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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

i know guys on here mail god knows how many cpls and single females non stop and good luck to them coz if u dont try u wont get as they say but why oh why do they have to send the same mail to all of us...

Weve hundreds of friends on here and saying that i dont mean friends who just wanna look at the private pics, i mean people who swing as we do and have been friends for many yrs and we all confer who is being mailed by who and most of the mail is cut and paste...it just shows what some guys think of us females...lol

i think if a guy reads our profile then sits back for a while and thinks about what he will put into the mail meaning dont just reel off the same mail to all of us..lol..xxx stella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some folk just copy and paste to loads of people without looking at the profile as you say, it's just lazy or desperation

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

And why not? most of the time they don't get an answer. Why should they type out a war and peace mail ( because some people expect more than one line)to every person on the off chance they might read it, but knowing they probably won't.

We have a cut and paste message when we send a no thanks, so it isn't just males who use this method.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some folk just copy and paste to loads of people without looking at the profile as you say, it's just lazy or desperation "

I think some folk just copy and paste to loads of people without looking at the profile as you say, it's just lazy or desperation

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

All people have to do if it pisses them off is ignore it........and move onto the next mail they get.

Isn't that the usual advice for single males who moan about mails?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All people have to do if it pisses them off is ignore it........and move onto the next mail they get.

Isn't that the usual advice for single males who moan about mails?"

My response was for sending an introductry message not a reply, just to clarify things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never cut and paste, to be honest i hardly message anyone these days, just keep in touch with the friends I already have here which suits me 100%

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I was responding to that too

Please people, single males are members too, can we not just stop running them down every time they send a mail you don't like.

Move on, and read the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gave up sending mails, rarely send any now....

Always reply to any I receive...

if you're gonna do it...then roll with the punches....take it on the chin and move on...no point getting hung up about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not just single guys just had a cut and paste off a cpl??? not good no reply going there then lol

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess


"not just single guys just had a cut and paste off a cpl??? not good no reply going there then lol"

Ah, but can you be sure it's a couple? Lotta fakes around (allegedly)

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

god loves a trier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well either way there is still no reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder why folk "cut and paste" this complaint into a new thread on an almost weekly basis

We work on the premise that we deserve or are owed absolutely nothing from anyone on this site, apart from the right to be here without being abused.

We are not that precious that we believe we are entitled to an in depth personal message that massages our ego. Nice as that might be why should anyone HAVE to do that.

If someone looks at our profile and likes what they see then we are more than happy with a simple one liner to that effect, after all this is a swingers site, not facebook.

It's the content of someones profile that is going to sway us one way or another, not some obsequious pm blowing smoke up our arse

It's no wonder a lot of single guys feel like second class citizens in this lifestyle when they continually encounter this sort of elitist attitude.

We get several PM's from single guys each week. Our profile is quite clear about when and where we play with guys yet most PM's seem to have missed that point.

We are not offended, we reply politely and then normally ignore any subsequent contact.

For us we are all equal on this site and as such we all deserve to be treated in the same manner.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"I often wonder why folk "cut and paste" this complaint into a new thread on an almost weekly basis

We work on the premise that we deserve or are owed absolutely nothing from anyone on this site, apart from the right to be here without being abused.

We are not that precious that we believe we are entitled to an in depth personal message that massages our ego. Nice as that might be why should anyone HAVE to do that.

If someone looks at our profile and likes what they see then we are more than happy with a simple one liner to that effect, after all this is a swingers site, not facebook.

It's the content of someones profile that is going to sway us one way or another, not some obsequious pm blowing smoke up our arse

It's no wonder a lot of single guys feel like second class citizens in this lifestyle when they continually encounter this sort of elitist attitude.

We get several PM's from single guys each week. Our profile is quite clear about when and where we play with guys yet most PM's seem to have missed that point.

We are not offended, we reply politely and then normally ignore any subsequent contact.

For us we are all equal on this site and as such we all deserve to be treated in the same manner.

"

well said 2 bonks again

I often reply to copy n pastes

Its there for convenience so why not use it

If you get 2% success rate then all the better

As long as what they say about me and too me impresses me, it doesn't make them less sexy, nice, funny, available

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I often wonder why folk "cut and paste" this complaint into a new thread on an almost weekly basis

We work on the premise that we deserve or are owed absolutely nothing from anyone on this site, apart from the right to be here without being abused.

