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"I know the answer to this universal question. But I ain't saying 🤐" Some just love to complain? | |||
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"I refer to my earlier comment i deleted because i didnt read the full OP (silly me) were it was aimed at ladies who dont block. I do block all men. I dont know what everyones reasons would be for not blocking but i does seem some of the moany ones like the attention but only when its from someone they want it from (which dont we all) but then maybe go find that yourself. Or leave your filters take the good with the bad but dont moan about it as its inevitable 🤷♀️" I also block all men and, when i was looking, would message first It makes for a much nicer time on here | |||
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"It’s madness isn’t t? Total breakdown of communication. If only there was a way people could talk, maybe by laying a small and very reasonable fee. On camera perhaps. If only someone would talk about it. Make it happen..build the dream. T " Apologies of this had been mentioned before. | |||
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"...because the same amount of time you spend going through the messages you could spend going through the profiles, so I don't think lack of time is the reason. Is it fear? Fear of rejection? Is it that you don't want to be in a position where you might have to "pursue"?" • It's fearfulness, apathy, lack of confidence and, most importantly, fear of rejection. OP, I would like to know how many PMs you receive on the back of this thread, because when I've created similar threads asking why women are so reticent in sending the first message only a handful replied in the thread and most others gave me an answer privately (including lurkers). They were reluctant to give their answers publicly. | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site " He's asking a question. | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question." Let’s stop those too dammit. | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question. Let’s stop those too dammit. " Actually, just scrap the entire forum! | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question." It does feel like a question that leads down the path of why walk alone at night when you know what people can do to women walking alone at night. You know, you can just alter the way you do things to accommodate the way men act, don't blame the men for their actions when you choose to put yourself in that position etc. But hey 💜 | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question. It does feel like a question that leads down the path of why walk alone at night when you know what people can do to women walking alone at night. You know, you can just alter the way you do things to accommodate the way men act, don't blame the men for their actions when you choose to put yourself in that position etc. But hey 💜" No, I totally understand that we shouldn't allow certain men away with their behaviour towards women on Fab. But it's never going to stop, is it? By using the filters provided you take away the need to complain about it. Women (not all) will do anything but help themselves sometimes. It's tiring listening to it from both sides. | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question. It does feel like a question that leads down the path of why walk alone at night when you know what people can do to women walking alone at night. You know, you can just alter the way you do things to accommodate the way men act, don't blame the men for their actions when you choose to put yourself in that position etc. But hey 💜 No, I totally understand that we shouldn't allow certain men away with their behaviour towards women on Fab. But it's never going to stop, is it? By using the filters provided you take away the need to complain about it. Women (not all) will do anything but help themselves sometimes. It's tiring listening to it from both sides. " There is no excuse for men to treat women badly on here. Everyone deserve respect and to be treated with dignity | |||
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"I refer to my earlier comment i deleted because i didnt read the full OP (silly me) were it was aimed at ladies who dont block. I do block all men. I dont know what everyones reasons would be for not blocking but i does seem some of the moany ones like the attention but only when its from someone they want it from (which dont we all) but then maybe go find that yourself. Or leave your filters take the good with the bad but dont moan about it as its inevitable 🤷♀️" Message me whenever you’re feeling like a laugh, those are my favourite messages! | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site...." What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question. It does feel like a question that leads down the path of why walk alone at night when you know what people can do to women walking alone at night. You know, you can just alter the way you do things to accommodate the way men act, don't blame the men for their actions when you choose to put yourself in that position etc. But hey 💜 No, I totally understand that we shouldn't allow certain men away with their behaviour towards women on Fab. But it's never going to stop, is it? By using the filters provided you take away the need to complain about it. Women (not all) will do anything but help themselves sometimes. It's tiring listening to it from both sides. " It's also tiring reading the same old rants from newbies about how women block men and tar them all with the same brush. But hey. We can only do what works for us. No way to please everybody. I don't think I've ever actually noticed a thread started