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"I ran the same search and there are over 200 within 5 miles of me. 🤷♀️ But just because someone is local doesnt mean there is any mutual attraction. " Yep. If the numbers were reduced to three men nearby I still might not find anyone I'm interested in. And the same applies to men. Ish. | |||
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"With so many threads listed up regarding single guys not getting meets, and especially no replies to messages, I thought I would run a very basic search of “single ladies, aged 25-70, looking to meet a man of my age, within 5 miles of my location”…….and returned; 6 profiles. " And based on where you are located I am guessing most are half way up a mountain so a bit of an effort to get a meet. 🤣 | |||
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"How many of those are photo verified? Also, how many are looking for someone like you?" Interesting point! Only three of those profiles are photo-verified by the site, none of them are verified by an actual meet. Top of the list hasn’t been online for 2 weeks. Next 2 haven’t been online for 2 months. Next 2 haven’t been online for 5 months. Last hasn’t been online for 9 months. | |||
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"Why 5miles? Are you only planning to walk to meet people? Imagine 5miles in London is a LONG way but there are far more people and easy public transport In remote countryside the next village might be 5miles away and Widow McCree is the only single lady for miles " I think this is the saliant point here OP. 5 miles from your location will never be as populous as parts of the South East of England. | |||
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"Why 5miles? Are you only planning to walk to meet people? Imagine 5miles in London is a LONG way but there are far more people and easy public transport In remote countryside the next village might be 5miles away and Widow McCree is the only single lady for miles " The majority of people won’t travel for longer than 20 minutes. I don’t live in quite as remote an area as people assume the Lake District is…..😂 | |||
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"Single ladies within five miles..." All the single ladies (all the single ladies) All the single ladies (all the single ladies) All the single ladies (all the single ladies) All the single ladies (now put your hands up) | |||
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"Why 5miles? Are you only planning to walk to meet people? Imagine 5miles in London is a LONG way but there are far more people and easy public transport In remote countryside the next village might be 5miles away and Widow McCree is the only single lady for miles I think this is the saliant point here OP. 5 miles from your location will never be as populous as parts of the South East of England." Absolutely mate! As I said in my original post, this is a lighthearted reality check of why I’m struggling to get meets, which will also apply to other men out there. We can only play the cards we’re dealt……🙂👍 | |||
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"Why 5miles? Are you only planning to walk to meet people? Imagine 5miles in London is a LONG way but there are far more people and easy public transport In remote countryside the next village might be 5miles away and Widow McCree is the only single lady for miles The majority of people won’t travel for longer than 20 minutes. I don’t live in quite as remote an area as people assume the Lake District is…..😂" Won't travel for more than 20mins? Who are these people? | |||
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"... We can only play the cards we’re dealt……🙂👍" Just wondering if there might be things that are off putting... ...Albert is a very old fashioned name and Sticking your tongue out in photos could be considered off putting, if not downright offensive in some cultures!   | |||
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"Won't travel for more than 20mins? Who are these people?" Agoraphobes and hodophobes. | |||
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"Won't travel for more than 20mins? Who are these people? Agoraphobes and hodophobes." I've just had to google hodophobes. Thanks for that | |||
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"At 67 single ladies (to 300+ single guys) it's feeling very cosmopolitan around me. I do wonder about how accurate the location thing is; one lady I know in the same town wasn't in the search results" My location is utter bollocks, I often have guys messaging me saying I'm only 5 miles from them. More like a 100! | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated" Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉 | |||
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"My location is utter bollocks, I often have guys messaging me saying I'm only 5 miles from them. More like a 100! " Shame, you’re showing as within 10 miles. Would’ve offered coffee and waffles 😁 | |||
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"My location is utter bollocks, I often have guys messaging me saying I'm only 5 miles from them. More like a 100! Shame, you’re showing as within 10 miles. Would’ve offered coffee and waffles 😁 " If you'd offered hash browns I'd jump in the car! | |||
