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By *ate2theparty808 OP   Man
1 week ago

Erdington

Should we all agree not to fuck someone else, or should we just respect boundaries and if fucking someone else is within those , go get some?

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By *ate2theparty808 OP   Man
1 week ago

Erdington

Really, no interest at all?

139 comments on spunk ice cubes not one for this?

I get it I guess, this isn’t the most interesting post, but to be bodied by a thread about the logistics of freezing cum to add to Bailey’s is embarrassing.

Even if someone had said “this post is dumb”

I could have agreed, but ffs fab, cum cubes?

Really?

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
1 week ago

Round the bend


"Really, no interest at all?

139 comments on spunk ice cubes not one for this?

I get it I guess, this isn’t the most interesting post, but to be bodied by a thread about the logistics of freezing cum to add to Bailey’s is embarrassing.

Even if someone had said “this post is dumb”

I could have agreed, but ffs fab, cum cubes?

Really?"

This made me giggle OP

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By *ate2theparty808 OP   Man
1 week ago

Erdington


"Really, no interest at all?

139 comments on spunk ice cubes not one for this?

I get it I guess, this isn’t the most interesting post, but to be bodied by a thread about the logistics of freezing cum to add to Bailey’s is embarrassing.

Even if someone had said “this post is dumb”

I could have agreed, but ffs fab, cum cubes?

Really?

This made me giggle OP"

So glad you get my humour

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By *cott45hullMan
1 week ago

Hull

If you’re not fucking someone else, who or what are you fucking? 🤷‍♂️

Actually in light of the recently boosted threads, I don’t want to know 😂

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
1 week ago

Carlisle usually

Are the two exclusive? 💜

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By *ellinever70Woman
1 week ago

Ayrshire

I don't really understand the question

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By *ate2theparty808 OP   Man
1 week ago

Erdington

I will admit that this post had a co author by the name of Jack Daniel’s.

I don’t usually drink but I’m off work for two weeks and the mood took me to the bottom of a bottle (well, not the bottom, just a little way down the neck) but I can’t believe that any thread has less comments than old spunky ice cube tray.

Even a “what do women like” thread should have been more popular than that, neither thread made any sense.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
1 week ago

Carlisle usually


"I will admit that this post had a co author by the name of Jack Daniel’s.

I don’t usually drink but I’m off work for two weeks and the mood took me to the bottom of a bottle (well, not the bottom, just a little way down the neck) but I can’t believe that any thread has less comments than old spunky ice cube tray.

Even a “what do women like” thread should have been more popular than that, neither thread made any sense."

I think the issue was simply that no-one quite understood the question.

I wouldn't take it as a personal affront 💜

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

I don’t understand the question either

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By *WB85Man
1 week ago

Staffordshire

Different dynamics with different people.

Over the years on here I've had multiple friends I've been seeing at the same time and also times I've been seeing someone exclusively.

My journey and what I'm doing changes dependant on how we both feel.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
1 week ago

East Sussex

If you've agreed mutual boundaries it's a good idea to stick with those rather than ignore them and go with your personal ones.

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By *eliWoman
1 week ago

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Leave spunky ice cube thread alone, it's not hurt you. 😤

Sometimes threads are picked up, sometimes they're not. Sometimes OPs reply to posts, other times they don't.

It's best not to take it too personally.

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By *ate2theparty808 OP   Man
1 week ago

Erdington

I’m not taking it personally, I just don’t understand how spunky ice tray is going on the way it is, it’s mental.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
1 week ago

East Sussex


"I’m not taking it personally, I just don’t understand how spunky ice tray is going on the way it is, it’s mental."

You're publicising it!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
1 week ago

Carlisle usually


"I’m not taking it personally, I just don’t understand how spunky ice tray is going on the way it is, it’s mental."

I didn't know what it was until you prompted me to look for it 💜

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By *ate2theparty808 OP   Man
1 week ago

Erdington

Ok, I think I know what I was trying to say.

Is it healthier in a relationship to adhere to the conventional rules of fidelity, no sexual contact, no flirting, no porn.

Or is it better to set boundaries, like ok, you can fuck someone else, but it can’t be…(whatever you won’t tolerate)

I have an agreement with my FWB, we are not exclusive, but if we are going to fuck someone else, it has to be safe sex, and let the other person know that it’s going to/has happened and not keep secrets from each other.

