FabSwingers.com forum: How friendly are you, do you have lots of friends, a select few, or just people you know.

By *iddlesticks OP Man
2 days ago

My nan’s spare room.

I’m talking in real life here.

I’d say I’m very gregarious and feel at ease chatting and socialising with lots of people that I know.

The reality though is that I don’t feel I have genuine friends that I would share emotions with. I probably do that more on here than in civvy street.

I have moved a lot in my life and being a boss (kind of) at work can affect things I feel.

Anyway, not a pity party, I just wondered if I was alone, figuratively or otherwise, how is it with you guys.

I feel men have mates more than friends, but it could just be me.

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By *aymyhat99Man
2 days ago

Whitley Bay

I prefer to keep my circle small so I've got 3 really close friends and that's enough I think ( for me anyway)

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By *entlydoesit!Woman
2 days ago

Blackpool

Only a couple of very close long time friends

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By *icecouple561Couple
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2 days ago

East Sussex

I'm not as sociable as I once was by choice, I feel kind of done with people. I have 3 friends and some acquaintances, I'm happy with that.

I have noticed that people are far less friendly than they used to be, whether that's because I'm older or not I don't know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 days ago

East Sussex

I'm very friendly though but people are as I said less friendly back.

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By *inchwillyMan
2 days ago

Hemel Hempstead

I'm very close to afew male and female friends xx

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
2 days ago

south dublin

I’m incredible shy when I’m first meeting someone. After a while if we get on I’m like an open book and can’t shut up

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By *oastofReadingMan
2 days ago

Reading

I have a number of groups of friends that have never met each other.

A group from school/college/where I grew up. Some from my 20s years in the same company. Then a group from the local pub. Then a group from the football team I follow and then finally friends on here and the lifestyle.

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By *rs.MinxWoman
2 days ago

somewhere nearby

I do t have many friends but those that fall in that very small circle of trust with anything. We don’t talk as much as I’d like due to life but they’re there!

Would it be great to have a slightly wider social circle sometimes yeah it would but equally I’m not a great people person

I do like random conversations though!

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By *insBadMan
2 days ago

& around South Shields

I'm super friendly, I love meeting new people. However I am not good a cultivating these friendships. I have identified that this is an issue, and I actively try to reach out and keep in contact with friends I've made over the years. I also worked abroad in Spain, France, Italy, UK, Denmark, Gibraltar, US, Croatia and Montenegro, Turkey and many more, social media definitely helps.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
2 days ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I can honestly say that in 22 years in the UK, I made one friend, and she emigrated 10 years ago. I'm one of those foreigners who hasn't assimilated. The only actual friends I have in the UK are old friends from SA that also immigrated to the UK, and I very rarely see any of them.

I have been totally focused on my family since we arrived. My wife passing unexpectedly 4 years ago left me very adrift, and actually I haven't been motivated to "get out there" and make friends. All my old interests, which I could potentially leverage to meet people, seem a bit hollow ever since I was widowed. So I mostly just keep myself busy at home.

I get on well with my daughter, who's still at home, and that's good. It's a bit lonely when she's not around.

Anyway. There you have it.

🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *007ManMan
2 days ago

Worthing

I am still in contact with friends from infants school.

We grew up together.

I have a handful of close "brothers from another mother" friends. My two brothers are also good friends.

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By *wissArmyKnifeMan
2 days ago

Second Star to the Right

"I’m talking in real life here.

I’d say I’m very gregarious and feel at ease chatting and socialising with lots of people that I know.

The reality though is that I don’t feel I have genuine friends that I would share emotions with. I probably do that more on here than in civvy street.

I have moved a lot in my life and being a boss (kind of) at work can affect things I feel.

Anyway, not a pity party, I just wondered if I was alone, figuratively or otherwise, how is it with you guys.

I feel men have mates more than friends, but it could just be me. "

I keep a small circle of good friends, too many is too much effort and usually comes with drama the bigger my circle.

How many true friends do we really have in a lifetime?

Loads of friendly acquaintances as i am friendly and outgoing when i want to be.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 days ago

Round the bend

An extremely small circle. I married my best friend. I'm not particularly close to anyone else anymore. Sure there's a couple of mates who I may see very occasionally and it's always nice to catch up, but besides that I'm happy with my little bubble.

