FabSwingers.com forum: why say no to bi guys

By *i-guy OP Man
over a year ago

chester

i understand that a lot of ladies dont want to "play" with bi guys, i am just curious as to the reasons for this.

thank you for any helpful replies, be nice now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a good question! Please don't slate me for giving honest answers...

I generally say no, I think mostly from playing as a couple as it scares my other half ( he really doesn't need anything to put him off

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Maybe panic about the dreaded HIV thing,

I also like very 'manly' and more Dom style men and guess that plays a part.

Also a bit of fear of the unknown. Although my attitude and boundaries keep getting widened the longer I'm on here. Because the idea of a mmff all bi session has its appeal in someways, just not there yet!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"i understand that a lot of ladies dont want to "play" with bi guys, i am just curious as to the reasons for this.

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as some don't want to play with fat guys, or thin guys, or black guys, or white guys, or indian guys, or married guys... and the list goes on...and on... and on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i understand that a lot of ladies dont want to "play" with bi guys, i am just curious as to the reasons for this.

thank you for any helpful replies, be nice now

as some don't want to play with fat guys, or thin guys, or black guys, or white guys, or indian guys, or married guys... and the list goes on...and on... and on"

If you were not so far away I'd be nipping over to claim my blue peter badge!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frankly I never completely got it either. I do understand the straight guy worried that maybe the bi guy will do something to him but I'm fairly used to setting down play rules before things start and I don't see why stating no MM play wouldn't help that. It's generally been my experience most people are fairly good at keeping to these rules when playing.

As to the stds, unsafe play is unsafe play. I you're not protecting yourself properly, I don't see it matters much what the sexuality of the person you're playing with and if you're playing safely, same theory applies.

I think it mostly comes down to cultural bias and homophobia (and I don't mean that people are doing this intentionally or maliciously). I'm a big fan of open minds

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

HIV is not only a Gay Bi thing you know..

anyway I read the profiles and the veries. There are plenty of *straight men that have veries from men that have fu*ked them or given or received BJ's also..so in reality you just cant tell.People are evasive of the truth and tell you what you want to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

possibly for the same reason I am not that fussed with playing with a couple where the female is bi, some can be pushy, and have had quite a few who tell me they can change me and make me bi........ (as iffffffff) and before any one says, yes I have tried bi fun with a female and its def not for me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I say no to bi guys quite a lot really and for varying reasons and on a rare occasion, I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a preference.

I've slept with orally bi guys, but never slept with a fully bi guy!

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

some like it and some don't .. like all other preferences .. personally .. I don't have any issue with bi guys myself so it would not put me off meeting someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i understand that a lot of ladies dont want to "play" with bi guys, i am just curious as to the reasons for this.

thank you for any helpful replies, be nice now

as some don't want to play with fat guys, or thin guys, or black guys, or white guys, or indian guys, or married guys... and the list goes on...and on... and on"

normally agree with a lot of what you say although on this we strongly disagree black,white,fat,skinny,muscles are all aesthetics and yes that's totally understandable but if you say you want a black man with a 6 pack 5 11" tall and a 9" cock, bi or straight is a state of mind you are still the same

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"as some don't want to play with fat guys, or thin guys, or black guys, or white guys, or indian guys, or married guys... and the list goes on...and on... and on"

^this, but some do though

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Preferences. Simple as that really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choice.

A large percentage of sex is in the mind, if something turns you on then you may opt for that, if something turns you off then you may avoid.

Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don't like the thought of 2 men having sex. So they would be put off by meeting a man who they knew had sex with another man.

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By *erebothbiCouple
over a year ago

howden

I can understand why some people dont want to play with bi guys (or girls but thats not what this thread is about) but if you are willing to have sex with a man (lets for argument sake say a single male) how do you know he is not bi ?

You cant tell by looking at him and you certainly cant belive his p

e that says he is straight so how do you know he is not bi and just lying ?

Set up a profile asking to meet bi males and just sit back and see how many offers you get from straight males.

Yes I know there are lots of you genuine straight guys out there so you dont have to tell me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my other half is bi i dont see the problem that people have with it , but i do make sure he always wears a johnny and has a bath after so i suppose it can be seen as dirty ? i dont know and dont judge me for saying that just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand why some people dont want to play with bi guys (or girls but thats not what this thread is about) but if you are willing to have sex with a man (lets for argument sake say a single male) how do you know he is not bi ?