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"My location is utter bollocks, I often have guys messaging me saying I'm only 5 miles from them. More like a 100! Shame, you’re showing as within 10 miles. Would’ve offered coffee and waffles 😁 If you'd offered hash browns I'd jump in the car! " Got some in the freezer. They’ll be ready by the time you’re here 🥳 | |||
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"I ran the same search and there are over 200 within 5 miles of me. 🤷♀️ But just because someone is local doesnt mean there is any mutual attraction. Yep. If the numbers were reduced to three men nearby I still might not find anyone I'm interested in. And the same applies to men. Ish." Yes but there is much more of a chance you would read their profile, read the message and perhaps even reply than if there were hundreds or thousands. You may have the time and be diligent and read every message you get but this place is full of ladies overwhelmed with so many messages and interest that they can't even look at them all never mind chat to everyone who might be of interest. | |||
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"Why 5miles? Are you only planning to walk to meet people? Imagine 5miles in London is a LONG way but there are far more people and easy public transport In remote countryside the next village might be 5miles away and Widow McCree is the only single lady for miles The majority of people won’t travel for longer than 20 minutes. I don’t live in quite as remote an area as people assume the Lake District is…..😂 Won't travel for more than 20mins? Who are these people?" Well, I’ve clearly encountered a few, or I wouldn’t have mentioned it…  | |||
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"You say you’re struggling to get meets, yet you’ve met 107, and the last one was in June !🤔 Some fellas would kill for that kind of ratio ." That’s 107 meets, over the 14 years I’ve been using Fab. Many of those meets went no further than a social. The two veris from June were from the V2V club owners, and the event host for the night. They weren’t ‘meet’ meet veris, if you see what I mean? 107 divided by 14 equals 7.642 meets per year. To put that in to context; a woman in the SW has posted 8 veris from her dogging meet last night…. | |||
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"Why 5miles? Are you only planning to walk to meet people? Imagine 5miles in London is a LONG way but there are far more people and easy public transport In remote countryside the next village might be 5miles away and Widow McCree is the only single lady for miles The majority of people won’t travel for longer than 20 minutes. I don’t live in quite as remote an area as people assume the Lake District is…..😂 Won't travel for more than 20mins? Who are these people? Well, I’ve clearly encountered a few, or I wouldn’t have mentioned it… "Well, why don't you just travel? Problem solved. | |||
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"...feel free to run the same search for yourself, and post your results here if you wish...." • My search criteria would differ from yours. Using my 'discerning filter' I would probably find just one woman within 5 miles. Even then I would be pushing it... | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉" I was in Birmingham for annual conference. I stayed 2 nights in Malmaison, and in the weeks running up to my weekend, I altered my location to Birmingham, and messaged 30 profiles I thought I would be a match for. I didn’t receive a single reply. So I popped over to V2V club in Nuneaton as a ‘Plan b’, and as you can see from those veris, I met the event host for the evening, and the club owners. No more than social verifications 👍 | |||
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"...feel free to run the same search for yourself, and post your results here if you wish.... • My search criteria would differ from yours. Using my 'discerning filter' I would probably find just one woman within 5 miles. Even then I would be pushing it..." To be fair it is a bit rough around Mayfair so you can never be too careful. | |||
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"In my area - 4 (looking for a man). Of those, 1 hasn't logged in in 8 months, 1 in 3 months. Lol" I did a search for men looking for TV/TS my age within 5 miles... 28 of them - 10 logged in in the last day; a further 6 in the last week. One is online right now. 😄 | |||
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"In my area - 4 (looking for a man). Of those, 1 hasn't logged in in 8 months, 1 in 3 months. Lol I did a search for men looking for TV/TS my age within 5 miles... 28 of them - 10 logged in in the last day; a further 6 in the last week. One is online right now. 😄" And finally... men looking for a woman my age within 5 miles... 130 of them; 35 logged in in the last day. Well, there's your problem! 🤣 | |||
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"In my area - 4 (looking for a man). Of those, 1 hasn't logged in in 8 months, 1 in 3 months. Lol I did a search for men looking for TV/TS my age within 5 miles... 28 of them - 10 logged in in the last day; a further 6 in the last week. One is online right now. 😄" Don't forget the 200 or so who aren't looking for a TV/TS but are really if there was a chance of a quick blowie  | |||
