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Why are 'single guys' avoided so much?

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By *rtemisia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

Is it because all the married peeps/couples want to find other couples? I've never understood what the problem is supposed to be with single guys. Ok, now it's time to shoot me down in flames!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't avoid them ... I just can't seem to find many with all the attributes I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't avoid them, I'm actually looking for them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*coughs* some of us only seek single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because all the married peeps/couples want to find other couples? I've never understood what the problem is supposed to be with single guys. Ok, now it's time to shoot me down in flames! "
I will never understand it either, the worst culprits seem to be the ladies of the forums, I'm not sure why some guys bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do alright

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Cos they smell of meat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only play with single gents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Though I stopped sending messages out a while ago, can't be arsed. Just let them message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it because all the married peeps/couples want to find other couples? I've never understood what the problem is supposed to be with single guys. Ok, now it's time to shoot me down in flames! "
I'm a single female & from my experience there are a some single guys on here that ruin it for the genuine ones. Some won't say that they don't want to meet but just get off on dirty chat, but will arrange a meet & then not show up. I even offered to drive out to pick up a single guy to come back to mine & got told & I quote. " I can't meet tonight, it's raining, I'll get wet."

FFS. Man up. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find this happens alot..

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

There just not my thing all them dangle bits shudders na not for me

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Is it because all the married peeps/couples want to find other couples? I've never understood what the problem is supposed to be with single guys. Ok, now it's time to shoot me down in flames! I'm a single female & from my experience there are a some single guys on here that ruin it for the genuine ones. Some won't say that they don't want to meet but just get off on dirty chat, but will arrange a meet & then not show up. I even offered to drive out to pick up a single guy to come back to mine & got told & I quote. " I can't meet tonight, it's raining, I'll get wet."

FFS. Man up. Xx "

I said sorry ffs

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

Many of the single guys are part of a couple and playing without consent or if genuine lack confidence. That should not tar us all with the same brush and a conversation will normally out those bad apples to reveal the forbidden fruit

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I don't avoid them, I'm actually looking for them! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*raises a flirty eyebrow in the direction of the single ladies looking*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you say noones looking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love single guys.......just hav'nt got enough time in the world to get through all of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are more single guys on the site than any other group..for those that misbehave, they are magnified in a way..so then it becomes a case of 'all' single guys are dicks

of course a few people know anyone can be a dick...cpls and women tend to get away with it more as having a 'fanny' or being with someone who has one, gives automatic right to silly behaviour

*there are gems everywhere on fab, from almost every group..even the ones some of us arent 'interested' in

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"I don't avoid them ... I just can't seem to find many with all the attributes I like

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same here, most don't want to let you see there faces on cam or by picture, then there is the 'cant do that date etc' and there is the wanna be porn star lol

Think we just picky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" then there is the 'cant do that date etc' "

Errr- we don't all sit round with a clear diary on the off chance we my get an offer! I usually have to plan 2-3 weeks in advance to fit round my shifts. :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only play with single gents. "

Me too. I dont think single guys r avoided. Just as every post has said before that the ratio of single men to women is alot. So some times it seems like single guys find it hard to get meets on here. But theres sumone for everyone

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I can confirm I m not looking for single guys or male male couples,

more for you ladies,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't avoid them ... I just can't seem to find many with all the attributes I like

same here, most don't want to let you see there faces on cam or by picture, then there is the 'cant do that date etc' and there is the wanna be porn star lol

Think we just picky lol"

Or maybe they're just picky and trying to let you down gently.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I'm looking for single guys!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

funny enough you don't tend to hear from the guys who understand swinging and "get it" so to speak, because they are actually out there having fun......

you only tend to hear from the ones who whinge and moan... and their expectations are out of kilter with the realities

you do tend to get out what you put in, I know it is old and tired to say... but it is probably one of the more true sayings.....

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm looking for single guys! "

waves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm looking for single guys! "
Wow how uncanny and heres me looking for single ladies lol xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Is it because all the married peeps/couples want to find other couples? I've never understood what the problem is supposed to be with single guys. Ok, now it's time to shoot me down in flames! I will never understand it either, the worst culprits seem to be the ladies of the forums, I'm not sure why some guys bother. "

That's a big sweep!