We are not that precious that we believe we are entitled to an in depth personal message that massages our ego. Nice as that might be why should anyone HAVE to do that.

If someone looks at our profile and likes what they see then we are more than happy with a simple one liner to that effect, after all this is a swingers site, not facebook.

It's the content of someones profile that is going to sway us one way or another, not some obsequious pm blowing smoke up our arse

It's no wonder a lot of single guys feel like second class citizens in this lifestyle when they continually encounter this sort of elitist attitude.

We get several PM's from single guys each week. Our profile is quite clear about when and where we play with guys yet most PM's seem to have missed that point.

We are not offended, we reply politely and then normally ignore any subsequent contact.

For us we are all equal on this site and as such we all deserve to be treated in the same manner.

"

Thanks 2bonk for putting into words what I was thinking and had no time to write.

Can we treat all site members with the respect you expect yourselves...as the post above says, no one is a second class citizen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Weve hundreds of friends on here and saying that i dont mean friends who just wanna look at the private pics, i mean people who swing as we do and have been friends for many yrs and we all confer who is being mailed by who and most of the mail is cut and paste...it just shows what some guys think of us females...lol"

Firstly, not all guys are frantically messaging anything and everything with a pulse to get a meet (some may well do granted).

This thread just made we wonder what your opening gambit is like when meeting someone new at the pub (just socially)? I would imagine most people start off on fairly similar common ground and go from there, no?

So why is it any different in here? I don't copy and paste, but alot of my opening messages I imagine are largely similar, I'm looking for the same thing after all, there's only so many ways you can dress something up.

Some peoples profiles make it easier to start off with something to talk about (perhaps yours does too), others don't though...

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I fail to see why preferring a personal message is connected with ‘ego massaging’… it’s just another preference at the end of the post.

Anyway… some people have no preference with regards messages… some people do have preferences. The sooner people start accepting that THEIR preference is not a ‘one size fits all’ and accept other people will have their own preferences, then the less the dictators will sound like dic’s.

Express your preferences by all means, but accept it’s just that… a preference.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"and we all confer who is being mailed by who"

Good lord!

We view one or two people on here as "Close" friends, however, no matter how close we may appear, there's no way would we discuss emails we've been sent re someone's interest in us

Are people not entitled to privacy?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"and we all confer who is being mailed by who

Good lord!

We view one or two people on here as "Close" friends, however, no matter how close we may appear, there's no way would we discuss emails we've been sent re someone's interest in us

Are people not entitled to privacy? "

I wonder if they 'cut n paste' the messages and send out a 100 copies to their friends.....

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Sorry... I could not resist the irony of it

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

We very, very seldom contact anyone re a meet, and if:


"we all confer who is being mailed by who"

Goes on, how lucky are we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Express your preferences by all means, but accept it’s just that… a preference.

"

Could not agree more, preference is good and expecting is bad.

Lets hope we now see a lot more harmony and a big reduction in threads being started by folk stamping their feet because their preferences have not been realised and others bleating on about not getting their preferred "Moonpig" style correspondence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wonder why folk "cut and paste" this complaint into a new thread on an almost weekly basis

We work on the premise that we deserve or are owed absolutely nothing from anyone on this site, apart from the right to be here without being abused.

We are not that precious that we believe we are entitled to an in depth personal message that massages our ego. Nice as that might be why should anyone HAVE to do that.

If someone looks at our profile and likes what they see then we are more than happy with a simple one liner to that effect, after all this is a swingers site, not facebook.

It's the content of someones profile that is going to sway us one way or another, not some obsequious pm blowing smoke up our arse

It's no wonder a lot of single guys feel like second class citizens in this lifestyle when they continually encounter this sort of elitist attitude.

We get several PM's from single guys each week. Our profile is quite clear about when and where we play with guys yet most PM's seem to have missed that point.

We are not offended, we reply politely and then normally ignore any subsequent contact.

For us we are all equal on this site and as such we all deserve to be treated in the same manner.

