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"I'm open for most things so entirely their suggestion. I would insist on social first but that activity is up to them. But more often than not, I'm expected to decide what we should do" Do you mind it kind of being expected that you organise things? Eurgh that's awful English. :D Do you mind having to sort it out? | |||
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"I'm open for most things so entirely their suggestion. I would insist on social first but that activity is up to them. But more often than not, I'm expected to decide what we should do Do you mind it kind of being expected that you organise things? Eurgh that's awful English. :D Do you mind having to sort it out?" I'm probably the most boring man alive so it would be nothing interesting. I wouldn't mind, but I know the other would mind at how shit my suggestions would be | |||
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"I’d like a collaboration of ideas. Work as a team. Unless they know my likes and dislikes inside out I’d trust them to book somewhere nice with air conditioning and a kettle. Got to have liquid refreshments! 🥵" Collaborating didn't even cross my mind, think the heat has gotten to me a little. That's a very good option, might start using it more often. | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" 
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"I’d like a collaboration of ideas. Work as a team. Unless they know my likes and dislikes inside out I’d trust them to book somewhere nice with air conditioning and a kettle. Got to have liquid refreshments! 🥵 Collaborating didn't even cross my mind, think the heat has gotten to me a little. That's a very good option, might start using it more often." That said, it only works if both are local ish to each other. | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?
I'm shocked i tell you!! You said the 'p' word!! "I was thinking this too! 🤣 | |||
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"What I prefer becomes academic. What actually happens – no different to the last few years - is that I instigate and facilitate the arrangements. If I left it to the gutless women then I would end up reluctantly embracing a puritanical lifestyle. 🩵" Oh humour me Nero, what would you prefer? Gutless women is truly charming. 🩷 | |||
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"...Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?
I'm shocked i tell you!! You said the 'p' word!!
I was thinking this too! 🤣"Yeah, thought I'd be inclusive and less of my usual slightly pretentious self, almost got away with it. 😄 | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" I prefer to make plans together | |||
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"...Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?
I'm shocked i tell you!! You said the 'p' word!!
I was thinking this too! 🤣
Yeah, thought I'd be inclusive and less of my usual slightly pretentious self, almost got away with it. 😄"Oh less inclusive, and slightly pretentious, true to yourself is far better | |||
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"I'd suggest and see how the reaction was. Always good to get a decent vibe before asking to arrange "Definitely, let's say you're past that stage though for this thread. You know they're happy/wanting to. | |||
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"If I've met them before, I'll instigate and find a suitable time and place for us, first time meets I like to allow the lady as much input as possible as I don't want her to feel pressurised especially ti_eline wise, especially if she's fairly new to the site 🙂" That's really considerate and lovely, yeah, if a person has more input they're more likely to be able to relax and enjoy themselves. I've had a few socials at really, really awful places and regret not putting my foot down. | |||
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"If I've met them before, I'll instigate and find a suitable time and place for us, first time meets I like to allow the lady as much input as possible as I don't want her to feel pressurised especially ti_eline wise, especially if she's fairly new to the site 🙂 That's really considerate and lovely, yeah, if a person has more input they're more likely to be able to relax and enjoy themselves. I've had a few socials at really, really awful places and regret not putting my foot down. "If they suggest somewhere I always read reviews and look at the location. I may then counter their suggestion with a more suitable one. I meet on my terms these days. If it's someone I've met before I'm perfectly happy for them to plan it all. I'm a bit lazy like that | |||
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"I have discovered that I really dislike it if I am left to sort it out. I get really turned off. I like to be lead. I’d have to be massively interested for me to take the lead and organise and that doesn’t happen often. " A friend is similar - it does nothing for her at all, bar making her want to cancel. If that's the case it's fair enough really - far better to stick to what works. | |||
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"If it’s a social we’ll suggest places as we know the area, if they are coming out of the area. We’ve also got a lovely little pub down by the canal about an hour away which we’ve suggested if people are further afield. We can accommodate so we usually suggest ours for sex sessions (I was going to say play sessions but I know you don’t like the term Meli) K" You remembered K! Whenever I visit a certain waffle house I think about you. 🩷 Suggesting things is lovely, especially if they're travelling - you'll know the area, what kind of ambience different places have in a way that Google wouldn't be able to tell you. | |||
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"It depends. Sometimes I'm really feeling it so I'll jump right in there, other times if I'm not sure I'll bide my time and wait till they suggest it. That's how I roll. No one size fits all. Ever. " But everything is binary in this world, Scarlet, how can you not give a definitive answer? Weirdo.  | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" New meets: 98% social meet Secondary/ tertiary meets: an already pre arranged scenario to play out | |||