by a woman complaining about the onslaught of messages. I'm sure there's the odd one. But mostly I only see it as a part of explaining why the men who complain they don't get responses aren't getting any. I'm sure there'll be some somewhere in the annals though 💜 | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question. It does feel like a question that leads down the path of why walk alone at night when you know what people can do to women walking alone at night. You know, you can just alter the way you do things to accommodate the way men act, don't blame the men for their actions when you choose to put yourself in that position etc. But hey 💜 No, I totally understand that we shouldn't allow certain men away with their behaviour towards women on Fab. But it's never going to stop, is it? By using the filters provided you take away the need to complain about it. Women (not all) will do anything but help themselves sometimes. It's tiring listening to it from both sides. There is no excuse for men to treat women badly on here. Everyone deserve respect and to be treated with dignity " Did I say there was? No one is excusing their behaviour at all. Sometimes utilising the filters provided is better than opening your inbox to drivel everyday, ruining your mood and experience on here, then complaining. | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question. It does feel like a question that leads down the path of why walk alone at night when you know what people can do to women walking alone at night. You know, you can just alter the way you do things to accommodate the way men act, don't blame the men for their actions when you choose to put yourself in that position etc. But hey 💜 No, I totally understand that we shouldn't allow certain men away with their behaviour towards women on Fab. But it's never going to stop, is it? By using the filters provided you take away the need to complain about it. Women (not all) will do anything but help themselves sometimes. It's tiring listening to it from both sides. There is no excuse for men to treat women badly on here. Everyone deserve respect and to be treated with dignity Did I say there was? No one is excusing their behaviour at all. Sometimes utilising the filters provided is better than opening your inbox to drivel everyday, ruining your mood and experience on here, then complaining. " You did not and I didn’t mean it as if you had | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? " It who they are, who they really are, when they think they can let their guard down through anonymity. There are a lot of men on here who, frankly, shouldn’t be allowed near the internet. | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? " No idea | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? It who they are, who they really are, when they think they can let their guard down through anonymity. There are a lot of men on here who, frankly, shouldn’t be allowed near the internet. " But they won’t get any replies or meets so are just doh f themselves harm. | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? No idea" This site really is very strange | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? It who they are, who they really are, when they think they can let their guard down through anonymity. There are a lot of men on here who, frankly, shouldn’t be allowed near the internet. " And should be on some sort of register... | |||
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"The problem with these threads is that it just starts a debate that will never be answered, yes some men will be vile, yes some women will complain about it, note how I say some, not every man or woman should be tarnished under the same brush, the filters are they to help, if people want to use them its up to them, if they dont it's up to them, both sides have valid points!" Ok boss. Thread closed 🤣 | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? It who they are, who they really are, when they think they can let their guard down through anonymity. There are a lot of men on here who, frankly, shouldn’t be allowed near the internet. But they won’t get any replies or meets so are just doh f themselves harm. " It creates a psychological vortex, the disgusting/rude stuff (which is who they are remember, they don’t think they’re rude they think one should appreciate it) gets nowhere so rather than fuck off they double down. Frustration builds, turns into anger. | |||
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"The problem with these threads is that it just starts a debate that will never be answered, yes some men will be vile, yes some women will complain about it, note how I say some, not every man or woman should be tarnished under the same brush, the filters are they to help, if people want to use them its up to them, if they dont it's up to them, both sides have valid points! Ok boss. Thread closed 🤣" See someone listened to me 🤣 | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? It who they are, who they really are, when they think they can let their guard down through anonymity. There are a lot of men on here who, frankly, shouldn’t be allowed near the internet. But they won’t get any replies or meets so are just doh f themselves harm. It creates a psychological vortex, the disgusting/rude stuff (which is who they are remember, they don’t think they’re rude they think one should appreciate it) gets nowhere so rather than fuck off they double down. Frustration builds, turns into anger. " Wow thanks for enlightening me on this stuff | |||