"

You posts always save me the effort of responding...what they said - lol

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

oh dear if i knew there would be this much feed back i wouldnt have bothered all i was tring to put across but failed to do so was that alot of guys(not all)dont bother to read our profile and just send a cut and paste message, on looking at their profile to see if they are indeed what we are looking for we find out they arent, it would be so easly to read profiles then send a short and simple e-mail to that person rather than sending out reems of cut and paste messages to people they do not match..it doesnt take long to look at a ptofile now does it...also it shows some guys(not all)arent really bothered who they meet as they send the same mail to many many types male and female also i have to point out we reply to every e-mail recieve and certainly never a cut and paste message...i respect all members.. stella..xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never did master the art of cut n paste ,,, thank god ,, lol ,, all my e-mails are one off masterpieces written to the person i,m interested in ,,, some are short and concise and otheres lenghty boring tomes ,,,, both seem to have the desired effect ,,,, straight in the delete bin ,,, lol

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I have no problem with cut n paste. Does annoy me when they don't bother to change the name though. I've been called Linda, Sue and Debs this week......... oh and Peter, which really did worry me!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Im not really too concerned about types of messages its profiles that hold more interest to me

We have met fabulous people from one line messages because their profiles told us all we needed to know to want to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh dear if i knew there would be this much feed back i wouldnt have bothered all i was tring to put across but failed to do so was that alot of guys(not all)dont bother to read our profile and just send a cut and paste message, on looking at their profile to see if they are indeed what we are looking for we find out they arent, it would be so easly to read profiles then send a short and simple e-mail to that person rather than sending out reems of cut and paste messages to people they do not match..it doesnt take long to look at a ptofile now does it...also it shows some guys(not all)arent really bothered who they meet as they send the same mail to many many types male and female also i have to point out we reply to every e-mail recieve and certainly never a cut and paste message...i respect all members.. stella..xxxx"

Your profile is the exception to the norm in that it clearly states no cut and paste messages, if only a few others who regularly complain about this had that sort of clarity in theirs

My post was not aimed exclusively at you but more at the notion that single guys have to "up their game" for some people or risk ridicule within and, as your opening post shows, without the forum environment

Preferring to receive a personal message based on your profile content is one thing but expecting it is another, and then discussing offenders with all and sundry is another matter completely.

For us a PM is a Private Message and as such we discuss them with no one.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Im not really too concerned about types of messages its profiles that hold more interest to me

We have met fabulous people from one line messages because their profiles told us all we needed to know to want to respond

"

I don't have a problem with all one-liners - I've had some lovely one-liners (which are obviously a result of the person/s actually reading my profile) which have lead to conversations and meets... (regardless of what was on their profile).

I've had huge messages and been switched off - usually because the message was so long they forgot to change all of the "guys like you two" and "lovely couple" comments.

I am sure not ALL cut and paste senders are just spamming in hope of any reply from anyone and not overly bothered who they get a "yes" from... but it sure is the case for some people.

When arranging meets online, I prefer to be a little more selective than that and appreciate when the people sending me messages appear to be also... shows we are likely to be on the same wave length.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one liners....

war peace messages.....

who cares..

both will come from the nicest guys on Fab

both will come from the not so pleasant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oops forgot to add...

if you dont want either......

block everyone and YOU DO THE MESSAGING

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"oops forgot to add...

if you dont want either......

block everyone and YOU DO THE MESSAGING

"
those pink pants have brought u wisedom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oops forgot to add...

if you dont want either......

block everyone and YOU DO THE MESSAGING

those pink pants have brought u wisedom "

aye pity I didnt have that wisdom before I wasked my white calvs with my new red sweatshirt...........

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"oops forgot to add...

if you dont want either......

block everyone and YOU DO THE MESSAGING

those pink pants have brought u wisedom

aye pity I didnt have that wisdom before I wasked my white calvs with my new red sweatshirt..........."
now talk about shattering my illusions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no they were purchased pink...... I was kinda drawn to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one liners....

war peace messages.....

who cares..

both will come from the nicest guys on Fab

both will come from the not so pleasant

"

Your doing it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one liners....

war peace messages.....

who cares..

both will come from the nicest guys on Fab

both will come from the not so pleasant

Your doing it again "

I know lol, I know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one liners....

war peace messages.....

who cares..

both will come from the nicest guys on Fab

both will come from the not so pleasant

Your doing it again

I know lol, I know...

"

And it makes me smile every time you do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one liners....

war peace messages.....

who cares..

both will come from the nicest guys on Fab

both will come from the not so pleasant

Your doing it again

I know lol, I know...

And it makes me smile every time you do it "

thank you sir..

