even biggin to say I know how you must feel as thankfully both my kids are fit an healthy thank god. Having said that I have lost some very close family an the hardest for me was my sister. The tatt you can see amogest other things is my tribute to her. My mum was the bitch from hell so my sis was closest I had to a mum an I still miss her despratly. They say every thing happens for a reasen oh an the other clasic what doesent kill you only make you stronger.....im sorry but what a crack of shit that is life can be unfair an at times unbearable but I guess we have no choice but make the best of it cos 1 things for sure its the only 1 your gona get

Am sorry for your loss. ((Hug))

The other thing that gets me is when people say time is a great healer. I don't want time to take this pain away! After losing my dad 13 years ago I can say that it doesn't compare to the pain of losing your only child. Time doesn't heal, we are forced into living a new way of life, one that isn't very appealing.

In hindsight this is probably not the place I should be talking about this, apologies if I've upset anyone.]"

Talking helps and can be especially helpful when its to strangers because you know you can't hurt or upset them the same way as you perhaps would if it was with close or loved ones. So go on sound off as much as you need!!!!! XX

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

If I was in Moray, I would be wandering the streets shouting, "here Kitty Kitty!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deeply sorry for your loss, cant begin to imagine what you are going through.

I hope your cat returns safe and well. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it your 13 year old child or 13 year old cat you lost in May

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley


"Wtf is going on just now? Lost my 13 year old in May, one of her cats got ran over on Sunday and another gone missing today. Dunno how much more I can take.

I'm not looking for sympathy just wondering if someone has an answer to what the heck is going on ! "

To sound horrid it's life. Life as a way of just carrying on and taking us with it. It took me a hell of a long time to do but I have found that good times out weigh bad, remember what is good forget the crap. A life is not over until every life it as touched is gone. Live long and fight on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is a bad year dunno wether its the 13 or not but i know a few people who its been bad for.

i lost my 27yr old niece in feb loss of a loved one is very hard at the best of times but a youngster is harder still i think.

as for your cat i lost one for 6mths then he showed up one day. loss can have an affect on animals that people dont expect and he/she may be mourning and the character changed due to this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Was it your 13 year old child or 13 year old cat you lost in May

x"

It was my child I lost in May at age 13. Cats are 18 months old. As much as I care for the cats i would give them up to spend more time with my daughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(((((HUGS))))) From both of us and i hope the cat returns safely xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To sound horrid it's life. Life as a way of just carrying on and taking us with it. It took me a hell of a long time to do but I have found that good times out weigh bad, remember what is good forget the crap. A life is not over until every life it as touched is gone. Live long and fight on. "

Have you lost a child yourself? I very much doubt you would say it's life if you have. My life is now an existence nothing else

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Try and have a night, candles, soothing music thinking of the joy they brought you and picture them happy to allow some closure. Never forget and cherish your memories xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"it is a bad year dunno wether its the 13 or not but i know a few people who its been bad for.

i lost my 27yr old niece in feb loss of a loved one is very hard at the best of times but a youngster is harder still i think.

as for your cat i lost one for 6mths then he showed up one day. loss can have an affect on animals that people dont expect and he/she may be mourning and the character changed due to this."

I am sorry to hear about your niece

Thank you for encouraging words about cat, I hope you're right. His brother is a wee bit lost without him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To sound horrid it's life. Life as a way of just carrying on and taking us with it. It took me a hell of a long time to do but I have found that good times out weigh bad, remember what is good forget the crap. A life is not over until every life it as touched is gone. Live long and fight on.

Have you lost a child yourself? I very much doubt you would say it's life if you have. My life is now an existence nothing else "

Take no notice as far as i concerned you are the stronger person and always will be.

I know this is not the same but i have a severely disabled 14yr old daughter and someone said to me one day "That those of you whom have had someone taken away or are given a special child to look after are specially picked by the hand of god as we are the people that can cope"

Now maybe it's right or maybe it's wrong i am not a religious person, what ever way it is still hard to bear.

Having to exsist to get through is awful my day is the same minute after minute everyday and i pretty sure that with your thoughts that you are the same in a different way.

Sorry if this comes across badly i am not used to talking about emotions etc, as i tend to bottle it all up.

But stay Strong and i have two very good ears if you ever need them....

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To sound horrid it's life. Life as a way of just carrying on and taking us with it. It took me a hell of a long time to do but I have found that good times out weigh bad, remember what is good forget the crap. A life is not over until every life it as touched is gone. Live long and fight on.

Have you lost a child yourself? I very much doubt you would say it's life if you have. My life is now an existence nothing else

Take no notice as far as i concerned you are the stronger person and always will be.

I know this is not the same but i have a severely disabled 14yr old daughter and someone said to me one day "That those of you whom have had someone taken away or are given a special child to look after are specially picked by the hand of god as we are the people that can cope"

Now maybe it's right or maybe it's wrong i am not a religious person, what ever way it is still hard to bear.

Having to exsist to get through is awful my day is the same minute after minute everyday and i pretty sure that with your thoughts that you are the same in a different way.

Sorry if this comes across badly i am not used to talking about emotions etc, as i tend to bottle it all up.

But stay Strong and i have two very good ears if you ever need them....

Ruby x"

In a similar vein, I've been told God only sends what he knows we can cope with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember one thing, everything is temporary, good times and right now for the bad times, they will pass.

I recall within 18 month of my life My Granddad passed away( he was the only man in my life, I even named him Dad), My Mum passed away (just 45), my then girlfriend beat me, bit scratched, punched, kicked me leaving me with bite marks and quite a cut across my head, she did this day before My Mum died after calling me a liar and stating my mum wasn't even ill, they hadn't met.

Shortly after Mum died my then ex (same girl) contacted me to say she had miscarried, I hadn't known she was pregnant, it wasn't long I found she hadn't miscarried but terminated and then seeking for me to pity her.

On top of that there was many more ongoing issues.

Life has a habit of kicking right where it hurts at times, I hope your temporary bad times soon pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs...

There never is a right or wrong answer. Some things just happen. It's like asking "what's the meaning of life" That we do not really know other than life is what we make of it!

I know you are not looking for sympathy, but I send lots of positive thoughts for you and your family. I hope the rest of your year is peaceful and without loss!

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