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"If you block a certain demographic, you can’t then see neither who’s viewed your profile from said demographic nor their local updates and that’s where my main entertainment comes from. So where’s the fun in that? 🤷🏼♀️ " Yes, that's a very good point! I'm very nosey about who has looked at me because sometimes people will look at my profile, not message but I like their profile so I'll show interest and then suddenly I receive a message. I usually only find men my type when showing interest first. Seeing who's viewed me can mean I find a good profile. | |||
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"Not opening messages, not checking profiles either. No more reasons than tiredness and disbelief " To be fair, you can hide the fact you look at profiles and you can see the content (at least the start) of messages in your inbox. Usually that’s enough to get an impression about whether a message is worth reading or worthy of ignoring/deleting. | |||
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"I’m bored of the threads now Guys if your not happy just leave the site He's asking a question. It does feel like a question that leads down the path of why walk alone at night when you know what people can do to women walking alone at night. You know, you can just alter the way you do things to accommodate the way men act, don't blame the men for their actions when you choose to put yourself in that position etc. But hey 💜" If you truly believe this is a question or a thread that leads to (at best) nowhere or (at worst) to a conversation about how women are to blame for men's behaviour, why not just ignore or avoid these type of threads? A woman's inbox on fab and society at large are night and day differences...we all have a role to play in society and making it safer for all, but when it comes to a woman's inbox, there is only one person in control of that ...the woman - and no, this isn't an excuse towards the men that behave badly, nor was the thread altogether. It's about ...there is an issue...and there's also a solution- maybe not the best solution, but still a potential solution. Furthermore I (the OP of this thread) do not care about men complaining...I do not care if they get a reply or a meet or they no longer can message women...because this is mostly my wishful thinking of a fab where men can't message women, and women have to message the guys first (similar to bumble)...because for me personally... this dynamic works marvellous 👏. | |||
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"...because this is mostly my wishful thinking of a fab where men can't message women, and women have to message the guys first (similar to bumble)...because for me personally... this dynamic works marvellous 👏. " Go to Bumble then 💜 | |||
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"...because this is mostly my wishful thinking of a fab where men can't message women, and women have to message the guys first (similar to bumble)...because for me personally... this dynamic works marvellous 👏. Go to Bumble then 💜" Way ahead of you ✌️ | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site...." This 
Some men do themselves the disservice of filtering themselves out with their opening message, much the same way some men filter themselves with what they have to say on the forum.
But by the same token women immediately get to know whom to block and who they might want to chat with.
It is admittedly, discouraging to notice the ratio of polite, well mannered men to those that aren't. | |||
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"Just talking for the sake of talking " Literally the purpose of the forums...nobody is gonna save the world or change society with any conversations here✌️ | |||
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"Thank you for asking the real questions OP, keep fighting the good fight." But, but, but...there were six questions, which one was real? 1. No, but seriously...why not just block all men from messaging? 2. why not just block all men, and just be proactive in finding the profiles that stand out to you? 3. I don't think lack of time is the reason. Is it fear? 4. Fear of rejection? 5. Is it that you don't want to be in a position where you might have to "pursue"? 6. Is it that you believe in strict gender norms where men should always make the first move? | |||
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"I have a headache "There's a new medical theory that says that if you repeatedly slam your head against a wall, there's a 31.9 % chances for any headaches to dissappear... allegedly | |||
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There's a new medical theory that says that if you repeatedly slam your head against a wall, there's a 31.9 % chances for any headaches to dissappear... allegedly "Boobs in my face would guarantee 100% success in removing the headache. | |||
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"I don't block simply because it's not ALL men who are arseholes...why should the majority be excluded because of the minority...I also don't complain about the amount of messages as they are easily dealt with.... The ones I do object too are the downright disgusting and absolute vile messages that some guys send (thankfully those don't happen too often) though I received one this week that is being dealt with off site.... What do guys hope to achieve by being rude and horrible? " Pot. Kettle. Black. An old saying my friend but pretty much on the money here. You said you’re bored of the thread. If people aren’t happy, leave. Then decided to delete the comment. Then said why you deleted it and then came with one about what do people achieve by being rude. It’s a forum, we see how people are when they engage on the forums. No question or answer is silly, stupid or anything else, they are an insight into a person. | |||