It does take a certain amount of trust, but luckily for me and everyone who knows her, her integrity is beyond reproach.

I think boundaries that are set without question are the way to go, the rules that go with traditional fidelity are too broad and hardly ever specific to your relationship

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By *iver78Man
1 week ago

barton upon humber


"Really, no interest at all?

139 comments on spunk ice cubes not one for this?

I get it I guess, this isn’t the most interesting post, but to be bodied by a thread about the logistics of freezing cum to add to Bailey’s is embarrassing.

Even if someone had said “this post is dumb”

I could have agreed, but ffs fab, cum cubes?

Really?"

Haha , very true , along with my mate fancies you and rate the above lol. Which crop up daily 🤣

But to your question if I meet someone then no I dont shag anyone else , if they want to then there not for me , different if its a fwb or fb but in a relationship its a no for me , but may change with time but never had a real long term relationship so not sure how I would feel

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By *ellinever70Woman
1 week ago

Ayrshire


"Ok, I think I know what I was trying to say.

Is it healthier in a relationship to adhere to the conventional rules of fidelity, no sexual contact, no flirting, no porn.

Or is it better to set boundaries, like ok, you can fuck someone else, but it can’t be…(whatever you won’t tolerate)

I have an agreement with my FWB, we are not exclusive, but if we are going to fuck someone else, it has to be safe sex, and let the other person know that it’s going to/has happened and not keep secrets from each other.

It does take a certain amount of trust, but luckily for me and everyone who knows her, her integrity is beyond reproach.

I think boundaries that are set without question are the way to go, the rules that go with traditional fidelity are too broad and hardly ever specific to your relationship "

I think some monogamous relationships are perfectly healthy ...same too non monogamous relationships.

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By *eliWoman
1 week ago

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When did no porn become a conventional part of fidelity? I've been enm for so long I missed the memo.

I think the best way is to always communicate openly and honestly with the person involved because every dynamic is different.

The healthiest approach to a relationship is to go with what works best for you both.

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By *imMcSilverMan
1 week ago

Scotland and NE England


"I will admit that this post had a co author by the name of Jack Daniel’s.

I don’t usually drink but I’m off work for two weeks and the mood took me to the bottom of a bottle (well, not the bottom, just a little way down the neck) but I can’t believe that any thread has less comments than old spunky ice cube tray.

Even a “what do women like” thread should have been more popular than that, neither thread made any sense."

Given some of the threads of late, I could be doing with a Jack Daniels! This thread in comparison is a god send

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

To me, boundaries aren’t really hard limits that the other person must obey. Boundaries are your personal line to help you gauge compatibility and let the other person know if their desires align with yours. And you can walk away if those boundaries are not respected.

It’s why open and honest communication is so important.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
1 week ago

Carlisle usually


"Ok, I think I know what I was trying to say.

Is it healthier in a relationship to adhere to the conventional rules of fidelity, no sexual contact, no flirting, no porn.

Or is it better to set boundaries, like ok, you can fuck someone else, but it can’t be…(whatever you won’t tolerate)

I have an agreement with my FWB, we are not exclusive, but if we are going to fuck someone else, it has to be safe sex, and let the other person know that it’s going to/has happened and not keep secrets from each other.

It does take a certain amount of trust, but luckily for me and everyone who knows her, her integrity is beyond reproach.

I think boundaries that are set without question are the way to go, the rules that go with traditional fidelity are too broad and hardly ever specific to your relationship "

I'm pretty sure that on a swinging website you're not going to find a majority who align to the traditional version of fidelity 😂

Not sure about boundaries set without question, I think it's healthy to understand why the boundaries are there sometimes.

But I feel like the majority of people here are going to agree that boundaries developed between individuals make much more sense than simple traditional fidelity.

You might get a fairly different response if you posted the question on Mumsnet 💜

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

For example, if you have entered into a monogamous relationship and you wish to change that it’s on you to talk to your partner. And if they say they want the relationship to stay monogamous then it’s up to you to decide: does the relationship mean more than exploring non-monogamy or if the non-monogamy is now a non-negotiable for you and that you’ll walk away.

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By *issEmmWoman
1 week ago

Bournemouth


"When did no porn become a conventional part of fidelity? I've been enm for so long I missed the memo."

There is a portion of the female population that consider their partner watching porn as cheating

Just to be clear I am not one of them ☺️

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