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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has any one had a relationship with anyone with BPD and what's your experience?

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Has any one had a relationship with anyone with BPD and what's your experience? "

As in Boarderline Personality Disorder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi polar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I married him! And although still married I would say think very very carefully. Depends on age, severity etc I guess but damn hard work at times. Part of the reason I play with Matt, a way to escape reality.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Sam x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has any one had a relationship with anyone with BPD and what's your experience? "

It really depends how bad it is and what meds they are on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you want to do that? Sounds like looking for trouble...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would you want to do that? Sounds like looking for trouble..."

It is, but at the same time if you like someone I don't think anyone should run away because they have mental health issues (my opinion of course). It just takes a stronger person to cope with it.

I know quite a few people with BPD.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I married him! And although still married I would say think very very carefully. Depends on age, severity etc I guess but damn hard work at times. Part of the reason I play with Matt, a way to escape reality.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Sam x "

He's 32 and was diagnosed over a year ago. He's mostly ok but can behave eracttic sometimes. Other times his med make him sleep a lot. Mostly when they up his dosage.

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I was married to one for 12 years. It has taken a lot out of me, physically and emotionally. I didn't like to leave her by herself with the kids (one of them has ADHD), she rarely left the house. She burst into tears at the drop of a hat. Everything was always my fault.

Before I met up with her, I was happy go lucky, had friends. And now I am alone, have 1 friend and depressed. I tried to unfriend her on Facebook and you thought I had murdered a kitten!

It's you call, but knowing what I know now, I wouldn't do it again.

OH PS, Have a look for a book called "Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder"

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Why would you want to do that? Sounds like looking for trouble...

It is, but at the same time if you like someone I don't think anyone should run away because they have mental health issues (my opinion of course). It just takes a stronger person to cope with it.

I know quite a few people with BPD."

What he said!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why would you want to do that? Sounds like looking for trouble...

It is, but at the same time if you like someone I don't think anyone should run away because they have mental health issues (my opinion of course). It just takes a stronger person to cope with it.

I know quite a few people with BPD.

What he said! "

I agree. Not ganna change my mind about being with him. Just wanted to know what other people experience was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make sure you don't become his carer as well as partner. I lost close friends and 'my life' but slowly regaining it and he's coping (most of the time)

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Just make sure you don't become his carer as well as partner. I lost close friends and 'my life' but slowly regaining it and he's coping (most of the time) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's an excellent book on this subject by Hal Straus - "I Hate You, Dont Leave Me". Well worth a look. You'll find it on Amazon etc;.

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By *asandmeCouple
over a year ago

camden town

I have BPD. I was diagnosed when I was 22 and it hit me like a train. For nearly 8 years, my moods have totally messed me up and if I'm honest, my wife has kept me alive so far. I don't know how she does it. Anyone who has to live with someone with BPD is brave and strong to do so.

I would rather not have it, but.... meh....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would you want to do that? Sounds like looking for trouble...

It is, but at the same time if you like someone I don't think anyone should run away because they have mental health issues (my opinion of course). It just takes a stronger person to cope with it.

I know quite a few people with BPD."

I don't think I'd be strong enough to cope with someone with mental health issues and I would not want to subject my "future kids" to that sort of pressure either so I'd stay well away from this kind of person.

Life is complicated enough as it is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brother has it and its controlled with meds now but he has had aome crazy shit missions and some really bad times his wife has the patience of a saint,but when hes good he is so bloody lovely

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By *inger SiMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Why would you want to do that? Sounds like looking for trouble...

It is, but at the same time if you like someone I don't think anyone should run away because they have mental health issues (my opinion of course). It just takes a stronger person to cope with it.

I know quite a few people with BPD.

I don't think I'd be strong enough to cope with someone with mental health issues and I would not want to subject my "future kids" to that sort of pressure either so I'd stay well away from this kind of person.

Life is complicated enough as it is..."

Jumping to big assumptions about people and writing a whole group of people off without understanding is quite harsh. At the other end of the scale you could miss out on a lot of unconditional love a good caring heart and empathy. Your loss I would say for your prejudice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, this thread was a few years old - I was one of the UNLOS.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

...one from the vaults.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Never in a million years.

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