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"In my area - 4 (looking for a man). Of those, 1 hasn't logged in in 8 months, 1 in 3 months. Lol I did a search for men looking for TV/TS my age within 5 miles... 28 of them - 10 logged in in the last day; a further 6 in the last week. One is online right now. 😄 Don't forget the 200 or so who aren't looking for a TV/TS but are really if there was a chance of a quick blowie "Probably a decent proportion of the 130 looking for a woman in my subsequent post. 🤣 | |||
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"How many of those are photo verified? Also, how many are looking for someone like you? Interesting point! Only three of those profiles are photo-verified by the site, none of them are verified by an actual meet. Top of the list hasn’t been online for 2 weeks. Next 2 haven’t been online for 2 months. Next 2 haven’t been online for 5 months. Last hasn’t been online for 9 months. " When are you moving house? | |||
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"How many of those are photo verified? Also, how many are looking for someone like you? Interesting point! Only three of those profiles are photo-verified by the site, none of them are verified by an actual meet. Top of the list hasn’t been online for 2 weeks. Next 2 haven’t been online for 2 months. Next 2 haven’t been online for 5 months. Last hasn’t been online for 9 months. When are you moving house? " I’m just getting a feel for numbers around the country, then I’ll do another thread for single ladies who reply to messages 😎👍 | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉 I was in Birmingham for annual conference. I stayed 2 nights in Malmaison, and in the weeks running up to my weekend, I altered my location to Birmingham, and messaged 30 profiles I thought I would be a match for. I didn’t receive a single reply. So I popped over to V2V club in Nuneaton as a ‘Plan b’, and as you can see from those veris, I met the event host for the evening, and the club owners. No more than social verifications 👍" And the photo of a woman in June? | |||
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"And the photo of a woman in June?" I hope June was ok with this. | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉 I was in Birmingham for annual conference. I stayed 2 nights in Malmaison, and in the weeks running up to my weekend, I altered my location to Birmingham, and messaged 30 profiles I thought I would be a match for. I didn’t receive a single reply. So I popped over to V2V club in Nuneaton as a ‘Plan b’, and as you can see from those veris, I met the event host for the evening, and the club owners. No more than social verifications 👍 And the photo of a woman in June?" Many of the photos on profiles were not taken on, or near, the date they are posted. Some are obviously years old. It's why I always put the date taken on my photos/videos. I'm not saying this applies to the OP, how would I know? Just giving a possible explanation. | |||
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"Just checked. There is just one lady who has been online within the last 7 days. A couple of others for whom I'm too old. A few others who logged on a week or two ago and then it is ladies logging on 1 or 2 months ago so basically inactive. I'm not in the middle of nowhere. A big commuter town outside London. Of course can expand search to more than 5 miles, travel etc. but interesting statistic nevertheless. " I’ve just redone this check and move location about 5 miles to another town. Bingo. Instead of 1 lady looking to meet men online in the last week is has gone up to 25ish. Wonderful. Then check and only 2 out are interested in people who are 58. I’ve met one of the two years ago and know she basically doesn’t meet anymore. So back to 1 | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉 I was in Birmingham for annual conference. I stayed 2 nights in Malmaison, and in the weeks running up to my weekend, I altered my location to Birmingham, and messaged 30 profiles I thought I would be a match for. I didn’t receive a single reply. So I popped over to V2V club in Nuneaton as a ‘Plan b’, and as you can see from those veris, I met the event host for the evening, and the club owners. No more than social verifications 👍 And the photo of a woman in June?" The photo of a woman in June is a regular play partner of around 5 years now. And yes, she gave her consent for the photo to be used (not of her face, no tattoos or recognisable features to be recognised by) 👍 | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉 I was in Birmingham for annual conference. I stayed 2 nights in Malmaison, and in the weeks running up to my weekend, I altered my location to Birmingham, and messaged 30 profiles I thought I would be a match for. I didn’t receive a single reply. So I popped over to V2V club in Nuneaton as a ‘Plan b’, and as you can see from those veris, I met the event host for the evening, and the club owners. No more than social verifications 👍 And the photo of a woman in June? The photo of a woman in June is a regular play partner of around 5 years now. And yes, she gave her consent for the photo to be used (not of her face, no tattoos or recognisable features to be recognised by) 👍" Sorry, I'm not piling on but I have to ask the question... Why post the pic at all? It's a single male profile. All the pic shows of you is your