FabSwingers.com forum: take a chance

By *pace30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Aber

Im finding it very discouraging using this site that no one seems to take a chance with someone new to this.

I know I'm a single male and that there so many more then couples, women or trans.

But I'm respectful not pushing at all send a nice message but Very rarely get a reply and if I do it's a straight no or a couple of messages then ghosted.

So I'm mainly making is post to see if there is something I'm doing that is putting people off and why people won't take a chance on someone new.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

In the take a chance game, how many people do you think ask someone to just take a chance on them?

If I 'took a chance' on everyone who asked for it I could do three a day and still never reach the end of my inbox.

Why not is not enough of a reason. There has to be a why, for you specifically, as opposed to a general 💜

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
2 weeks ago

In a galaxy far far away

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By *ellhungvweMan
2 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Why not is not enough of a reason. There has to be a why, for you specifically, as opposed to a general 💜"

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

People don't have to take a chance on someone, especially not when it comes to sex and their body.

Op, if you're not getting replies, have you looked at what *you* can do to change that? A good way of doing that would be to look at your photos and bio and any other writing and think, if I was a woman reading/seeing this - would it make me want to reply?

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By *unter.1919Man
2 weeks ago

Guildford

From my limited experience on here the ladies are receiving 100s and 100s of messages so they have a great choice to choose from. Unfortunately for us males

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By *ssexlad36!Man
2 weeks ago

Hullbridge, Essex

I think its been said everyday, on all different threads, us guys are the majority, so women have the pick of the field, look at your profile and see what you can do, rather than relying on someone else, first of all these posts come across as moaning about not getting replies or meets, interact in the forums, let your personality shine, treat it like you are actually out at a pub, would you just go up to someone and expect sex? Or a couple sentences and then expect it, unfortunately the online world is vast and everyone is horny little pervs, so it takes time!

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
2 weeks ago

isle of munters

Welcome to the forums

4 weeks in fab time is 1 second. I'd look at how you can use your status as a tool and not take advice from your penis lol

Have a look at the last 5 to 6 'profile advice' threads as they've got some good advice, including the guy that has had some great compliments on his profile

Be patient new one

And remember in the site rules.....no reply means not interested.

A lot of people send a message, delete from their sent box, and don't worry about it

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By *ssexlad36!Man
2 weeks ago

Hullbridge, Essex

The general advice is...

Lose the cock pics (put them in friends pics)

Make sure your bio is attractive

Use some teasing pics (dont give too much away)

Be respectful

Be patient

Talk in the forums

Got to a social or club

If anyone can think of anything else please add

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
2 weeks ago

isle of munters

"The general advice is...

Lose the cock pics (put them in friends pics)

Make sure your bio is attractive

Use some teasing pics (dont give too much away)

Be respectful

Be patient

Talk in the forums

Got to a social or club

If anyone can think of anything else please add"

Never add 'i don't bite hard'

It's tacky......lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

Now I'm going to have Abba in my head all day!

Op you take a chance on things like buying a cheap outfit without trying it on or trying a rush you've never eaten, not on who you have sex with

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By *ockwellinMan
2 weeks ago

Over there...

"Im finding it very discouraging using this site that no one seems to take a chance with someone new to this.

I know I'm a single male and that there so many more then couples, women or trans.

But I'm respectful not pushing at all send a nice message but Very rarely get a reply and if I do it's a straight no or a couple of messages then ghosted.

So I'm mainly making is post to see if there is something I'm doing that is putting people off and why people won't take a chance on someone new."

You've only been here 4wks, early days. I've been here on and off for over 15yrs, and most times I come back it's still 3-4 months before get a meet. If you're expecting it to happen straight away you will be disappointed.

And...having a status & meet listed where you are asking for someone to "come stretch my arse" might be offputting.

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By *ssexlad36!Man
2 weeks ago

Hullbridge, Essex

"The general advice is...

Lose the cock pics (put them in friends pics)

Make sure your bio is attractive

Use some teasing pics (dont give too much away)

Be respectful

Be patient

Talk in the forums

Got to a social or club

If anyone can think of anything else please add

Never add 'i don't bite hard'

It's tacky......lol

Note taken, and changed 😜

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

It's not about taking a chance, it's about optimising potential, for all involved.

Most people are not mutually attractive or compatible with most other people. New or established, it works the same way.

Each person can do much, to optimise their potential here. Look at the many single men who struggle and post, taking on board the tips given them. It typically involves getting their profile as best as can be; going to fab socials plus swinging clubs, to get to know people, etc

Having realistic expectations is essential for wellbeing

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By *exytimeCoolMan
2 weeks ago

swadlincote

"Im finding it very discouraging using this site that no one seems to take a chance with someone new to this.

I know I'm a single male and that there so many more then couples, women or trans.

But I'm respectful not pushing at all send a nice message but Very rarely get a reply and if I do it's a straight no or a couple of messages then ghosted. You aint alone just have not worry it is what it is i say

So I'm mainly making is post to see if there is something I'm doing that is putting people off and why people won't take a chance on someone new."

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By *ssexlad36!Man
2 weeks ago

Hullbridge, Essex

You will get there and find what works for you!!

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