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

sorry for taking so long to post on here but fell asleep reading the op`s profile

just wonders how anyone meets all the reqirments they have

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond


"sorry for taking so long to post on here but fell asleep reading the op`s profile

just wonders how anyone meets all the reqirments they have "

I was about to post the same! The list of don't wants and the list of do wants is a war and peace epic in themselves. Don't want fat men, fair do's, but to then describe yourself as not fat and not thin.

Sorry edited out what I was about to say as I don't want to be accused of having a go at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a number of cut and paste replies, such as

Thanks but no thanks mail

Sorry but your profile says "wont meet smokers" reply

Sorry but we are outside your age criteria reply

Yes I know you really want to have sex with Jed but he won't even do it for the cash you have offered reply (not actually used this one yet but still hoping)

We also have a "cut and paste" letter to send out to people however we first read peoples profiles to see if we are within the criteria they are looking for and then add to the cut and paste basic information something personal to the person we are mailing.

We don't see anything wrong with having the cut and paste section which basically says about travel, accommodating, location, ages, verifications, pictures, our "no strings" meet policy etc, it just saves time but each mail we send is then tweaked to the individuals we are sending them to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sasha,

I replied earlier without reading your profile... now I have..

the first section with the 'do nots' is almost impossible to digest. You may find that to be partially the reason they skip to the second half.

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

have to agree with you there sasha

there is only so many ways you can say the same things,

when sending out a first message to some one who just puts "will fill in later" on there profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, as usual when I read a thread I had a peek at the OP's profile..........

About 15 NO's and DON'TS in the first paragraph and after reading through lots and lots of words which include NO (stated twice !) Bi Men, Gays etc etc it states you are looking for Couples (MM) ?????????????????

Maybe its a good job I'm not playing at the moment 'cause I wouldn't know whether to mail or not......... Raz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a number of cut and paste replies, such as

Thanks but no thanks mail

Sorry but your profile says "wont meet smokers" reply

Sorry but we are outside your age criteria reply

Yes I know you really want to have sex with Jed but he won't even do it for the cash you have offered reply (not actually used this one yet but still hoping)

We also have a "cut and paste" letter to send out to people however we first read peoples profiles to see if we are within the criteria they are looking for and then add to the cut and paste basic information something personal to the person we are mailing.

We don't see anything wrong with having the cut and paste section which basically says about travel, accommodating, location, ages, verifications, pictures, our "no strings" meet policy etc, it just saves time but each mail we send is then tweaked to the individuals we are sending them to.

"

In my view a perfect use of the cut and paste facility, so long as there is a little bit of personal stuff in there that proves they have actually read your profile I was always quite happy to recieve them. As has been said, was never so up myself that I expected a ream of poetry etc all written just for me. (although just once may have been nice lol) Raz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In defence of the OP the structure and content of their profile is clear and to the point.

It may not be in a format that pleases all but it does not leave anyone who has read it in any doubt as to what they are seeking.

In the context of this thread it is completely unfair to criticise them for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay - my first forum post - maybe my last if I'm ridiculed as I'm a sweet sensitive soul (so please be nice).

I enjoyed reading the thread especially as it flipped around several sub-topics.

Firstly - I never cut and paste. Any messages I send are individual, contain the correct names etc and will be typically a 'nice' paragraph in length. If folk are happy to send and/or receive cut 'n' pasted stuff then fine - simple personal choice. As commented, anyone interested will look at your profile anyway and so there is little point in repeating those details in a message (and my profile is reasonably complete). I only message those where I feel I am a fairly good match to their requirements although I might, for example, message someone looking for up to 52 years and point out straight away that I am 55 but young at heart .. lol.

I did relate to the comment by 'tentwilly' about messages going straight to the delete bin - I still struggle with what I (repeat : what I) perceive to be a lack of manners but then that's just me. I'm beginning to think I'm doing something wrong as even when I'm a good match (on paper at least) to someone's wish-list then probably 75% of the time my message just gets deleted. Oh, and I do not send out loads of messages - maybe averaged about 1 per day.

Loved the comments by '_im53' and 'B and K' regarding highly detailed wish-lists - but then, personal preferences are a wonderful thing..

One last comment - part of my profile has been cut/pasted into someone else's profile; not sure if this is a compliment or not ... lol. When I messaged the individual to say how remarkable a coincidence that we had chosen the same words .... my message was deleted !!! I'm not sure he appreciated my humour but it did make me smile.