immaculately manicured fingers using a pussy pump on your play partner's exposed vagina. Again, I'm not having a pop at you, I'm just trying to understand the uploading of pics similar to yours on a single male profile. | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉 I was in Birmingham for annual conference. I stayed 2 nights in Malmaison, and in the weeks running up to my weekend, I altered my location to Birmingham, and messaged 30 profiles I thought I would be a match for. I didn’t receive a single reply. So I popped over to V2V club in Nuneaton as a ‘Plan b’, and as you can see from those veris, I met the event host for the evening, and the club owners. No more than social verifications 👍 And the photo of a woman in June? The photo of a woman in June is a regular play partner of around 5 years now. And yes, she gave her consent for the photo to be used (not of her face, no tattoos or recognisable features to be recognised by) 👍 Sorry, I'm not piling on but I have to ask the question... Why post the pic at all? It's a single male profile. All the pic shows of you is your immaculately manicured fingers using a pussy pump on your play partner's exposed vagina. Again, I'm not having a pop at you, I'm just trying to understand the uploading of pics similar to yours on a single male profile. " She loves the pic, and gets a buzz from me displaying it on my profile. I struggled to get her GG tits with similar vacuum tubes on her nipples on a pic which Fab would allow me to post on a single guy profile (you need to show yourself in the pic somehow), but that one worked. Please stay on topic for the thread, and feel free to dm any questions 👍 | |||
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"I’ve only had 1 meet through Fab in the last 2 years, and for those men (like myself) feeling frustrated Which is the salient bit then? Through fab? Because unless those are really old photos then your profile shows that you are have met with women within the last few months 🤷♀️ And are quite happy to travel as far as Birmingham. Seems you’ve got cards in your pocket as well as the ones you’ve been dealt 😉 I was in Birmingham for annual conference. I stayed 2 nights in Malmaison, and in the weeks running up to my weekend, I altered my location to Birmingham, and messaged 30 profiles I thought I would be a match for. I didn’t receive a single reply. So I popped over to V2V club in Nuneaton as a ‘Plan b’, and as you can see from those veris, I met the event host for the evening, and the club owners. No more than social verifications 👍 And the photo of a woman in June? The photo of a woman in June is a regular play partner of around 5 years now. And yes, she gave her consent for the photo to be used (not of her face, no tattoos or recognisable features to be recognised by) 👍 Sorry, I'm not piling on but I have to ask the question... Why post the pic at all? It's a single male profile. All the pic shows of you is your immaculately manicured fingers using a pussy pump on your play partner's exposed vagina. Again, I'm not having a pop at you, I'm just trying to understand the uploading of pics similar to yours on a single male profile. She loves the pic, and gets a buzz from me displaying it on my profile. I struggled to get her GG tits with similar vacuum tubes on her nipples on a pic which Fab would allow me to post on a single guy profile (you need to show yourself in the pic somehow), but that one worked. Please stay on topic for the thread, and feel free to dm any questions 👍" I like conversations that naturally expand and I'm not a fan of the reply privately function. Don't say in private what you're not prepared to say in public, in most cases. I understand your explanation. Thank you. | |||
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"There are over 300 men who meet my search criteria within 5 miles. I'd say the chances of me actually meeting one of them are fairly low (apart from the fact that I don't want to meet anyone that close to me) because the likelihood of finding just one of them who reciprocates finding me attractive and is looking for the same kind of fab experience as me is highly unlikely!" I'm sure your odds of finding a match out of 300 potentials, are greater than mine out of 6, 5 of which haven't been online for over 2 months.... | |||
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"Why 5miles? Are you only planning to walk to meet people? Imagine 5miles in London is a LONG way but there are far more people and easy public transport In remote countryside the next village might be 5miles away and Widow McCree is the only single lady for miles The majority of people won’t travel for longer than 20 minutes. I don’t live in quite as remote an area as people assume the Lake District is…..😂 Won't travel for more than 20mins? Who are these people?" Agreed, I wouldn’t want to meet people within 5 miles of me, far to close to home for comfort | |||
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"In reality, single guys meeting single ladies isn't REALLY swinging. Cal" Cal, on this site you can be anything you want merely by thinking it in to existence. There are no labels either. So if the single guys meeting the single ladies want to call themselves swingers then swingers they shall be, if you need to put a label on it. | |||
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