FabSwingers.com forum: manners

By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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i was against meeting single guys as i've

had problems with a cpl i know from another site anyway put on my profile i would meet them.so cpl of guys got in touch then i changed my mind but one guy kept in touch so all last week we chatted and arranged to meet last sat nite at my place .so there i am already and waiting when i get phone call to say he had a puncture but couldnt fix it and as he not have a spare was waiting for the RAC .fine i thought no prob.but then nothing no phone call text or anything.

on sunday still nothing no message on here either ,then lo and behold now he has a veri come on dated 30th from a lady met this guy at short notice.last nite and we went to a club so he wasnt on the way to meet me after all .what was all that about ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No f••••• has any these days

We had similar a few years back from a couple. He had a bad back though and they did this elaborate roll play over the telephone to "prove" he was in a lot of pain.

Then similar thing , a veri appears from 2 other couples from that night.

I put this to them but they just denied it lol. Block - Deleted - Goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he obviously thought he'd got a better offer and took it

I had it once, I went to meet a guy, I don't drive so got the train, only to Birmingham, I got to new st station went to arranged meeting place and after a few mins he text me saying there had been a change of plan, he'd had another offer from a woman he has been trying to meet for ages so he wasn't coming to meet me now but was free tomorrow if I wanted to re arrange lol

it happens

people are looking for the best they can get, a lot will drop a meet for a better offer

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

What the....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's sometimes best not to try and understand and remember that there will always be somebody who doesn't care about other peoples feelings.

Try not to let it get to you and remember, not everyone is like that.

hope you have better luck next time

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

If people say they got a better offer, that's just rude!

I got a message for my (possibly) first MMF, with a bi couple, but a couple of days earlier I arranged to go out in town with my best mate.

I replied back "sorry, I am busy that night"

The only thing that I would cancel for is someone in hospital/family crisis.

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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he wouldnt have known he had a better offer as he hadn't met me to know me.but how can i ever pick myself up from what's

happened to me and trust men when this happens ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've cancelled for lots of things but never to meet someone else

I have arranged to meet people then gone off them, sometimes once you agree to meet men they change and start getting a bit weird, if someone makes me feel uneasy, even if I have agreed to meet I will cancel

I also cancelled once cause I got a spot lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he wouldnt have known he had a better offer as he hadn't met me to know me.but how can i ever pick myself up from what's

happened to me and trust men when this happens ??

im not saying the other meet was a better offer, but some people may think the other person was

it may not be you as a person

you said he went to a club? maybe he preferred the idea of going to a club than a 1 on 1 meet

don't let it bother you, move on, theres loads of nice guys on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also cancelled once cause I got a spot lol

Understandable. You should have seen the beauty that emerged on my face at the weekend (luckily it is gone now so I can go back out in public).

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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he not cancel on me he just not turn up.

leaving me sat at home by myself wondering where he was and if he was going to turn up x

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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and he knew i go to clubs as it was something we chatted about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he wouldnt have known he had a better offer as he hadn't met me to know me.but how can i ever pick myself up from what's

happened to me and trust men when this happens ??

Not worth ur time hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wouldn't worry about it

you need to be thick skinned on here

just think ...meh, plenty more fish in the sea and move on, you cant base everyone on one person, if you do you may as well leave x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really wouldn't worry about it

you need to be thick skinned on here

just think ...meh, plenty more fish in the sea and move on, you cant base everyone on one person, if you do you may as well leave x"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"he not cancel on me he just not turn up.

leaving me sat at home by myself wondering where he was and if he was going to turn up x"

You need to let it go and move on or you'll make yourself I'll! You were at home, you could have been sat alone in a pub.

He had a "better" offer, not nice, but he obviously doesn't care for you so don't waste more time on it.

Good luck with your next meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happend to me more than once..even if someone is verified..means nothing anyway!

i understand how u feel..its actualy not nice.

im very wary now meeting guys..as takes time get ready and get dolled up, only to be sat there..and nothing! and yes it does get u down!

if someone cancels no matter how lame excuse then better than no show.

chin up though girl..peeps who do that in my eyes are just plain nasty..i never get why some guys do it, especially when they ones texing etc and saying looking forward to meeting... i never get my hopes up now and u only know someone is genuine when they are actualy knocking at the door!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no excuse for his behaviour.

I know it's of no consolation but this kind if thing happens to lots of people, men and women.

Maybe you could think if it as a lucky escape in not meeting him. For example, if he doesn't have basic manners can you imagine how selfish he might have been in bed or maybe ignored you after he got his own way.

Maybe through this post or if you chat to a friend it'll be easier to find some healing and forget about him.

My advice would be to treat yourself, maybe some new lingerie or a nice meal or even a little me time. But ultimately, fuck him - bare in mind this is the way the Neanderthals behave. Don't let this idiot stop you having fun. You are better than him.

Good luck. If I were closer I'd try and meet you. That would be a great honour x

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By *exycleaner OP Woman
over a year ago

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thanks guys knew you lot would cheer

me up ,thats why im still on the site so i can join in on the forums xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry put it down to a life's lesson ...and would you really wish to know a man like this . ? No ... I know I would not .. can do this and what will he do next .. you move on and see it as a lucky escape. Some very strange people here sorry to say at times we live and learn .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad and very very shallow. But it happens a lot for all the reasons given.

Don't give up I'm sure you'll meet some nice ones to

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

"i've cancelled for lots of things but never to meet someone else

I also cancelled once cause I got a spot lol

i remember that lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i was against meeting single guys as i've

Maybe she was the RAC? I hear they have got great customer service

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Manners Maketh Man as I was always taught. A bit of common courtesy and respect goes a long way..

Sadly it's very much overlooked these days

And others have said if someone thinks something better is available then it's vamoose to any plans/cost you 'd sorted.. Very shitty

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The good ones make up for the twunts. Don't think all single guys will do the same.

This is why my regular meeting spot is a chain coffee shop at a local shopping centre - no addresses need to be given out, not even numbers need to be exchanged, and if he's a no show I can do a little shopping or grab some food or just go home. I consider no shows to be a lucky escape. I block and report and move on to the next.

I have had a few instances of being stood up for a better prospect because I make it clear that the first meet is just coffee and a chat. Again I simply consider that if he doesn't have the courtesy and respect to stick to his agreement then we wouldn't get on anyway.

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