One last last comment - this is now several hours old as I wrote it in wordpad and then tried to add it to the thread but I needed to verify my profile first. So, at least it made me do that ... and then ... (you guessed it) ... I could cut and paste this into the thread.

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By *icelymarkedMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Told you the Welsh are coming

We just get daft one liners from blokes despite what out profile says ........

..... so at least some of you get more than that even if it is cut and pasted

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City


"And why not? most of the time they don't get an answer. Why should they type out a war and peace mail ( because some people expect more than one line)to every person on the off chance they might read it, but knowing they probably won't.

We have a cut and paste message when we send a no thanks, so it isn't just males who use this method."

i totally agree . ive as good as stopped sending mail now ,as i have always taken time and effort in composing a detailed ,polite message ,only for it to be deleted without being read ,or at best looked at and ignored.

ive never ,and never would use the cut and paste option ,but i can understand why some single men use it ,as you get to the stage where you think ,why bother ,as its only going to be deleted without being read or ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pasted messages just get deleleted!

reason i like to be thought as unique

and a mass msg doesnt appeal!

to be fair i can understand why!xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry for taking so long to post on here but fell asleep reading the op`s profile

just wonders how anyone meets all the reqirments they have "

Does it matter if they don't meet the requirements, surely it is better to know the do's and dont's upfront rather than waste your time.

Everyone has criteria, having lots of criteria will diminsh the number of available people but if that means you are happy when you do play rather than feeling uncomfortable playing surely it's a good thing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was looking to meet, I always tried to pick up on something said in the person's profile.

That of course could only be done when they actually said something in their profile, amazing the number of one line profiles!!

However, latterly I wasn't writing overly much simply because I've got better things to do with my time than right stuff only to have it deleted! I'm well aware that there are plenty of plonkers about here, but the real culprits aren't the guys who don't read profiles properly but those smart Alex who take delight in simply deleting guys' messages!

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City


"When I was looking to meet, I always tried to pick up on something said in the person's profile.

That of course could only be done when they actually said something in their profile, amazing the number of one line profiles!!

However, latterly I wasn't writing overly much simply because I've got better things to do with my time than right stuff only to have it deleted! I'm well aware that there are plenty of plonkers about here, but the real culprits aren't the guys who don't read profiles properly but those smart Alex who take delight in simply deleting guys' messages!

"

I totally agree with you ,and thats the reason i dont bother wasting my time constructing a personal ,detialed message anymore -they never get read are just deleted, a point which has been made by more than one member already on this thread.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Just to clarify, I wasn't saying we delete mails without replying, but some people do....and of course they are perfectly entitled to if they wish.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"When I was looking to meet, I always tried to pick up on something said in the person's profile.

That of course could only be done when they actually said something in their profile, amazing the number of one line profiles!!

However, latterly I wasn't writing overly much simply because I've got better things to do with my time than right stuff only to have it deleted! I'm well aware that there are plenty of plonkers about here, but the real culprits aren't the guys who don't read profiles properly but those smart Alex who take delight in simply deleting guys' messages!

I totally agree with you ,and thats the reason i dont bother wasting my time constructing a personal ,detialed message anymore -they never get read are just deleted, a point which has been made by more than one member already on this thread.

"

What do you consider to be a personal and detailed message? I am genuinely curious (you can tell me via pm if you wish - no that's not a come-on lol)

I ask as I've seen lots of messages where it is very detailed... detailed about the sender... repeating everything you can find out on the profile and the personal touch being it starts with "Hello (insert username)"

I'm not saying that's what you do - I would just like to know your perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to clarify, I wasn't saying we delete mails without replying, but some people do....and of course they are perfectly entitled to if they wish."

But do you

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Yeah

Except for the time I hit delete all instead of delete read.....

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

mmm let me think about this one..did i mention any one person who has sent me a cut and paste message..mmm yes im still thinking..no i firmly believe i didnt and to add i wouldnt, i prefer peepr to read the profile and type a e-mail accoding to what that person sees ie: my pics and info on my profile not the same old crap he types to everyone,,im not saying im aspecial and would never think i am but getting the same e-mail from guys who are sending out to all isnt really for me, adding it say on my profile no cut and pastes and they still send them so proving my point the guys that sends them dont even read the profile or they wouldnt send them which leads me to believe they arent really bothered what or who they meet.... stella..xxxx

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

its a NSA sex site

a lot of guys and ladies just want a faceless emotionless fuck

they dont have to prove themselves to anyone

all they have to do is turn up and fuck

um, thats kind of the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gaaaawwwwd almighty, there does seem to be a lot of hot air blowing in these froums lately .....