I'm very friendly though, and would chat the ears off most people

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By *eorge AtazderMan
2 days ago

Exeter

I don’t have any friends. Having attended a couple of funerals recently, I’ve realised that my funeral would be very small

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By *artorialMan
2 days ago

weymouth

2 or three, every one else are acquaintances

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By *imply_SensualMan
2 days ago

Cheshire

I am lucky to have a broad circle of friends, which is multiple circles. I know I can rely on them if ever I needed them.

However, I would consider only 2-3 of them close enough to speak in confidence with about really personal stuff.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 days ago

East Sussex

"I don’t have any friends. Having attended a couple of funerals recently, I’ve realised that my funeral would be very small"

Same. It will be family and any of my 3 friends who are still breathing.

A couple of years back we attended a funeral with 7 mourners. Singing morning has broken was a challenge

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By *osweet69Couple
2 days ago

portsmouth

Quite a few acquaintances, but only a couple of true friends.

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By *wissArmyKnifeMan
2 days ago

Second Star to the Right

"An extremely small circle. I married my best friend. I'm not particularly close to anyone else anymore. Sure there's a couple of mates who I may see very occasionally and it's always nice to catch up, but besides that I'm happy with my little bubble.

I'm very friendly though, and would chat the ears off most people

Awww that’s so sweet 🥰

I don’t like my ears anyway so chat away 😂

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 days ago

East Sussex

I think there's a false narrative around friendship. It would have us believe that we should have a huge range of friends but for most of us that isn't sustainable.

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By *ob272025Man
2 days ago

Wolverhampton

"I'm very close to afew male and female friends xx"

I can relate to what you have said

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 days ago

London

I don't have any friends anymore. I used to have many. Life gets busy, everyone is at different stages in their lives. Now I'm on my own. Solitude.

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By *he good guy 83Man
2 days ago

Basingstoke

I keep my social circle very small and limited

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By *laytime_13Woman
2 days ago

Lincs

I have 2 very good friends, we don't speak often (one is in northern Scotland and the other in Aus) but I could pick up the phone any time for a chat or for help and they'll have my back - and vice versa. I also have a close guy mate who again, I don't see often, we don't talk about deep stuff and yet I know he'd have my back if needed, and likewise I would for him.

I have lots of acquaintance friends, some I cycle with, some I might go to a gig with or for a coffee with. We enjoy spending time in each others company but aren't overly close and don't chat to or see each other often.

I'd quite like a close friend, both emotionally and geographically but I'm lucky with what I have

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By *ino200Man
2 days ago

Bournemouth and London

"I’m talking in real life here.

I’d say I’m very gregarious and feel at ease chatting and socialising with lots of people that I know.

The reality though is that I don’t feel I have genuine friends that I would share emotions with. I probably do that more on here than in civvy street.

I have moved a lot in my life and being a boss (kind of) at work can affect things I feel.

Anyway, not a pity party, I just wondered if I was alone, figuratively or otherwise, how is it with you guys.

I feel men have mates more than friends, but it could just be me. "
Yes i agree esoecially if you were in a long term relationship that broke down ,also a factor is you trust people less as you get older knowing the pitfalls ive always fealt i was friendly and outgoing but i feel that probably isnt the case i have a few friends that i can count on and lots of casuals i tend to get on with women better i feel.

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By *opeye89Man
2 days ago

London

I like to think I’m quite friendly and have a lot of friends. I’ve got different circle of friends for different things (the car fanatics, those who like to go out to eat, the ones who like walking, the road trip gang, the tea drinking bunch, the school friends, college friends, primary school friends, the film critics and more)

…and then I’ve got my close circle of friends who I chat to every day. And also a set of Fab friends.

I’m grateful for those in my life.

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By *hinstrapMan
2 days ago

sheffield

Next to none. I'm too old for bullshit n drama. Rather have none than fake friends.

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By *hinstrapMan
2 days ago

sheffield

...do t get me wrong. I'm friendly helpful. Chatty but seems there are a lot who aren't

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By *lessandra_BWoman
2 days ago

Down South

In my 20s and 30s I had a fairly large group of friends, the 'school gate mums', and we would socialise, with and without our children. Then we moved abroad and the friendships drifted.