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The excuses we've had from married guys or fantasists who arrange meetings and bail out last minute too lol | |||
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"Because it’s our choice - our recent liaisons have been from people messaging us and wouldn’t have happened had we blocked all men. Your concern is gratefully received though and when on ‘change your profile because someone wants you to’ day, we’ll dig this thread up post haste…
K"This, basically. Fab works for me the way I use it. I have never claimed I get thousands of messages because I don’t - really. Now with this “couple” persona I get about 15-20 a day if that 🤷♀️ I am not an approacher- I’m an “approachée” and it has always worked fine for me and have met incredible people. | |||
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" Your concern is gratefully received though and when on ‘change your profile because someone wants you to’ day, we’ll dig this thread up post haste…
K"You do realise no one said that though...right? | |||
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"I only wink to women, if they like what they see they will get in touch x" • Genuine question — does that approach work for you? | |||
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"I only wink to women, if they like what they see they will get in touch x • Genuine question — does that approach work for you?" Solid question. Women rarely look at winks. Men use winks, some t girls use winks, a decent amount of couples make use of them. The overwhelming response from women is that they don't even look at them because they get so many. Checking my homepage I currently have 1420 new winks. And I'll only click on it to get rid of the numbers 💜 | |||
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"I only wink to women, if they like what they see they will get in touch x • Genuine question — does that approach work for you? · Solid question. Women rarely look at winks. Men use winks, some t girls use winks, a decent amount of couples make use of them. The overwhelming response from women is that they don't even look at them because they get so many. Checking my homepage I currently have 1420 new winks. And I'll only click on it to get rid of the numbers 💜" • It's exactly what I thought. I stopped using winks years ago, ostensibly because I didn't really know what purpose they served. They're superfluous... | |||
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"Controversial but I think it’s a little like victim blaming… why should women have to block messages… can’t men just be decent humans and start with a little respect … and those that can’t shouldn’t be here. " That's a completely unrealistic utopian way of thinking. It seems almost foolish not to take as much control as you can to affect your experience on here | |||
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"I only wink to women, if they like what they see they will get in touch x • Genuine question — does that approach work for you? Solid question. Women rarely look at winks. Men use winks, some t girls use winks, a decent amount of couples make use of them. The overwhelming response from women is that they don't even look at them because they get so many. Checking my homepage I currently have 1420 new winks. And I'll only click on it to get rid of the numbers 💜" I look at winks, but I'm not popular for a woman on here and get bored of my inbox. I won't be receiving anywhere near the number of winks most women do. I also wink people because I assume nobody who could be potentially my type would be interested in me and would rather see a wink ignored than be told via message that I'm too ugly. I have parts of my face on my profile and a detailed profile write up so people have something to go on. Most who wink me have blank or very basic profiles which make winking pointless. | |||
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"I only wink to women, if they like what they see they will get in touch x • Genuine question — does that approach work for you? Solid question. Women rarely look at winks. Men use winks, some t girls use winks, a decent amount of couples make use of them. The overwhelming response from women is that they don't even look at them because they get so many. Checking my homepage I currently have 1420 new winks. And I'll only click on it to get rid of the numbers 💜 I look at winks, but I'm not popular for a woman on here and get bored of my inbox. I won't be receiving anywhere near the number of winks most women do. I also wink people because I assume nobody who could be potentially my type would be interested in me and would rather see a wink ignored than be told via message that I'm too ugly. I have parts of my face on my profile and a detailed profile write up so people have something to go on. Most who wink me have blank or very basic profiles which make winking pointless." Personally I think the wink function is underrated, most interactions I have on here are via winks , they have obviously seen you and a wink gives you an opportunity tonsee them and then act on that !! Loads better than writing an essay to someone who probably wont read it 🙂 | |||
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" I also wink people because I assume nobody who could be potentially my type would be interested in me and would rather see a wink ignored than be told via message that I'm too ugly. I have parts of my face on my profile and a detailed profile write up so people have something to go on. Most who wink me have blank or very basic profiles which make winking pointless." Eliza! You are really pretty (from what I can tell doing an imaginary photofit from the different parts)! More likely they don’t think they stand a chance 😘 | |||