So what if somebody sends a cut n paste message ? If you don't like what it says or how it is written, delete the bloody thing and move on to the next one...

So what if the wrong kind of people appear in the 'Looked at Me' section

So what !

So what !

So bloody what !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stella..

your profile is VERY difficult to read. The first section is one huge list of 'do not' that all merge into one so I doubt anyone gets to the end of it.

What you are looking for is much clearer to read.

as for comments on your pics... you have 3. 2 semi graphic and 1 nice.

so 2 roads to go down... comment on the graphic and risk offending you.. only a few ways to say 'wow what a lovely stunning and beautiful open vagina'

or .. 'you look like you are having a great time with that afro caribean gentleman'

or comment on the 1 full body...

I like to think I am a decent lad.. altho I do not meet your requirements but I need to say... I WOULD NOT HAVE A CLUE WHERE TO START COMPOSING A MAIL TO YOU...

that may reflect me rather than you tho.. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stella..

your profile is VERY difficult to read. The first section is one huge list of 'do not' that all merge into one so I doubt anyone gets to the end of it.

What you are looking for is much clearer to read.

as for comments on your pics... you have 3. 2 semi graphic and 1 nice.

so 2 roads to go down... comment on the graphic and risk offending you.. only a few ways to say 'wow what a lovely stunning and beautiful open vagina'

or .. 'you look like you are having a great time with that afro caribean gentleman'

or comment on the 1 full body...

I like to think I am a decent lad.. altho I do not meet your requirements but I need to say... I WOULD NOT HAVE A CLUE WHERE TO START COMPOSING A MAIL TO YOU...

that may reflect me rather than you tho.. good luck"

By the time I've read the 4th or 5th 'NO' I've already forgotton what the preceding ones were all about ...

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

redhotcouple i have to say as it says from the start in the first sentence apart from others it clearly states no couples so rehotcouple u have no need to go any further..lmao

just looking thru my mail ive recieved in the last few hrs, one was very to the point saying he has read the post on forums and im a fat ugly bitch and should leave the site, guess what that members profile is now deleted..i think if a person has something to say and its not abusive in anyway shape or form i have to ask why the responce on occasions is very sarcy and somewhat abusive,,are we not allowed to speak these days without recieving abuse... stella..xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you think guys are getting pissed off not getting any kind of a reply full stop from folk on here, even when they put more effort into their mails?

i think that if you dont like the look or sound of someone who has contacted you then you only have to type 'no thx'. rather than ignore... i believe this is one of the reasons cut n paste mails appear to be big on here. yes its lazy, but its swings n roundabouts really...

ps. i got a cut n paste off a lady yesterday, how did i know? cause she sent exactly the same mail last week lol...so we all getting it lol...

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

2 scoops...at no time did i say i ignore them ...when i recieve a cut and paste e-mail from a person or infact a e-mail from a person that we arent really looking for i always repeat always sent them a no thank u e-mail explaining why....i would never be so rude as to ignore anyone on this site whether they sent us a cut and paste or a regular mail...stella..xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was just replying in general not directly, i know there are some people who make the effort to reply to mails, and most just simply ignore, but i guess in the end its your right to do what you like, personally i think its not very nice to ignore. even if you have to tell them to do one is better than nothing lol...

cut n paste and the likes will always be around i guess.......

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"its a NSA sex site

a lot of guys and ladies just want a faceless emotionless fuck

they dont have to prove themselves to anyone

all they have to do is turn up and fuck

um, thats kind of the point

"

As you say there are a lot who want a faceless person to just turn up and fuck. However as you also indicate, that's not ALL.

Some people like to be a little more selective about who they invite into their home, their bed and (as this is actually a swinging site) into their existing sexual relationship.

Neither way is right or wrong... other than being the right or wrong way for the individual/couple. Enjoying recreational sex the way that works for the individual/couple... surely that's the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its a NSA sex site

a lot of guys and ladies just want a faceless emotionless fuck

they dont have to prove themselves to anyone

all they have to do is turn up and fuck

um, thats kind of the point

As you say there are a lot who want a faceless person to just turn up and fuck. However as you also indicate, that's not ALL.