I look. I'd rather find the ones I like and see if they like me than have all the ones I'm not interested in knocking on my door and have to say no thanks.

If we all paid attention to what we were doing ourselves than what other people are doing then we'd likely all be having way more sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funny enough you don't tend to hear from the guys who understand swinging and "get it" so to speak, because they are actually out there having fun......

you only tend to hear from the ones who whinge and moan... and their expectations are out of kilter with the realities

you do tend to get out what you put in, I know it is old and tired to say... but it is probably one of the more true sayings....."

Totally agree with Fabio, I got chatting to some bloke the other night, he was complaining how shit fab was, he had been on 1 month and had no fun, his profile consisted of 30 pics of his cock and his profile consisted of 3 words..... I pointed out maybe his profile needed work to which he said, why?? I'm gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like single guys too

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Not strictly single and beard wearing and realise the stats on here so not too surprised at low responsesio . However its possible to have fun and get dates

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"funny enough you don't tend to hear from the guys who understand swinging and "get it" so to speak, because they are actually out there having fun......

you only tend to hear from the ones who whinge and moan... and their expectations are out of kilter with the realities

you do tend to get out what you put in, I know it is old and tired to say... but it is probably one of the more true sayings....."

I know im still sorta newish here but iv thought that for a while

gota say fab I enjoy your post even my arse kicking over my profile a while back lol. I much prefer strate up say it how it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"funny enough you don't tend to hear from the guys who understand swinging and "get it" so to speak, because they are actually out there having fun......

you only tend to hear from the ones who whinge and moan... and their expectations are out of kilter with the realities

you do tend to get out what you put in, I know it is old and tired to say... but it is probably one of the more true sayings....."

pity other men dont think like you, then we wouldnt have to put up with men moaning all the time on the forums.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm looking for single men, just a shame the ones I mostly attract are looking for instashag.com, which is just not me, but I will not give up

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Is it because all the married peeps/couples want to find other couples? I've never understood what the problem is supposed to be with single guys. Ok, now it's time to shoot me down in flames! I will never understand it either, the worst culprits seem to be the ladies of the forums, I'm not sure why some guys bother.

That's a big sweep!

I look. I'd rather find the ones I like and see if they like me than have all the ones I'm not interested in knocking on my door and have to say no thanks.

If we all paid attention to what we were doing ourselves than what other people are doing then we'd likely all be having way more sex. "

how true

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Is it because all the married peeps/couples want to find other couples? I've never understood what the problem is supposed to be with single guys. Ok, now it's time to shoot me down in flames!

I will never understand it either, the worst culprits seem to be the ladies of the forums, I'm not sure why some guys bother. "

Would it be fair to say based on the behaviour of some all guys are all tared with the same brush

Sometimes us guys don't do ourselves any good by not fully reading profiles so i wouldn't agree with ladies being the worst culprits but i have experienced that girls/couples can be just as guilty of not reading profs and messaging.

& no one should shoot you down for expressing a view

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"I'm looking for single men, just a shame the ones I mostly attract are looking for instashag.com, which is just not me, but I will not give up "

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm looking for single men, just a shame the ones I mostly attract are looking for instashag.com, which is just not me, but I will not give up "

if you fancy moving im freeee lol

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


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Would it be fair to say based on the behaviour of some all guys are all tared with the same brush

"

Nope. I don't and refuse to subscribe to that line of thinking. I control my own luck and success on here. If anything, the actions of idiots singles on here helps me stand out from them, and provides valuable lessons for what should be avoided.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"

Would it be fair to say based on the behaviour of some all guys are all tared with the same brush

Nope. I don't and refuse to subscribe to that line of thinking. I control my own luck and success on here. If anything, the actions of idiots singles on here helps me stand out from them, and provides valuable lessons for what should be avoided."

here here. Some single males so make me smile.....myself to at time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm looking for single men, just a shame the ones I mostly attract are looking for instashag.com, which is just not me, but I will not give up "

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I'd actually quite like a single man right now. I'm hungry

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Well that cleared the room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well that cleared the room "

Might have been the gnashing teeth

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Well that cleared the room "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd actually quite like a single man right now. I'm hungry "

I couldn't possibly manage a whole one!