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"I only wink to women, if they like what they see they will get in touch x • Genuine question — does that approach work for you? Solid question. Women rarely look at winks. Men use winks, some t girls use winks, a decent amount of couples make use of them. The overwhelming response from women is that they don't even look at them because they get so many. Checking my homepage I currently have 1420 new winks. And I'll only click on it to get rid of the numbers 💜 I look at winks, but I'm not popular for a woman on here and get bored of my inbox. I won't be receiving anywhere near the number of winks most women do. I also wink people because I assume nobody who could be potentially my type would be interested in me and would rather see a wink ignored than be told via message that I'm too ugly. I have parts of my face on my profile and a detailed profile write up so people have something to go on. Most who wink me have blank or very basic profiles which make winking pointless." Well ive just checked out your profile and there is nothing wrong with it, not sure why you wouldnt be someone's type, your look amazing!! Profile is clear and direct, pictures are 🔥🔥!! | |||
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"I don’t block men (Apart from through age filters) but I don’t moan about messages either. You can usually tell from the first part of the message if you want to read it anyway. And I always look at a profile before reading them. It’s not that hard really. " Same here.. | |||
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"Controversial but I think it’s a little like victim blaming… why should women have to block messages… can’t men just be decent humans and start with a little respect … and those that can’t shouldn’t be here. That's a completely unrealistic utopian way of thinking. It seems almost foolish not to take as much control as you can to affect your experience on here " You maybe miss my point - that females are having to do this because of others behaviour - not saying it’s fixable - just saying it’s a shame | |||
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"Controversial but I think it’s a little like victim blaming… why should women have to block messages… can’t men just be decent humans and start with a little respect … and those that can’t shouldn’t be here. That's a completely unrealistic utopian way of thinking. It seems almost foolish not to take as much control as you can to affect your experience on here You maybe miss my point - that females are having to do this because of others behaviour - not saying it’s fixable - just saying it’s a shame " My friend ...we can all agree it's a shame... and we can all agree that when it comes to men sending negative messages to women , it is pretty much "not fixable", but your initial comment of "it's a little like victim blaming, why should women have to do that " showcases a huge resistance to an approach that can potentially fix some of the problems. Other than "women shouldn't have to..." is there an argument against this approach? Also when you say "those people that don't show respect shouldn't be here"...who would police and enforce that? As we are talking about hundreds of thousands of people, and fab is already struggling with small numbers of moderators and administrators... | |||
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"So the solution to the men sending inappropriate messages is for women to block all men? Interesting. Yet again, the responsibility gets dumped on women instead of expecting these men to behave like decent human beings. Are these men really such weak characters that they're incapable of basic self-control? The problem isn't women receiving unsolicited inappropriate messages and pictures. The problem is the people sending them. If a man can hold down a job, drive a car, manage a bank account and remember football statistics from 1987, I'm fairly sure he's capable of not snapping a picture of his cock pressing 'send' to a stranger." "So the solution to the men sending inappropriate messages is for women to block all men?" Only if you're a woman that has become disheartened with dealing with the messages ...my OP mentions that🙏 "Interesting. Yet again, the responsibility gets dumped on women instead of expecting these men to behave like decent human beings." I'm sorry you feel that way...but yes it is easier for a woman to take control of her inbox than it is to control tens of thousands of men sending negative messages "Are these men really such weak characters that they're incapable of basic self-control?" I personally believe so, yes...unfortunately. And I don't see how these grown men in their 30s/40s/50s who have anchored their personality in ignorance and misogyny, will ever change. I think it's better to put one's energy into educating young boys and the new generation of men, than it is focusing on the men sending dick pics on fab...they will fade away eventually "If a man can hold down a job, drive a car, manage a bank account and remember football statistics from 1987, I'm fairly sure he's capable of not snapping a picture of his cock pressing 'send' to a stranger." ...and yet reality (and the high number of people mentioning it) shows that they cannot | |||
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"TLDR Common in the forum doesn't equal 'Popular' just lots of unnecessary aggro and circular soapboxing and view-mining. 'argument' threads are not what I'd call a fun time. " I agree, I've largely stopped posting on the forums. But I don't begrudge others doing it though, if it's how they get their kicks. But it is circular, soapboxing, cliquey and the same conversation will occur next week or in a fortnight. Prefer the threads that are there for pure fun or absurdity. | |||
