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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As many of you know. I am inexperienced when it comes with the physical stuff. Yet I have learnt that being hesitant in any form makes women think you are rejecting them. When clearly you aren't. So I was wondering at what point when seeing them or even if you are just chatting to them online. Does one tell them that they are inexperienced to avoid them thinking they are getting rejected?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say listen love im not a hardened shagger so have some patience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just say listen love im not a hardened shagger so have some patience "

Lol. Does it matter though when to say it. As in if you tell someone you're getting to know. It maybe best to tell them after seeing them a certain amount of time, maybe after you kiss a few times and you are in a relaxed atmosphere? Maybe for a fling they would want to know straight away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno really i tend to find out after a few kisses how good a shagger they are...unless they bore me

And tbh if you are looking to only kiss someone a few times over a couple of meets...is this really the site for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say relax and don’t worry …… you’ve already been open and up-front on your profile about your inexperience,

So you don't have to worry about arriving at that hurdle.

But perhaps you could just be similarly open and up-front with whoever you get chatting with and ask if they could take the lead if they have any desire to move things to the next level....

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dunno really i tend to find out after a few kisses how good a shagger they are...unless they bore me

And tbh if you are looking to only kiss someone a few times over a couple of meets...is this really the site for you?"

On here. I will get with them as soon as they wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dunno really i tend to find out after a few kisses how good a shagger they are...unless they bore me

And tbh if you are looking to only kiss someone a few times over a couple of meets...is this really the site for you?

On here. I will get with them as soon as they wanted. "

Im confused lol i thought you were worried just go with the flo sex isnt something ya learn really its just a natural act...all you do is learn your likes over time

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I must not have sex tonight lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must not have sex tonight lol"

I WANT SEX TONIGHT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd get it if I lived closer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sex tonight does sound like a nice idea...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I must have sex tonight lol

I WANT SEX TONIGHT "

Maybe you two should get a room and invite me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must not have sex tonight lol"

Ha ha thanks for that reminder cheeky i wont do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say relax and don’t worry …… you’ve already been open and up-front on your profile about your inexperience,

So you don't have to worry about arriving at that hurdle.

But perhaps you could just be similarly open and up-front with whoever you get chatting with and ask if they could take the lead if they have any desire to move things to the next level....

Good luck "

I meant if I met a random and she was up for it. When should I tell her or if I started to see someone as I met them randomly when should I tell them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you have to tell them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you have to tell them? "

Because I get hesitant on doing things, which makes them think I am regretting them. So if they know I am hesitant because I am inexperience then they know in not rejecting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you have to tell them?

Because I get hesitant on doing things, which makes them think I am regretting them. So if they know I am hesitant because I am inexperience then they know in not rejecting them. "

Bluff it. Have a plan in your head of what you'll do and 'act'. It works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just watch a couple of Eastern European porn films, and do exactly what the guys on those do. You'll be welcomed with open legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Because I get hesitant on doing things, which makes them think I am regretting them. So if they know I am hesitant because I am inexperience then they know in not rejecting them. "

Go with a dominant women then..you wont have a choice!!

That will sort you out!

...I think anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Because I get hesitant on doing things, which makes them think I am regretting them. So if they know I am hesitant because I am inexperience then they know in not rejecting them.

Go with a dominant women then..you wont have a choice!!

That will sort you out!

...I think anyway. "

Choosing a type of women cuts out the choice I have, which I don't want. I will be more than happy to have a woman like that though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As 3rd person said mate just go with the flow,relax and let nature take its course, nobody expects you to perform like a porn star, don't tell the lady you are inexperienced just enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Because I get hesitant on doing things, which makes them think I am regretting them. So if they know I am hesitant because I am inexperience then they know in not rejecting them.

Go with a dominant women then..you wont have a choice!!

That will sort you out!

...I think anyway. "

Need my eyes testing..thought you said dormant

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As 3rd person said mate just go with the flow,relax and let nature take its course, nobody expects you to perform like a porn star, don't tell the lady you are inexperienced just enjoy "

Bit difficult if she wants something done and you don't know what or you cum too soon. Could be awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I'm still learning things, I find it helps to ask the lady what she would like me to do and give me some tips along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit difficult if she wants something done and you don't know what or you cum too soon. Could be awkward "

I think you are overthinking it too much...

Just relax and do what feels natural.

Tell them if/when you feel comfortable otherwise just go with the flow as suggested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just say listen love im not a hardened shagger so have some patience "

This made me mega lol's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit difficult if she wants something done and you don't know what or you cum too soon. Could be awkward

I think you are overthinking it too much...

Just relax and do what feels natural.

Tell them if/when you feel comfortable otherwise just go with the flow as suggested."

I have symptom that comes with my inexperience and I can't seem to shift it

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