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"I was talking to a lad, getting on well etc etc. We had a social and it went well. Arranged another social, arranged the day and time but not a place. On the day he messaged me, we chatted but he didn't mention our planned social, the time came and went and then he didn't message me again or log onto FAB? " He's probably married looking for self validation. Pathetic I know. | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" Meli, is someone messing you around? Is this a subtle (less than subtle) means of telling them to pull their finger out? Do you want Nero to go and sort them out for you? Oh, I best answer your questions too... "Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other?" I don't 'prefer', happy either way, but most times I have been asked 'where' and 'when' - so then I organise. But if the other person has got suggestions I will go with that and happy to be introduced to new areas (pubs, cafes, bedrooms...) "If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" Yes - but then check that they are happy, and if they are not content with the suggestion, probe them for their ideas. | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? I think it depends on the individual. Some people like to lead and others prefer to follow. I think to be successful in this lifestyle you need to be compliant to the point of accepting people's differences. Some on here are far more aggressive in their approach, and set out a list of do's and dont's which make the Nazi party look liberal. However, at the end of the day, it's about what suits the individual. We're all different and are allowed to do as we wish. If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" | |||
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"If it’s a social we’ll suggest places as we know the area, if they are coming out of the area. We’ve also got a lovely little pub down by the canal about an hour away which we’ve suggested if people are further afield. We can accommodate so we usually suggest ours for sex sessions (I was going to say play sessions but I know you don’t like the term Meli) K You remembered K! Whenever I visit a certain waffle house I think about you. 🩷 Suggesting things is lovely, especially if they're travelling - you'll know the area, what kind of ambience different places have in a way that Google wouldn't be able to tell you." Do not share that waffle house - I want to get a table next time I’m there 😋 | |||
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"If I really wanted a second date to happen and genuinely believed the other person did too, I’d gladly organise it. My fear and anxiety comes with the first, and whether I’m as fun etc in real life as my persona here 😱" Oh Stanners it shouldn't. I'm certain you are. Try and repackage the anxiety as nervous excitement, with an emphasis on the excitement. I still get some excited nerves before meeting someone; if I didn't I probably wouldn't. | |||
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"If I really wanted a second date to happen and genuinely believed the other person did too, I’d gladly organise it. My fear and anxiety comes with the first, and whether I’m as fun etc in real life as my persona here 😱" The expectation anxiety is real for a lot of us I think, lovely. I try and do what Meli said, and tell myself it's excitement. It's all adrenaline at the end of the day and anyone would be very lucky to meet you ❤️ | |||
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"Meli, is someone messing you around? Is this a subtle (less than subtle) means of telling them to pull their finger out? Do you want Nero to go and sort them out for you? Oh, I best answer your questions too... " You're a hoot Phooey but nooo. Not at all! Far from it. It's not about me, nor a hint for anyone. I'm really happy with how things are. "Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? I don't 'prefer', happy either way, but most times I have been asked 'where' and 'when' - so then I organise. But if the other person has got suggestions I will go with that and happy to be introduced to new areas (pubs, cafes, bedrooms...) " Yeah, I was curious as to if there might be a slight gendered difference. I know that I'm happy to organise things and do often but my female friends (the majority) prefer to be the one organised. | |||
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"I was talking to a lad, getting on well etc etc. We had a social and it went well. Arranged another social, arranged the day and time but not a place. On the day he messaged me, we chatted but he didn't mention our planned social, the time came and went and then he didn't message me again or log onto FAB? " Eurgh that's really wank. I hope you don't experience that again, x | |||
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"...and set out a list of do's and dont's which make the Nazi party look liberal. " Loving the Nazi reference, one step closer to completing Fab now; thank you. :D | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" Always on to a social meet with the minimum of on line chat. Find the more chat involved the less chance of a real meet so rather nip the dreamers and timewasters in the bud. My time is far too precious. | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" Always on to a social meet with the minimum of on line chat. Find the more chat involved the less chance of a real meet so rather nip the dreamers and timewasters in the bud. My time is far too precious. | |||
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"You've been talking to someone and now you're thinking about meeting them. Maybe again. Anyway. Do you prefer to organise a social/meet/fuck/playtime or would you rather leave it to the other? If the other person left it all up to you, would you still bother?" As I prefer the married ones I let them made the arrangements 😈 | |||
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