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"Controversial but I think it’s a little like victim blaming… why should women have to block messages… can’t men just be decent humans and start with a little respect … and those that can’t shouldn’t be here. So the women just go without any respect? Any protection? And just loose a feature of fab just cos fully grown men can’t act like adults? You suggest something called tacit approval. By failing to deal with poor standards you are essentially accepting them. This is the attitude that leads to worse things like misogyny, coercion, Domestic abuse and worse. I wonder if in light of recent bbc interest a little effort in this area would be worth it. That's a completely unrealistic utopian way of thinking. It seems almost foolish not to take as much control as you can to affect your experience on here You maybe miss my point - that females are having to do this because of others behaviour - not saying it’s fixable - just saying it’s a shame My friend ...we can all agree it's a shame... and we can all agree that when it comes to men sending negative messages to women , it is pretty much "not fixable", but your initial comment of "it's a little like victim blaming, why should women have to do that " showcases a huge resistance to an approach that can potentially fix some of the problems. Other than "women shouldn't have to..." is there an argument against this approach? Also when you say "those people that don't show respect shouldn't be here"...who would police and enforce that? As we are talking about hundreds of thousands of people, and fab is already struggling with small numbers of moderators and administrators..." | |||
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"So the solution to the men sending inappropriate messages is for women to block all men? Interesting. Yet again, the responsibility gets dumped on women instead of expecting these men to behave like decent human beings. Are these men really such weak characters that they're incapable of basic self-control? The problem isn't women receiving unsolicited inappropriate messages and pictures. The problem is the people sending them. If a man can hold down a job, drive a car, manage a bank account and remember football statistics from 1987, I'm fairly sure he's capable of not snapping a picture of his cock pressing 'send' to a stranger." I couldn’t agree more… | |||
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"So the solution to the men sending inappropriate messages is for women to block all men? Interesting. Yet again, the responsibility gets dumped on women instead of expecting these men to behave like decent human beings. Are these men really such weak characters that they're incapable of basic self-control? The problem isn't women receiving unsolicited inappropriate messages and pictures. The problem is the people sending them. If a man can hold down a job, drive a car, manage a bank account and remember football statistics from 1987, I'm fairly sure he's capable of not snapping a picture of his cock pressing 'send' to a stranger. "So the solution to the men sending inappropriate messages is for women to block all men?" Only if you're a woman that has become disheartened with dealing with the messages ...my OP mentions that🙏 "Interesting. Yet again, the responsibility gets dumped on women instead of expecting these men to behave like decent human beings." I'm sorry you feel that way...but yes it is easier for a woman to take control of her inbox than it is to control tens of thousands of men sending negative messages "Are these men really such weak characters that they're incapable of basic self-control?" I personally believe so, yes...unfortunately. And I don't see how these grown men in their 30s/40s/50s who have anchored their personality in ignorance and misogyny, will ever change. I think it's better to put one's energy into educating young boys and the new generation of men, than it is focusing on the men sending dick pics on fab...they will fade away eventually "If a man can hold down a job, drive a car, manage a bank account and remember football statistics from 1987, I'm fairly sure he's capable of not snapping a picture of his cock pressing 'send' to a stranger." ...and yet reality (and the high number of people mentioning it) shows that they cannot" You change it by challenging it and not just thinking because lots do it that makes it ok, it’s normal… You are saying this is an embedded culture on fab that we should just accept…? | |||
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"I'm an adult that willingly joined a sex site that I know is full of horny men. Do I expect every message to be polite? Err no. Does it bother me? No, I usually just delete them all anyway. If it did, I would have men blocked all the time and get of my lazy arse and message men I like. And as for women shouldn't be the ones to do this and men should just be courteous and polite. Is it your first day on earth? " No no it’s not my first day on Earth - and maybe this is lost on older people - more likely to accept the status quo | |||
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"I'm an adult that willingly joined a sex site that I know is full of horny men. Do I expect every message to be polite? Err no. Does it bother me? No, I usually just delete them all anyway. If it did, I would have men blocked all the time and get of my lazy arse and message men I like. And as for women shouldn't be the ones to do this and men should just be courteous and polite. Is it your first day on earth? "
Women are here for the attention from men , but men read that as they want to fuck anyone.
Posts like this just confirm that most men cant think in a straight line.