You cant tell by looking at him and you certainly cant belive his p

e that says he is straight so how do you know he is not bi and just lying ?

Set up a profile asking to meet bi males and just sit back and see how many offers you get from straight males.

Yes I know there are lots of you genuine straight guys out there so you dont have to tell me."

I've had lots of bi guys message me with straight on their profile. Some have said they get less meets if they put they're bi especially with couples. Guess they're worrmed a bi guy will pounce on him. As if!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are not of people on here that have two profiles for various reasons.

Ive come across bi guys that have two different profile one as a straight male and another as a bi guy.

Then again alot of couples have a profile together and one separte.

You have to be careful because people tell you what you want to here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people don't like the thought of 2 men having sex. So they would be put off by meeting a man who they knew had sex with another man."

So again you would have to split this several times bi cur, thought about it, sucked a guy, fucked or been fucked by a guy.

Bi fucked sucked with several guys a world of difference

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"You cant tell by looking at him and you certainly cant belive his p

e that says he is straight so how do you know he is not bi and just lying ?

Set up a profile asking to meet bi males and just sit back and see how many offers you get from straight males."

Ooooohh plenty, "I'm bi really" is a common response.

I don't meet guys who are cheating not only themselves but possibly their partners as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I still find this a bit funny. Plenty of people on here who are cool with two guys sharing a girl (sometimes at the same time, sometimes in the same hole). They don't have a problem with a guy having oral or anal sex with a woman. If the bi guy agrees to play straight, in the grand sceme of things, it would seem as though it shouldn't be a big deal.

If somebody breaks the rules and stops playing by the rules, do what you would normally, stop playing. If you agree to wearing condoms or soft swap only and the other person breaks that agreement, you'd probably quit play. If you agreed to play straight and a guy grabs your junk, quit playing. Not saying its ideal but everybody here is an adult and your world won't end because a dude touched your cock. You might be ripped from the moment but I'm sure that life will go on the next day the same as it would otherwise (unless you decide you liked it that is lol)

I understand the argument that for a straight guy, having another guy in the room could take you out of it. That's fine, but in that case, unless you're looking for a mff, what on earth are you doing on this site? If you're swinging, you will definitely be in the room with another male and over the course of your swinging career, I nearly guarentee you'll have played with a guy who has had some bi/gay play and is just not telling you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know. I still find this a bit funny. Plenty of people on here who are cool with two guys sharing a girl (sometimes at the same time, sometimes in the same hole). They don't have a problem with a guy having oral or anal sex with a woman. If the bi guy agrees to play straight, in the grand sceme of things, it would seem as though it shouldn't be a big deal.

Or couples who enjoy dvp or have pics of the fem sucking two cocks at the same time but are totally straight

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By *erebothbiCouple
over a year ago

howden

according to the new icon on your page, you are on your mobile and 3400+ miles away. So glad we have this new servive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or couples who enjoy dvp or have pics of the fem sucking two cocks at the same time but are totally straight

Don't get me wrong, I'm not for pushing anybody to do anything they aren't into, I just don't understand it. If youre not having sex for procreation, than you should be having it for fun! (And all involved should be having fun!)

To me two guys doing a dvp or having the female sucking another cock with theirs at the same time would strike me as more bi/gay than taking turns fucking a woman with a known bi male where you never touch each other (let alone cock on cock contact).

Besides - everybody knows its not bi(gay) if somebody keeps a foot on the floor. Everybody knows that!

It reminds me of when I was reading an article that stated that in the state if Georgia (united states), orgies are illegal. The definition of an orgy in the law was 3 or more people on the same bed without shoes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"according to the new icon on your page, you are on your mobile and 3400+ miles away. So glad we have this new servive.

Presume you're talking to me since you appear to be 3400+ miles from me as well.

Don't worry, Americans are fun to play with too!

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By *erebothbiCouple
over a year ago

howden

I know, I have had the pleasure .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically, the mind is a complex thing.

It's not always about who's done what with who, it's about the knowledge one has and how it sits in the mind, if comfortable then good, if not then not.

The thrill of sex is massively in the mind, the turn ons and turn offs, all in the mind.

It doesn't matter the rights and the wrongs of this, doesn't matter what happens behind closed doors, what matters is what one is aware of as that is what they will react to.

If something doesn't make your brain kick into lustful thoughts, then really what is the point of going ahead?, regardless of what it is that turns one off.