Some people like to be a little more selective about who they invite into their home, their bed and (as this is actually a swinging site) into their existing sexual relationship.

Neither way is right or wrong... other than being the right or wrong way for the individual/couple. Enjoying recreational sex the way that works for the individual/couple... surely that's the point."

Absolutely spot on and turns the wheel full circle

This lifestyle is all about personal choice and I always wonder why folk are so quick to complain when others choose to communicate in the way they choose to do.

Well intentioned advice is much more palatable than a group belittling

The only advice I would seek to offer is that those whose preference is to receive personal style PM's would do well to emphasise that within their own profiles as to subsequently complain about something not included in a long list of likes/dislikes is a bit churlish

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

The only advice I would seek to offer is that those whose preference is to receive personal style PM's would do well to emphasise that within their own profiles as to subsequently complain about something not included in a long list of likes/dislikes is a bit churlish"

My current profile heading states I do not wish to receive any new “are you interested” messages... but guess what's been arriving?

Let's be honest here.... too many people just don't bother reading profiles before sending a message.... which can only be generic messages. For me a personal message indicates the sender has actually read my profile and hopefully has selected to write to me because of a shared interest and preferences hopefully matching… yeah I got ‘hopefully’ in there twice for a reason.

It's human nature to grip about things once in a while when they keep happening..... ok may be that's not the most positive way to post about it. But out of those posts generally comes a thread with some good advice, some sharing of our differing preferences and a general heads up to help people understand where they could change their approach… well some of us live in hope anyway

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By *edhot4blk OP   Couple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

i think wanting to recieve mail from peeps who are sending it to me isnt alot to ask rather than recieve mail that is being sent to hundreds of others, what im trying to say is we are all different and as such all have different wants and non wants so recieving a cut and paste from peeps who havent read our profile means the majority of the peeps sending the mail we arent really looking for...

im not wanting a 10,000 word essay, im not wanting a persons life history blow for blow but it would be very nice to recieve a mail or 2 from a person that has taken the time to read our profile and indeed to be what we are looking for..im not asking alot..well i dont think i am.... stella..xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My current profile heading states I do not wish to receive any new “are you interested” messages... but guess what's been arriving?

"

Just a thought but if you hid your profile until you want to start receiving messages again that would certainly stop the unwanted stuff getting through

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

My current profile heading states I do not wish to receive any new “are you interested” messages... but guess what's been arriving?

Just a thought but if you hid your profile until you want to start receiving messages again that would certainly stop the unwanted stuff getting through "

Surely the heading should be enough?

Your advice was to put something in the profile (which I agree can't do any harm).... I went one better and put it as the heading in anticipation of some people opening the profile and skipping all the text. I made clear as a clear thing can be what type of messages I don't want and yet still they come.

I don't want to stop all messages... if someone wants to start a conversation that's fine and I'm happy to chat to people I've already been chatting to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess if you spend a week on a witty and meaningful first message it's just as likely be ignore as a simple 'Hello' if your not interested.

All the first contacts, winks, hello's are to see if you are interested, which you are more likely to be by the profile.

The problem is people with multiple accounts as that's the only way you know it's a copy and paste

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

my oh my how often do we see this kind of post ????? all these post do in my humble opinion is take up valuable server space, because no matter how many times they appear they ain't going to make a slight bit of difference.

if anyone has a problem with over whelming amounts of mail, be it the cut and paste type or not, just do the sensible thing and hide your profile till such time as you've sorted out the ones you have, then rethink your mail filter and reset it to the desired level.

it really doesn't help posting the same things over and over again, maybe the site should have some kind of filter so as to avoid threads being opened on issues we are all aware of and have no control over. nor in my opinion could you control it without damaging a very good site as it is.

sorry this is just my opinion and my view point on this subject, but like others have said "sh*t happens" so what you just ignore it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My current profile heading states I do not wish to receive any new “are you interested” messages... but guess what's been arriving?

Just a thought but if you hid your profile until you want to start receiving messages again that would certainly stop the unwanted stuff getting through

Surely the heading should be enough?

Your advice was to put something in the profile (which I agree can't do any harm).... I went one better and put it as the heading in anticipation of some people opening the profile and skipping all the text. I made clear as a clear thing can be what type of messages I don't want and yet still they come.