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" "If a man can hold down a job, drive a car, manage a bank account and remember football statistics from 1987, I'm fairly sure he's capable of not snapping a picture of his cock pressing 'send' to a stranger." ...and yet reality (and the high number of people mentioning it) shows that they cannot You change it by challenging it and not just thinking because lots do it that makes it ok, it’s normal… You are saying this is an embedded culture on fab that we should just accept…?" You challenge it by creating an environment where men have no other option but to change...where they have to change their approach on fab altogether...where they are forced to create the type of profiles women like and they are forced to be more selective in the way they communicate with women...and those who don't or can't adapt will have to leave...all these can be achieved if men simply weren't allowed to message first. The type of challenge you are talking about, where women or men create threads where they call out these men, where these men have been reported or blocked and removed from fab, has been attempted for years, and yet these type of men keep coming back. At what point do you start seeing that this type of approach is a loosing battle? | |||
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"I've had men blocked from messaging on here. I still get the male half of couples messaging about 90% of the time, sometimes posing as the woman. With all the same crappy opening one liners, where it's clear they haven't read my profile. So blocking males doesn't stop stupid getting into my inbox, only simply reduces it " • I'm still captivated by your Rubik's Cube video.  | |||
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"I've had men blocked from messaging on here. I still get the male half of couples messaging about 90% of the time, sometimes posing as the woman. With all the same crappy opening one liners, where it's clear they haven't read my profile. So blocking males doesn't stop stupid getting into my inbox, only simply reduces it • I'm still captivated by your Rubik's Cube video. "THAT is an absolutely incredible video!!!! 
I am in love 😍🥰 thanks for sharing! x | |||
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" I'm still captivated by your Rubik's Cube video.
THAT is an absolutely incredible video!!!!
I am in love 😍🥰 thanks for sharing! x "🤣 Thanks | |||
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"Fab is not be the most user friendly at times so maybe a lot of users don’t know you can block specific types of profiles from hitting your inbox. I got a few messages from gay guys offering verifications for wank videos when I first started, so besides naturally reporting them for trying to work around safety rules, I got fed up with seeing that familiar ‘New Message’ and finding it was just a dude looking for something custom to pull his pud to. Then I found out there’s a way of basically blocking types of profiles from even trying to message me. Jackpot! I’m not saying this is the main reason why we see the “men really need to stop messaging me” posts all too often, but no doubt adds to the pile." I don't think many gay men are going to be messaging women in such a way, do you? This post is about women. Is it only gay men and never bi men who message other men on here? One would have assumed it was both. What about all the "straight" male profiles who aren't really straight? It's well known about. I hear from them all the time. | |||
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"Fab is not be the most user friendly at times so maybe a lot of users don’t know you can block specific types of profiles from hitting your inbox. I got a few messages from gay guys offering verifications for wank videos when I first started, so besides naturally reporting them for trying to work around safety rules, I got fed up with seeing that familiar ‘New Message’ and finding it was just a dude looking for something custom to pull his pud to. Then I found out there’s a way of basically blocking types of profiles from even trying to message me. Jackpot! I’m not saying this is the main reason why we see the “men really need to stop messaging me” posts all too often, but no doubt adds to the pile. I don't think many gay men are going to be messaging women in such a way, do you? This post is about women. Is it only gay men and never bi men who message other men on here? One would have assumed it was both. What about all the "straight" male profiles who aren't really straight? It's well known about. I hear from them all the time. " This includes some that block all single men from contacting them. That doesn't sound very gay to me, especially after seeing they have had multiple verified meets with females. | |||
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"Fab is not be the most user friendly at times so maybe a lot of users don’t know you can block specific types of profiles from hitting your inbox. I got a few messages from gay guys offering verifications for wank videos when I first started, so besides naturally reporting them for trying to work around safety rules, I got fed up with seeing that familiar ‘New Message’ and finding it was just a dude looking for something custom to pull his pud to. Then I found out there’s a way of basically blocking types of profiles from even trying to message me. Jackpot! I’m not saying this is the main reason why we see the “men really need to stop messaging me” posts all too often, but no doubt adds to the pile. I don't think many gay men are going to be messaging women in such a way, do you? This post is about women. Is it only gay men and never bi men who message other men on here? One would have assumed it was both. What about all the "straight" male profiles who aren't really straight? It's well known about. I hear from them all the time. This includes some that block all single men from contacting them. That doesn't sound very gay to me, especially after seeing they have had multiple verified meets with females. " It's a lot easier just to throw blame at gay men, isn't it? | |||
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