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"Well that cleared the room

Might have been the gnashing teeth "

I try to keep that to a minimum on meets

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Well that cleared the room

Might have been the gnashing teeth "

gnashing teeth are fine but i'm too far away, dont like 'sherbert lemons' & am a tad hairy but not downstairs

apart from that you are luffly

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"Well that cleared the room

Might have been the gnashing teeth

gnashing teeth are fine but i'm too far away, dont like 'sherbert lemons' & am a tad hairy but not downstairs

apart from that you are luffly "

Ahh you're not too hairy, unless your back is the same as your front!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the problem is the bad ones give the decent ones a bad name

as a couple we met some great single men.

we also met some complete arse holes in clubs who have no respect for the rules of swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May be that is what I am doing wrong

Well define wrong

I meet single men, and know plenty of other single women that do.

I don't get why these threads come up?

I don't do pity s

I also do not expect anything apart from & & & et al from the forums, meets/sex is a just a bonus

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"there are more single guys on the site than any other group..for those that misbehave, they are magnified in a way..so then it becomes a case of 'all' single guys are dicks

of course a few people know anyone can be a dick...cpls and women tend to get away with it more as having a 'fanny' or being with someone who has one, gives automatic right to silly behaviour

*there are gems everywhere on fab, from almost every group..even the ones some of us arent 'interested' in"

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Well that cleared the room

Might have been the gnashing teeth

gnashing teeth are fine but i'm too far away, dont like 'sherbert lemons' & am a tad hairy but not downstairs

apart from that you are luffly

Ahh you're not too hairy, unless your back is the same as your front! "

nope back is plain(ish)

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"

Would it be fair to say based on the behaviour of some all guys are all tared with the same brush

Nope. I don't and refuse to subscribe to that line of thinking. I control my own luck and success on here. If anything, the actions of idiots singles on here helps me stand out from them, and provides valuable lessons for what should be avoided.

here here. Some single males so make me smile.....myself to at time "

So it wouldn't be fair to say that then

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

So I see

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"So I see "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do I find it so hard as a single guy ? Any advice on my profile will be gratefully received x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would it be fair to say based on the behaviour of some all guys are all tared with the same brush

Nope. I don't and refuse to subscribe to that line of thinking. I control my own luck and success on here. If anything, the actions of idiots singles on here helps me stand out from them, and provides valuable lessons for what should be avoided."

This has been said many times before - and it's a simple truth that many, if the realised this, would find their life on site far more enjoyable.

No one is responsible for their own perceived success (or lack of!) than themselves!

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Because a small minority of dickheads spoil it for others

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I wouldn't mind one for tonight! Just a shame my friends are busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

married men more groomed ?

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By *xxdesignerMan
over a year ago

Sutton in ashfield

I do alright but think some dickheads send to many constant messages without reading profiles

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I wouldn't mind one for tonight! Just a shame my friends are busy "

wish I was your friend. Think I just drooled to death looking at your pic. phew is it me or is it hot in here

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't avoid them, I'm actually looking for them! "

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Avoid? I'm on the hunt for sexy, fun single guys. I could do with one right now actually

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

Would it be fair to say based on the behaviour of some all guys are all tared with the same brush

Nope. I don't and refuse to subscribe to that line of thinking. I control my own luck and success on here. If anything, the actions of idiots singles on here helps me stand out from them, and provides valuable lessons for what should be avoided."

spot on.... and I think some guys use that as an easy excuse, which leaves them blameless... and an out

so thats why i like the site as it is, and really don't like "help me with my profile" threads... because I believe you don't learn anything by being spoonfed... sometimes it is the things you learn yourself which are the things that stay with you......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to realise that it's going to be harder for a single guy there is so much competition on here have a look at the profile pics of the single guys on this thread alone compare theirs to mine and I'm not going to reach the top half if the table but things are different if they are just sending fancy a fuck as a message what you put in your message now that's a game changer, if your brad Pitt on here and not getting meets then there is a problem but otherwise you need to up your game boys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we are the work of the devil and only the bravest will be willing to take on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you find out, let me know please. Im shit out of luck on here lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

They smell funny.

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