I don't want to stop all messages... if someone wants to start a conversation that's fine and I'm happy to chat to people I've already been chatting to.

"

Sadly it looks like you are completely hooped with this one miss.

Unless the site are going to put in place a rule that states folk have to comply with all profile requirements I guess people are just going to continue to use their personal preference to take a chance and get in touch.

Thankfully it's a very very small price to pay for the continued use of personal preference that we all get to enjoy on this site

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"my oh my how often do we see this kind of post ????? all these post do in my humble opinion is take up valuable server space, because no matter how many times they appear they ain't going to make a slight bit of difference.

if anyone has a problem with over whelming amounts of mail, be it the cut and paste type or not, just do the sensible thing and hide your profile till such time as you've sorted out the ones you have, then rethink your mail filter and reset it to the desired level.

it really doesn't help posting the same things over and over again, maybe the site should have some kind of filter so as to avoid threads being opened on issues we are all aware of and have no control over. nor in my opinion could you control it without damaging a very good site as it is.

sorry this is just my opinion and my view point on this subject, but like others have said "sh*t happens" so what you just ignore it and move on "

And to quote you regarding the subject of posts you don't like....

"..."sh*t happens" so what you just ignore it and move on ...."

Don't ya just love irony

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

My current profile heading states I do not wish to receive any new “are you interested” messages... but guess what's been arriving?

Just a thought but if you hid your profile until you want to start receiving messages again that would certainly stop the unwanted stuff getting through

Surely the heading should be enough?

Your advice was to put something in the profile (which I agree can't do any harm).... I went one better and put it as the heading in anticipation of some people opening the profile and skipping all the text. I made clear as a clear thing can be what type of messages I don't want and yet still they come.

I don't want to stop all messages... if someone wants to start a conversation that's fine and I'm happy to chat to people I've already been chatting to.

Sadly it looks like you are completely hooped with this one miss.

Unless the site are going to put in place a rule that states folk have to comply with all profile requirements I guess people are just going to continue to use their personal preference to take a chance and get in touch.

Thankfully it's a very very small price to pay for the continued use of personal preference that we all get to enjoy on this site "

The thing is... I know I'll have to put up with it.

I'm just expressing my opinion, preferences and experiences in a thread which was already here... just as we are all thankfully entitled to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we should post a 'Are you interested' message...

No, not a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe we should post a 'Are you interested' message...

No, not a good idea"

Some folk prefer a little bit more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would never be so rude as to ignore anyone on this site whether they sent us a cut and paste or a regular mail...stella..xxx"

Stella...

I have twice mentioned on here my opinion re your original post.

I also mentioned your pics as you mentioned you thought guys would like to comment on them in a message.

You have since changed your pics and I wrote to you saying I thought

1 ... your new picture was a great one

2.... also any mention re your pics was not me being rude

your read and then deleted my message with no reply.

so your quote above may be factually incorrect.

anyway I have now exhausted myself commenting on your thread and file it under ' another attention seeking post'.

good luck ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would never be so rude as to ignore anyone on this site whether they sent us a cut and paste or a regular mail...stella..xxx

Stella...

I have twice mentioned on here my opinion re your original post.

I also mentioned your pics as you mentioned you thought guys would like to comment on them in a message.

You have since changed your pics and I wrote to you saying I thought

1 ... your new picture was a great one

2.... also any mention re your pics was not me being rude

your read and then deleted my message with no reply.

so your quote above may be factually incorrect.

anyway I have now exhausted myself commenting on your thread and file it under ' another attention seeking post'.

good luck ...

"

This defo becoming Detective tastic as the plot thickens

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"so your quote above may be factually incorrect"


"Weve hundreds of friends on here and saying that i dont mean friends who just wanna look at the private pics, i mean people who swing as we do and have been friends for many yrs "

I'm curious about what you've posted, above, because you stated this on another:


""as far as i know i dont think anyone on here hates me as i dont know that many on here""

Just curious what's happened to the hundreds of friends you had?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol lol 2 bonks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol lol 2 bonks "

Between you and BOGOF this is becoming very interesting to watch and the response is being waited for with baited this end

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By *oyston VaseyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield- Pothole City


"

Some folk prefer a little bit more than that "

But its still ignored and deleted ,same as a one line message .

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