These days I have two close friends I can confide in... one I met here 🫶 ... plus a few family friends. I don't need any more than that 😊

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
2 days ago

SW1A1AA

Im very friendly but I have 6 best friends in my circle who ive known over 40 years

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By *ermanentlyHorny8082Couple
2 days ago

North West

The older I’ve got, the smaller the circle has become. A few friends, a handful of mates - everyone else is a colleague or an acquaintance. Far less drama, anything for a quiet life, me 🙋🏻‍♀️

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By *adoldmeMan
2 days ago

, Braintree

Probably too friendly for my own good, and chatty. I find "friends" here are people who like to look and ghost. Real friends chat and meet

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
2 days ago

Stourbridge

I have one friend who is constant for 25 years, I have a couple more who are between 5-8 years but not as close as the long term one. I know literally hundreds of people but I don’t consider them close friends

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By *iver78Man
2 days ago

barton upon humber

I have a large family , 6 brothers and 2 sister and we have a lot of family friends, i have 12 really good friends from my navy days , who i class as real friends even though we probably only get to together 5 or 6 times , I have 8 lads that work for me that I must admit are close friends in and out of work and 2 that who currently id say are just mates , and away from that i only have 5 close friends

I class true friends as people id actually put up if the needed or lend money too ,,

Mates !! Quite a lot , but mates.to me are like the lads at the gym or who i play football with , id chat to them out of the usual environment but not much more 🤣

At times is great at others I find it can be overpowering lol

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By *hunky GentMan
2 days ago

Ely

I was brought up living in pubs, so I'm used to talking to everyone.

Plus being a good communicator helps with my job, but I don't have lots of good friends.

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By *aven.Woman
2 days ago

Not friendly! I have one close friend, that's enough.

People keep trying to make me social but it's never gonna happen.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
2 days ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"I don’t have any friends. Having attended a couple of funerals recently, I’ve realised that my funeral would be very small

Same. It will be family and any of my 3 friends who are still breathing.

A couple of years back we attended a funeral with 7 mourners. Singing morning has broken was a challenge "

I identify with this. It will be a dozen at mine, at most.

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By *iver78Man
2 days ago

barton upon humber

Wonder how many people have people of the opposite sex as friends ?

To me a friend is someone Id go out my way to help , who id let stay at mine if they needed , for to there children's weddings , give ' lend money too

For me , zero , im friendly to my friends wifes partners and most of the women iv ever met , but have no female true friends

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By *earditallWoman
2 days ago

Lancaster

I'm pretty friendly and will talk to anyone and have a lot of friendships,but I only have a handful of really good friends the type of friendships where some have lasted 40+ years and others 30 years.

Actually just spent a bit of time with old collage and school friends and it was great

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By *iss DevilWoman
2 days ago

Bedford

I'm an introvert, prefer to listen and people watch than chat, which might make me appear unfriendly. I have a selected few friends only.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
2 days ago

Paradise, Herts

Lots of friends and 4 absolute besties for over 40 years ❤️

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By *mf123Man
2 days ago

with one foot out the door

Im the most unfriendpy person i know i prefer to keep the world at arms length and not get involved in other folks lives

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By *lym4realCouple
2 days ago

plymouth

We both have close friends and then people we just know as don't buy in to the social media thing of hundreds of " Friends" xx

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
2 days ago

Round the bend

I'm very friendly though, and would chat the ears off most people

Awww that’s so sweet 🥰

I don’t like my ears anyway so chat away 😂"

Can you breathe through them? Asking for a friend

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
2 days ago

Stourbridge

I have no school friends I dislike them all intensely and had no contact since leaving 6th form

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
2 days ago

South Wales

I have some friends and lots of people that I’m friendly with but I wouldn’t say I have any best friends anymore. As corny as it may sound my husband is my best friend even after all these many many years xx 😄

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By *hisfuckingguyMan
2 days ago

Bradford

I have no one and do everything alone so I rarely speak. When I do go out I usually don't speak to anyone at all but sometimes I'll talk to randoms if I've been drinking a bit and in the right overall mood

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By *tew008Man
2 days ago

edinburgh

No one really 🤷‍♂️

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