I've not got my head on straight tonight, I posted on this subject some time back and expressed my thoughts much better, wish I could find it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely understand and agree. The old saying, your biggest sexual organ is between your ears definitely applies.

I guess I just think the world would be a much more fun place if everybody took sometime for some serious inner reflection to truly understand what their sexuality means. If when all is said and done and you find yourself in the same exact place you started, at least maybe you'll better understand why you're there. A bit of self evaluation can be a powerful thing!

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By *i-guy OP Man
over a year ago

chester

totally agree there , i get so many offers from so called straight guys its unbelievable and they have lots of verifications from ladies too. i am trying to understand the preference thing too ,just curious about the reasons for the preference as you cant really tell 99 times out of 100 if a guy is bi just by looking at them.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"i understand that a lot of ladies dont want to "play" with bi guys, i am just curious as to the reasons for this.

thank you for any helpful replies, be nice now

as some don't want to play with fat guys, or thin guys, or black guys, or white guys, or indian guys, or married guys... and the list goes on...and on... and on"

I don't think the reason a couple don't want to play with a bi guy is the same reason some ladies want to play with a black guy or not with an Indian

I'm happy that some people are happy with the response "my preference" however in the real world we all mostly know behind a preference can indeed be a perfectly reasonable reason and it is perfectly understandable and reasonable that healthy curious intelligent humans would ask for reasoning x

It is nobodies right to be told a reason but certainly not wrong to ask or want to glean information to make more sense of the world to aid a smooth passage and interaction with others , in some cases to avoid causing an offense x

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By *i-guy OP Man
over a year ago

chester

yeah what he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see how dvp or a woman sucking two cocks at the same time makes a guy bi

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I don't see how a woman sucking two cocks at the same time makes a guy bi

Glad someone else said it. Some absurd thought processes on here.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

They smell funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see how a woman sucking two cocks at the same time makes a guy bi

Glad someone else said it. Some absurd thought processes on here."

Yes indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They smell funny. "

Who does? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having read our last post and. Subsequent comments. Ours isn't the strange thought process as we did never say it did make them bi. Although will admit it was poorly written. It was more a comment it relation to mind set that a totally straight person who would not go within 20 ft of a bi guy on a meet is happy to rub cocks with another straight guy. Again we are not saying it makes them bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once asked a women this question during pillow talk after a meet and she said whilst the thought of two men getting it on was appealing ... because bisexual men are the group most likely to be carrying STDs she wouldn't meet them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Bi men don't suit how I play, neither do married men, tvs or women! That's all anyone needs to know why people have to justify their choices is beyond me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"i understand that a lot of ladies dont want to "play" with bi guys, i am just curious as to the reasons for this.

thank you for any helpful replies, be nice now

as some don't want to play with fat guys, or thin guys, or black guys, or white guys, or indian guys, or married guys... and the list goes on...and on... and on"

Exactly!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Frankly I never completely got it either. I do understand the straight guy worried that maybe the bi guy will do something to him but I'm fairly used to setting down play rules before things start and I don't see why stating no MM play wouldn't help that. It's generally been my experience most people are fairly good at keeping to these rules when playing.

I think it mostly comes down to cultural bias and homophobia (and I don't mean that people are doing this intentionally or maliciously). I'm a big fan of open minds

Why does it come down to homophobia or cultual bias because people choose not to play with you? The most closed minded people are those unable to accept *shock, horror* they will NOT appeal to all for whatever reason.

Some people really need to get over themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a cpl(fruity delight) we find a number of guys say bi until you ask them a few simple questions. It turns out they havent sucked cock or want to but just say they are curious to get near the fem half of a cpl.

we would happily play with genuine bi guys.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Some people really need to get over themselves!"

Nothing further needs to be said

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By *irtycpl7980Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

My wife has more of a problem with this than I do. Her 'problem' with it is that she wants to be the centre of attention and doesn't want to think that the bi male is potentially thinking about playing with me. Personally it doesn't bother me (as previously mentioned, so long as they don't cross the line they van think what they want in their own heads) as I get my pleasure from seeing my wife being pleasured.

Strangely she isn't bothered about playing with a Bi fem in a Cpl swap?!

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Or couples who enjoy dvp or have pics of the fem sucking two cocks at the same time but are totally straight

Are you saying if a couple indulge in these practices, they're NOT totally straight?

*Her*

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