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"I had to chuckle to myself this morning. A message from the couple had a social with last week, apparently I am not Dom enough. Will have make sure I dont behave like a gent in public next time 🤣🤣" You’ll have to put that quote on your profile. It’s epic 🤣🤣 | |||
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"I had to chuckle to myself this morning. A message from the couple had a social with last week, apparently I am not Dom enough. Will have make sure I dont behave like a gent in public next time 🤣🤣 " You didnt shackle them to the chair in costa? 🙄🙄 what were you thinking man🙈 | |||
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"The connection between Dom and pushy arsehole in the swinging world is so strong. And yet so very far from the negotiated and consenting dynamics that exist elsewhere 💜" Absofuckinglutely ♥️ | |||
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"The connection between Dom and pushy arsehole in the swinging world is so strong. And yet so very far from the negotiated and consenting dynamics that exist elsewhere 💜 Absofuckinglutely ♥️" Too right | |||
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"The connection between Dom and pushy arsehole in the swinging world is so strong. And yet so very far from the negotiated and consenting dynamics that exist elsewhere 💜" So true. The messages I've had from some men looking for suvs, which I'm not. Have been horrendous and make them sound total knob heads. | |||
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"You didn’t instruct them when they could go to the toilet?! 🤷🏻♂️ A Dom does not need to act like a Dom in public - it would be a more of a red flag if they did. FAB is awash with ‘Doms’ and it’s quite frightening that there are so many wannabes and people who want a Dom and make classic mistakes when finding one. K" being in the lifestyle, I do hear horror stories which are tant amount to abuse and assault from 'new Doms', the have watched some kink porn or 50 shades and think yeah I can do that. | |||
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"You didn’t instruct them when they could go to the toilet?! 🤷🏻♂️ A Dom does not need to act like a Dom in public - it would be a more of a red flag if they did. FAB is awash with ‘Doms’ and it’s quite frightening that there are so many wannabes and people who want a Dom and make classic mistakes when finding one. K being in the lifestyle, I do hear horror stories which are tant amount to abuse and assault from 'new Doms', the have watched some kink porn or 50 shades and think yeah I can do that." So what you are saying is that 50 Shades is not a documentary 😳😳😳 Someone should have made that clearer 🤔🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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I have had the reverse OP where people expected me to super subby and weak minded as I am a trans shd they didn’t like I was loud. Blunt. Direct and sarcastic in socials. | |||
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"The connection between Dom and pushy arsehole in the swinging world is so strong. And yet so very far from the negotiated and consenting dynamics that exist elsewhere 💜" 💯💯 There are far too many self-proclaimed “Dom” types who don’t actually understand what it means. A lot of them just use the label as an excuse to act out their own selfish fantasies, with zero thought for mutual pleasure. At worst, some don’t seem to care about consent at all and use it as a way to justify controlling or abusive behaviour. Personally, I avoid profiles calling themselves Dom seeking a sub. | |||
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"The connection between Dom and pushy arsehole in the swinging world is so strong. And yet so very far from the negotiated and consenting dynamics that exist elsewhere 💜 💯💯 There are far too many self-proclaimed “Dom” types who don’t actually understand what it means. A lot of them just use the label as an excuse to act out their own selfish fantasies, with zero thought for mutual pleasure. At worst, some don’t seem to care about consent at all and use it as a way to justify controlling or abusive behaviour. Personally, I avoid profiles calling themselves Dom seeking a sub. " Most are dickheads agreed  | |||
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"The connection between Dom and pushy arsehole in the swinging world is so strong. And yet so very far from the negotiated and consenting dynamics that exist elsewhere 💜 💯💯 There are far too many self-proclaimed “Dom” types who don’t actually understand what it means. A lot of them just use the label as an excuse to act out their own selfish fantasies, with zero thought for mutual pleasure. At worst, some don’t seem to care about consent at all and use it as a way to justify controlling or abusive behaviour. Personally, I avoid profiles calling themselves Dom seeking a sub. Most are dickheads agreed "These are an interesting few posts on this subject. I’m not Dom or Sub, but I my quest to experience more and more on here I’ve approached a few Femdoms and ask how it works etc. Not many replies as you might imagine, only one I did get said that she was in charge and it was up to her what happened. I had the misguided expectation that It’d be within boundaries so that it was an enjoyment for all. | |||
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"The connection between Dom and pushy arsehole in the swinging world is so strong. And yet so very far from the negotiated and consenting dynamics that exist elsewhere 💜 💯💯 There are far too many self-proclaimed “Dom” types who don’t actually understand what it means. A lot of them just use the label as an excuse to act out their own selfish fantasies, with zero thought for mutual pleasure. At worst, some don’t seem to care about consent at all and use it as a way to justify controlling or abusive behaviour. Personally, I avoid profiles calling themselves Dom seeking a sub. Most are dickheads agreed
These are an interesting few posts on this subject.
I’m not Dom or Sub, but I my quest to experience more and more on here I’ve approached a few Femdoms and ask how it works etc. Not many replies as you might imagine, only one I did get said that she was in charge and it was up to her what happened. I had the misguided expectation that It’d be within boundaries so that it was an enjoyment for all. "anyone who doesn't or wont negotiate or respect boundaries should be avoided like the plague, they are dangerous | |||
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" I had the misguided expectation that It’d be within boundaries so that it was an enjoyment for all. anyone who doesn't or wont negotiate or respect boundaries should be avoided like the plague, they are dangerous " Totally agree with you. Anyone saying they want to push or test my boundaries is a massive red flag for me. That’s not curiosity, that’s someone telling me upfront they don’t respect my limits. Big no thanks from me. | |||
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"I wouldn't be happy if someone posted a negative thread about a meeting with me, especially if I had left them a nice verification. " There was and is no negativity about the meeting. There is a certain irony though, 40 years in the lifestyle. | |||
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